I wish people would just be nice & respectful of others.think before u speak & potentially hurt someones feelings or even worse a little kid.If u HAVE to make a comment stick to "What a beautiful family" or "What a cutie".no one gets offended-no gender screw ups & u always get a smile or a "thank u".I have gotten "wow 2 girls what a handful".A good smack across the face was first instinct but I sadly refrained.
I have always tried to be sensitive to peoples family make-up. I never say anything I wouldn't want to hear myself. I don't even ask people I am close with if they are having more kids or not out of fear. haha
I get that all the time when I'm walking down the street with the double pushchair. The most annoying thing for me is that it's the same women who says it and it's on a weekly basis. Every Tuesday I pass by her and every Tuesday she says "oh you've got ur hands full there." Grrrr. I usually reply with, no I haven't my boys are good. But if I'm in a hurry I just mumble in agreement with her since she never listens anyway.
I HATE when people assume that a mothers relationship wont be as good with a boy as it would be with a girl, 3 out of my 4 best friends hate their mothers and do anything to avoid having to see them. A good relationship is just that, a relationship where any two people put in the effort to get along and love each other, despite age or gender. I cannot stand that boys are somehow second rate to girls. Dont get me wrong, I would love a little girl, but just for the experience, not because I think it will be better, or so I can dress her up... Such a simple and ignorant way to think. Every child is a blessing.
I just found out today that I'm having a girl after two boys and the first thing I got was "are you going to try to even it out now?" really people? But I'm waiting for the other comments to flood in.
Congrats mrsandmama!! X
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Lol! Mrs! It's never good enough is it??
But if you did go for 4 you'd be harassed for having sooo many children! You just can't win!
Took the boys for a haircut And got the typical '3 boys!!wow'
Yah and I'm pregnant again, take that!! Lol
I haven't got there (dare I say yet?) But I get lots of "will you try again for a girl?" And I have to admit I'm not ready to say openly "yes I want a girl" I say things like "we are not sure if we will have more" or "nooo, I'm happy with boys" and even "I do want more, but hopefully another boy, complete the 5 a side football team. Every mans dream, his own football team" and "god I wouldn't know what to do with a girl, I always hear I'm lucky to have all boys so best stuck to what I know"
I feel like admitting I want a girl would be like saying I only had so many boys to get a girl. Like "oh I'd have stopped at 2 if I had one of each" and I hoped ds4 would be a girl as dh had agreed to 5 and I thought if I got a girl and then went on to have another baby it would be proof that I didn't keep having kids to get a girl. I hate the fact that people will be looking at me with pity because being a woman I obviously must be desperate for a girl. I have been laughed at and everything for having boys. And even asked if I was disappointed to be having a boy when I announced that ds1 was a boy!!
I get very defensive of boys and all boy families.
Maybe if I ever get to the place of "you finally got your girl" I can relax about it and be like "yeah, and she is super lucky to have all those big brothers to protect her"
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I must say, I proudly told everyone how grateful I was to get a girl after they asked me the usual 'are you happy to get a girl after two boys?'
Never saw the big deal in that comment... Then again I've had way more negative comments with DD than with any of DSs.
My baby boy (who turned 7 in Feb) is my little buddy, my adorable, charming sweetie. My oldest son has always been my hardest to raise, but lately him and I have been getting along. ;) Who says boys can't be close with their mums?
People will say things no matter what. Seriously. My youngest gets called a girl all the time. My DH always makes a point of correcting them, in which case they will ask if we will try for another. My friend has a boy and girl and is having her third. Someone asked her why she would have a third when she already had the "perfect" family. So it really doesn't matter. People like to stick their noses in your business no matter what lol.