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Yay! I wonder how to go about getting tested when your doctor doesn't work with Panorama. I will definitely have to call them when I get knocked up to see if they can refer me to another doctor in my area that might offer it ! Thanks! :) Hope they can work out a reasonable cash payment with me since I doubt insurance will cover it at my age.Quote:
Originally Posted by carmella_marie
I did a gender reveal party with ds3. I did not know the gender before we cut the cake but I felt in my heart it was a boy. I was so upset with everyone's reactions with ds2 I thought that it would make everyone excited and nix the negative comments... I was wrong!!! After we cut the cake I acted excited and had a big smile on my face but was told by family they were "sorry" and "they were weakly hoping for a girl" and more things I won't even put on here. It was terrible and I was sick to my stomach and just wanted everyone to leave. I would not recommend anyone having a gender preference to ever do this... It's too much pressure.
I hope you get your girl but most of all I hope you have a beautiful healthy baby xo
I didn't think about how my family would react. My in-laws might have initially hurtful reactions if it's a boy. (I got yet another call from my husband's grandma and aunt about how i must be carrying a girl baby.) It might be best to do some kind of reveal on video and post it on Facebook if it's a boy. (Which I feel like it is, but feelings aren't fact, lol)
As much as I would like a gender reveal party I couldn't do it. I'm such a terrible actress and I have this terrible problem with word vomit, constantly saying what I think and feel.
I always assumed I'd have girls so when ultrasound tech said 'boy' with ds1, I broke down in the room and car and off and on for the next 3yrs.. . We were team green for baby #2. Thinking it wouldn't matter. Well when I had him it didn't it was an amazing birth and of course I was so happy to meet my baby. But a couple days after we came home I began to mourn the loss of my daughter. It felt awful to have this new SWEET AMAZING baby and to be on a hormone roller coaster, crying over something I never had.
Pretty sure if/when we are expecting again we will have a tech write it down and we'll wait till 7 mos or so to do a private, just DH and myself, reveal. Then we'll likely keep it a secret till baby is born, to try to avoid negative comments that trigger sadness. I figure waiting that long will give me time to adjust to idea of whatever and work through any disappointment. But also I'll be far enough along to not have to keep the secret too long and be able to look forward to meeting baby sooner rather then later.
I am clearly, however, no expert and nothing has worked for me so far. Ha ha ha! I do know a large reveal party is out for me! Good luck! :)
We decided not to do one. We're finding out on Thursday but we won't be telling anyone we know what it is. I want family to look forward to the birth and if it's another boy they won't be as excited, it will give them something to look forward to and once they meet him they won't be as disappointed. Plus it will drive them crazy until then, lol. It will also give me some time to acclimate to my emotions without having to deal with my family's issues about it.
Yes! That does make people crazy! Let them squirm:)
EmileeJane, that is exactly what we did! We waited until 8 months or so and found out privately. That way I had time to adjust and could keep it a secret. People mean well, mostly, but it's none of their business if you find out early. You don't owe anyone anything in this scenario. Gd is a bitch!!