Hubby and I did talk about kids before marriage. He figured 3. I wanted 4. So we figured we would work it out after we had three ;) And he knew, even before we had her, that we weren't done. I came into the room one night (after puking at like 10 weeks) and said "You know this isn't the last, right?" And he was like "Yeah, I know." Lol.
I sprang on him about 8 months ago that I really wasn't sure I'd be done after four and I feel like there might be another for us. I asked him to think about it. And he did, and prefers to stick to four. BUT, he isn't closing the door to it and seems more open to it the longer I go without really mentioning it. I tease that since we have five dogs, we need five kids :) Ultimately, I think he would "let" me have that fifth. But I want to make sure he is on board and not agreeing and then feel resentment. And I'm not sure how to do that. But reading some of those comments, maybe I shouldn't push. I guess our path will become clear. It's interesting when people change their minds, since its not something you can anticipate. But I figure, #3 was when I finally hit my parenting groove, why stop now?? Lol. I was a mess the first two and now I am comfortable and confident. I don't want to stop yet!