Venting and a bit discouraged.

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Originally Posted by 4blue2pink

YES!! i should add the doctor who said this to me was the Consultant who was overseeing our whole "case" including post-mortem results etc, her postmortem was normal and all my tests came back clear/normal, i think he said it to me as some kind of answer as to why she died, seen as all the tests showed up with no medical reasons for it and we already had a healthy son so clearly it had to be her gender..
it did a huge amount of damage because i couldnt get it out of my head and thought it was my fault for my body rejecting and killing a perfectly healthy baby girl who would have been carried to term alive by anyone else, even when i had my girl on #5 i was completely convinced she would die before she was born, i dont think these professionals understand the damage they can do when they say these things..

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Awful, just awful, I am so so very sorry. I also think they say things sometimes (perhaps not in this case but I've seen it often enough in other scenarios) where they feel somehow to blame for what went wrong, or that they could possibly BE blamed, and say that as some sort of protection for themselves. For example, a woman who had just been into the doc's office for an appointment, and they missed something - an infection, a low heart rate, etc - and they say it then sometimes - which is utterly brutal and completely out of order.

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Originally Posted by atomic sagebrush

Lots of women in leadership positions have all/mostly or at least SOME daughters - Hillary Clinton, Michelle Obama, The Queen Mum, Queen Elizabeth 2 herself, Nancy Pelosi (she has 4 daughters and one son), Margaret Thatcher had BG twins, Elizabeth Warren has a son and daughter...we could make examples all day!

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I completely agree Atomic, that's why it's a silly thing to say! Haha [emoji3]!

Just in my entirely non-scientific, non-validated experience, people do often seem to say it to more 'dominant' women, maybe just as we/they aren't



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Originally Posted by Girlthing

I completely agree Atomic, that's why it's a silly thing to say! Haha [emoji3]!

Just in my entirely non-scientific, non-validated experience, people do often seem to say it to more 'dominant' women, maybe just as we/they aren't



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... didn't finish! Just as we/they aren't so soft and girly ourselves.

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