What is wrong with blue swayers??

Do any of you wonder if people (especially the lurkers on this site that can disappear easily) are more likely to report back on a successful or unsuccessful sway. That could skew results.

Speaking for myself, I think if I get told 'pink' next time I'll be shouting it from the rooftops and will post about it here for sure. If it's another blue I'd probably go to ground and never report my results (sorry I know that's naughty but just being honest).

Maybe other people feel the same? Or maybe other go the other way and are more likely to want forum support if they get an opposite? Maybe successful sways are slipping through the net as people just move on with their lives and don't report back?

I'd be interested to know what percentage of people that have bought a personalised plan and get pregnant- what percentage then feedback with their results

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Good luck Samish

I think one of the reasons so many blue swayers lately are staying team green is because (depending on their personalities) they hate failure. I'm a typical boy mum personality and unknowingly swayed diet and exercise with DD, not too mention had to use clomid to get her (the classic girl sway). But everything about my personality is very much a boy mom. I went team green because DH and I put so much effort and time into doing the blue sway perfectly (I'm a real perfectionist) and falling pregnant first time naturally now that I would be shattered because "I failed" and it didn't go as I planned with the results I wanted. I'm super hard on myself with my job and life in general and if things don't go the way I want then I fix it. Unfortunately if I have a pink bundle in here I can't "fix that". I'm already reading gender selection forms on here in Thailand and Hawaii to plan for number 3 if this one isn't a boy and I feel so guilty about it but I feel like I have to do something yo maintain control. Sounds stupid.

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Originally Posted by pinkfairydust

Do any of you wonder if people (especially the lurkers on this site that can disappear easily) are more likely to report back on a successful or unsuccessful sway. That could skew results.

Speaking for myself, I think if I get told 'pink' next time I'll be shouting it from the rooftops and will post about it here for sure. If it's another blue I'd probably go to ground and never report my results (sorry I know that's naughty but just being honest).

Maybe other people feel the same? Or maybe other go the other way and are more likely to want forum support if they get an opposite? Maybe successful sways are slipping through the net as people just move on with their lives and don't report back?

I'd be interested to know what percentage of people that have bought a personalised plan and get pregnant- what percentage then feedback with their results

X

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You know, it's interesting. I find the opposite to be true, the people who get opposites are EXTREMELY motivated to tell everyone that they got an opposite. And it isn't necessarily because they want support, either. Some people definitely want to stick it to me and it's not at all unheard of for someone to come back 6 months later and say "oh yes I did have a successful sway" but it's already the next year by that point! :) So I am sure that it all evens out in the end and this is the issue faced by everyone who tries to amass data in this way.

Despite all this we have had better than 50-50 results all in the "correct" way for the entire run of the site and the odds of that happening if this was all BS and random is 1 in about 5000. https://genderdreaming.com/forum/gen...-thoughts.html

You guys cannot put emphasis on the custom plans, though. If anything one would expect WORSE results in the custom plans because 9 out of 10 people who buy them, especially blue swayers, are dealing with health issues or other challenges, and this is why they feel they need the custom plans. I do not and never have offered anyone better results with a plan.

As everyone knows, I hold NO info back and help people in the free forums to the best of my ability the same as I do the paid-for plans and thus there should be identical or better results in people who didn't purchase a plan, since like I mentioned most of the people who buy the custom plans have mitigating factors that may make swaying more of a challenge for them.

I stayed team green because I wanted to learn to bond with the baby without caring about gender. I wanted to learn to hope and dream for my child without any gender bias and it has been wonderful. I didn't want to spend my entire pregnancy wishing and hoping it was a boy and not fully enjoying the little person from the start.Reaching a solid level of acceptance for the sake of self betterment and spiritual growth was VERY important to me. So, my reasons for staying team green are very deep :D lol. It has been quite the experience.

We have referred to the baby as "he" from day one and it just feels very masculine to everyone, even big sis lol. It has made the pregnancy much more exciting for everyone and we have really enjoyed picking out gender neutral stuff without any greens, yellows or gaggy colors. I have no regrets :D This pregnancy went by way too fast. I'm still scrambling to get everything together... barely halfway with the crib and this kid is gonna rip itself out of me any minute. Yikes! XD

well put cosmo!! I hope you're doing well!!!

All going well I think I will stay green too, i found out gender with both by children but I think this time around I’d like to experience the excitement that you describe without being set or disappointed on gender. Healthy baby and a safe delivery is all that matters. Best wishes to you and your family x