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Oh ZB!:HH:
I'm sorry to hear you're in that dark place. But you are not a loser or a failure. You didn't do anything wrong. It's the darn GD that is such a monster, making you unable to enjoy this moment. I know that you know it will pass, but until then :big hugs!: Take care of yourself and take your time getting used to all this.
That was exactly how I felt when I found out I am having another girl.. my 5th. I was severely depressed for couple of months.. now I am kind of looking forward to meet her. I got several 3D ultrasound pictures.. she looks so much like her daddy. It helped me to deal with my GD. I remember that feeling when I wanted to give her up for adoption and even abortion. I couldn't get out of my bed for a week. I was told boy at 16 wks.. then girl at 21 wks. Oh it was awful! I am just glad that I am getting better and I know I WILL love her when she comes. I think you will cope soon. :)
I am sorry you feel so bad... confused do you know for sure or not?
One of my cousins just had a 4th girl (no boys). He says he is the happiest man in the world because the girls go out of their to make mothers/father day meals, they are the sweetest, and he would never wish any of them to be a boy. I know it doesn't make you feel better to see that but from a dads point of view it is sweet.... his sister had a boy after 3 girls and she wasn't trying!
Even my dad says he loves his 3 daughters and 2 granddaughters more then his 1 son and 3 grandsons. I feel sad about this because of where my sons fall in that love-like area.
Men seem to love their girls more and women love their boys more!
i had 7 girls in a row before i finally got my little man. i know exactly what you are going through. failed sways while everyone else is getting their desired gender. it sucks and it isn't fair. but really my dd3 is amazing. she fits in perfect with our family and get this... total tom boy. hates dresses and bows and all that girly stuff. the other day i caught her with a frog in her pocket. i wouldn't trade her for a million boys.
Definitely consider HT if you go for #4. I'm sorry you are feeling so down. I always expected to have both boys and girls and was shocked when #4 was another boy. He's my little sunshine now though.
I could of written this post except in the reverse "It CANT be another boy", im sorry you feel like this , i found with my last 2 pregnancy's what was best was to not tell anyone the gender till they were born , no one has loser comments to make when they are looking at a gorgeous baby, im going to do the same this time if it does end up being a boy , and if you do want to go for #4 i agree with fun family and consider HT , take from me i have been swaying for 7 years and this time and last time i swayed my Ass off and still no girl, and i regret so much not doing HT , i hope you feel better soon
I am so so sorry. I would have loved to have 3 girls and I could have dealt with a boy in addition. Instead, I am expecting boy number 3 with one girl. LIfe is not fair. I am not sure why we have to go through these emotions, but I firmly believe there is a reason: a reason why you have 3 girls and me 3 boys (and just 1 girl). Knowing that makes me very strong (and of course my sons themselves :HH:).
I hope there is a boy in your future to help you overcome gd, but I can tell you from experience that its a long journey. Gender disappointment is in ourselves, not caused by our children. sending you hugs xxxx
so sorry to hear you're going through this hun, hope you feel better soon, I pray some day your wish comes true and you get your son. :HH:
This is just so not true! i know boy moms like to say things like this , but sorry no way I would love a boy more then my girls. I always wanted girls Im very happy to have girls and I love them so much .not everyone is the same.Quote:
Originally Posted by purplepoet20
I'm so sorry you're sad :( (((HUGS))) It will take some time to feel better.