:( How often do you get to see him? It must be hard having him in the hospital.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mochagirl
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:( How often do you get to see him? It must be hard having him in the hospital.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mochagirl
TBH, my dad and I have never been very close. I don't like to see him suffering, but s lot of his health problems are self-induced because he had a very unhealthy lifestyle: a smoker for over 50 years and a closet alcoholic. I worry more about my Mom who is older than him but has taken care of herself. Now she lives her life at his bedside instead of being out enjoying her retirement years as she should. That's why I'm glad we talked her into this trip to Spain with a friend - she really needed to get away! I just wish I could help her out more but I live 4 hours away.
That's too bad about your mom and dad. It is good that she got away for a vacation!
Mocha, that does not sound good. Make sure if anyone needs to visit him they do it soon, so they don't have any regrets.
Auroara, that is a really tricky situation. Definitely a good idea to show him the stats. Might make it sink in and he might realise it is hopefully a short term option and you aren't wanting him to do it forever. My DH used to do night fill at the local supermarket when he was at university as it paid ok and the hours suited.
One of my brothers is there for the weekend and my Mom comes back from Spain on Monday, so we're covered. The doctors have assured us that although he's very poorly, he's not yet at death's door - otherwise my Mom would have cancelled her ticket and come back early and all of us kids would be there with him. We will be planning a visit soon, though.
So sorry to hear this Mocha :hugs:
I am glad your Mom is enjoying some much needed time off in Spain.
I am so tired today! I worked last night and then ended up staying up SO late! I have to work tonight too, but hopefully I can get off at a decent hour and get to bed on time tonight!
Any exciting plans for the weekend, everybody?
We are going to do some planting in the garden, and the older kids have a baseball awards ceremony for the end of the T-ball/baseball season.
We have no real plans today but I might try and finish the painting in the playroom (just need to finish the big closet which is turquoise!). I also have a family photo session tonight...and it's been a while since I had one of those and not just a toddler or something!
DH let me sleep in (it is now almost 10:30am) and I feel sooooo sore. Maybe I'll try and get some knitting done today, too, since I'm trying to finish up a few different projects.
Lynxie, you are so productive! I am impressed.
Not much planned today here either. It's pouring rain outside, so we're all stuck inside. We were supposed to go to a big BBQ at ds3's preschool, but I don't really fancy hanging around outside in the rain.
Tonight I'm going out with the girls. One of my friends is recently separated and just recently got a new boyfriend so I imagine I'll be spending my night listening her talk ad nauseum about him. It's funny - when I was in my 20s I was used to having to listen to friends in the first flush of a relationship yammer on and on about it, but my friend's almost 42 and a mom, so it seems weird somehow! Maybe I'm just bitter because she and I used to go out to movies together every week (which was my ONLY night away from the kids and something I really looked forward to), but now she keeps ditching me and only wants to get together on nights her man isn't available so she can dish about her most recent date. I really do wish her happiness - I don't mean to sound like a b****. Ok, rant over...
Haha! Thank you! I feel like I sort of have to be (where the house is concerned) since we moved into this place in mid-January and it had been foreclosed for about a year, I think. Lots of fixing up to do. Almost the whole upstairs had two layers of wallpaper and the downstairs had water/pet damage.
I think I'm mostly just excited to get the downstairs fixed because that's where the playroom and the craft room are going to be and I've NEVER had a place to have just my crafting stuff (and not have to pack it aaaalllllll away into a closet again once I'm done). And the layout is such that the kids can play, I can check in very easily, and a gate can be set up so there is no escaping, LOL!
Mocha, I have a friend in the exact same position, and I get to listen to the same stuff! I am really happy for her, and her divorce has been horrible, so I don't mind so much listening to the stuff she gushes on about, but I know what you mean about it being such a long time since friends were going through all that. ANd I can see why you are annoyed that your friend ditches you on your movie night! That would annoy me too!
Yeah, I just needed a quick rant because in real life I'm nothing but supportive. I am happy for her, and I know things will calm down eventually and they won't be spending every minute together. I'm just being selfish because once the baby's born it will be harder for me to get out, so this summer is it for a while for me!
Well the weather here is horrible and rainy, we had to cancel our day out to the beach with the boys and dogs. We went to ikea this morning and have chosen a big boy bed for DS3, we will get it once we have gotten the bunk beds for DS1 and DS2. Want to get the boys all sorted in new beds before baby arrives, not sure how DS3 will take to a bed instead of his cot.
This afternoon DS1 and DS2 have gone to nanny for tea and DS3 having a nap so DH and I have been lazy and played mario kart on the wii (big kids) lol! I love being cosy inside when its cold and rainy out.
We have a long weekend here. Yesterday we went to Greek Glenti, an annual Greek festival in the city. Darwin is very multi-cultural and there are lots of festivals and shows in the dry season. I love going along to enjoy all the food, music and dancing. The kids love the rides and the food. I went a bit crazy with the honey puffs and the greek desserts- so good. Today DH made crepes and I had a sleep in and now he has gone fishing for the rest of the day. Tomorrow we will probably go on a jumping crocodile boat cruise as I won 4 tickets for selling the most raffle tickets at child care!
Next week my PIL arrive for a week so no doubt I will be busy ferrying them around and entertaining them. Every day is blue skies and warm here at this time of year, so the family likes to escape the winter down south and visit. Only 2 weeks until school holidays and then the kids will have 4 weeks off school.
Pinkin, how are you travelling? Not long until your scan!
Hi Peony, I am going well thanks, starting to grow a bit more still not feeling much going on in there!!
Must be because you have a gentle, petite girl growing in there! I only get the occasional gentle taps if I am patient. DS1 said he felt a tap yesterday! I often wake up with a lump on the right side of my belly. Last night I had a dream that if the baby is squished to the right then it is a girl...my wishful thinking!!
All I can say tonight is.................. MEN..................... AHHHHHH!!!!
Oh no, what's he done?! Mine went fishing from 8.30am til after 5pm. Love feeling like a single parent- not!
I dropped mine off at the pub at 2 pm for a COUPLE of beers and well he is no longer at the pub is he!!!! He is a one of the footy guys houses with a heap of blokes and he wont prob be home until the early eary hrs.. I am so angry!!!
And he has been away working all week got home friday night then went to footy yesterday at 11am and got home at 6pm he is so selfish sometimes.. I mean gosh go to the pub and have a few beers but why not come home??? He does this all the time drives me nuts!! They say they will be home at 7 but nooooooo 3 or 4 am will do!
My DH does this sometimes and it makes me furious! I agree, why not come home after a few beers? It doesn't ahppen often, but when it does, I get so angry!Quote:
Originally Posted by pinkin2011
Your life there sounds so exotic!! I wish I lived somewhere with all of that. We mostly have snow, mountains, moose, bears, and other wildlife, and it is beautiful, but I would love the ocean and crocodiles!Quote:
Originally Posted by PeonyPrincess
My dh doesn't go out until all hours of the night...but what he does do is equally annoying if you ask me. He's always here all the time on the weekend, but never does anything with the kids. I'm ALWAYS the one to wake up with them, then he stumbles downstairs 2-3 hours later and expects to be able to sit and read the newspaper! Sometimes he'll even take the paper and his coffee back upstairs while I stay downstairs with the kids. Then he spends most of the day in his office - I know he does spend some of the time working, but come on - I really try to respect his boundaries on weekdays since he DOES work from home a lot and I try to keep the kids out of his way, but he could at least join us in the backyard or the playroom for a little bit and maybe give me a break! If he does decide to grace us with his presence, he always has a book in hand for himself to read, and if the kids start being loud or naughty he disappears again instantly. I often feel like a single parent too!!!
Oh, Mocha, that would make me grouchy too!
Gosh Mocha I would be angry with that one too!!! I really dont get men at all!!
Hob my d/h doesnt do it often either but when he does I get so so angry!! And he is hard to deal with he gets so moody when he drinks I slept on the couch last night
Well ladies, sorry to hear about your pain in the butt partners...i would get very annoyed if mine did that also. So glad its not a common thing and just every so often tho. My dh doesnt really drink at all and he isnt into football or anything like that but he does like to spend hours and hours and hours cleaning the cars or looking on the internet for gadgets and stuff that we didnt need until he finds it...lol! Surely a car can be cleaned in about an hour but no he spends way too long doing that, while im watching kids, i have started making him take them out to help him tho.
Well last night i had to take a trip to labour and delivery, as i was loosing some clear fluid (which i thought maybe waters) anyway after doctor not being able to find my cervix the registrar came in and lets just say he was not gentle in the slightest and he hurt me so so much :eek: anyway he said there was some water like discharge (sorry tmi) but he wasn't conviced it was my waters. He told me to keep a pad on for next 3-4 days and go straight back if they get wet. Also he thought the water like discharge could be thrush??!! I never had thrush before but when i came home i looked it up on net, so hopefully it is that and not my waters.
On the upside i did get to hear my babies heartbeat, i was worried as i really dont feel this baby at all. And the midwife took a look at my potty shot and she didnt have a clue what it was...ho hum only 8 days till i get confirmation.
Sorry about the discharge scare, HappyLea, but I'm glad you saw the baby's heartbeat!!! I hope that discharge eases up soon. I had a friend who thought her amniotic fluid was leaking and when she went to the hospital found out it was just pee leaking out!
Thanks Mocha, yeah glad i went to get checked out. I really didnt want to as i know they would do an internal :(
I always thought thrush was white and not clear discharge but on internet said it can be clear or white. Even on my forth baby i learn something new.
Happylea, I have never had thrush, but I hope that is all you have going on. Sorry the doctor wasn't very gentle with you! I hope teh leak stops soon and all goes back to normal.
Eek, happylea, glad you heard baby's heartbeat...not to start stuff back up, but your potty shot is very iffy, and I am still hoping you'll be surprised in time for your scan!
Mocha, that's my husband...house troll! Except he's not doing anything important, he's playing his video games...so when I'm "on duty" he's "off duty" in his bedroom playing his computer. He does get off quite a bit to play with the kids...but it's quick snippets here and there, and if I ask him for anything real (like give them a bath, feed them a full meal, or change a diaper), he refuses when he's "off duty" but he'll do quickie stuff, like give them a snack, or watch them so I can take 'shower' (glad he's got his priorities so straight!)
yesterday, he helped clean the big plastic baby pool we have...it was first time use since last summer and it was dirty and he cleaned it real good, and helped skim it as the kids played in it, then he said his feet were "burning" and hurried inside to return to his girfriend, his video game, lol.
then we made some yummy dessert together: I made the cheesecake but he created a homemade yummy cherry topping for it. It was a delightful sin and I had two big pieces and it was sooo great!
So yeah he does do a fair amount of "men activites" when im home but he tries to balance it a little, I'd like more time, but i guess at least he tries...that counts for something.
Auroara - your dh is a SAHD though, right? So at least, presumably, when he's 'on duty' he does stuff with the kids. My complaint is that as a SAHM I'm on duty 24/7! I wish I could just tell dh he's on duty for the weekend and hide away with my computer!!
Im a 24/7 SAHM also although i must admit when daddy not workin he does help out. I just never have any time to myself but neither does he really, he either at work or when at home we do stuff together mostly.
Although ladies tomorrow night i am of out for a meal with the girlies while MIL minds the kids as DH working :D
Matt started back to work today after 2 weeks off, which just flew by. Kids also started back school after half term, they are all up i bed early tonight shattered and i think i will be soon following...i have a headache that i cant seem to shift. :( Although i dont seem to have leaked anything today which is good :)
HappyLea, I always have weird stuff going on "downstairs" during pregnancy! With my first, I think I probably got at least 4 yeast infections...I'm sure all hormone related. My last one, I was 38 weeks along and totally thought I was leaking amniotic fluid, too!
I'm happy that with this pregnancy I've made it to 22 weeks with only one incident so far.
Mocha, yeah DH is a SAHD and he does do stuff with the kids in the daytime.
But if they are content with coloring books, playing together, the boys are playin together a lot better, my husband sneaks onto the computer in the living room (where the kids are) and plays his online game then. But he's gotten a lot better about chores (still not quite as clean to my liking, but doable) and he cooks ...so there are some highlights there!
I guess my issue is I do work full time and when I come home the kids are so happy to see me they jump on me and literally give me no room to breathe until their bedtime. And if the roles were reversed, I know if he worked full time and I was a SAHM he would play with the kids at nite too, but not the way I do....I guess it's not really fair, but I am still the mother, but I do love getting the chance to be a full mother to them at nite, it just gets a little exhausting....
I'm not quite sure what I'm complaining about to be honest with you...the other nite after work DS1 was very busy and independent and I felt quite lonely he didnt' want to spend our usual time together....
Mocha, do you ever leave your DH with all the kids for a while? Like a long while?! I have always tried to make sure my DH feels capable of looking after the boys on his own as I think it is easy for them to rely too much on us. I never say no when he asks to go on a fishing trip or out with his mates, because then he can never say no when I want to do something! I have flown to Sydney with a girlfriend for 4 days when the kids were smaller. The sleep-ins were the best bit! And once when we had just moved here and I was thoroughly exhausted I told him I just needed some sleep and would love to go to a hotel for 1 night and he organised it for me! Not saying you need to book into a hotel, but I believe men can be pretty clueless and they need us to spell some things out!
Hobber, I am not sure that it is exotic, mostly just a relaxed place to live. We don't swim in the ocean in Darwin (well some do) because there are crocodiles in it and box jellyfish that can kill you. I have been in snow but have never even been skiing, so I am very jealous that you have snow on your doorstep!
HappyLea, hope your 'leakage' stays away and your baby starts giving you some more reminders that they are ok. Ouch, that internal sounds nasty.
Pinkin, I don't blame you for sleeping on the lounge. They normally snore when they have been drinking and stink for that matter. Hope you took some time for yourself the next day.
Auroara, I can just picture your kids racing up to you at the end of a long day as mine do when DH gets home. It is so sweet.
Nope - I've never been away from my kids overnight, and dh has never been alone with them for more than a few hours. Once a week I go out for dinner with my girlfriends, but that's pretty much the only time he's ever in charge of the kids, and I get them ready for bed before I leave anyway.
I do blame myself. I tried to be supermom when the twins were born and did absolutely everything myself, so he never learned how to do anything and never considered it his responsibility to learn.
So I went to my regular Dr. appt today and they found sugar in my urine.... so tomorrow I have to do the blood glucose test. Usually they don't do it this early (I'm 23 weeks) but since they found the sugar, they have to do it now. I really hope I don't get gestational diabetes! Have any of you had it before?
Oh no! I'm sorry, Hobber! I'm having my GD test this week as well. I've never had it before, so I have no advice. I hope your test comes out clear!
Thanks Mocha.... I hope it isn't my fault that I might have it--I have been having an ice cream and Zingers binge lately, and drinking more juice than water (and sometimes sodas, because they are free at work).:worry: