Begonia's Boy Sway

Thank you all so much. I posted it on a couple other threads but I need to take a break ... coming here just reminds me of when I still had some hope about having a son, and the fact is that hope is gone for me. And that's OK, it's my reality, and I now know my lot in life, you know? It's 3 daughters. And they are healthy and wonderful and I need to focus on what I have and not what I don't ... and coming here right now just keeps reminding me that I did try for a son, and it didn't work, and I won't have him.

So it's hard to go because yes, I do feel like I get support here and there's so many women who "get it" but I need to stop spending time focusing on this.

NBP I appreciate the thoughts on 3. Part of me yesterday was questioning why I even wanted one more. Like was this all a huge mistake, am I going to ruin the great bond my 2 have now, how will I find time for all of them, etc. All of that will work itself out I guess. I know for sure based on my experience with finding out about DD2 that I will feel soooo much better once she arrives. I'm glad I found out though ... I couldn't handle the not knowing. Knowing is better for me for sure. Now I can start moving forward and looking forward to life with our 3 girls.

Big hugs Begonia xoxoxoxoxoxo

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We will miss you. But you need to do what is the best for you. :HH:

Take care :awe: please come back!!!

ThiS lookS like a great boy SWay but that lady WantS her mummy and daddy!!!! Come back Soon B, aS full of life and eXcitement aS ever ok:HH:

Big big hugs B, i understand your decision & would probably do the same if i was in your position. Couldnt stop thinking about you yesterday. All the best & please do pop in to find out what i'm having

(((hugs))) to you B. I had to stop going to IG for awhile after I found out Honor was a girl. I just couldn't go.. I still avoid one friend's Facebook posts b/c she had a little boy just after I had Honor. Even adoring my sweet girl it still causes a little pain seeing her baby boy's pics. Take the time you need and enjoy your pregnancy. I spent a lot of time wondering "why did I even get PG again if another girl was a chance?". Those emotions were so painful but it got a lot better as my pregnancy progressed. Also take good care of yourself physically - that helped me a lot. And trust that you will adore her and she will fit right in. <3 for you.

B, ditto what everyone said.....I would do the same thing and take a break. Enjoy your pregnancy and get excited about her arrival. She is going to be super amazing! We are here for you anytime, of course...will miss ya, girl. :HH:

I'm SO sorry, Begonia. Huge (((hugs))) and wishing you the very best for a happy and healthy pg and all the best in life.

Y'all I'm sorry to do this but I need to delete my sway. I keep re-reading it trying to figure out where I went wrong and I hate knowing that it's out here as an example now of a "failed" sway. I find it incredibly sad that in my ideal world this little person in my belly would be someone other than who she is, but it's true ... I wanted her to be someone else. What a rotten way to start her life, with her mom wishing she was different, that she's somehow a disappointment to me, before she's ever even taken a breath. So out of respect for this little girl I had to take it down; I'm hoping it will help me leave behind the last 11 months of wishing and hoping for a son, and help allow me to move forward with another daughter.

I wish everyone SO MUCH luck with their sways!

I would do the same thing, girl. Hope you are doing ok.....xxooo

{hugs} Begonia x

i think thats great of you to do that. what a wonderful mommy you are! i am also getting attached to this sway and its no longer become "for entertainment purposes only." bc of you and others who didnt get what they swayed for, it grounds me and reminds me its ultimately up to God (or whoever you believe in). you are so lucky to have a DH who is interested in #4/adoption. there arent many men out there like that (at least that i know!!). my dh was done after one! anyway besides whatever teh future holds for you, you are going tobe an even greater mother to your #3. once you have that chubby soft baby in your arms, her eyes connected to yours, feeling sedate and comfortable in her mothers arms, searching for a large juicy nipple, i think you will even forget swaying ever happened.
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Totally respect that decision Begonia, love and hugs to you my cyber friend xoxox

Thank you guys for your support. It really has helped me to delete it ... it's a good step for me in moving on.

Or maybe I should repost it and just call it a girl sway :wink: Then I'm a success story after all :bigsmile:

LOL that made me laugh B!!!!

I think I'll be doing the same thing! Hugs to you, my friend:) xoxoxo

That makes so much sense! Whatever helps!!

Where is your sway info?
was it deleted? I cannot view it...

Yes, she deleted it so she didn't have to go over it and feel like she did anything wrong.

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Originally Posted by LolaInLove

Yes, she deleted it so she didn't have to go over it and feel like she did anything wrong.

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Nobody does anything wrong and I really hope nobody feels that way. Swaying is just that, attempting to sway your odds in your favor. There is still a big margin for opposite though. I wish the information was still there for others. We all learn as we go here.

A big reason I deleted it is bc I myself was obsessing over it. And also, I don't see really anything of note that is different between those that got their boys and those that got girls. The luck element none of us can control and you either get it or don't. I didn't. But I changed everything I could, I seriously can't believe how much of my life I changed for this and STILL got another girl.

Anyhow, in the essence of trying to help others here's what I did, short version:

DIET: high fat, high protein (100+ a day), high calorie, high nutrient ... the good ol' High Everything. Included full fat dairy, nuts, meat, dried fruits, fresh fruits and veg. No processed foods or refined carbs or artificial sweeteners. Ate carbs + protein for snacks and meals. 9 months on the diet.

EXERCISE: Was running well over 40+ miles when I got pg with my girls. So stopped that and did weights 3x a week, some cardio.

SUPPS/HORMONES: fish oil, EPO, ASG, vit D, prenatal, wheatgrass, gelatin, BYF. My hormones definitely changed; my cycle included 3-4 days of spotting pre AF and never had that in the past, lots of chin hair popped up, and acne on my back.

BD: BFP 1st month. DTD 0-1 and 0, BSF about 30 mins before. No EW. O before and after, 2-3x. Hips propped and fell asleep.

OWT: boy outfit under the bed. and prayed my heart out for years.

b, like you said its all in the hands of luck in the end, and what nbp says too, a sway is just..well a sway! thats it. i know how you feel tho. ive already started thinking of all the things ive done wrong and i just finished O'ing and attempting. totally think it will be another girl (#3 for me as well), but what can i do? nothing. just love whoever it is. i think if ppl went into this thinking its not a sure-fire thing, maybe they wouldnt be so invested in teh results. but it really is so hard espl y for pl like us who REALLy REALLY REALLy want a boy (or girl) and will do anything and everything expect PGD (esply if we cant afford it). thats why i try to keep telling myself and DH it may not work, it may not work. well we cant really control GD either. but we can accept we have it, mourn, and move on.

{hugs} Begonia, I know you're having such a hard time right now x

Big hugs again, B xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

big hugs for you B i know how your feeling with my third dd i defiantly though i was pg with ds because everything i was experiencing was diffract to the first two but i ended up with dd and then again with my forth dd i was glowing things were different once again and when i was told i was caring a dd again i was disappointed but you know what i would not have it any other way i love all four of my dds just the same.and i can not see myself without them. so hold in there your time will come soon

does you mean when you hove chin hair in pg your most likly to have a boy?

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Originally Posted by LolaInLove

Yes, she deleted it so she didn't have to go over it and feel like she did anything wrong.

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Oh, sorry B, I didn't mean you DID anything wrong. You know you had a wonderful sway, of course. I did mean you didn't want to obsess.....which I would have done the same thing.

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Originally Posted by ttcboy

does you mean when you hove chin hair in pg your most likly to have a boy?

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No, it means your testosterone level is good. Women who get facial hair seems to get that weird little chin hair. To be honest, I don't think ANYTHING means you are most likely to have a boy.

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Originally Posted by LolaInLove

Oh, sorry B, I didn't mean you DID anything wrong. You know you had a wonderful sway, of course. I did mean you didn't want to obsess.....which I would have done the same thing.

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No worries at all, Lola, I didn't think a thing about what you said ... I took it precisely how you meant it :)

Thank you all for your support; such a lovely bunch of women here.

We sure are lucky to have a place with like minded people hey! xx