And yes the hypnobirthing does sound amazing doesn't it!! I'm surprised its not encouraged???!!!
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And yes the hypnobirthing does sound amazing doesn't it!! I'm surprised its not encouraged???!!!
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I always get up to pee also, and then my brain starts working. It’s awful!!!
I agree pbn. So crazy that it’s not more encouraged.
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Max – glad you’re off bedrest, woohoo for the gym – I can imagine how that must feel after months of not being allowed to! Enjoy but don’t go too hard too fast eh? ;)
I don’t think seeing someone quite public with the same dynamics as you, and how she embraces it etc is weird at all – I follow a mum of soon to be 3 girls online, and it’s seeing that kind of dynamic that makes me more at peace with having 3 girls – I get mostly “negative” comments, so it’s like a breath of fresh air!
I’m sure if you shortlist some names, you will know once you see him which one fits him like a glove ;) I love both names you have, I would choose Samuel William over Willaim Samuel but that’s only because I love both almost equally but Sam just that notch more – I hope one day I get to have a Sam of my own ;)
Why would they not allow you to use any labour technique you want? Not like hypnobirthing would interfere??? Agree, having some sort of calming option (whatever that may be) would be awesome – I labour very fast too, and something to ground me would be so nice – but admittedly haven’t had time with either labours to think too much – fortunately, hubby was a great support – I just need to pace myself as much as possible next time to avoid tearing – rocket babies and precip labours = stunned mama and perineum lol
Oh and same here, peeing constantly, up at night multiple times too – but can see why, the munchkin has her fav spot with nudging her head between bladder and cervix – I stand no chance lol
PBN I’m the same, I get numb, trying to sleep on the side – fortunately I bought a big maternity pillow last week(only had a small one until then) and sleep soooo much better now, as my limbs don’t go numb anywhere near as much, and it keeps me in place – whereas if I end up on the back, I get woken by strong tightenings – and if I wake up, I have to get up to pee, yet again (I seriously go 2-3 times in the 30 minutes before sleep and yet still maange to need to go again at night lol)
Lmsm I cant understand how I have any pee left by morning [emoji23][emoji23] should've looked into a maternity pillow but won't bother now as I'm so close!
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Haha I hear ya – I even try to limit my drinks by late arvo so I don’t have too much fluid in there – and nope, still need to pee like every two bloody minutes (it’ll be fun in the last weeks where it’s even worse because of the sheer pressure of bub’s weight lol)
Because it’s my third, I am loathe investing too much in that kinda stuff – found it on Gumtree a few suburbs down and was new – got it for $10 instead of $70/80 in the shops. It was a rather wealthy lady, whom I suspect has bought 3 of everything and only used one lol I am soooo happy I did buy it though – you can zip it into a cushion for bub afterwards too :D
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glad your getting back into your exercise max :) i cant believe hypnobirth isnt allowed?? what excuse can they possibly give for not wanting you to listen to it and do the breathing exercises in your room? not like your disturbing other women or interfering with medical equipment or anything, beyond me how controlling some hospitals are :(
LMSM glad baby is looking good :) i would think they will re-check placenta position around 35 ish weeks just to make sure its moved up enough, im sure it will and that everything will be fine for you
Sky - I hope its just pregnancy related too. I just thought it was weird because the symptoms came from no where and suddenly. You're due date is just 3 days after mine :) Also I've never had a c-section but I'd go for the vaginal first and if it didn't work then they can do the csection. But really it's your preference. With the csection you'll have an appointment scheduled and know when the baby will be here which is a perk in my opinion (I hate not knowing stuff) but a vaginal delivery is so much easier to heal from (from what I've heard).
LMSM - I'm hoping for a small delicate baby too but I'm not hoping too hard since my last was 8lbs 5oz. I'm expecting 10lbs this time around. And my doctor won't do anymore u/s so I have no way of knowing if baby will be large or not. For this reason I have an elective 4D u/s set up for the end of the month but this place is in no way connected to the doctor and I may have another closer to the due date. I hope I can make it to the appointment.
US hospitals seem to restrict a lot. I was induced twice and not allowed to walk around or eat. I was sooo bored and pretty mean by the end after not eating for about 24 hours. I wasn't allowed to eat from a certain time the night before until I had them the next day, both times this was around 8pm they were born.
4b2p – since the placenta was noted as ok (because it was juuuust at the limit lol), it is not on the report that it was borderline low – so will have to tell my GP of my concerns, and hope she will agree to a referral for a late scan – it really, really would appease my fears ;) I’m sure it will move up nicely, since most do naturally anyways, but just want to not put us at risk, especially since there is a very real chance I may end up having an unassisted birth at home given how quick I labour ;)
How are you feeling? Are the other kids getting excited? Is your youngest daughter aware of what is coming you think? ;)
Mommaxo3 - yep, I pretty much have no hope of a delicate little thing either (DD2 was an 8 pounder too) lol there is no 3rd trimester scan if all is well here either so no way of knowing if there is a potential whopper in there :D
Can a private scan tell you if baby is big? Here all the non-medical ones (you can only get a medical one if you have a referral from your doc) only are for “entertainment” and they don’t provide any feedback on anything but gender….
FX all is well and your darling girl is growing perfectly! Please show us pics! :D
Ok wish me luck, am meeting with my friend at lunch and will tell her about #3….I’ve dressed so that the bump doesn’t stand out at all, I don’t want it to be “in your face” kinda of a thing!
Maximbella, can you repost your colic thread without the question mark? For some reason occasionally the last couple weeks, threads with puncuation in them are impossible for some of us to read.
How did telling your friend go LMSM? It's hard sharing baby news with people battling infertility. I had to tell my close friend since 13 years old that I was pregnant with this one and she'd gone through 2 miscarriages and a termination at 17 weeks. I felt awful. She's due exactly 3 weeks after me now!
I'm starting to regret being team green now too. I did want to find out but decided not to because DH wanted to be team green. I just having a dreading feeling for the birth and that my sway failed ....and I despise failure! I know I'll grow to love the baby if it's a girl but I just can't see how I will be able to not be so disappointed and upset after the birth for a few hours.
Then you should absolutely find out. You can talk with your doctor about your feelings and have him/her tell you either at your appointment or have him/her write it down for you to read later. This happened to my close friend, and I️ personally think it contributed to her postpartum depression.Quote:
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LMSM oh i see :) if its literally just on the boarder of low then it will be pulled up and out of the way in time, but i agree they should at least offer you a quick re-scan around 35 weeks just to assure you since they have told you its a bit low now and put it into your head.
gotta love an unassisted homebirth ;) you will rock it wherever you have her :D can you not book a homebirth given your history of very fast births? it seems far more risky for you to get in the car and end up delivering somewhere between home and hospital, over here if you have a fast birth they recommend homebirth for your next baby for that reason.
im feeling good thankyou :heart: it still doesnt really feel real!! we havent told the kids we never do, we dont announce to anyone before baby is born and if the kids knew they'd be telling everyone!! we save it and let it be a big surprise for them when baby arrives :) they have been begging for another baby for months now so i know they will be over the moon, especially once they've asked "can we keep him/her?" and the answer is yes!! my youngest is oblivious she is only 12 months and far too busy walking around getting into everything to notice anything else really!!
i hope everything goes well with telling your friend, its a very difficult position to be in but im sure she will really appreciate you telling her to her face and not just leaving her to find out via facebook or through someone else etc
have you found any names for your baby girl? i find girl names so hard!!
dancingdiva if team green is making you miserable then find out, if it isnt the right thing for you then dont keep on with it, im sure your dh will understand and the last thing you want to do as XX's post shows is put yourself at an increased risk of post-natal depression
LMSM - yes she does give weight estimates if you ask and that's one of the reasons I booked the appointment (other than to see that cute squishy lil face). How did your meeting go? I hope your friend is taking the news ok. When I was pregnant with my first, my ex SIL was due 2 months after me and she miscarried hers and I hated when people asked me pregnancy things in front of her because she should have been experiencing similar things at the time, she now has 3 little girls.
Dancing I agree with finding out prior to birth also if you're worried about your reaction [emoji173]
4blue2pink am I missing something??!! Have you confirmed girl??!! [emoji3][emoji3]
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Dancing, for what it’s worth....I’m so incredibly jealous of PBN’s gender reveal in the hospital. I️ love how she has it planned out and soooo wish more than anything that I️ was ok with either gender and could do it that way. However, this time around I️ was so set on girl that I️ knew I’d have the reaction that I’m having to hearing an opposite. I️ talked to a therapist about it and she told me that one of the best things I️ could have done for myself was to find out early so that I️ had time to work through my feelings, rather than trying to do that with the added hormones and stress of a newborn. I️ have to agree because it’s taken me a good month to get comfortable (and excited) about a boy, but it would have been a whole other situation if I️ had uncovered that after birth knowing I️ already have crazy hormones afterwards. That’s just my personal story, it doesn’t mean that I’m not still incredibly in awe and jealous of those that can wait to find out, but it taught me in my own personal case that knowing ahead of time (again for me) was right. I’ve also seen atomic say that if you have the slightest hesitation about it then to find out. I️ can also see the other side in just waiting since once baby is in your arms you will love him/her regardless. But you have to do what’s right for you.
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By the way pbn, I️ took your shopping advice to heart and we have one spoiled (and I️ must say also well dressed!!!) little guy. I’ll post pics tomorrow when I️ have energy to get up and walk to his room. [emoji170] surprised at how much I’m liking little man clothing. And for those of you that haven’t heard about kickee pants yet, check out their newborn onesies. They are ah-mazing!!!!!
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Cant wait to see your purchases Maxim [emoji3]
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Mommaxo3- Wow. We are that close. ❤️ I tried so hard with dd to have vaginal birth but it didn’t work and this time I was told that it will be a c-section and I was also mentally prepared but now OB gave me this option of vaginal birth and I just didn’t know what to say but like you said that I should try and if it doesn’t work then would be having a c-section anyway. I m scared to deliver vaginally because I am scared it would hurt so bad but I love the fact that the recovery will be way better and quicker. Dh and I are going to speak to the OB on my next appointment and will finally tell her our decision.
When is your GTT?
LMSM - Saw the pics on fb. Such a cute little baby. ❤️❤️ I wish they would do another scan to check the placenta. My OB did it for me in 38th week last time and this time in 36th week because of gd. I am glad that they will be doing the scan so that I would have an idea about the baby’s weight and that will help me to change my mind about Vbac incase the baby will measure big. I think they do it for everyone around 38th week. Don’t they?
How did it go with your friend? You did the right thing meeting her to tell her the news. I am sure she would have appreciated it too.
4b2p - I am just curious. Do the kids know that you are pregnant ? Do you know the gender?
Dancingdiva- I agree with others about finding out or atleast have OB write it on a paper so that you can see whenever you feel ready. And I am sure dh will understand.
Max - Waiting for the pics and so excited for you.
Xxforhubby- How is our darling Olivian? I just love her name and always waiting for her pics. Lots of love to her. How are you feeling with the meds?
Pbn - How are you doing? Are the boys feeling the kicks yet? How excited are they? Do they say what gender do they hope is the baby?❤️
Bluebooties- How are you my friend? Sorry I missed. What’s the date of your next scan?
Ash - Can’t wait to see the pics of your dd’s room. It just felt so good to write “your dd’s room”[emoji12][emoji12]
Lolla - How are you dear. Long time.
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Thanks for everyone's kid words. Unfortunately after talking to DH about how I felt, he was very unimpressed about it. He said I should just be thankful for a healthy baby (he'd just found out a few hours earlier that his cousin is having a boy next year but 100% confirmed case of down's syndrome). So I guess that didn't help matters too.
He also said if I couldn't accept the fact that it could be a girl then I shouldn't have had another pregnancy. Which annoyed me because he swayed for a boy along with me and also said only a few days ago he would be slightly disappointed if it's a girl.
He said if I found out before him, he'd never forgive me because we had agreed and we've come this far, and finding out the sex should be something we experience together.
I'm just at a loss that he thinks all will just be OK after the birth.
Dancing I'm sorry dh has taken this stance - and such an unfair one I might add!! Sounds like he is thinking purely of his own feelings and not taking yours into account [emoji17]
Sky I'm going really well thank you! Boys are pretty excited, mostly the eldest as the youngest still doesn't really comprehend what it all means. They are both saying they want a sister now. Ds1 only wants a girl because (in his own words) "she wont want to play with my toys" and ds2 wants a sister now because that's what ds1 says [emoji23][emoji23]
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Dancing will he consider finding out together prior to the birth then. As per an earlier suggestion from xx I think it was - get it written down on paper and have it put in an envelope you can open together. There has to be some compromise!!!!
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Ok so I think I've caught up to everyone :-) Sorry I have trouble keeping up but had my scan yesterday and it's a boy!y sway worked :-)
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Pbn nope still team green :D we just really really struggle with girls names!! DD1 was nameless for 2 days after she was born and DD2 was nameless for 5 weeks!! all the boys were named either before birth or within a few hours after, i know if baby is a boy he will be named fairly easily :) im just worried if its a girl she'll be "baby" for potentially up to 6 weeks again :-/ i didnt enjoy having a nameless baby for so long with DD2 it was stressful to say the least and people kept asking "is she named yet" every 2 seconds!!
Congratulations on your boy Bommy!! :D love that the blue sways are having so much success now!!
sky im glad you are being given both options of delivery :) and no the kids dont know im pregnant, we always keep it as a surprise for them when baby arrives, we are still team green :)
dancing im sorry your dh is being so difficult :( i know this sounds awful but is there any way you could find out and just not tell him? im not trying to encourage you to lie to him but i do think its very important that you do what is best for you in this situation :heart:
Dancing- I would push for this. Let your DH know that you respect his feelings, but you feel like he is invalidating yours. Tell him you would like to compromise and do this together, and if not, then I would personally find out on your own. I can tell by your posts that this is weighing heavily on you, and you have to do what is best for YOU. You’re the one that will be up the most during the sleepless nights, and caring for the kids/house the most with the added hormones.Quote:
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You’re so sweet, Sky! Olivian is doing fantastic! She’s gained 3lbs in 3 weeks making her 11lbs 5oz! She’s such an easy baby- sleeps well, is sleep trained, loves a good conversation, and is such a patient, gentle soul [emoji4]. I’m already learning so much from her!Quote:
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I’ve been off the meds for 2.5 weeks now. The medicine was making my BP get too low. Since then, my BP has been normal and getting back to my pre-pregnancy BP. Of course continued weight loss and exercise will help [emoji6]. I’ve already cleaned up my diet, calories are reigned in, and starting my beloved T-25 (I love Shaun-T [emoji39]) next weekend! I’m staying fit so I can be around for as much of Olivian’s life as possible!!
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Sky - my test is nov 20th so over a week yet. And here we don't get a scan past 20 weeks unless something is wrong. Which is odd to me because I had a 3rd trimester scan with my other 2 but things have changed I guess.
Dancing - I don't agree with DH literally guilting you into what he wants without considering your feelings too. Have you explained the risk of depression after birth by not finding out and how you can work through your feeling beforehand if you know now? I had PPD with my 2nd pretty bad (not gender related so not much could've prevented it) and I really didn't want much to do with her. I feel guilty about it now because she's such a great and easy going kid but it took me a while to bond with her.
Bommy - congrats!
4blue2pink- How on earth did you go 5 weeks with no name? We can't even leave the hospital until all the paperwork is filled out lol.
Xx- How cute! I love girl clothes!
mommaxo3 we get 6 weeks to register the birth over here, after that you risk being fined, im hoping we can find a girl name sooner this time if baby is a girl though!! its my own fault because i have so many weird "rules" when it comes to girls names that i dont have for boys
Awe XX olivian is just a darling xoxo
Sky my next scan is Nov 28th !
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Haven’t read much but sky if you get an epidural I seriously haven’t felt a darn thing. I have pain until I can’t stand it and then I opt for epidural I fall asleep and when I wake up puking I know it’s time. Few pushes later I have baby. I know everyone is so different but that’s my vag birth history.
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I love epidurals !
Made birth such a enjoyable experience compared to my non epidural birth so I am all for it.
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Gorgeous little girl she is. Love her outfit. Glad you are getting back to your routine and bp is coming back to normal too. I am sure you will be back to your old self in no time. You inspire me. Share a picture of you with Olivian when you can. Who does she look like?Quote:
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Wow, You are awesome for not letting the kids find out. I can only imagine the excitement of kids when they would see the Baby and had no clue about the pregnancy. This sounds so amazingly cute. So, how have they reacted in the past when they saw the baby. I am just so excited. [emoji4]❤️Quote:
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Haha. “Won’t want to play with my toys “ kids are so cute. A friend of my dd told her to ask for a boy so that she won’t have to share her toys. [emoji12][emoji12] Glad that you are doing well. Do you have names for girl and boy? We are still searching. [emoji52]Quote:
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Dancing - I agree with others that dh shouldn’t be guilting you if you want something different. His reasons are valid but so are yours. PPD is so real. I didn’t want to find out the gender but dh did and I respected that because we don’t always have to be wanting the same things yet respect each other’s wishes. I found out on my follow up anatomy scan and he had a hint since 12 week u/s. Try to talk to him again about all this. Hugs.
Ash - I took epidural with dd after I couldn’t bear the pain. I was on pitocin and walked for almost 4 hours.
Hope I could do it this time.
Bluebooties- I will be thinking about you and the baby. How are you doing?
Bommy - Congratulations. So happy for you.
Shann - Are you Home? How are you and the baby doing?
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