We have some evidence that shows both that regular unprotected sex helps boost fertility, and also may sway blue. :agree: Even in 2WW if you can.Quote:
Originally Posted by Throwaway_panther
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We have some evidence that shows both that regular unprotected sex helps boost fertility, and also may sway blue. :agree: Even in 2WW if you can.Quote:
Originally Posted by Throwaway_panther
So, I have a question...
I know it's been said that no one thing can sway, but, let's just say that my diet is boy friendly, would this frequency here sway boy? Ovulated on the 7th, positive OPK on the 6th, but husband did not ejaculate during sex on the last day that's marked on my calendar there...
I actually want to sway girl but have NO idea what I am doing! Lol!
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It probably would have been best not to have DTD on Wednesday, but if you did in fact O on the 7th then I'd say you did do girl timing as you only had one attempt close to O.
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That's considered boy frequency, BUT is the frequency I had when conceiving my daughter. However, I had a VERY girl-friendly lifestyle, so clearly that trumped attempts!Quote:
Originally Posted by Lissastick
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Yeah, my lifestyle is not girl friendly, I think. Haven't read all the details, but I think I've been doing the WRONG things, thinking I was swaying girl, and was really swaying boy (calcium supps). Sigh. Oh well! One of my friends said she thinks I may be meant to be a boy mom. I think that might be true...
We shall see! I might not even get pregnant this cycle anyway, though. That would be crazy if it happened the very first try. Even my son took two cycles!
You always have a chance of a girl!! Good luck and pink dust - if BFN, please let me know how I can help! :)
The calcium, heck, a lot of people swear by that. It didn't work for me and that's partly why a lot of us are here, is because that old-school stuff didn't work for us. But that doesn't mean it's a surefire thing that it won't work for you. Moving forward I think we can work together here in the forums to get it ironed out, it's actually much easier to sway than it seems like at first blush. :)
That is so good to hear! I have a very strong feeling that we didn't make a baby this cycle, so, I am going to need to follow the girl diet, right? I feel like that is going to be HARD! hahaQuote:
Originally Posted by atomic sagebrush
And I have to be following it for a long time? I was kind of hoping to conceive before September because I don't want to be in my 3rd trimester in the summer like I was with my son! LOL! I was really hoping for a February or March baby, but, if I can have a real shot at swaying for pink, I feel like I need to try!
Can someone direct me to the girl friendly lifestyle info?
It's really not as hard as all that. I had to cram a lot of largely irrelevant info into the diet because otherwise people would have driven me nutty with questions on this or that, but at the core it's very simple:
1500-1800 cals
40-50 g protein (vegetable proteins are best)
30-60 g fat (vegetable fats are best)
Low carb veg are FREE and unlimted, don't count them for anything (not even cals). Higher carb veg and fruit, count only cals but not protein or fat.
Be sure you're getting at minimum 2500 mg potassium a day for safety and health.
Some people want to try to limit sodium to 700-1000 mg but it's really very difficult and most of us have totally given up on that (and our results have only improved since we did!)
Coffee, alcohol, fiber all seem to sway pink.
Everyone take 1200-1600 mcg folic acid or folate
Cheating now and then is not only allowed but mandatory.
That's it! You don't HAVE to follow any food restrictions or "eat this, not that" kind of thing, just stick in the limits eating foods you like that are available to you. We do get best results with 12 weeks + on diet but anything after 6 weeks is still getting good results. The full LE Diet is here http://genderdreaming.com/forum/tryi...l-version.html but it's a lot more involved, really it's just what I wrote above.
In my signature below there is a link to our index which has probably more than you ever wanted to know in alphabetical order by topic. :)
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I had a quick question. I am pretty regular and will ovulate Friday. My husband has been abstaining for almost 2 weeks. Should we bd tonight and tomorrow or just tomorrow. What do you suggest?I feel like the abstaining is the best thing were doing as far as swaying girl. Along with using rephresh 3 days ago and half today. Was planning on using aci jel before if need be. dh also has been taking cranberry pills drinking crystal light and lic root. And I have been drinking loads od crystal light and taking cranberry pills and folic acid.
Just one attempt for pink is best. Here's a really long thread about it! http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gend...pink-blue.html
So you are trying for a cutoff all the way from Tuedsay to Friday plus all that other stuff?? That is fine if you wish to do it that way, just making sure. Be aware that's not giong to give you a very good chance of conception. Might want to stretch it one more day to Wednesday for 2 day cutoff instead.
Coming up next month my time to bd my hubby is 37 so abstain or frequent release??? X
Hi Atomic, I was reading previous posts from year 2014 and you said abstaining did not sway much. What changed from 2014-2018. Has the percentage gone up since then? I did not have success this time. DH did an 11 day abstain with bd at first sign of +opk. Test is still Negative as of today 9dpo. Is there anything else you would suggest I do. I am 31 and he is 29 so I assume the abstaining is safe for us!
oh sorry I missed this, FR for men over 35.Quote:
Originally Posted by Princessclare
No, it's still disappointingly low. I keep it in the mix because many want to use it but it's among the first things we drop to boost chances of conception.Quote:
Originally Posted by Prayingpinkgirl
I"m really not following your question about what changed from 2014-2018?
9 DPO does not mean you're out, you are testing too early.
May want to try abstain again but not so long this time, more like 7 days
I assumed abstaining increases your chances for a girl. Is it just diet alone then? I see more comments and positive feedback about abstaining in 2017 than back in 2014....I am just lost now. The past 2 months we have abstained and 1 bd at first + opk with no luck. Is the abstaining portion not getting good results or is it just the 1 attempt that increases the chance of girl....So I should do 1 attempt with dh abstaining just 7 days?? Thank you!
We all assumed that LOL but when we tracked our results they were disappointing, plus abstain has caused a LOT of stress/trouble for people and can cut odds of conception significantly.
I don't know where you're seeing any positive comments about abstaining. I let people do it now, I let people do it then, but I don't believe it does anything. Trust me, after 4 years of realizing abstain does nothing, I REALLY know abstain does nothing at this point but some people want to try it so I let them.
One attempt is what works. Abstain may do a tiny wee something (like if we took 100 couples, maybe we'd see a teeny bit more girls conceived with abstain) but it just isn't adding anything, plus it is cutting odds of conception with the one attempt which has been far more reliable for us.
Thanks Atomic for clearing that up lol....So I started AF today, I will possibly ovulate 2/4/18. I have a 26 day cycle. I will do 1 attempt at +opk...what should DH do? Should he release every day, every other day etc. before that 1 attempt or be abstinent for just 7 days. I understand the 1 attempt portion. I just confused as to what DH should be doing?....THANK YOU
It's up to you. Both abstain and daily release (every day for 7-10 days) is said to sway pink, but neither have gotten good result (for reasons we already talked about) So you may want to start off with them and drop them and start doing every 2-4 day release for DH with the one attempt.
edit and rewrote above!
Ok, so we will try DH release every 4 days. with 1 attempt at + opk....now does it matter when that last release happens to fall. Say for instance dh's last release falls on the day before +opk when we will bd...is that ok?
How many releases on day of baby dance do I dump ??? Before the one attempt baby dance is wed this week x
Hey Atomic, just a quick question before I have start baby dancing lol....If dh is releasing every couple days before our 1 attempt. 1. Should there be any abstinence before the 1 bd like 24 hours, 48 hours etc. 2. If the release falls on same day as bd is that good or bad. I understand the releasing every 2-4 days. But as we get closer to the day of out 1 attempt. Is there any instructions I should be sharing with dh? Thank you so much!
did I answer your question before or after you rewrote it? Did I give you an adequate answer?Quote:
Originally Posted by Prayingpinkgirl
No that is fine. As long as he's doing regular release like that, 2 back to back releases won't reduce his sperm count too far and he can still make a nice amount of healthy sperm for the one attempt! :agree:Quote:
Originally Posted by Prayingpinkgirl
??? It depends on what method you're doing.Quote:
Originally Posted by Princessclare
If you're doing "hurry up FR" where you release once, dump it, then DTD as soon as you're able to, just ONE.
If you're doing abstain or daily release do not dump ANY releases the day of attempt.
The only method we ever used where people dumped more than one release in a day was "compressed FR" and most of the people who tried that, didn't even stick to it properly anyway. I wouldn't bother with compressed FR, but the directions are, have him release/dump it 2-3 times per day for 2-3 days before attempt and on the attempt, have him release and dump in the morning, have attempt at night.
1)No, if he's doing regular release every 2-4 days there does NOT need to be any special time before the one attempt. Just have it work out however it works out.Quote:
Originally Posted by Prayingpinkgirl
2)Doesn't matter
3)No special instructions
THANK YOU!...Yes, you answered my questions....Hopefully this is my lucky month!!
Hi Atomic, I just wanted you to review my 1 attempt and tell me what you think!....So my period ended 1/30. My dh Released 1/23, 1/26, 1/30, and 2/1. I got my first positive on wondfo actually 2/3 at 11p (CD 10) and blazin positive on wondfo and smiley face on cb advance on 2/4 at 11 am. My dh he didn't tell me until afterwards that he released at 10:30 am. We still BD'd at 3 pm because I knew he would be soooo into the Superbowl lol. The wondfo strips were still positive Monday, it started to lighten up by Monday night 2/5. I just hope that since he released a couple hours before we BD that there was still fresh sperm. Thank you for your input.
Sounds great to me! FX and pink dust headed your way!
Hi Atomic,
I just wanted to update you that I found out last night at either 8 or dpo (Valentines Day lol) that I am pregnant. Confirmed by an FRER and Clear blue digi. Now I am just praying for a healthy baby girl :)....But when you get a chance, I have not been able to find any info online about if husband masturbates prior to that 1 attempt. Does it lower sperm count-swaying girl or does it increase sperm count.....I know you don't want to say too much bc I am already pregnant. I am a big girl lol....I really just want to know.....All I know is he released every 3/4 days and I did the 1 attempt on superbowl sunday lol. I am thinking now I may have ovulated a day early being that I got my bpf a little early. Thank you for all your help!!
YOu mean right before? Or every 3-4 days?
If right before, it may sway pink because it lowers sperm count. If every 3-4 days that is better for sperm count BUT we have realy not found any of the frequency patterns to help at all and the one attempt is what is working. So you guys did one attempt, that is all good, don't worry about the frequency as we really aren't very concerned with that any more.
Yes, I was wondering about right before maybe 2 hours before our 1 attempt. Thank you.....Let the waiting period begin lol...I will keep you updated. :)
Ok. So it may sway pink, but at the same time it makes it harder to conceive and also has caused some people to miss the entire month when their hubby could not perform after having that release.
Jumping in because I’m wondering the same thing! I was so irritated at my husband because the night I was pretty sure was the best attempt night he pulled out. We had sex again later that night(did not pull out that time), and I did end up getting pregnant. So I guess it is possible to get pregnant right after DH releases, but I’m sure there are lots of factors that go into this. I was sure we missed that month because of that one little incident, lol.
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A lot of people WANT to do it that way. And yes it is possible, it's just that it tends to cause more trouble than it's worth.
Soooo I officially found out today through genetic testing that it is indeed a GIRL!! I AM SOO EXCITED. I am in disbelief!! Thank you for everything!
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