Printable View
Oh how exciting Maybe!! Sorry I didn't get on earlier...house full of illness!
I hope things start kicking off soon so you can be holding dave asap!
I had the pessary with DS3 and he was born at 10.50pm so loads of luck and will be thinking of you......xxx
p.s very envious!!...I would do anything to get this baby out NOW!!
Cant wait to hear your news and see a pic xx
OOOh exciting maybe can't wait to see pictures too!
Inglewood It was lovely actually i'm glad I made the effort I was exhausted but it was lovely to see both my sisters and they love seeing the boys. What kind of shop has your sister opened? Sounds exciting!
Thank you Deaks. Not sure if it's worth testing tomo as didn't do OPKs and I think i'll be 10 days PO going on stomach cramps and guesing when I o'd i'll be on CD 24 of a 27 day cycle. So may wait until Wednesday as tests prob won't arrive until midday tomo now. I can't face another BFN.
Sunset hope your enjoying your bottle of cocacola!
PUSH Maybe!!!! lol x
massive amounts of luck mabey!!!! hope things go smoothly! xx
maybe x just wanted to say thinking of you hope things progress quickly and that beautiful bub is in your arms very soon x much love hun x
and babymad - so with you on the wishing I was at D Day - i know it will be easy with a baby to hold <3 hope you are ok x
Maybe - good luck, will be thinking of you and hope it all goes smoothly. Can't wait to see some piccies.
Charlie - been thinking of you a lot, really hope you're ok hun.
Hi to everyone else xxxx
Maybe - fingers crossed your waters break easily later or tomorrow, I bet you'll hear a few of those adorable newborn cries if your in delivery rooms
Charlie - hope your ok, are you feeling any better?
Ladies - my 3.5 year old is driving me INSANE, I have ended up shouting at him quite loudly and just seems Im finding it really hard to control his behaviour and control myself so I dont end up shouting full belt all day.
We were having a lovely day till after tea time when I got out cars and the pop up tent, he was then barging my 1 year old around and had his warnings and wasnt calming down so it got put away. Then he had a tantrum later and then when I was putting them to bed I discovered he had put the toilet floor mat IN the toilet!!! I lost it and shouted at him and put him to bed with no story or cuddles. Now in my head I know I should have still done stories as they are if he sleeps well the night before, and cuddles and kisses but Im so cross.
What annoys me the most is that he knows its naughty, but does it anyway, that sort of behaviour of breaking things on purpose of putting things in the loo really gets my back up as surely at 3.5 years old he shouldn't be doing it?
Sometimes I think Im a bit stricter than most and expect him to listen straight away when I tell him to stop, will going to school help with this sort of behaviour? I know he wouldnt do it anywhere else and would be very well behaved at school, but am hoping him being at school all day will mean better behaviour when at home.
The last few weeks have been hard as I keep saying 'typical boy, girls wouldnt behave like this, I thought boys were supposed to be easier' to myself etc.
Anyone have any tips, he is driving me mad and I hate being 'shouty' and hormones are def. not helping with my short fuse but how do other 3.5 year olds behave?
To me chocloate he seems a typical 3.5 yr old. my boys are like that! they sort of like to test how far they can go with you.
my eldest whos 6 at the end of this month is as good as gold at school. Proberbly the best one in his class for good behavior but he's a terror when hes at home. shouts at me when he doesnt get his way. contantly fighting or tormenting his younger brother. ive just learned now to keep out of it if they are fighting unless needed if one of them gets hurt because they soon make up and are playing or fighting about something totally different and if i did interfere, i would only have made it worse and i dont want to take sides.
Phew, thanks LMW - glad to hear its normal challenging behaviour and not something that is totally out of this world naughtyness if you know what I mean lol. He can be very polite and very caring and loving 70% of the time but sometimes our strong willed natures just seem to clash, alot lol. I always find in pregnancy I tolerate a lot less and snap quite easily
Maybe...good luck!! really isn't long now :)
Lavender, my SIL is a tattoo artist, so she opened a new bigger tattoo studio as she was doing so well!
Chocolate, my ds1 never had the 'terrible 2's' was such a placid wee kid, but OMG did he test us aged 3/4!! he would put anything down the loo, inc dh's £300 watch! and FLUSHED!!! he'd hold his breath till he passed out! So don't worry, it's all normal. My ds2 was a tantrum master before his 1st b'day, so they are all different. Ds1 is the sweetest, laid back kid now (aged 9) and thankfully i only had not even a year of temper tantrums... ds2 is now 5 and still a wee cheeky boy! but calmer.... it's tough!!! xxhugsxx
Note to self: must hide the watches lol. Reassuring to know I havent got a criminal in the makings on my hands, I hope lol. Just thought that at this age he would know right from wrong, what goes through their minds to put things down the loo? He talks about sewers etc. will have to ask him tomorrow why, and see if I can give him some sort of explanation or answer to his thoughts.
Today I kept saying 'that behaviour is making Mummy really cross' in a cross tone instead of just shouting and it worked well all day until the 6pm toilet thing happened. New day tomorrow though and hope its better lol.
Chocolate - I think he sounds like a normal 3 year old too! My DS2 is probably the most challenging. He's intelligent and loving and so sweet but OMG does he know how to push my buttons! I suspect the problem is we're too similar so we clash more - and some days I deal with the boys really well and we have a wonderful time but other days I can't help myself from shouting and just making it worse for everybody. We're all human - and hormones really don't help! DS1 seems really grown up after 1.5 years at school and DS2 is definitely getting there too (although pre-school and school have always told me how sweet and attentive and good he is anyway!). They don't have to be good for mummy all the time because they know you'll love them regardless - take it as a compliment!
Thanks Zanacal, I guess I just dont hear these stories from my friends with boys or similar ages. I should just remember not to take it personally and accept its normal for his age and to just keep up the boundaries but also positive praise
Still here, not dilated, not contracting, not engaged. Don't this is working - I hope I don't end with a section! Part oft wonders if I should admit were not ready and go home :-(
Hugs Maybe, it is so hard waiting. I'm sure they will give you the best advice about what to do. Praying all works out smoothly and happily:HH:
Chocolate my ds2 sounds like the same child only a year younger! I know how frustrating it is! Hugs!
Girls I was wondering if you'd give me your views on male midwives?
At college we are doing a kinda dissertation in one subject that should relate to our future degrees. I've decided to look at how male midwives are viewed, both from the mother and from the partners point of view.
I've got a while to look into it yet but it's got me and dp talking and has been quite interesting thinking about it.
Hugs maybe, give it time hub, sometimes these things take a little while, potentially dave may have been there another couple of weeks so he possibly just needs a bit of a nudge in the right direction.
Hope things start soon x
Oh I had a male midwife for one of my births and he was lovely, I don't think you care when you are in labour, you would have the devil in if he would help you!!! LOL
Maybe - really hope something happens very soon
Kell - not sure, I think if I was given a male midwife Id feel rude saying I wasn't happy with this, so therefore I think my labour would perhaps not be as relaxed so wouldnt progress as well? In the pushing stages I probably wouldnt mind, I had a male dr come in and I took a double look but only after DS2 was born and then shrugged it off. It would be those initial examinations which would make me feel awkward. I dont know, I think maybe you should be given a form as you go in asking if you would like female if available or if happy with a male. It would take away the awkwardness of having to speak up if you could just tick a box
I dont think my OH would really care?? Not sure what most men would think.
Maybe- hope that you start to progress soon, there is a lot they can do to help things along and induction can take a long time, try to nap and rest as much as you can while you are waiting. It WILL all work out and tomorrow you will be holding your gorgeous baby boy! You are in the right place and will be looked after :HH:
Oh maybe, i know how you feel!! nothing happened after my first pessary either, but as soon as i had the 2nd one it was almost instant pain and contractions!! good luck hun x x
Maybe - hope things get going... especially as you have got yourself all pysched up to have baby. I never had any pessaries - they went straight to the drip and that took about 1/2hours for my 1st contraction to arrive - had nothing beforehand. You'll get there!!!!!!
Hmmm - male midwives. I saw one at one of my appointments with DS2. Really doesn't bother me. I wouldn't mind having one at the birth. I've had so many people looking at my bits (for various medical reasons) it really doesn't bother me if its a male :D I would however say I probably wouldn't feel so comfortable with a male midwife helping me with establishing breastfeeding.... that is a bit weirder!!!
Advice - has anyone flown in later pregnancy - I'm talking about 30weeks pregnant????? Am planning on going to Sydney for Easter.
DS1 is very funny - yesterday he announced - 'Daddy is at school' (DH is a primary teacher too) and then 'he's playing with his friends'. I love that he thinks DH goes to school to play!!!! :bigsmile:
How you doing Maybe??
Maybebaby ~ thinking of you! hope they can break your waters today!
Kell ~ I have to admit i would not accept a male midwife.. i'm generally not comfortable with men anyway.. i even demanded to have a female driving instructor so there is no way I would want a male midwife down at the business end while i'm in labour. I'm just not comfortable with the idea of a strange man being part of such a private moment (unless he's gay haha) to me, although i know it sounds very sexist, i just dont get why men would want to work as midwifes :S
Chocolate ~ don't worry it's definitely normal 3 year old behaviour. My 3,5 year old is going through a phase himself at the moment and has got a right little attitude on him and has learned to talk back which it driving me nuts. For example if we walk past someone in the street and i say to him "watch out josh, let the lady pass" he'll then say "no i don't want to watch out" or if he's is naughty and i give him a warning he'll then reply "no i'm not going on a time out, river is" (his brother).. he is good 85% of the time and is the sweetest little boy, but when he starts, omg! it's so hard to know how to handle as well at times.. these supernanny theories are great generally but sometimes you only have 20 minutes to get ready for nursery so then you dont have time for warning and time outs... lol the joy!
:agree: ahh blessQuote:
Originally Posted by pinga
im exactly the same, i wanted i women driving instructer and my mam sorted it all out with BSM and told them i would only be okay with a female driving instructor and then on the day a bloke towed up. there excuse was that he only teached in my area and there was no female instructors anyways he was an oldish bloke and was a lovely guy so i stayed with him untill i passed. My reasons were that i dont think men can understand us women.Quote:
Originally Posted by Sunset
again when i went for my 7 week scan it was a male sonographer and that really felt awkward too. i didnt feel i could ask him things like i would if it was a woman. thankfully there was a woman trainee with him and she was very chatty and made it more relaxed.
Although i know im having a section with this baby and there will most likely be men in the room. from my previous experiences the women were the ones who chatted too you and gave you the baby and talked me through it. the men altho they were there i forgot about about them inserting the catheter etc.
Sunset it's not sexiest it's how I feel as well. And I know my oh would not be impressed either, if it came down to needing help I wouldn't care so long as me and baby were ok but in a normal vaginal birth I don't feel comfortable showing that side of myself to any male other than my dp, and even then it's quite embarrassing in parts lol
I might feel different if I'd seen male doctors for things like smears or infections etc prior but even that sort of thing has been passed from my male doctor to a female nurse.
Having said all that, I don't have a problem with men doing a c section. Maybe it's the fact that it's my sexual organs on show in labour.
I've actually been quite surprised at how many people are ok with it, I put a post on net mums about it as well and out of about 65 replies only a handful didn't like the idea of it.
I have had loads of issues with abnormal smears/treatments so have seen lots of male doctors for that. It kind of gets you over any embaressment. With labour you are in a different headspace but with a treatment you are 100% aware that there you are showing yourself in all your glory :D I've even had to show my bits to a non-english-speaking doctor in Poland!!
The WORST THING EVER that I have experienced (sorry this is a bit TMI) - after my spinal operation I had to lie down for 3 days - no getting up. They give you laxatives to get your bowels moving after the op. Well they were a little too effective. So the worst is having to get a nurse for that... who has to then wipe... SOOOOOOOOO humiliating!!!!! I'd rather have a male doctor/midwife looking at my bits anyday!
haha - sorry this is a bit of a gross post!!! :D
Off to bed now... so fingers crossed will see some news when I next get on from Maybe x
Lol Pinga! Nice thought for you as you go to bed! Sleep well :)
Indigo you've got a baby the size of a slice of pizza :) lol
Maybe hope your doing ok!
imagine if that lass who was on obem had a male midwife she would have been appalled. she wouldnt even let her dp victor in the room never mind letting a male mw look at her down belows!
aww poor you pinga! i suppose all self dignity went out the window a long time ago!
Maybebaby had her waters broken and has a drip now to bring on the contractions which have now started, yay!
In the next hour she'll be getting an epidural so they can up the drip and increased the contractions and hopefully baby Dave will make his appearance soon!! (DH is asleep lol!)
So exciting!! I love it when we have fun news like this on this thread.
Think lots of positive labour vibes for her :HH:
Yay for Maybe, very exciting news, what a lovely time of year to have a baby, not too hot and you know there is lots of sunshine coming for pram walks :happy:
Sunset - DS put a book down the loo today!! I asked if he was trying to see if it would go to the sewers and explained that its too big, just wee and poo and small bits of tissue lol. Then found pencil on the wall again ............ I kept calm and put a naughty marble in his pot, just hope this delightful destructive stage passes soon and no more unaccompanied trips to the loo!
Pinga - I tell my kids Daddy goes to work for a rest and a lunch break, bless your DS lol, bet your OH plays with the resources though lol.
yay how exciting!! :D i've been stalking this thread all morning waiting for some news. Bless her, she'll soon get to hold Dave in her arms :)
Yay! Cant wait to see pics of Dave!! :)
That's what I was thinking, a lovely time of year to have a baby.Quote:
Originally Posted by chocolate
Just popping in quickly to check on Maybe!!! so exciting.... :)
GOT MY DATE!!!!!! WOOOOHOOO... My :twins: will be born on the 3rd April! OMG! 4wks today!
Woo inglewood! Your officially in the count down to birth! :)
Thats amazing Inglewood :) you must be sooo excited!! X
Once again im so envious, im really struggling health wise with this pg and need this baby out!!