TTC Blue Crew Grads

Baby- oh you have no idea. Dh doesn't really fit in with his family and they've always looked down on him for it. He was teased as a child because he liked to read, mocked as an adult for being white collar, and down right abused for not producing an heir. I won't lie, I love that this shut him up for a second and took some of the attention away from his son. Bil and sil insist on them or their kids being the center of attention and literally squirm when someone else gets any. It really is no mystery why we avoid them.

Hi All,

Hope its okay to post here? Your girls are beautiful Jen.

Skrimpy, Very cute :awe:

Babydes, Congrats on your daughter! I'm so sorry you didn't hear boy. Can you try HT? I know a lots of women ttc at age 40.

Well,
I had my dating scan (13 weeks) and although they moved my dates up, I am sticking (in my mind) with my original date since I charted, used opks, etc. Anyway, a pretty girly nub. She didn't stick around on it too long, but I saw a glimpse of it. Not majorly flat, but also, not obviously boy. DH agrees.

I am only slightly disappointed, since I want a sister for my dd, but more afraid that I will never had a boy. We worked very hard on swaying- and looking at the stats on this board, we aren't doing well in the blue confirmations! But, glad he/she is healthy and still deciding to get the confirmation for 19 week scan.

awe Spicy don't get too upset over a nub especially one you didn't get a super good look at. Don't count on anything till you know for sure :)

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Originally Posted by My Fabulous Children

Babydes, Congrats on your daughter! I'm so sorry you didn't hear boy. Can you try HT? I know a lots of women ttc at age 40.

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Thanks, cant afford HT & i dont want to be an old mom so this will be my last baby. Am feeling better about it everyday

Spicy, i agree with 3P1B so dont worry about it. Wait for your 20wk before you start stressing

3P1B, i gree with you totally about avoiding such people in your life it's just a shame that they family. I can understand women being bitchy towards each other but for your BIL to carry on like that is just crazy. I bet it's going to eat them up more when Charlie arrives lool, good on you!

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Originally Posted by babydes56

Thanks, cant afford HT & i dont want to be an old mom so this will be my last baby. Am feeling better about it everyday

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I'm so glad you are doing better hun xxx

Spicy, ITA with Jen and baby!! Wait for your 20wk first ..Hope you hear boy in few weeks. Good luck.

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Cheekymoo, have faith this could be your boy. I too dreamt i had a boy but obviously didnt turn out that way. I find the odds of having a boy after 3 girls is higher than after 2 girls.

3P1B, your BIL is an ass i cant believe a man can carry on like that towards his own brother! I'm glad you've proved them wrong, something i wanted to do to a few people i know.

B, do you think you'll try again?

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I don't know ... I think no is the most likely answer; I honestly think I'm just going to have to learn to live with it. 4 kids is out of my comfort zone for sure. If DH would be up for HT I think I could be convinced to do that, but he isn't, and I really don't think I could handle having a 4th pregnancy without knowing I'd hear blue at the end. I think swaying increases our odds of having a boy, but I also think I swayed as hard as I could and I don't know that I can do that again knowing that it didn't work for me once already. If we have a 4th I think it'll be through international adoption.

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Originally Posted by 3Pink1Blue

My u/s was at 21/22 wks and I still didn't want to believe it. I hate gd and feeling guilty that you can't just be happy with what you have. My worst fear is that my girls will learn about my gd and think, even for a second, that I didn't love or want them or that I love or wanted this one more.

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Oh me too!!! I keep journals for my kids, with DD1 I started it right after we found out she was a girl, and with DD2 I couldn't start it until the week before her birth because I was so worried I'd write something in there inadvertently revealing how sad I was about her being a girl. This one I'm terrified again to start so will probably be an after-birth endeavor.

And I worry about if we did adopt a son ... would my girls feel like we "chose" him because they were somehow not what we wanted? It's so hard. Because in truth I wouldn't even consider 4 if one of our 3 had been a DS. 3 was always the plan; it wasn't just this one that I wished for a son, it was all of them, so having #3 wasn't just for gender. 4 would only be because of my inability to get past not having a son, and I'm not really comfortable with that being the reason. I'd rather get to a place where I genuinely WANT a 4th CHILD, kwim?