Due June/July/August 2017 (2)

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Originally Posted by GirlieCat

Hi ladies. How is everyone doing? This is a very quiet group. I am 30 weeks today and full of emotions- still feels unreal, scared, nervous, uncomfortable and impatient. I wish I could say I was excited too but that is never an emotion I feel when I think of her being born. I am struggling with the concept of being a mom...

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Hi GirlieCat,

is it the actual being a Mom that leaves you feeling this way ?

I am excited for labour, and birthing this little man.
Feeling confident that my body will know what to do, and the amazing bonds that will happen (Me and DH, and both of us and baby).

When I think too far ahead though, I do start to panic a bit.
Like "How am I going to keep this baby alive, and how am i going to raise a well rounded individual"
That's natural though isn't it ? I hope it is.

Dear GirlieC and all other due-buddies. I am 30+ weeks like you G and counting the days until my due date. I am still very exhausted and have also nausea often. This pregnancy has been a hard one compared to my previous 3. Maybe it is because of my age. Maybe it is because I am carrying a girl this time. I don't have much energy and count the days until I can go on maternity leave.

GirlieC, I think it is normal to feel scared and struggling with the concept of being a mom. Just relax and don't blame yourself for feeling this way. Does your DH feel the same as you or is he exited?
Yes, this is a quiet group. Think everyone are busy and have little time to chat.



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I am not sure why I feel this way. Everyone always says "Oh you must be so excited" and all I think is...uh no. Hubby isn't excited either. I think it still all seems unreal to both of us. We are going through the motions of doing what we need to do to prepare (nursery, registered, planning baby shower) but I still can't image us coming home with a baby and being a family of 3 now. It freaks me out and doesn't seem real.

I think we were so focused on the goal of just getting pregnant (when I didn't think I could) and then having a girl (when so many told us to expect a boy) that those were our goals...forgot that those goals lead to an actual human that we will be responsible for. I am sure hormones are not helping because I am definitely more emotional these past couple weeks.

I will be fine eventually, but lately it is just hard to not get stressed out by all that needs to be done still and the wonder of when she will come and how labor will go and how things will be once she is home. Hubby tries to be supportive, but he sucks at anything emotional. He can cook, clean and fix things, but he can't have a conversation about emotions if his life depended on it.

GirlieCat, I remember feeling exactly the same way in my third tri with my first baby. It's normal to be nervous and it's normal not to be able to picture what life will be like after the baby comes!

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GirlieCat- It felt so surreal to me with my first child. I had just gotten my mind around to TTC, when Bam!, we got pregnant! I remember feeling like, "Oh crap! I've got to deliver this baby and take care of him! How the hell am I supposed to do that?!?" It all felt so foreign to me. I went through the motions with people, because I was still trying to process my feelings. It wasn't until the nurse laid him on my chest, and I whispered his name into his ear, that I felt unconditional love for him. I became his advocate when he was in the NICU, and we had the nurse from HELL! I still recall feeling primal love for him that shocked me in its strength. I never saw myself as the motherly type, but it changes you when you go through labor and meet this little person who is completely dependent upon you. Trust me, when you meet her, your bond will be forged, and it will forever change you!

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XX said it perfectly!! I think a lot of us have these feelings before becoming parents. My husband and I never wanted kids but he is 12 years older than me, so when he was approaching 40 his attitude changed and he felt like he did want to be a dad after all! I didn't really care either way so just sort of agreed to it. We got married fairly quickly (eloped with 2 family members as witnesses) once we decided, as we'd already been engaged for 3 years and just never found the perfect time to do so (issues with my mum). Literally a couple weeks after we got married I fell pregnant first go! The pregnancy wasn't too bad looking back, easy compared to this one lol, but my waters broke at 36 weeks and I delivered 10 hours later. I was scared not knowing what to expect and it wasn't a good birthing experience and hospital stay at all! But despite that, it was instant love when they placed him on my chest. Having a child truly does change you for the better I believe.

I should also add that every birth is different so don't be scared that you may have a bad experience too. My 3rd son's birth was the most amazing, empowering, wonderful, healing experience! I'm so hoping this one will be the same :)

Hi everyone,

I'm in my 31st week now. DH and I are very excited to become parents. I made multiple trips to the library to check out tons and tons of parenting books. In the end I returned most of them almost immediately and only read four: Bringing Up Bebe, Secrets of the Baby Whisperer, Dear Parent, and Montessori from the Start. I'm also keeping Baby 411, The Nursing Mother's Companion, and The Diaper-Free Baby on hand. Between these books, all the handouts and videos our doula recommended we watch, and upcoming classes we will take, I feel like I'll have as much baby knowledge as I care to have before the birth. :)

I've started to slowly buy baby items, a few new things every week although it looks like I'll have one big order of $250 to take advantage of the Amazon completion discount. My goal is to have everything ready by week 36. It doesn't seem like we'll be having a baby shower.

We officially started our landscaping project a month ago, but rain has really slowed us down. I'm just praying everything is done and we get our garage back (currently being used to store various garden stuff) by the time baby arrives. I think it will be.

There's been a lot of drama with my mom lately. The latest thing I really need to deal with is to tell my parents that we will *not* be staying with them after the birth. My mom kept mentioning the possibility and now my dad is explicitly saying he thinks it's best if we stay at their house for 4-6 weeks after the birth. They live 12 miles away from our house and I was really envisioning that they would come to us when they have time and then *go home*. My dad works part-time and my mom is also busy so them staying at our house is not in consideration.

I've also lined up a few possible people that could come up to 15 hours/week (I don't want to pay for more than that) to supplement any family help we get. I hope that's enough.

What's your due date Amelia? Must be pretty close to mine :) I don't blame you for not wanting to stay with them. I couldn't think of anything worse! Lol. My MIL who i love dearly, came to stay for a couple weeks when DS1 was 4 weeks old and she drove me mental!!! I know she meant well, but I couldn't stand being told how to do things the "right way". It was quite funny sometimes as he had bad colic and she didn't know what to do with him either lol. Hubby suggested she come stay when this Bub is born and I replied with a "HELL NO!!" Haha

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Originally Posted by Dreamsister

Dear GirlieC and all other due-buddies. I am 30+ weeks like you G and counting the days until my due date. I am still very exhausted and have also nausea often. This pregnancy has been a hard one compared to my previous 3. Maybe it is because of my age. Maybe it is because I am carrying a girl this time. I don't have much energy and count the days until I can go on maternity leave.

GirlieC, I think it is normal to feel scared and struggling with the concept of being a mom. Just relax and don't blame yourself for feeling this way. Does your DH feel the same as you or is he exited?
Yes, this is a quiet group. Think everyone are busy and have little time to chat.



Mother to 3 boys ❤️ and pregnant with a baby girl due in June 2017 [emoji120]. DW (41) [emoji1326] DH (38) [emoji144]

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That's really good advice!

It must be so much harder to be pregnant when you have another child too.
Saw this on Mama Naturals Youtube, made me think of what 2nd time around would be like lol

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XkCXGTNmhcI

Definitely think this group is quiet, maybe because we have a lot of opposites, and people are sad ?