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Oh Thorz thank God he's okay and thank God for big brothers the fact your ds1 acted so sensibly shows what a fab mother you are. I agree with atomic we relax when there's another adult you both think the other is watching them don't blame yourself move on you and your mum will make sure you hand the kids over better going forward dont torment yourself kids are made of strong stuff
Thinking of and praying for you and your family, please don't beat yourself up xxx
Thorz what an experience, I am so sorry you had to go through it but I am glad your DS is okay. I believe you feel shaken, it's awful seeing our little ones in distress. I know it hurts a lot. On the bright side at 4 years he will quickly forget about it, unlike us adults. Being depressed and blaming yourself is a natural reaction but don't forget how good mum you are too. I am sure your boys want to have a happy mummy now.
I felt very similar when my one year old drank half a bottle of perfume while I stood literary next to him. Guilt was great and I also started to doubt if another child was a good idea but it will pass. Keep your head up and enjoy your three princes till your princess arrives.
Thank you ladies!!! I knew you would all make me feel like less of a failure! I need to snap out of this, but it is so hard when I know how frantic he was and how he was kicking and screaming for me and I just wasnt there!!! I need to not dwell on those things and think more on the positive side, that he is ok and that DS1 is my little hero!!!
Thorz sounds like a perfect excuse to spoil your boys big time pre bubba ;-)
I haven't let DS2 out of my sight and he is getting tired of all my loves and cuddles lol. DH and I have even taken turns sleeping in his bed with him, because we just want to be near him. LOL he is getting tired of all the attention!
I did a quick project today to get my mind off of things. I found this chair for free on the side of the road and got the cushion for $5 on clearance so this was a really cheap project, and now I have somewhere to sit while the boys ride their bikes in the front yard!!! I need to focus on the nursery now, maybe that will help me with my rough week and help me get my mind off of the terrible experience....
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Thorz nice work on the chair!! Please don't be too hard on yourself... that could have easily happened to anyone. I know it must be hard to think about how your DS couldn't get out of the car but is just fine now and I bet he won't do that again:) I had CPS show up at my door once and it shook me to the core. I cried several times about it and it took me awhile before I could even tell anyone what happened (even though it was just a misunderstanding). It doesn't make you a bad parent and I am sure most parents have a couple of stories they aren't proud of. The most important thing is that your Mom instincts kicked in and you knew exactly what to do to get him cooled off. Talking about it with someone who you can trust will probably help. It doesn't help that your hip is hurting and it is hard to do things to get your mind off of it. Try not to be too hard on yourself!!
Thorz you poor poor thing!! I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I can't imagine the horror you must have felt. But like all the ladies here have said, you must not blame yourself or think about the what ifs. He is now safe healthy and happy and this is what you must focus on. We will all have close calls in our lives with our kids, I wish we wouldn't buy we all will at some point. But 99% of the time they will be just that- close calls. Your DS1 is a hero! You have very special boys and just take this time to cherish them and try not to get depressed on the situation that could of been. Kids are so resilient. And DS2 would no doubt be back to his happy healthy self by now. So don't allow yourself to be so hard on you, it's not doing anyone any good. You are an exceptional mother. No one doubts that for a second! You just have to look at your boys to see this. Big big hugs, I think it makes it worse that you are on bed rest and its playing on your mind so much x x x x
Is anyone getting strong BHicks? Mine are getting quite painful, I guess at 34 weeks it's normal.
I've been getting painful BH since like 15 weeks just like with ds2 and 3 ... Altho I did think I was going into labour last night... They were 10 mins apart for over two hours