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How do you girls sleep at night? I often wake up because of discomfort. I roll from left to right hundred times and have a pillow under my belly. I feel like a whale and cannot sleep for more than 8 hours. I have started to think about my upcoming labor and if I should bring my boys. My mother wants to join too and my DS2. Are any of you going to bring others than your DH?
Mother to 3 boys ❤️ and pregnant with a baby girl due in June 2017 [emoji120]. DW (41) [emoji1326] DH (38) [emoji144]
I lose count how many times I wake up at night! Constantly switching sides and if I roll over onto my back I'll wake up feeling sick and short of breath! I can't even recline on the lounge to watch tv. Have to lay on my side otherwise I feel like I'm going to black out and can't breathe :( seriously don't know how I'm going to cope the next 8 weeks! I'm so miserable all the time :( Gosh i couldn't imagine having anyone other than my husband at the brith. Luckily my mum will have to look after the boys for me, but even still I don't think she'd want to be there as she's very squeamish and would pass out at the sight of blood haha! I'd love for my older boys to be present but not sure at what age they'd let them in birthing suite...? My eldest will be 9 a few days after my due date.
Dream, I might have my sister in the room during labor (not sure yet), but never in a million years would I have my mom. She annoys me with everything she says or does related to this pregnancy. She is going to be pissed, but I am going to have a talk with her that I don't even want her at the hospital in waiting room (which she has already talked about camping out in waiting room). I will have a rule of no visitors till 2 hrs after birth.
I toss and turn at night too but still feel I get pretty decent sleep. I always get up once to pee too, but I usually did that when not prego too.
I am nervous what the next 9 weeks will bring in terms of getting bigger and more uncomfortable. Just for fun, I did try on a belly band someone gave me and I was shocked how comfortable it made me. I don't even have back pain or am that uncomfortable, but with the band on I noticed a huge different and literally felt not prego. I will definitely wear it when I exercise or am going to be on my feet a long time.
Thanks for your comments, girls. It is nice to know that I am not the only one feeling miserable and having bad nights. I also have this pain up under my ribs like baby is queezing herself up there. Good advice GirlieC about the belly band. I might get one.
I think time goes so slowly and I really look forward to get her out of my belly and into my hands. I really want to share the labour with the closest family. My 3 previous deliveries was nice, quick and easy, so I imagine this one will also be like this.
DH has been on my side the last 3 times, but is willing to give the space to my mother, who gave birth to my littlebrother at the age of 45. I like her to be part of this biggest moment in life. I also want to share it with DH and my 3 sons, but I am afraid that it will be to much for the boys and I don't really want them to look at me down there with blood and everything. So maybe it is better if their father wait with them outside the room near me. My labour might go really quick this time and I am afraid that it can happen in the car on our way to the hospital.
Mother to 3 boys ❤️ and pregnant with a baby girl due in June 2017 [emoji120]. DW (41) [emoji1326] DH (38) [emoji144]
Sleeping is annoying, trying to stay on the left side is so hard.
Only 9 weeks to go though, so it's manageable.
We've got a rule about visitors, which no one is going to like.
The rule is "Don't call us, we'll call you"
If that is after a week, or even two, then deal with it :)
Do I sound awful ?
Cos this is going to go down like a lead balloon with my family.
I've also had a whole big conversation with my Mum about sharing pictures on Facebook.
My DH isn't online at all, and I have one just for Mummy-to-be related things (have perhaps two pictures up on there, not a lot at all).
So I've asked my Mum if she could not post the photos of him on Facebook, and instead e-mail them to her friends etc.
Also...to add! I think this over protective thing is more common in first time Mums.
Because I see so many second, third time Mums being a lot more relaxed about who to have in the delivery room, picture sharing, visitors, holding the baby etc etc
MrsSparkles, you sound perfectly reasonable to me. The birth is exciting for everyone, but it's also happening to you. Afterwards, it's your body that needs to recover and you (and DH) that need to bond with the baby. You should have visitors as early or as late as you want.
Your baby's online presence should be up to you too. People who can't respect how I want pictures of my kids shared don't get to take any.
To be honest, I'm only getting more pushy with time about people respecting my boundaries. We had more visitors with DS1 than DS2, and I didn't even say anything when my ILs posted about my pregnancy on Facebook before I did. I honestly doubt we'll have any visitors until we're settled at home with baby #3.
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Sparkles, I agree, you sound completely reasonable with both the no FB request and the "we'll call you." Having a baby, and our firsts, is a pretty big deal and we should be able to have a say in how things play out. I know what you mean though that family won't take it that way and I am sure I will piss some people off but whatever.
For me it has nothing to do with being protective of baby, in fact I rarely think of baby in the equation. For me it is about my privacy. We are very private people and I want to feel settled and ready for visitors both physically and mentally. When we bought our current house, we were in escrow for 2 months and only a week or so away from closing before I told my mom and family. We do that often with big life things. Just very private people.
My mom can annoy me like no other so I will be having advance conversations with her about things I don't want to discuss. She is the type to say out loud in front of everyone- "so did you tear a lot down there?". And she can't help but give her advice and opinion on everything even when not asked, like I am sure she will tell me I am breast feeding all wrong if she is in the room when I feed. Maybe she made me private because I dread her comments so much.
When I look back and think, I have made it 31 weeks it sounds like a long time, but then when I think I still have 9 weeks to go, that sounds like even longer some days. Glad I left the shower and babies room and some household projects till the end so they will hopefully keep me busy and make time go by faster (but also stressed I will run out of time). I can't wait for this group to start having their babies.
Do we have the same Mother ?Quote:
Originally Posted by GirlieCat
I think we do lol :)
Mine announced to EVERYONE in the street about my sisters 3rd degree tear, piles, and that "Poor thing, she hasn't managed to go to the toilet for over a week now"
WHO DOES THAT ?!!!!
Got a feeling these 9 weeks will fly, are you due before or after me ? (19th June)
Don't stress about running out of time, it will all get done !
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Originally Posted by foxtrotmama
Thank you foxtrot, makes me feel better that you don't think I am being Momzilla.
Really not cool about your IL posting on FB, that is a special announcement for you to make !!!!
HAHA- I do think we have the same mom for sure!! It is amazing that at 36 years old my mom still embarrasses me with the things she says. It has been really rough these past 10 weeks since I told her I am pregnant. She upsets me often. I had to send her an article about the "worst things to say to new parents" to try and get her to understand. It is a little better, but not wonderful. She said one of those things on Sunday and then looked at me and said "oh you don't want me saying that do you."...oh mom.Quote:
Originally Posted by MrsSparkles
I am technically due June 22 if you go off the last day of my last period, but I know I most likely ovulated day 16, not 14 so I have been telling people June 24. That gives me 2 extra days before my mom harasses me about "being late" because she told me the very first day I told her I was pregnant "oh you will be late for sure, all first time mom's are late". Now I have a goal to go early just to prove her wrong. (she also swore my belly button would pop out and I would get stretch marks because those happen to her- neither has happened to me yet so I am hoping I can prove her wrong on those things too) :-)