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Took another one this morning and it's much lighter than last night so who knows what's going on??!? Atomic said sometimes we need LH for other things and although it was dark last night, it was still negative and a negative is a negative. Also took my last HPT and negative too! Just waiting for AF to arrive. 😞
:( oh no that sucks
Hmm, that's strange. I would not have thought you would have enough LH in your system at this stage to get such a dark OPK result.
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Mumofsix, are you going to do another OPK tonight to check. I am wondering if you got the LH surge without the ovulation afterwards.
Afm, we had a wonderful time at my cousins wedding yesterday. It was nice to forget about things. Although, we did get some reminding. I drank lots of white wine, lol. Got a touch tipsy. My cousin, the one that was married yesterday announced she is pregnant, 7 weeks along :) I also got to hold and bottle feed my other cousins bub, Declan. He is 8 days old and absolutely adorable. I told them I was going to pinch him. Then I found out later that my Dad and my cousin were discussing how I need to have a baby boy. I was telling dh about it on the way home. I'm so glad we haven't told them we are trying for a baby let alone a boy. I really don't think people realise the pressures put on other people just by their words. I have to admit, I have been guilty of it in the past. Even when they think they know all the background, they can never fully know. It's sucks this ttc thing has been so difficult. Trying to achieve your DG, all that you go through. I have already gone through so many emotions and we have only had one month of trying! It took 6 months of trying with our last bub. I think that was more poor timing then anything.
I don't know how long I can keep up these supps. My memory has been terrible lately. I am also running out of vitamins. I will run out before I get paid again. Even when I get paid I am unsure if I can afford them. I have now been on the supps for 5 months. Dh hasn't had his supps for quite a while now as well. I gave up on getting him to take them :(
It's all for the greater good though. I must keep telling myself what we/I am working towards.
Glad you had a good time at the wedding Boysway. It's so true about people's comments. Of course they don't mean to have an effect but they do. This whole TTC thing is bad enough without the swaying.
I am rather gutted to report that i started spotting this morning and now have AF cramps. So as if it wasn't enough being unsuccessful now it looks like I have a short LP to deal with. Even though I'm eating at the upper limits of the diet and more, I didn't cut back too far, it's absolutely gutting.
I know how you feel boysway. People don't understand how their words get to us when we are dealing with gender desire, and it is expensive this TTC process!! I've ran out of supps too and can't really afford to keep buying them, plus the cost of opk's and HPTs...it all adds up and it's hard when it takes months and months for that BFP.
No, I won't do anymore opk tests. I'll just wait and see if AF arrives after this mornings very negative test. And I think we will try once again when my cycle finally returns but then I don't know what to do. We might put it off til later in the year or just forget trying and try to accept that we aren't going to get our daughter and just enjoy and focus on our boys.
I am so sorry to hear that steph :( What was your LP?
I am guessing somewhere between 6 and 9 days but I can't be sure. Maybe I should bite the bullet and start temping and see if it does wake DH then at least I will know. Just had loads of Nutella on 2 slices of toast then a pack of pretzels dipped in Nutella and then had some chocolate!!!
I might consider loosening the diet - I'll still try to skip breakfast and I'll try to be veggie 4 days a week or so but maybe just not limit anything. I can keep the exercise no problem, I just have nothing else to drop really. I'll contact atomic and see what she thinks.
how did you go steph? Did you ask atomic?
Yes she said I should make an effort to eat 4 eggs a week and more full fat dairy. I shouldn't loosen the diet because she thinks I'm doing the diet perfectly and this is remnants of coming off BCP rather than diet. So I have just eaten an omelette with 2 eggs and some mushrooms cooked in frylight which is basically a one cal olive oil spray. We have friends coming round for a BBQ this afternoon so I will be well over on fat for the day but I'll be vegetarian and had the eggs so it's all good. I'll be eating halloumi today so there's more full fat dairy :)
I'm feeling a bit better today. Yesterday's aerobics couldn't cheer me up but I've been to the gym this morning and will follow atomics advice. At least when I next O the holiday will no longer matter and I can stick to one attempt.
Well steph that's good then :) I'm glad you're feeling a little better as well. Bring on BFP June! Actually, I have been slack with my egg eating. Actually slack all round. I must get back on the wagon!
Afm, I didn't mention it before but, it's been playing on my mind a little. I was telling Mum how I was cuddling little Declan and she said to me, you aren't going to have anymore kids are you? She didn't even say it in a light hearted way :( I was already tempted to delay telling her once I eventually get a bfp but, felt it might be a bit mean since I will likely tell Dad and DSM first because I know they will be excited. Now, that Mum has asked yet again and as I said not in such a nice way, I am feeling pretty confident I will wait as long as possible to tell Mum and DSD. I hope she doesn't figure out the reason why we have asked if they can have the kids once a month :wink: Alright, 9:35 pm here. I am off to bed. I had a support shift from 4-8pm and off to a day shift tomorrow.
Gosh yes you have to eat eggs every day or something don't you!! I don't envy that. Sorry to hear about your mum that is a very bad comment to make. I really don't know why people feel the need to make such remarks, especially to family!! You do right not to tell her straight away if she is going to be like that. I don't think they will figure out the once a month thing, it's normal for couples to have a date night
That's horrible for your mum to say boysway! 😞 I don't get family!! I know mini are going to go off their rocker when we have another, and they never have our kids! We won't tell them until we absolutely have to, I was 6mths along with DS6 before we told them.
Good luck to all of you heading off to June! I hope it's your lucky month!
My family is the opposite, I keep getting asked when we are having a girl. Suppose 18 grandchildren with only 4 girls will do that lol
Hey ladies joining in again. Not sure how I want to do my sway. I don't know if there is any point in dieting or exercising if I am trying to catch my first egg after the loss. Can I even use opks?? I figure the hormones might make them give me false positives or something. We were talking about baby dancing every 4 or 5 days. Or just going off my instinct.
It's harsh when family make those kind of comments(especially your mum!). Why do people have to be so judgemental?
Welcome back Rosie! Hope you are healing and feeling a bit better xx be kind to yourself and allow yourself a few treats that would be my advice xx
I'm officially in the 2WW. Had + OPK yesterday and so we had our attempt last night.
I have been very lazy on the diet - hopefully it's not a too rubbish sway ...
Rosie - oh no I am so sorry :( could you do things the same as you did before so you don't have to think too much about it? or maybe just take a couple of days to regroup and then think about it?
Rosie if it were me I would go back to it but give yourself an easier time. Have some treats or have one cheat day per week. Obviously your wellbeing comes first but you'd still be swaying at the same time.
AFM I'm in the tww approx 4dpo. Got plenty of pg symptoms so really thinking this is it :D It's going to kill me waiting until next week to test!
Good luck lyagirl!
I just feel like I've been off the diet too long that two weeks of doing it again won't do anything...same with the exercise. It's been 3 weeks since I've gone.
Oh Rosie I'm so sorry :( :(
Rosie, I'm very sorry to hear your news. Sending you :hugs: Be kind to yourself xxx
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Thanks ladies. It's been difficult because I know it's from swaying and I feel incredibly guilty. I have decided to drop most of it. I am doing a loose diet plan...like skipping breakfast and no snacking but I'm going to eat meat...just not a ton. No more licorice root and no using the second batch of sperm. I am undecided about the exercise still.
Rosie I think I'd lean towards the more egg and sperm boosting diet and supplements-- 4 whole eggs a week, 1 serving of salmon, a little full fat dairy, baby aspirin and increased dosage of folic acid for you, and olive leaf for DH. I'd probably skip the aspartame, licorice root, vitex/saw palmento/peppermint tea, and frequent release/second batch. I would continue skipping breakfast and still do one attempt.
Hi Ladies!
Just checking in, as we're getting ready to try again after no success last cycle. O is supposed to be Monday and I think we're going to have to wait til that day, as we're at my in-laws all weekend and the thought of trying there doesn't appeal to me at all ;)
Weird cycle last month- spotting the day period was due and then super heavy for 2 days. Hoping things go back to normal this month!
GL to all!
I meant to say before, thank you very much for the support ladies xx It means a lot.
LaVienRose, Mum and DSD aren't wanting us to have anymore. Dad and DSM, as well as some of my cousins and an Aunty and Uncle are all determined I should have a boy. At least I know we will have their support when we get our bfp.
Hey there all, Rosie I am so sorry to hear about your loss.
Glad that everyone else seems to be doing okay.
Rosie, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. It's so hard. Be gentle with yourself. Losses are hard enough emotionally without taking the blame on top of things. Hugs.
I don't know if it is just me but, a week out from our next attempt I am feeling rather blase' with everything. I am doing the right things diet wise, in fact atm better then I did last month. Although, I have run out of Folic acid, Co Q10 and Probiotics. I will have to find some money at least for the Folic acid. I'm just not feeling like I did last time.
The excitement is gone and I'm not feeling as anxious. Best way to describe how I feel is flat. I actually had to check my calendar for what cycle day I am on. I did an OPK today although, I probably won't need to till the 26th. I am sure the obsessive side of me will come back out soon and the anxiety will kick in again.
Anyone feeling the same?
I'm having car issues again and working a fair bit. Maybe that is part of the problem.
I'm feeling the same! Flat!! My diet hasn't been perfect and my exercise is non existent and I'm not stressed but not excited either. We had hot chips for dinner which I wouldn't have done at all last time and as much as I want my girl I just don't feel motivated, more just going through the motions. I am so sure I'll end up with another boy. 😞
Mumofsix, I'm glad I'm not the only one. I hope we get our DG this cycle.
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you guys are not alone, I am so fed up of this TTC business. My DH had a massive go at me when he got home last night about my diet and the amount of time I spend in the gym. He was just letting off steam after a stressful day but he doesnt realise how much his blaming me for not being PG upsets me. He makes horrible throwaway comments and then forgets but then I spend ages afterwards thinking about the conversation and defending myself in my head, I hate him for it because he knows I am trying to avoid confrontation!! :(
Huge hugs steph :( xxx
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So sorry steph. Men don't realize how much words eat away at us ladies! I really hope this is your month, you really deserve it to be.
I am feeling blah about ttc as well. My Dh had it out with me a little last night too. I keep going on to him about how the baby was a girl and that was my only chance and it's gone. He told me to get my butt to the gym and work for it. So I did. I have to stop thinking negatively but it's hard. I'm honestly terrified of having another miscarriage.
Rosie I am sure the reasons for the mc were nothing to do with exercise or swaying. It was probably something out of your control. I know it doesn't make things any easier for you but I really don't think at that early stage there's anything you can do. You don't even share a blood supply for the first 6 weeks. Sorry to hear your DH isn't as sympathetic as he should be x
I hope so steph! I just read on here about the increased rates of miscarriage due to swaying and it made me uneasy and unsure if I even wanted to sway anymore.
My Dh has been super sympathetic buy he doesn't like when I get in my Debbie downer mode and he was trying to shake me out of it. Sometimes I just need to be a Debbie downer though...it's my way of grieving I guess.
Men!!!! My god sometimes they haven't a clue what's going on do they! Steph I don't know how you held back last night Fair play to you! Ttc is so stressful I don't think men have any idea how stressful it is Bet he'll make it up to you later (he better!!)
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Awww Rosie :( Huge hugs. I agree with steph. But, yes it does help to have a big cry every once in a while xx
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Oh yes Boysway I love a good cry too!! Rosie I don't know why these men don't just get it that there are times that we genuinely NEED to be Debbie!! Can they just leave us to it or be sympathetic and we will get over it quicker!!!
I confronted DH tonight because last nights comments were still p1ssing me off and it took him ages to acknowledge that he knows sod all about food, nutrition, women's hormones etc so why he has to opine on these bloody things!!! I don't tell him how to play cricket or how to be an engineer!!! I really feel he has ruined everything by making me stew mentally on this and then make stupid comments. Then finally he says oh but I didn't mean it I was just stressed what's your problem!!!
ugh!! Men are frustrating! I am glad you confronted your Dh Steph. Of course they never mean what they say...I don't know how many times I have heard that one! I hope you can relax a little more now that you got it off your chest. That is why we ladies have each other! To vent!