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I just realized, it is pretty clear I have "mommy issues"....haha. Maybe why I wanted a daughter so bad...to have a chance at establishing a more normal mother daughter relationship. I hear other people who want to be just like their mom and I can't relate...my motivation comes to do whatever I can to be the opposite of my mom. I cringe when I do anything that remind me of my mom.
That was my motivation for agreeing with my DH to have children. My mom is like both of yours but with the added bonus of mental health issues as well!! I'm nothing like my mom as a parent! I was opposite though- I didn't want to have a DD for fear I would become my mom. Now that I've been a parent for 6 years, I see clearly that having a daughter will not be an issue!!Quote:
Originally Posted by GirlieCat
FX you can keep her in check!! Remember, YOU set the rules as a parent and this goes for your mom too!!
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Originally Posted by GirlieCat
Oh Wow, you are so lucky not to have stretch marks !
I have a ton, but also no popping of the belly button.
EVERYONE keeps saying "Expect baby to be a couple of weeks late, they always are".
Think I should have told them my due date was different too, that is such a smart idea.
Isn't it amazing how our Mums still know how to annoy us !
So nice to have someone who understands !Quote:
Originally Posted by XXforhubby
I actually resisted having children for a long time, my biggest fear is that i will turn out like my Mum (my sister is a carbon copy of her now she is a Mom).
Do you think that by being very self aware, that helps you to not be like her ?
Or is it natural ?
I would say both. While I am not abusive to my children (emotional or physical), I have found that I can have a short temper at times. In these moments, I make a conscious decision to take a few moments (15-30sec) before I respond. Sometimes I have to take a few deep breaths. My children know that I'm upset when this happens, and then I respond. I also am self reflective with them. I make mistakes too, but in the moment I reflect with them on what I could have done differently. I believe self reflection is taught and not inherent. Doing this means much more than an, "I'm sorry".Quote:
Originally Posted by MrsSparkles
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I think being self aware is a huge factor to changing any behavior. My mom is notorious for giving the silent treatment when mad. Could be days, weeks, months or even years. She didn't talk to my sister for 5 years over something. I hated it growing up and learned how unhealthy that was and I can honestly say I never do that. Hubby and I might go a few hours or even a day if we are mad, but then I insist on talking things out and moving forward. He knows I don't believe in the silent treatment because of my mom.Quote:
Originally Posted by MrsSparkles
I am almost nothing like my mom now and I am very defined in my personality and values so I think I will be okay when I become a mom.
Gosh. Your moms sounds like a challenge and share some similarities. Now I see why you won't have her near you while giving birth. My mother can also embarrash me with the things she says, but it is never her purpose to offend or make you angry. She does so because she dosen't have much sense of situation. She has actually managed to improve and now think more before she talks.
I wonder if you girls would find it funny to form a virtual mothers group with a private FB-group? I understand if you don't want to reveal your names and identity and just keep the conversation on this site, but I just think it could be funny to see who is behind your awesome alias names and share picture of our babies. What do you think?
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Sounds like we all have the same mum lol!
We have the same rule too. I don't want any people hanging around until we are home and settled. Regardless of first or 5th baby, this is a very personal special time for hubby and the boys to bond with Bub. There's one friend in particular that drives me mental. She'll just walk right up to me and take the baby out of my arms without even asking. Pisses me off so much!! I'm very protective immediately after birth and anyone other than hubby I don't really like touching the baby. Some may think that's weird but that's just how I feel. Love those hormones haha!
The kids have gone back to school now after school holiday break and I'm getting tonnes of stupid comments. Two people in one day asked me if its still a girl ugh!!! And another mum had to tell me that they told her one of her sons was a girl and it popped out another boy. I really wish people would keep their mouths shut sometimes! Oh and one of the teachers asked how much longer to go and I said 7 weeks 4 days, she replied with " oh you've still got AGES!" Ffs thanks for reminding me lol
Haha, those stupid comments made me laugh because it really amazes me the things people have the nerve to say to pregnant woman. I am finding so many in my life are secretly doctors because they always want to tell me "oh you shouldn't do that when you are pregnant" or "it is okay to eat whatever you want- your pregnant." The worst part is most that say things are other mother's...I just don't get it.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mummyof4boys
I also hate the sympathetic question of "how are you feeling?" I know they are just trying to be nice but I hate being treated different plus I am not about to tell a random co-worker that "my vagina is swollen and feels like it is falling out of my body, thanks for asking." Instead I usually responded saying "fine, how are you feeling" and ignore that they are asking because I am pregnant.
What do you think about forming a private, closed FB-group where we can chat and share pictures of our babies?
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