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Wanting- I'm a SAHM too and wouldn't change it for the world either!
We also have a 3 bedroom plus a small bonus room which is the playroom. DS1 and 2 share a room abd DS3 has his own room. We're getting ready to put our house on the market soon because we really want a 4 or 5 bedroom but even in the new house I plan for the older 2 and younger 2 to each share a room and the 4th bedroom will be a media/playroom.
Oh man you all have so much space thought nanny SOS was just filmed with people with bigger than average houses lol! This country is soo pokey :-(
How is being sahm mummy's? When it was twins I thought I'd have to stay home now I don't know what to do! Hate work but we have three beds one is tiny so dunno about a number 4 in this space ;-s
my plan was always to go to medical school but when ds2 was diagnosed i decided to stay home with him after getting accepted to school :( that hurt a bit it was giving my dream to be a dr up but now im very happy being home with them!! if i were to work i would be spending more on daycare then i would be able to make so really it just makes sense and i see too many horror stories that scare me to leave the boys with people i dont know... i was in school when ds1 was born up till when he was 2 and it is the biggest regret in life that i have personally :( i missed so much i did not bond with him properly at all! and i can admit that... so thinking back at it makes me sad even ds1 i was too young to appreciate him i think so when i had ds3 i dedicated literally every waking/sleeing second to m=him literally lol and i am inseparable with him... that cousin of mine tells me our bond is unhealthy cause i do not leave him... she goes out drinking liek 3 times a week and im just over that lifestyle i just want to be a mom to him... maybe a little unhealthy as when i do leave him i do get quite a bit anxiety about it... sorry for rambling all over the place lol
i would love for ds1 and 2 to share a room the problem is ds2 wont his autism really gets in the way... i have been tryig to get him to sleep in there cause there is bunkbeds and then i could turn ds2 room into a nursery and keep my ds3 in my room with me
Wanting-a-girl, I hear you on all the educational and career ambitions. I always wanted to end up in the medical field but now I am a stay-at-home mom with a MA in Comparative Literature, which is pretty much the most pointless degree in the world. In another time/life, I would have loved to go to medschool. But that's okay, I am totally at peace with what I am doing and there is nothing more important than raising my little men.
As for your DS2, when we started overhauling our diet a couple of years ago, I came across a lot of families with autistic children that had huge success when switching to a paleo lifestyle (don't like the word "diet" for this), and even moreso with the GAPS diet. This might be completely superfluous info as I know nothing about your situation and what things you have tried already. Just thought I'd throw it out there. :) I really do admire you for how you are handling all the challenges in your life, especially at 25!
Oh and in regards to the room situation, we have a 5-bedroom house now but the biggest bedroom is actually DH's mancave, lol. It would be a perfect bedroom for 3 boys down the road as it's sort of a rectangle added to a square type of shape. Then one room is our guest bedroom and the other room is shared by DS1 and DS2. They also love sharing a bedroom, even though we have the space to give them individual rooms. DS3 will be with me for the first 4-6 months and then he'll have a nursery to himself for a little while. A big house is definitely a good thing to have but trust me, I can never keep up with cleaning and maintenance. It's so daunting and pretty much impossible.
17 weeks today and horizontal stripes are NOT my friend. But I found this maternity sweater at the Gap the other day for $15 (down from $40) and really liked the colors...
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Wanting- You sound like a wonderful mother. I'm sorry you had to put your dreams on hold but it sounds like your boys came first. You are still so young, you have plenty of time to go back to sschool! My MIL earned her Masters in her 40's and even though she started her career late she worked her way up to a six figure salary! It's never too late to chase your dream, so don't give it up!
Diva- You look so cute, GAP does have nice maternity!
Ok now I am going to vent if you ladies don't mind. I'm on another DD board and made my same announcement I did here when we found out this is DS4. I did get some congrats and so forth first but then things changed. A few of the ladies there have started making comments about how there's no way I could really be this happy to have a boy. They are treating me like I'm hiding something and it really hurts.
I suffered very extreme GD with DS2 and DS3 and was VERY open about it on IG. I have no shame (guilt yes) but no shame in having been in a very dark place during my last 2 pregnancies. Now this time is my first pregnancy since my first 10 years ago where I don't have GD and I'm so excited to feel happy again about my baby. Then I get these comments that really bring me down. Why is it so hard to believe that I'm honestly excited to have my baby boy on the way?? Would they be happy for me if I was devestated? If I was this excited about a girl they probably would say I was rubbing it in their faces, but being happy about a boy is being fake? I just don't get it:sad:
Southern -- I just caught up on stuff. I am so sorry you and the boys have been sick but I am glad your hubby was there to help you guys. Stomach bugs are the absolute worst!
As for people dragging you down on the other board, my motto is that if you don't absolutely have to deal with something negative (let's say a family member or something/someone in your immediate circle), then cut it out of your life. You have every reason to celebrate this new baby and I would not surround myself with people who don't feel the same way.
omg are you kidding me!!?!?!?!!?!? i know for a fact if i hear boy in 13 sleeps i am gonna be happy and will not have an ounce of sadness!!! i cant believe people would say that to you but then again my cousin says things like that to me too and i could smack her for it lol i daydream about it anyhow lol
i dont think hearing girl will make me any happier than hearing boy really in reality its my baby and i wanted a baby i didnt just want a girl... i did sway yes but that does not mean i will be sad!! and for people to accuse you of hiding it is ridiculous!!! F them!!! when i hear boy we can be happy about our 4th boys together :D
I agree totally, the people on IG are not supportive of anyone who is trying to rise above. They are treated like they are liars and it SUCKS. That is actuallly why we made the "rising above" board over there, because there were so many fights about it. It was ridiculous.
Thank you Diva and Wanting. I really don't post much there and am thinking I'll probably just leave that group. You're right there's no need to surround myself with negativity. I'm in a much better mood already just reading your responses!
The group isn't on IG but I know exactly what you are talking about. I was once accused of being "smug" on the GD board on IG because I was apparently "bragging" about being over my GD. I still am a frequent poster over there but stay away from the GD board:wink:Quote:
Originally Posted by atomic sagebrush
Golly, lots to catch up on overnight!
Thanks for answering honestly about family size. It's been sitting uncomfortably for me that part of my wanting to have a third was to try for a girl, so it's helpful to hear other's perspectives. My two are really close too, which I don't think they would have been if they were a pigeon pair. They are both hoping this one is a boy too, so it's nice to be able to deliver! I know too that when im older, I'll be really glad of having 3, which I might have missed out on otherwise.
Mel, defiinitely a cute bump pic! I'm carrying 'well forward' already too, and have been for a while.
Divakotka, such a lovely compact bump! And aren't you beautiful!!
Nipples have just been normal pregnant sore, but eeek, they've turned into norks already! At this rate I'll have porn star quality cleavage once my milk comes in! I don't remember them getting bigger this early before.
Baby size, mine were both big, ds1 was 8'13, and ds2 was 10 lbs! So yeah I'm nervous about this one continuing he pattern! Earning a place in the Guinness book of records has absolutely no appeal to me!! I was told baby size is more to do with placenta size than anything, though it seems logical that being generally healthy would be a factor, and overall genetics too. I drank lots of raspberry leaf tea both times, which is a uterine tonic, and I've heard it improves placental function and possibly size, so I might lay off it this time round!
House size, we have a 3 bedroom, the boys share, and the bubba will be in with us for the first 9 - 12 months, then go into what is currently the office, but will be a bedroom by then.
Southern, firstly, sorry to hear you've been so sick, I hope it's all just a bad memory very soon! And as for people making such stupid comments, that's really pretty sad. Being over GD is absolutely something you deserve to be proud about, and relieved too, there's nothing smug about it! You've got good reason to be happy for having a boy, I hope you don't let their negative projections of their own feelings change your perspective and bring you down. I appreciate it can be easier said than done, but those people are nothing to you in the end.
WantingAG, your cousin sounds like a right piece of work!
How are you feeling Honey? You doing okay with the news of another boy?
My cousin is a piece of work alright lol... We used to be really close but I can't handle her anymore... A couple months ago after I was maid of honor in her wedding I told her I needed a break from her cause she was too much to handle...I can't stand people that are all about themselves lol and she is just that!
I'm faring better than i was expecting actually. Thanks for asking. :) I was pretty flat on the day, but I'm refocusing on the positives for the most part.
Does your cousin live close by? Is there any to gently ease out of contact with her? It doesn't sound like she's good for you, and that the of friendship is so draining.
She lives about 10 mins away from me... She is far too busy to ever want to come over cause she won't come over if my kids are awake which is odd seeing how she has two kids lol... It's the daily phone call where she wants to gab for an hour about nonsense lol... I usually ignore them :) she wants to go for coffee next week after super which I'm gonna have to get an escape plan cause I don't want to leave DH with all the kids on a school night and ds2 makes every little task more difficult and honestly DH is incompatent lmao so I don't like to leave him with all unless I have to and coffee def is not a good reason for me
That's good that your doing well... You should do some shopping :) that always helps
Hehehe, I bought some very pretty mat bras on eBay last week, so I'm stalking the postman as it is! :D
Sounds like an answering machine would be a good investment! I'm impressed your kids will let you talk on the phone that long though - I'm sure mine see me pick up the phone and take it as a signal to start acting up!
Lol I need to order some nursing bras! I gave all mine to my friend and she lives 8 hours away and I feel stupid asking her if she still had them...
I do have an answering machine and I do ignore most calls as I do t have time to ignore my kids all day like she does lmao... Usually it's just ds3 home when I talk on the phone...
Fish, what time is your scan tomorrow.
Omg fish it's you scan tomorrow :) what time! How many hours?
At least I THINK I remember her saying her scan is tomorrow! It's hard to keep track.
It's very hard to keep track lol I need a daily update lol... I have a terrible case of placenta brain with this baby! I feel like I'm going senile
Oh yes that's right Fish! Now that you've heard a good heartbeat I'm sure you're thrilled to be seeing your little one again! Hope you get a good peek at gender too:luck:Quote:
Originally Posted by Thorz300
Honey- Thank you we are all on the mend thank goodness. I'm so happy to hear you're doing well and looking forward to your new little one!
Oh and Thorz I've been meaning to tell you that I am in LOVE with your avatar pic! He is such a cutie! Is that your DS3? Also in another post you mentioned being on bedrest. I understand how hard that is and hope we can both hold off as long as we can, otherwise we'll be bedrest buddies lol. Do you mind me asking what sort of complications you've had?
I can't keep up with this thread!!
On family size - I always told DH that I wanted both genders and said that I would want 2 kids if we had a boy/girl but if we had two girls or two boys then I would want to try for a 3rd. DH wasn't down at all for a 3rd however, I pretty much wore him down over the last 3 years so he agreed to have a 3rd. I too feel a little guilty wanting a 3rd to try for a girl. If this baby was a boy I would never want him to know that we wanted a 3rd to try for a girl. I know if we were having a 3rd boy I would love him to pieces however, I would have a lot of GD to deal with. That is why I had a 15 week scan, I know I needed as much time as possible to deal with the GD before my 20 week scan (when everyone will ask if we are having a boy or a girl).
So we have a 4 bedroom house with a bonus/study/toy room. I was thinking about putting DS1 and 2 in one room, this baby in another room, which would still leave a guest bedroom but we might finish the basement and keep all the kids in separate bedrooms. I would like to put the two boys together but we don't have any solid plans yet.
Fish, looking forward to your scan tomorrow!!
Honey I am glad you are feeling better about having a boy and Southern I am glad that you are also excited about having another son!
Yep that is my dear sweet tornado DS3!! He is a year older than that now, but it's one of my very favorite pics of him!Quote:
Originally Posted by Southern Butterfly
Luckily my bed rest doesn't relate to the baby, meaning, it's not a complication that affects the baby too much. I was born with a mild case of hip dysplasia which doesn't bother me too much in my normal daily routine but when Im Pregnant my hip joints basically don't work and its excruciatingly painful (the hip joints have already started grinding and popping when I move or walk but it isn't unbearable yet). Not just that, a lot of the times they just give out and won't support my weight so i fall a lot. That is the real reason I get put on bed rest because it becomes a safety issue, I've fallen down a flight of stairs with every pregnancy! With ds1 it was a flight of concrete stairs that almost sent me into preterm labor and DS1 heartbeat was crazy for a while. Luckily everything was fine.
How about you, what causes bed rest for you?
Omg thorz please don't be fallin down any stairs this preg.... That's sooo scary!
Oh wow Thorz I'm sorry to hear that. I can't imagine how painful that must be and on top of it you can't take much for pain while preggo. Hope it isn't as bad for you this time.
For me my babies just always seem to think 29-30 weeks means time to come out and party lol. I've been to so many doctors and none can explain why that gestation is my "magic number" but I always end up in preterm labor. My u/s yesterday showed that my cervix is already measuring under where it should be and I also have a lot of contractions (BH and some more painful) but they don't get into a pattern yet. But who knows, this one may just shock us and stay until September!
Oh my I'm sorry! That's scary!! Sure mine is painful, but my babies aren't trying to come out! I really hope this one stays in longer for you! Unfortunately, mine gets a lot worse with each pregnancy that's why I would have been done at 2 if I had a girl! 4 is my limit!Quote:
Originally Posted by Southern Butterfly
I'm sorry to hear that it gets worse. Is there anything you can do to help the pain?Quote:
Originally Posted by Thorz300
Well I am usually 173cm and about 55-60kgs, so Im not an overweight person by any means, I have babies ALL over 9lbs! My third was nearly 10lbs... Im anticipating this one will be the same.Quote:
Originally Posted by divakotka
I just grow big babies, simple as that....Just tell those insensitive people that you love your big healthy babies, as they are more robust and usually great feeders and sleepers!!!
I get LOTS of comments too about this, but I honestly dont care. At the end of the day Ive been blessed with smooth sailing pregnancies - amazingly quick and problem free deliveries (even though my babies are BIG I never need stitches) And I end up having a happy healthy baby at the end of it - its what works for me and my baby and thats all that matters!!
Gosh girls, I'm thinking of you both! fingers crossed at least for no falls this time round Thorz and Southern, I'll gladly give you some of my overdue dust!
And snap Salsa, that's my height and weight pretty much to the centimetre, and I grow big babies too!
Fish......thinking of you and hope your appt goes well!!
Thank you thorz just home now.
So twin one is doing very well looking very healthy so fx for her.......yes her shhhhhhhhhhhhhh as won't tell dh will pretend to discover with him at scan on friday. The sonographer wasn't 100% sure as she said it was a lill earlier than they ususally tell you (17 weeks tomorrow but it was nhs)!!! Can't quiet feel excited yet as doesn't feel real and still so sad about twin two.
I asked her gender of twin two and she said she couldn't tell it was too early (as baby died about 14-15wks and is now in difficult posistion) she could say there was nothing to indicate to her it was a boy but she really couldn't say.
Feel a lot more at peace today having seen them, she was very kind and printed me a last picture of our angel baby dh is home tomorrow so we'll pick a unisex girlyish name I think
thank you all for your good wishes we are so blessed i know our gender dreams may not come true and a shed a tear each time one of us finds our hopes are not to be but what lovely lill babies they all are
Yey! A girly for you! I'm so happy in that respect for you, you really deserve it! But still so sad for you. I'm
Glad you're feeling a bit more at peace and I'm happy your hubby is coming back tomorrow :)
thanks hun she wasn't 100% sure and now having lost the other one in some ways i don't want to belive its a girl as i fear the pain if lost the second too would be even worse ;-S
Yay fish I'm so happy you got a girl! You def deserve it after what you have been through :)
12 more sleeps for me.... It's dragging on so slow!
Who is next for gender scans!?
Well, I am cautiously excited for you! Like wanting said, you definitely deserve it!!! My fingers are crossed that she stays a girl! I'm glad you are feeling more at peace with your loss, naming the baby is such a good idea!
10 more sleeps for me (April 6), I am actually quite scared and nervous seeing as this is my last baby, my dream will either come true or be over for good. I started getting optimistic after looking at so many nubs, and then I started questioning my memory of the actual nub so I am back to planning on seeing boy bits!