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TP, I am pretty certain they aren't supposed to show any emotion when handling stuff like that. They are trained to be calm, especially in the event something doesn't look right because they don't want to start a panic if they don't have to.
I'm sorry it didn't go so well for you. I wouldn't give up yet! How many weeks are you now?
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I wish I could take heart in what you guys are saying, but I really feel as gutted as if we had been told girl. And DH is right back to being awful because of me expressing any of this, even for a few minutes. Feel like I put myself through hell the first time for him, now hell for DD, and went through hell as all our boys just died in utero. I wouldn't feel so resentful if he wasn't such a flaming piece of garbage, but I'm just coming to terms more and more with how much of an asshole he is. To his family, to me. Just not to DD -- lucky her.
22w tomorrow.
Oh hugs tp. I very much do hope you hear your desired gender and keep you in my prayers, as I do robin, abc, hgmama, mummy2boys, and Noemi. Just to name a few.
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I'm sorry TP :( It's really crappy the way he's treating you - especially with everything you've been through.
TP I am so sorry your DH is being like this, wish I could give you a big hug and wish we could send our DHs to some sort of 'how to be a decent supportive husband' course. Some times they can be such a**holes (actually most of the time for us by the sounds of it). My DH's response to me saying I was stressed and worried about there being a problem with my placenta was to blame me and say "I told you it was a bad idea to keep this baby". Have never felt so upset and alone. I hope you and DH can get get through this and that you do indeed have a little DS growing in there. Don't give up hope because of ultrasound tech. I keep thinking ours is a boy because tech said dr would be able to tell us but she didn't have time to look properly so back to over analysing like you. I hope all the other results in your scan came back ok (heart, nasal bone, spine etc) so you can put your mind at ease with that.Quote:
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Kelbear I’m sorry dh is being so inconsiderate. No one deserves to be treated like that. A husband is supposed to be supportive☹️
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Thanks for your words of support, I know they are but somehow mine missed that memo this pregnancy. Have suspected since the beginning of this pregnancy that he wouldn't be that supportive but had thought if things got bad he would be there, I was wrong.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mommy2apples
Tp i send u big hug, pls try not to be sad. You have daughter which needs u and ignore husband. Tech didnt say girl or boy so nothing is sure till the birth (the same for me) still there is some hope:pray:
Kelbear im also sorry for your problems and for your husbands behavior. Some men are like that:( if u have somebody close to u speak about it, it will help:heart:i will also pray everything is ok for u
Oh Kelbear, that is such a monstrous thing for him to say. I am so sorry he said that.
Should you and I just run off to a commune with our kids? lol. Sometimes I feel like men are nothing but glorified sperm donors with how they act -- and mine isn't a great one, at that! It's part of why I so desperately want my own boy, to raise to be empathetic and understanding. Something that seems sorely missed in so much of this generation of men!
You need support. I need support. I feel like getting pregnant is the worst thing that has happened between DH and me, and I'm realizing it's because I'm not 100% able to do everything on my own or for him when I am. He loves the end result but not the part to get to it? And I'm sure your DH will also love this baby, no matter the sex, but in the meantime -- it's awful how awful he's being about it! I wonder if it's because of similar reasons to my husband, and not anything to do with the baby itself.
I know, for me, it just contributes to the GD and envy. I feel like I don't get anything I want in my life when i'm sitting here feeling the GD and also realizing my husband is offering such little positivity in my life. I keep reading the "Coping with the Passive Aggressive Husband," which I recommend for you too Kelbear, but it is also a brutal read. There are just so many things that match my life, and there are frequent recommendations to "leave" when things just don't ever get better with these men...