It's because you haven't been told one way or the other. Still left guessing and tormenting yourself. Honestly there isn't a clear nub on your pics at all so I wouldn't break your heart on it at all xx
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It's because you haven't been told one way or the other. Still left guessing and tormenting yourself. Honestly there isn't a clear nub on your pics at all so I wouldn't break your heart on it at all xx
I had lots of mini freak outs before I knew for sure... I think it's the 'what if' that got to me the most! But now that I know, I've decided there's nothing I can do to change it (not that I'd want to change my baby of course) so I might as well get excited! Plus I'm still holding out hope that DH will agree to go for a 4th ;). I definitely wouldn't give up yet, and I hope you get a pleasant surprise at your scan!! At least all these wonderful ladies are here to help us get through either way!
I'm leaning towards ending my team green dream! Might try to get an appointment Friday! I kinda want my boys (well the 5 year old) to get to see the baby on u/s. I think it would be a really cool experience! I'm just a little worried its the wrong choice since I was determined to wait from the start! I feel like I'm going against my better judgement! I'll stew over it a couple days and then decide! NC its not over til they say boy so remember you are still in it... But I'm thinking maybe knowing is better for both of us than this limbo!!
Beachy - I really didnt see anything boyish on your pics....so i certainly dont think your chances of girl are shot.
I can imagine its tough! Im only at 8 weeks and the not knowing is driving me mental - I just want to know!
I'd say book in a scan, find out for sure, and then you can driving yourself round the twist - you'll know for sure, then there will be no more 'what ifs' or false hope, or false sadness.
Coco - dont feel that you 'shouldnt' find out just because you had decided that at the beginning of the pregnancy - if you think you will feel better by knowing, then book yourself in and find out......if its going to make things easier, and it means there will be one less thing 'playing' on your mind then go ahead and find out :) Let us know how you go....
We are going for an NT in 23 days, and im still in 2 minds wether to ask the tech anything about the nub / gender guesses. Part of me thinks that no matter what i hear I wont believe it with certainty, which means i will be in the same place as I was before. Part of me thinks i should just enjoy the 12 weeks scan as an opportunity to see out little baby, and then on the 1st of December when we have our gender scan I will find out for certain then, with no if's or buts or maybe's.
Not sure though - becuase of course part of me wants to ask the tech, get a nub pic, and post it on here! What do you girls think?
Lassie i think it depends on the tech, unfortunatly some of them seem to have bad attitudes and will not be pleased that you even ask at that stage, but then some are really cool and helpful and would be more than happy to have a guess for you. Im just going to sus out the mood first before i ask about it, and im not going to be worried if i dont come away with a nub shot, i understand that 18 weeks is when we will find out for sure.
Good morning ladies. And good afternoon to my friends across the way. Hope everyone is well.
I know I have said it 100 times, but I really do love you ladies. I wish we could all sit together over tea and chat in person. I do feel better today and I asked the tech on babycenter about what was thought to be the nub and she said no, it wasn't the nub and she wasn't convinced that the pic that was circled had a nub either. I am just going to chill out and wait until my next "secret" u/s. I think once I get that scheduled, I will feel like I have a direction and time when this guessing will end.
CooCoo - do what you think is best! If ending limbo will make you have a peaceful pregnancy, then go for it. We will all be here!!!
Ugh. Today was supposed to be my first midwife appointment.
The midwife clinic is held in the downstairs part of the GP practice so you have to get 'buzzed' to go down there so you check in at the main reception. I went to the main reception and gave my details and she said she didn't see my name anywhere and that the midwives don't normally hold clinics on Mondays. I was starting to get really upset, so she tried calling their mobile number (they only answer that one 8.30 - 9.30 in the morning during the week so I knew they wouldn't get them on that) but didn't try their main line for when they're in the building since she already assumed they don't do clinic appointments on Monday. But she gave me the mobile number and the other number and just shrugged and said she was sorry.
So, I left feeling upset and like an idiot, trying to replay the phone call in my head but I definitely heard "Monday 15th October" when I organized it with them over the phone... so when I got home, I called the mobile number first and left a message, and then I decided to try the clinic number and the midwife (actually, the midwife I saw a lot with my son in 2009/2010!) answered the phone... so I tried to explain my confusion as I went for my appointment but was told there were no clinics on Mondays and I wasn't down for an appointment. First she was like, "Is this Gena?" Then she said she was sorry but the reception was wrong and I actually did have an appointment, but they can't squeeze me in because they need at least an hour with me and I was the last lady of the day and they were going out to see women in the community after. So she rebooked me in to see them next Monday. And I was like, "So, I seriously had an appointment today but she told me I didn't?!" and they said yes... and they were going to go talk to them about that.
After I got off the phone, I cried my eyes out!
A bit over the top, but the midwife appointment so much makes it official and real for me, and I was there, on time, ready for it, only to be made feel like an idiot and sent away, but in reality they really were in the downstairs clinic waiting for me!
ARGH. :(
Not the midwives faults... all the regular GP Surgery reception's fault. But it has seriously ruined my day....
Oh, suregena, I'm so sorry! It's not over the top -- I would have felt the same way. Hugs, sweetie!
I wish we could have tea, too. On the beach, lol. I hope you can relax until you can find out for sure, sweetie.Quote:
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Today was DD's original due date :( . I know you are probably tired of hearing about my loss! But if anyone would understand my sadness today.. I thought you girl would
I'm so sorry spinning. I can only imagine how hard today is. Of course we all understand and are here to listen. Try to do something in her memory today...at least you know your new little one is being watched over.Quote:
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Massive hugs to you sweetie :(Quote:
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I am so sorry, spinning. Talk about it as much as you need to. I know today is so hard for you. Lots of hugs and prayers for you today.Quote:
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Oh Spinning, I'm so sorry :( Sending you a big hug, we're all here for you, don't ever be worried about posting about your loss on here. I can't even begin to imagine how you try and put the pieces back together after such a tragedy. xxxxQuote:
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I feel bad about complaining, because I know that morning sickness is a sign of a healthy baby, but I'm so sick today I can barely function. And Zofran isn't working with this baby. I just had to whine to someone because dh isnt being very sympathetic. Lol
Suregena that is awful! I can't believe they sent you away without properly checking! I'd have been in tears too, so frustrating! I don't think they have any idea what a big deal it is to have these appointments, especially when it is still early days.
Shellebelle - sorry you're feeling so poorly! Hubbies don't really understand how bad it can feel do they? I really hope you get over the worst soon, I think I am getting there although I was sick in the shower this morning! Seriously not nice!! :/
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Nc I hope your ok hun and remember nothings confirmed yet! xx
Surgena that sucks big time hate being messed around!
And spinning iam so sorry hunni I can't even begin to imagine what your going through, always remember that we are here for you! Big hugs hun xxx
I'm so sorry spinning!! I can't imagine your pain either... But we are all here to listen!
I'm so sorry, spinning. :(
So, I heard back from my friend about her 20 week scan. Everything was great and they decided to wait until the baby is born to find out the gender! Actually feel weirdly relieved as by then I will know what I am having and will hopefully have got my head things if I am having a boy this time.
She sent me her scan pic but it isn't very clear so I honestly can't tell what it is!
Hey ladies, I think we need to think of a new name to call our dh's when we want to punch them in the face all the time!!! I could've killed mine over the weekend, so dh just doesn't seem appropriate...lol!!!
mummypink - Glad you feel better about your friend. It was really strange that I had zero jealousy what so ever about all my BFFs having girls...especially my cousin-in-law who is preggo with DD2 and due Feb. Maybe it was b/c I was convinced this is a girl so it didn't get to me. IDK...even thinking this is a boy now...it still doesn't really bother me. I guess I just feel like I wouldn't want their DDs (some are the brattiest ones I've ever seen) so it doesn't get to me.
I want MY DD....with my brown curly hair, who I will dress so darn cute!!! LOL
How about PITAHQuote:
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I've mentioned damn husband! :p lol hahaQuote:
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Mine sucks at understanding how sick I am, i wish for one day he could experience it so he'd know how I feel all the time !!
:hugs: spinning. Wishing you every strength, and know that we are all here for you..
shell - ergh you poor thing, i hope it goes away for you soon...in comparison mine has probably only been mild but even that is so draining, so can imagine how terrible it must be. FX crossed it eases up for your soon!
Yeah my husband refuse to pay for an ultrasound. They are not commonly done around here--private ones. We all wait until 20-22 weeks to get them. Mine will be at 21 weeks, such a long annoying wait!Quote:
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Spinning, you are in my thoughts today. I can only imagine how sad this time is for you. :hug2: Oh and don't think for even a second you are annoying us with your beautiful daughters loss. I have a friend who lost a 2 yr old and it helps her to talk about him. If talking about it helps you, then talk away.
I'm going to the US for Christmas when I am just after 16 weeks... and most private places here will do a gender scan from 16 weeks onwards only. Therefore, I'm *totally* thinking of going private just this one time because otherwise I would have to wait until after I get back from the US for my 20 week scan! That would drive me crazy! I figure if I can somehow get in somewhere the day before I leave for the US, that'd be great. £69 this one time will be worth it, I think. I just have to know before I leave to spend the holidays with family! Ahhhhh!Quote:
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It's really funny because I have never been bothered before, plus I know if she has a girl I will be over the moon for her, it was somehow finding out now when I'm still torturing myself over what ifs. Hard to explain, as you say how many daughters someone else has doesn't take away the chance of me having mine. xQuote:
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@surgena you could also get it done in the US if you want! lol. I know our private place is only $99
True. We'll see how timing works out and what I can manage to organize!
Tiffani - OMG you find out gender tomorrow, right? I have everything crossed you hear pink!!!
3M&AL - your NT is tomorrow - fingers crossed you get a clear girly nub!!!
Hi girls yeah nc I'm so so so nervous, had a midwife appointment this morning and she checked the heartbeat and it was 145bpm which is really slow isn't it!
My heart sank :(
Tiffani, my dd's heart rate was right around 145. She was lower than my boys.Quote:
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I wouldn't worry about heart rate at all! My boys had 130 as average and a few times it went up to 150. My BFF has 2 dd's and she always had 140-150 hb!!! This time the HR has been 146, 185, and 156....still think it is a boy!!Quote:
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Well ladies, I had my cervical cerclage done yesterday and it went really well. They did a quick ultrasound after to check on baby and I only saw what might have been the nub for half a second but it looked like it was angled up! I havemy 13 week scan on Friday and am fully prepared to hear boy number 4 is on the way.
Fingers crossed for Tiffani and 3M!!
Oh ok that make me feel better :) still a day of hope left!!!!
Thanks girls
tiffani, all of my kids had high hearbeats...my boys were well over 140s all the way, closer to 150-160. DD was consistently about 150-160 as well...it gave me no clues before I found out she was a girl, lol.