Are you TTC boy because you want one or because your DH wants one?

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Originally Posted by atomic sagebrush

I suspect, taking Trivers Willard into account, it's because people who are higher in social status have more boys, and it's a hell of a lot easier to stay married when you're rich than when you're poor. Mystery solved, where's my Nobel prize LOL

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Your Nobel prize is on its way...just write the book and we'll get it for you!

I have to agree about the poverty aspect, so interesting. Most fascinating book I have ever read "A framework for understanding poverty" helped me understand a lot of what I had seen but couldn't put into words. Simply fascinating and once you add Trivers Willard idea into that, a lot of things make a lot more sense!!!

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Originally Posted by atomic sagebrush

This is a pretty hot button topic but here's a link to a good explanation of the study and both interpretations Couples With Daughters More Likely to Divorce - ABC News

This study is one of those where the science is interesting but the interpretations get in the way. I don't like the douche-y explanations the scientists come up with...the first set is like, oh, it's because girls suck and dads hate tehm, then the second set is like, no, it's because women who have boys are doormats and not empowered. GAG. I think their science sucks and the whole thing kinda pisses me off.

I suspect, taking Trivers Willard into account, it's because people who are higher in social status have more boys, and it's a hell of a lot easier to stay married when you're rich than when you're poor. Mystery solved, where's my Nobel prize LOL

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Hello AS, nice links, thanks a lot. But there are still cases where the new lady has DS for the same DH living under same condition. I still believe in feeding habbit which leads to acidic/alkaline PH down there.
People could still have a high status and end up with boys or vice versa.
I just think the men loves blue better than pink because of there ego. Girls are wonderful even in adulthood. They seem to care a lot about their parents actually.

In contrast this is an interesting article in UK newspaper, the Telegraph which claims families with two daughters are the happiest! Want to be happy? have two daughters - Telegraph
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Originally Posted by SaraLou

In contrast this is an interesting article in UK newspaper, the Telegraph which claims families with two daughters are the happiest! Want to be happy? have two daughters - Telegraph
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Nice one Saralou.. very interesting but I would like to confirm the DH of the lady I talked about when I mentioned has a lady out there who now has 2 DS without the knowledge of his DW actually is from Leeds, England..................so survey sometimes not so accurate. I also had a colleague in Leeds who also confirmed he would't have had plans to marry his girlfriend if she had given birth to a DD... sad. The interesting aspect is these men do not let their DW or girlfriends even have the slightest idea of their thougths wrt baby gender these days. They claim to appreciate either.

Interesting thread... We really want a 4th so our 3rd can have a playmate, our big girls are incredibly close and it's lovely (although they fight like cats and dogs too). I would be completely happy with another girl but I know DH would prefer a theoretical boy over a theoretical girl, mainly so he can have that father/son relationship. That said, he loves his daughters and if we have a 4th girl I know he'd never consider our completed family any less than perfect. He doesn't have obvious favourites but has a very sweet relationship with DD3 - they just adore each other - and she was "supposed" to be his boy.

That's why I'm swaying (and apart from the breastfeeding i'm doing well, I think!) but I won't be at all devastated if we get pregnant with DD4.

I am also a mum to three girls who are the loves of my life. If I could have it over and could only have one sex , I would still have three girls over three boys as they seem to suit my perfectionist personality better :wink:
That being said, I also think it's terribly unfair to keep having all the same sex children if you are keen for family balancing (guess who's a libran....) as I think it's important for each parent to be able to pass on their knowledge and personal experiences with a child that shares the same interests and can relate (i.e. my girls have no interest in surfing or football).
They do however sit and do crafty things with me which I have always liked and I personally think my husband should have someone to share his passions with.
So in my case, while I know my husband is wanting a boy due to the fact his limit was two kids (haha) the desire to have a son has been driven by me. In all honesty though.....if I'd had three boys I'd be over at the pink swaying forum so I guess it's just my nature....

just wanted to add that we are by no means rich, or even well off and have 6 boys, so out goes that theory lol

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Originally Posted by babygirl

just wanted to add that we are by no means rich, or even well off and have 6 boys, so out goes that theory lol

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Well said babygirl, same goes to my mum who had 5girls when my father was far too rich a politician than when his second wife had boys. Infact he was literally bankrupts with hadly no money available when the boys where born. lol!

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Originally Posted by babygirl

just wanted to add that we are by no means rich, or even well off and have 6 boys, so out goes that theory lol

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We aren't either babygirl, but it's just a tendency. The tendencies are important because they can tell us about what things actually do sway - as in, our bodies don't know how much change is in our pockets but across the population, being financially better off may mean better access to nutritious foods.

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