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Originally Posted by toomanyboys

aww...girls well i try not to but i am going to be honest with you..the last days have been rough....i go from being totally indifferent (or trying to) to total despair....i got up 5 today a i had dreams about my scan and it was boy then girl then boy and how i didn't want to see any boy nubs...it was a bit bizarre really.....i don't know....then i am thinking i do not want to get the NT done now because i liked the idea of not knowing and still hoping...but what if my NT will be plain as day? i don't know GD pretty bad at the moment.....i really have no idea how to accept this baby if it is a boy.....and i don't mean physically but emotionally...i cannot describe it obviously i love him/her to bits...but i am so convinced this was a girl.....to be thrown off like this is really taking its toll on my emotions...and ys i know noting is confirmed yet and i am trying to stay positive...but it is something i cannot control but am trying really hard to deal with the GD as it is overwhelming me at times....for one i have not a tiny clue what to name him....if it is a him.....i had all these plans for a girl.....i don't know.....can only pray god gives me strength to deal with this and i am sure i will....but for now it is extremely hard......:(

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well..so i had a shitty night...sorry for the lingo....but i dreamt i went for my 12week NT scan and there was no mistaken that the nub was a boy nub....the dream was soooooooooooooo real....that in my dream rather than anything surreal or unrealistic i was struggling wihtthe GD that set in..and overwhelming sadness crept over me and all i could think about is my poor daughter....what was the point of this baby and maybe it will be OK....i can't change anything and in my dream making the announcelment to people including my kids who all were sad and a dissapointed too but at the same time their kids so more accepting.....i was just devasted but tried to be happy about it and deal with it...then i woke up.....there was a wave of relief of course but i am so much more dissapointed....i had severe to nasty MS yesterday ( and i thought it was getting better but i really suffered alot yesterday and had the worst migraine EVER....and then i get this dream....)it seems all in vain now...:(i prayed to god years before that make me suffer really bad with MS if you grant me a girl i will be willing to deal with it....ans now here were so far he si grantng e that wish:(.
i cannot belive how confidant every single day form the moment i found out until my dating scan i had beenabout this being a girl......ALL THE SIGNS are that of this being more a girl baby than a boy baby and i got 3 boys and 1 girl to compare it to....and now i have turned a whole 180 degrees...and am where i was 5 years ago when i was expecting my DD and didn't know.....the GD is making me misrable and the only thing i can think of is how i should be greatful that baby should be healthy and that it is still alive and ultimately i have my DD already.....but i am devasted for her already as i know she would have benefited immensily....as i am now thinking my instincts tell me i cannot rely on my feelings or any symptoms or predictions any more and this will probably be the baby boy who defies all symptoms and predictions.....
really depressed.....i still pray to god to have mercy on me and understand what a big deal this is for me but at the same time i don't want to tempt faith and be greedy so my main prayer is now.....god help me deal with the GD..help me deal with the day and the revelations that this will be a boy...i just wish i could turn off the switch that is fearing a boy baby and just be delighted for it instead....but its not happening so far.......i am miserable and i don't want to feel this way.....i really don't.....and i am greatful....but like bloody cold or disease i seem to have no power over it....as for now...:(....

Toomanyboys, I know you are struggling and I have a lot of sympathy for your feelings but I want you to hear this through them and turn your focus hopefully.

I am one girl in a family of boys - 3 brothers. Yes it was hard and lonely at times, but I haven't talked to anyone from a large family who DIDN'T feel like that, whatever the gender composition. In fact, the very worst sibling relationships I know are between sisters! Your daughter will take her lead from you, and you can help her have just as close relationships with her brothers as she might with a sister and maybe, just maybe, God is giving her the sibling she needs to be her best friend and shape her into being a great woman. Don't fear for her!

And stop panicking. It is too early to be sure anyway! Have you got a busy day ahead?

thank you so much.....it does help...i think whatever happens esp if this turns out to be a boy it will take a a good few years to really get over the negativity of it all...of course i will cuddle and love and be totally besotted for my new son...but.....i know that i have this annoying nagging 'regret' i didn't have another dd. like you i am the ONLY girl out of 3 of us...and although for a long time i managed to be a happy bunny and didn't let the fact that i never had a sister stop me from making good friendships and enjoying my childhood as a girl (my mother never once made me feel i needed a sister..bless her) i had my handful of very hard and hurtful experinces where sisters ganged up on me when they made up, where sisters had each other in times where they are really needed and even freind's cannot replace...and i felt i missed that....funny enough it is only recently i made a friend herself who is an only girl....my mum (they are 5 sisters) and all my cousins that i know of have sisters of their own...and every single friend in the past that i know has at leats one sister or more....and yes i have seen the worst but also the best in that and i do know that the benefits outweigh the negaitves....but it is when i reached adulthood got married and had kids that it really hit home....i suffered alot being on my own having kids whilst all my friends shared theirs with each other's sisters helping out doing things together and being there for each other and their kids....that reliability that you couldnt get wiht just friends i missed that alot and still do...picking dropping holidaying...and all the cousins being a bit more closer with each other.i know i missed out on all that and i didnt want my DD to go through the same....my mum lives in germany and both my brothers are still bachelors it would have helped had they married and have kids of their own....at least i would have enjoyed havuing nieces to fill the void or maybe even good SIL's? i don't know......there is just so much negativity i see in having this child and it being boy right now...we only now started enjoying out holidays being able to go everywhere with the kids and not worrying about caring for a baby....i know i have to get over this but it is going to be really hard...its going to take a long time...just pray for people like us to keep positive and strong and learn to deal with it. deal with the darn GD..thats all i can ask for....because the rest is god's hands....and am trying to think he has some good reason of why and if i end up with 4 sons....i'd like to think that one day will look back and be thankful i did......
my US pic that looks boyish just shows me too much of a nub that is pointing straight up...(at the time i tried to look carefully if it was the leg and it seemed like it was...but then the pic i got now to hand is there for me to see everyday...and the moe i look at it the more i wonder.....also the one that has the flat nub still has time to rise becasue it is too early.....the indication is this baby has more of a chance to turn out boy than girl...and that is why i am jumping to conclusions...i cannot find any nub pic that looks like mine even at 10weeks (mine is 10.4 weeks in fact) where somewhat of anub points upward and doesnt end up being a boy...so i would say there is 70% chance it will be more boy than girl....i suppose i want to prepare now...mentally....that is why i am making these conclusions....am even toying wih the idea that i will keep this baby a suprise as i think i will be miserable if i do find out.....:(..i just wan tot enjoy this pg as it is my last....

Gender disappointment is awful. The anticipation of gender disappoint even worse. I wished for weeks (even now I had a tendency although it gets better the more I see my litlte boys face in every scan, the more he looks "ready" and like a proper baby) that I hadnt tried again. That I would have stopped at a height. At what I already had. I could get away with it, you know? A son from a previous relationship, much older and a pigeon pair with my husband.

Put the pictures away. Stay away from the internet. Stop googleing symptoms, nub shots etc. Try not to think about it.

I probably wouldnt want to find out again as soon as I did (around 12 weeks), I would prefer to wait a bit longer. Just because I carry gender disappointment aroudn with me for weeks. It always gets better once the baby is here, but its such a long wait.

At times when I feel really bad I snuggle up to my kids and feel how blessed I am. I feel it does not matter, its just something in my and other peoples heads. I have a daughter, so do you. That is amazing, simply amazing. Have you thought about what you could do with just one daughter, how you could spoil her rotten being the only girl? How you can take her shopping and spend a fortune on her? Mine is my little princess, she wont have to share her throne with anyone and she has lots of brothers to protect her. That is what I am telling myself all the time now. xxxx

What is the nub?

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Originally Posted by MissMyChem

What is the nub?

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