Anyone else think they will never get their DG?

I really don't think I'll ever have a daughter either. At the moment I've lost all hope of ever having another child at all... Every time we get close to getting the treatment we need something snaps and we go back to square one (latest was them sending me the wrong date twice and then striking us of the list!).

I could cry, honestly... My OH is starting to back track on the whole TTC thing now. He doesn't know if he wants to do it any more and I just find it heart breaking... I so, so badly want a little sister for our boys! I try not to think about it lately... Which is why I've stayed away from this forum too. I try to just ignore everything with babies, but it does creep up on you!

I've tried reconciling myself to just having our two boys. I try to convince myself that I don't really want anymore! I watch programs focusing on the negatives on having babies to convince myself I don't want to go through it all again... It kinda works!... Sometimes...

I think hope is the hardest to find. Hope that it works out for the best. Hope that everything comes together in the end. Have to admit though, there isn't too much hope left these days, not in the baby department anyway!

I have felt like this for many years everytime i have swayed i would try and be possitive but always had the underlining feeling in my gut that i wasnt going to have a girl ,after my 5th boy i decided to take control of the situation and do HT for the next baby ,now i am finally starting to feel i will have a girl in our family, i have a glimmer of hope and a sense of peace ,i havnt felt like this for a long time

I feel like this sometimes and other times have hope swaying will work. But mostly I am terrified of it failing and wondering how I will cope with things if I do. I recently talked to DP about HT and he really does not want to do it. Aside from the money he says he does not believe in messing with nature or doing IVF when we are perfectly fertile. I find hope the more I research natural swaying because it makes sense why we have had all boys so far so I should be able to change it but then I think what if it still does not work.

It is hard to lose hope again too due to other peoples comments too. DP says he will do what ever I ask of him to sway for a girl next time just to make me happy but he thinks it is all a load of bull sh*t. And when the conversation comes up with friends or aquaintences about more children and hearing people say that I am insane to try for one more 'just to get a girl' because my partner has 6 sons can hurt. I only wanted 3 kids but now am sure I want one more because I want one more baby so will not be devestated to have one more boy but will be really really sad of having to come to terms with not having a girl. It seems like ages away until we can start trying to get her too.

I wont ever get a girl :-(
I really do believe it and it makes me so sad..... My d/h gets so angry at me when I say it as he thinks we will but we wont ever have a girl I would be money on it

I feel like i most likely won't get a girl after 6 boys :(
Sometimes i feel like a failure because family/friends look down on me, they tell me i should have stopped 2 or 3 boys ago, how rude! I didn't even announce this pregnancy because i am not ready for the uncalled for comments! I am already stressed as it is. I have 2 friends pregnant now i can bet they will both finally get girls after 2 boys way before me :tissue: It's gonna feel like a slap in the face once i hear their FB announcements of their it's a girl. My MIL already said she is not getting Her hopes up like she did with boys 5&6 for a girl. They make having all boys like wow its a disease or something like it should not have happened! All i can do is try to be hopeful and pray and pray to God.

I have three wonderful boys, but I long for a girl. The day I found out I was expecting again I was so excited and positive this was my girl. Up until this week I did genuinely feel my dreams were coming true. Then I had an ultrasound on Monday and the tech told me if she had to guess she'd say this baby is a boy. I instantly felt my dreams were shattered. I know technically speaking that she could have been wrong because it is pretty early and the cord was between baby's legs, but I still feel so deflated. I literally fantasize about hearing the words "It's a girl." Someone women fantasize about the perfect body or sexy men. No, not me. I just want to hear that my baby is a girl!!!!!! I'm sure I'll never hear it though.

Wow 7, I'm only on number 4 and already feel like I will never get what I want. I have 3 boys already and my gut feeling the whole way through has been that this baby is a girl, but I've been trying to prepare myself for hearing boy because I think its just wishful thinking.
Anyway at my 12 week scan the nub did not look good for a girl and I'm now sure that I'm having a boy.

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Originally Posted by BZ88

How do you all reconcile the feeling of wanting a DG as I believe God does put those desires in your heart with what you get from God?

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I feel everything happens for a reason. I never wanted boys and felt horribly annoyed by them. I only wanted girls but figured I'd tolerate having one boy in the mix. When I was pregnant with DS1 I was told he was a girl on amnio, but it was a mistake and the lab checked the wrong box. I felt absolutely crushed when I learned my girl turned into a boy weeks later after bonding with the thought of a girl. It took me awhile to get used to the idea of a boy and bond with him, but I eventually did and I love him to pieces. When I found out I was pregnant with #2 I just knew it was a boy and I was really sad about it. I was happy my son would have a little brother close in age, but really sad for me at the same time. I had bad PPD with him that actually started a few weeks before he was born and it was because of gender disappointment. Now that he's older he's got quite the personality and I can't imagine not having him. Baby #3 was a bit of a surprise for us. We were talking about TTC in a few months and I wanted to lose weight in the meantime, so I had gone on a very strict, low calorie diet losing 15 lb in 6 weeks of dieting. I had also never bothered to buy more vitamins when I ran out after having DS2. We ended having sex one night (6 weeks after starting my diet) and my husband suffered a major heart attack right after, was actually dead in our living room. I honestly didn't think he'd make it the whole time I was doing CPR waiting on the paramedics. During that time I prayed that if God had chosen to take him from me that He please leave me the baby girl we wanted so badly. I had called my mom to pick up the boys so I could go to the hospital. When I found out I was pregnant a couple weeks later I was completely shocked, and my mom told me she'd made the same prayer as me about having a baby girl. I had a strong feeling I was going to have a girl, but was so afraid to get my hopes up and be disappointed again. Several early ultrasounds and labs pointed toward girl and I was trying to be optimistic, but still afraid. I had it confirmed a couple days ago that we are for sure having our baby girl and I can't stop crying. I feel so blessed! This baby is such a miracle in so many ways that I feel so overwhelmed. God truly answer prayers and sometimes in the most amazing ways and when you least expect it to happen.

i'm so sorry to hear about your dh bunnygirl19 how amazing you are expecting a lovely little girl after what you and your family went through

we had our 12w scan last weekend at 12w6d and i am convinced its another boy
hubby gets angry at me every time i mention it being a boy because he says "you never know what the universe may give us"
i'm devastated even before i know for sure - one nub shot looks slightly angled and boyish and i have another that is more parallel and girly then potty shot looks girly too.
i'll be well and truly put out of my misery next saturday at our gender scan
i feel like a total failure - i can't even give my boys the little sister they have said they so desperately want.

my sister in law is due 8 weeks before me and of course having a girl so that is salt rubbed in the wounds right there. i have to grin and bear it when all i wanna do is cry

i have only told immediate family and 3 close friends and that is it
i dont say a word to anyone else and i'm putting on the weight a bit more i try and cover my stomach area which i can get away with at the moment but i'm going on 14 weeks so i wont be able to get away with it for much longer. i'll be bigger over the winter here so i may just get away with school runs etc in looser clothing. i get enough stares as it is out with my boys.
everytime we announce a pregnancy we get all sorts of rude remarks from oh no not another one to dont you have a tv, oh you're gonna keep going til you get a girl, omg you have too many kids and you're having another one.

if hubby would let me i'd have a few more but he's made me promise to have my tubes tied after this baby is born - i know i am going to really have a hard time with it and do not want to have it done