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You shouldn't feel bad. They are totally natural feelings and I had them too! Just letting you know that if you don't get your dream even though it can sting you will be OK and you have heaps of support on this forum :) Sometimes I still wish things could have been different as my life would much easier now not having to think about adding another child when I only wanted three but then I wouldn't have my amazing twin boys who I wouldn't change for anything
Just out of curiosity, why are there so many natural twins conceived from pink sways? If blue swaying is intended to increase fertility, it seems like this would lead to more twins overall?? I'm just interested in the science of it!
:agree: we don't know but I have also been intrigued by this. We have not had many (any??? drawing a blank here) natural twins from blue sways, I don't think??? Despite the fact that much of what blue swayers do is supposed to up odds of twinning. Then again, we have probably 3-4 times as many pink swayers as blue and it may just be a numbers game.
Please keep in mind that this may not be because of swaying, however. Many boy moms may have PCO-tendencies and may be hyperovulators by nature and just never caught both eggs before. People are also using breastfeeding, TTC after a miscarriage, and several of us have had 4-5-6 kiddos already, all of which up odds of twinning.
Additionally, there are a couple ways to think about "fertility". When I say reducing "fertility", I am referring to the ability of sperm to meet egg. I believe the easier this is, the more blue-friendly the couple. But there are other types of fertility such as the ability to release good eggs, possibly more than one, and the ability of those eggs once fertilized, to create a pregnancy, plus the ability of a woman's body to sustain two babies. I think only the sperm meeting egg is really swaying gender, although there may be something with possibly more boys lost if someone was in truly bad condition - I don't want anyone to EVER get into that bad of condition. I only intend for swaying to happen pre-conception, not post.Quote:
Originally Posted by srg09cag11
Now that I think about it, quite a few of my pink swayers already HAD twins...twin boys! at least 4 pink swayers on here already had twin boys, 2 fraternal, 2 identical (and I think I am missing at least one other person here) and some of us also had twins but lost one or both along the way. Makes me think there may be something to the idea that as a group we may be coming into this with at least some of us more "set" for both boys and twins.
I think it's mostly if not entirely bc, in general, most blue swayers are higher fertility and more likely to have twins in the first place bc of that, and/or age as many pink swayers are older. Probably a bit of both. I don't think it's due to swaying though.
Popping in to say I think conceiving quickly after a loss may have caused my twins. I didn't take clomid, don't think I have pcos, and have zero family history of them.