He's here :-) so in love (PICS)

I'm so sorry. I would do whatever is best for Baby A because Baby B's condition is fatal. I'm so sorry.

Thank you mamas! I agree with you nutinbutpink- that's what we decided but still hard either way.:sad:

I'm so sorry hun you have to go through this. :(
I'll keep you and your family in my prayers.

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I'm so sorry hon. Your making a hard and brave decision, but ultimately sounds like the right decision to give your baby a chance of survival. Huge hugs xxxx

I'm so sorry :(

I"m so sorry to hear this Jewelle, but I agree you are doing the best thing. Wishing you the very best.

Oh hun, im so sorry, thinking of you and your family x

Thanks you ladies and Atomic! It's reassuring to know that we are making the right decision, you never know with these situations and no one ever plans for them :( I'll keep this thread going-for my babies- and hopefully have a happy ending in this crazy journey or at least help someone else.

Wow! What a rollarcoaster for you:(
I'd never want to make the decision you are but sounds like you are making the best one possible for you and baby A!!
Thinking of you:) xx

Oh no, what a heartbreaking update. Deeply sorry for you to have to make this decision, but as others have said, I would also think that alternative 2 would give baby A the best chances.

Oh my, what a terrible, unfair decision to have to make!!! Hugs, thinking of you!


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I'm so sorry you are having to make such a heartbreaking decision... But you are giving baby A the best chance of survival. My thoughts are with you. Xxx

So sorry to read this :( will keep praying for you xx

I am so sorry to hear this. I know your heart must be breaking but I do think you are doing the right thing even if it doesn't feel 100% right. Please keep us updated on how you are doing. I will be thinking about you... so sorry you and your family have to go through this:(

Oh mama so so sorry to hear this. My baby had a form of anencephaly and there are no chances of survival. Not one baby has survived anencephaly. It's such a cruel and gruesome thing to go through. I had the pregnancy terminated (that sounds horrible, but we did it so we could end our babies suffering) and didn't have to deal with the health of another baby. I know of one mama who was pregnant with twins and one of the twins didn't have kidney's, which is also fata. She carried both to term and her son passed away during labour. She got to hold her child, hug him, kiss him, say goodbye. I think that is worth more than money can buy. Babies with anen usualy survive the full 9 months, only to pass during or shortly after labour. But I don't know how the chances of the other twin are. I know anen occurs more in twin pregnancies, so there should be info out there about this. Oh mama I'm rambling, I don't know what your best option would be. This is heartbreaking. Will be thinking of you and your babies xx

My heart breaks for u. Am so sorry to hear of ur troubles :-(

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O, sweetie, what devastating news...
An 'online friend' of mine went to the exact same thing. She didn't feel she had a choice but to terminate the life of one baby. The risk of continuing pregnancy with both baby's was too high, she felt. Everything went well! I hope this nightmare is over soon.


I will pray everything will turn out fine for baby A, and i'll pray for courage and strength for you.

Thank you mamas for your thoughts and prayers! I have a level four sonogram on Wednesday and meet with the MFM specialist who will perform the selective termination. As much as I read on it, nothing can prepare me for that event. Just thinking of it I cringe- Baby A thankfully is good, but just don't know how all these "invasive" procedures will affect the remainder of the pregnancy. All I can do is "let go and let God" and see what will happen! I started this journey wanting a little girl, now I just want my baby A and mourn for my baby B!

:broken: I am so heartbroken for you honey, I am so sorry, sending love and prayers to you and your family :HH:

Wow Jewelle, what a heartbreaking update. 💔

I have no advice but I'm sending you all my thoughts and prayers. 💛💛

What a horrible decision and situation for any mum to have to go through and I pray that all goes as well as it can on Wednesday. xxx

Jewelle I'm so so sorry!! What a horrible ordeal no one should have to go through. Massive hugs and we are all thinking of you xxxxx

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So sorry to read this It is truly heartbreaking Hope you and your dh find strength in each other to get through this x

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I am so sorry, what a heartbreaking decision to make
Sending you lots of love your way x

I am so sorry your situation is heartbreaking but I think you are doing what's best. Sending you big hugs xx

im so sorry to hear that. No mom ever go through this without breaking heart. And all just because you wants a daughter.

God should be fair to everyone who can have their desire gender but I believe more in God that he always has other plans for us when things turn out otherwise.

I keep you and baby A in my prayers. take care.

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My heart breaks reading this. My thoughts and prayers are with you and I hope your other baby comes through this strong and healthy xx

:( sending massive hugs and strength. I can't begin to imagine what you must be going through. Xxx

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I also am so sorry, what an absolute nightmare - you must be guided by your doctors but also by your own gut instinct….mothers instinct is always right.

I am praying for you and baby A

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All I have to say is the worst procedure of my life and the Dr was a nightmare!

Not only because my baby was fighting for his or her life after being injected with potassium chloride, the heart resumed and they had to inject the baby again (horrific event)

I regret getting pregnant, I regret putting my own health at risk,my child's health at risk! I regret having to do this and most importantly I HATE how I feel about myself!

To all that the Stupid DR did not like my baby's placenta- so I decided NOT to have anymore procedures! She said there appear to be blood around it or on it and it could be do to my blood thinners- she wasn't too HAPPY with my baby's placenta.

However the 2nd DR that saw me was much nicer and told me the placenta was ok and that he has seen many like this that heal with time. He said to monitor baby growth and that's all!

As to the technician, she was sweet and kind - told me to rest lots and drink a bunch of water! She thinks my surviving twin might be a boy but too early to tell as I was only 12weeks 5 days, based on that I'm convincing myself of another boy- just not to get disappointed!

Please continue to pray for us, I'm an emotional mess and so so so sad!

:broken::heart: I am so sorry, what a horrible thing to go through and to have a nasty Dr to top it off is heart breaking. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers constantly!

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So sorry to hear about your experience. How dare anyone be rude to someone going through what you are. I would have smacked that doctor to the edge of the room and back. I am praying like crazy for the surviving baby but Jewelle, please please please do not beat yourself up for this, it is NOT your fault. Things happen, good and bad. Focus all of your energy on your baby and his survival, he needs you! You are a wonderful person and don't deserve this but it surely isn't even close to being your fault. It wasn't the sway, it wasn't your desire for a girl, it was bad luck and random fate. Big big big hugs. Please take a load off your heart and be kind to yourself mama.

Thanks Rosie85! My baby sure does need me :)

I'm so sorry jewelle, big hugs your way!!!!

I'm so sorry the dr was so horrible, as if it's not a hard enough thing to go through without that! The medical profession needs a serious kick up the butt for how they treat us all sometimes!!

Rosie is right, don't beat yourself up about this at all. It's not anything you did and not at all your fault. Unfortunately the world can be unfair and these things just happen sometimes. It's horrible and unfair and something no one should have to go through, but it is not at all your fault.

Take some time for yourself to rest and relax and grieve and my thoughts and prayers are with you, your strong little survivor and your angel bub. x

Thank you Mumofsix your words are comforting!

Thank you Abifasc!

I'm so sorry.

I'm so sorry you have had to go through such a dreadful experience. Really hoping and praying that all is well with your surviving baby. xx

I'm sorry it was such a horrific experience, just heartbreaking. Will be thinking of you, sending big hugs!