I am sorry you have to go around telling everyone the u/s is wrong. What a horrible thing to have to go through.
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I am sorry you have to go around telling everyone the u/s is wrong. What a horrible thing to have to go through.
I had to do that with my third...I was told girl and then at my 4d was told it's for sure a boy.
How awful. Hopefully people show empathy, and compassion xx
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I decided not to say anything till I get my 20 week scan , told close family and friends what happend though xxx
Good idea Laurie and your DS 2 is just adorable!!!, those cheeks!! Xx
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Heehee thanks kitkat , he's so cheeky , both boys are mummy's boys aswell :bigsmile: xx
Awhhh mummies boys are the best xxxx
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Just wanted to say I know deep down it probably is a boy, I'm not getting my hopes up , just so strange to be told girl and I feel like it's different this time , I'm carrying differently , with my boys I was eating every bad food in site this time I'm wanting fruit and craving coleslaw lol , the heart rate was 162bpm last week (I know that can be old wife's tale) I'm a lot more emotional , moody , just so sad everything was pointing towards girl then Sunday did shock me a little if I'm honest , my dh keeps saying he thinks she just said boy because she didn't know herself just to prepare us , it's not helping me at all , says he isn't buying anything till the baby is born ( just hope he's not secretly still thinking it's a girl) I don't wanna keep going on , the baby wasn't playing ball and had legs shut for most of it just that doubt about was it at a bad angel the woman didn't seem very good at her job , I'm just not gonna be able to settle till the hospital tell me boy. Keep looking at ds2 scan and new baby's scan they look so different , different shaped heads . If I ever have anymore I'm staying green it really is torcher xxx
I totally get how your feeling. I'd be a blubbering mess. I'm so thankful i did the harmony test. Although that was because I'm 38, gender was a fab bonus. What hospital are you getting scanned at? Xx
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I feel like as times passing I'm getting a bit down I felt so positive about it on Sunday , I don't know if I was just putting on my brave face for dh and ds1 , ds1 so wanted a sister , he's such an emotional wee boy. I'm going to the royal for my scan it's on the 11th , agesssss away. I had it all planned on Sunday we were gonna go shopping for pink snow suits and winter clothes because there all on sale now , least I've got lots left over from ds2 lol xxx did you wait long for your harmony test ? You must have been so nervous and excited at the same time when you got your results and you've had it confirmed by scan too which is a lot of reassurance. To be honest the woman that scanned you seemed to know more about what she was doing at my 16 week one than the one I saw on Sunday , just think it must be a boy she must have saw bits she said girlie bits wouldn't be swollen at 18 weeks but I heard they can be xxx
I'm hoping you get a really good look at 20weeks Laurie xxx. It sure has been a really hard time emotionally and perfectly normal to feel down. You feel like you have so much riding on it.
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Think I'm trying to convince myself there's a chance they could say it's a girl after being told boy lol wats the chances of that happening lol saying that with the last 2 weeks I've had nothing would surprise me blue x :bighug:
Yeah I bet! It would be so much easier if we didn't have to have these feelings but they are what they are and you can't just wisk them away. What can you distract yourself with for the next couple of weeks? Do you know how to knit? lol. My motto is "fake it till you make it" lately and it seems to help for me. If you can start trying to love the idea of another boy then if it changes again it will just be a bonus.
I just keep thinking how cool it's gonna be ds2 having a brother so close in ages there always gonna have a friend to play with , no but I wish I could knit lol my wee ds2 is keeping me on my toes he is a great baby though very content seems to be when I wake my heads all over the place but as the day goes on I'm fine . Are you ttc blue or :pregnant: xxx
Laurie I really feel for you!! Its so hard having got your hopes up, I would picture a little boy, choose a name etc and then you are going into 20 week scan thinking no and you never know you might be surprised! I would also not worry about feeling down or upset GD is soooo hard and only those that have been through it understand it, we are here for you!! Xxxx
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No was boy!! Predictive text x
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Laurie I completely understand. All I can say is that Ds3 changed my heart so much. He just turned 4 on June 7th and I love him so much. When I first looked at him it was like getting hit with a bus, that little boy got me hook line and sinker. Love at first sight for sure.
Thanks kitkat , I'm really looking forward to my 20 week no matter boy or girl , just want to see him again x after that I will start the exciting stuff like shopping and name picking , I didn't really keep a lot from ds2 whoops so need a crib and new clothes , I'm feeling a lot better and I've noticed instead of thinking boy girl boy girl I'm thinking about things like breast feeding and labour I've started feeling really strong movement today too it's wonderful xx
Hey mommy , I can imagine he did , I know I'm gonna feel the same way , did any of you guys feel like before you found out the gender everyone was all excited and always calling etc then when you found out the baby was the same gender as before people kind of lost interest? When I got told girl my MIL , friends everyone was all talking about names and clothes all excited including hubby and now boy I've not really heard or seen from any of them maybe I'm being paranoid
My brother laughed when I told him and he said I still think it's a girl :nono:
Yes!! Also, I had some family members not even show up to the hospital when DS3 was born. But they were all there with DD1. But all of that just made me more protective of DS3...I mean they love him NOW, don't get me wrong...but yes they were less excited.
My mil was there when I found out girl and she was like all over me , she's got 2 boys all dh family have had boys , she was texting me constantly talking about girly things but nothing really now. That's terrible not even turning up to the hospital! I know what you mean about being more protective my mil didn't speak to me and dh for the whole 9 months of my pregnancy with ds2 then turned up at my house the day I got out with presents and money then stopped talking to us again 2 weeks later because there family live quite far away and we hadn't been to visit mil - mum and dad but I had stitches and couldn't sit in the car for too long , never spoke to us or seen the children for 8 weeks :nono:
After gd at my gender scan with ds3, along with sobbing for a day or two, he really stole our heart in a big way. Not that his brothers didn't, but instead of gd at birth, it was pure love at first sight (again). He is blond and blue eyed with curly hair and the light of our lives xx
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Oh those DS3s! They are heart stealers for sure :). I'm super protective of my DS3 too. For almost the first year of his life I've been full up just with him. Only now that he is 1 that my dream of having a girl has resurfaced. It gets easier though. If you can keep the two issues a bit separate then it seems to be a bit easier. Like yes I have this dream to have a little girl, but I can fit this little boy into the plan. He's a bonus baby. Obviously he's meant to be here :)
that looks girl to me not a penis!!!
I was talking to DH about these images again last night actually. He was saying how it's possible to make a boy look like a girl if the settings aren't quite right. Also the angles can make things look elongated or shortened etc. Definitely don't think it's as simple as they make out on IG. Especially before 20 weeks.
And yet the girls at ingender were right , no????
Sorry you had to go through this laurie, there really is no excuse for a place like that to be getting gender identification so wrong, that was a clear boy shot in your first pictures, I'm gold you got a refund but it doesn't make up for the heartache
Yeh blue I think I'll be the same after a while the girl dream will come back , I don't know when I will be able to have more children as were gonna have the 2 14 months apart. We need a bigger car, bigger house it's going to be a busy year but dh is that chilled he's like I want lots if kids , I told him I know I'm only 25 but my body really needs a break from this for a few years , I'm getting aches in places I never thought I had lol , I searched the net for weeks looking for an image that looked like mine with the big long bits and never found any so weird , it looked like that again on Sunday at certain angles just these huge long lines . I don't think she would have said boy though if she never saw sonething even though she didn't seen very good at what she was doing . I'm looking forward to meeting my little man xx
Absolutely:). I'm sure he will be gorgeous!
Your little man is so cute !!
Yes hopeful it seems the girls on IG were right at this stage. There was a 50/50 chance they would be anyway. The images have been flogged already though and I think many people have given their opinions. Trolling to make yourself feel good isn't what we are about here. If you would like to join this supportive community to help plan your sway, or get support for high tech then go ahead. If you just want to get in a plug for IG then then go do that on the IG forms.
He is :). Thank you
Very supportive arnt you!
Read my post, is it in anyway unsympathetic or nasty?!
Calling me a troll straight off for pointing out they we right and actually if they hadn't pointed it out laurie could be out stocking up on girly items and painting rooms....yes I guess they had 50/50 shot of getting but so did your husband "the expert" who also got her hopes up wrongly it would seem
I was actually compelled to answer as I work in that field and it shocked me but if this is the kind of attitude of members then I will try a different site thanks
My mistake. Sorry I just thought that seeing it was your first post then you must have come from IG to make Laurie feel bad and she's already had enough of that. If you genuinely are looking at swaying or HT then Welcome :).
Did kind of sound like a "told you so" at the beginning hopefully . Thanks for your reply , the lady's on here have helped me through this difficult time , everyone of them have been very supportive and kind!!!. And even the ones who thought boy with my scan were very sensitive about it. I don't know how many others have had this experience with the company but the people I know have had correct gender from them , I must just be the unlucky one . I'm putting it down to a bad experience and if I ever want to find out the gender with other babies I will be waiting till 20 weeks.
Fair enough, I'll be honest I am a member on ingender, I've come here as my identity is well know and rather then be hounded for guesses as can happen- in the nicest possible way, I appreciate people are desperate to know. I wanted to talk with people about my plans and worries etc without it just being oh sorry but can you take a look...... A little escape if my own if you will
I do have a lot of respect for the ladies there and they are very good at what they do, however I've not seen your post there so can't comment on that.
Again I wish you the very best, I strongly advise though that you write a review about the place you went to as it really is unacceptable and to not offer "potty" shots just sounds unreal to me? That's the whole point of the visit to get confirmed gender. I hope it can be put to rest at your 20wk scan and you can enjoy the rest of your pregnancy, you do have beautiful sons
I don't know if you saw the other lady's comment on here , who went to the same place as me in glasgow and didn't get any potty shots and they told her the same thing but gave her a rescan. My aunt was in in Sunday for the gender scan and she never got any either. They claim to be 97% accurate, I know mistakes scan happen it's not the mistake that's upset me it's the techs saying oh I'm not allowed to say 100% but yes I'm very certain after me telling her I thought it was a boy and asking her to check and check . We can't trust any tech now after this , my dh said he won't even trust the hospital tech. I think I'll do a bit of research to find out if anyone els has had this trouble with them. Thanks they are wee darlings
Ps escape here it's good , everyone is so lovely.
Anyone know if there is a way to see all the unread threads and those with new reply on here? (except the few on the right). I have to keep searching this thread! My obsessive boy nature doesn't like that lol.
I'm very aware that DH was wrong and I do feel bad about that. I never ask him anyway. I like to guess myself, but this time I did. People are human you know. They make mistakes but I've apologized and also I've stuck around and tried to be supportive. Hindsight is a wonderful thing you know xxx
Covered in blue - I think from the sounds of the rescan, that this baby isn't wanting to reveal gender and is a hard one to call, even for the tech doing the live scan (if I read it right even at the rescan they thought girl initially - but Laurie didn't rate this tech at all) xx
(it was kind of you to get your dh's input btw)