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2ndtime I have had only a handful of times where I think I reacted different but those times have surprised me.
What is swaying
HI what is swaying
Swaying is usually trying for particular gender.. the diet and vitamins you take to make ur body more alkaline(boy)or acidic(girl)......so far my knowledge.Quote:
Originally Posted by Latoyah28
DD 👯(17mos) , 💫baby due in july 2017
Thankyou ladies..happy to share my feelings without the fear of being judged..🙂☺ because everyone here is either going through or at least understand what you are going through just like my loving hubby...he understands me so well 2nd time around..during first pregnancy we had arguments.. but now we are more mature i think.. things seems happy so far...
DD 👯(17mos) , 💫baby due in july 2017
Oh mama I am so so sorry. So much love to you <3Quote:
Originally Posted by mamabear
Actually, this particular site doesn't use ph in their sways (alkaline/acidic- unlike a lot of other sites). The principals of this site are diet and lifestyle things that change maternal conditions but not for ph reasons. Also number of attempts, but not actual timing...and oh so much more.Quote:
Originally Posted by 2ndtimemom
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Hi GirlieCat - Thanks! I did HT/NGS for a girl (So hopefully no surprises..) - I am nervously awaiting my 12 week scan on Friday.Quote:
Originally Posted by GirlieCat
@2ndtimemum - I cried on sunday watching an animated kids movie with my four year old!
Hi ladies, due June 30th with my 4th baby :) didn't sway this time but would love a little girl. Nervous as anything awaiting my 2nd scan on Friday. (1st 20 week scan was a fail)
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Had our 12 week scan yesterday, relieved to see baby is growing well, he or she would not stay still. No just an anxious 2 week wait for the nuchal test results. Still don't think I will find out gender. Had a look at a few of the scan pics and one looks boyish and another looks more girl so I will just be happy to wait.
Hoping my all day sickness improves soon as has been so much worse this pregnancy.
22 weeks now! Had midwife appt today, all is well with Bub. Still feeling a bit nauseous in the mornings but at least I'm able to eat most things now the food aversions have subsided. Getting hip and back pain now if I'm a bit too overzealous with the housework lol. I had forgotten how damn painful it is!! Booked in for glucose test in a months time..yay lol.
Have the anatomy scan on Monday! Will be 19 weeks 4 days, fingers crossed baby co-operates and all is well with the scan! I'm super excited to find out but nervous at the same time. I'm worried I may show some disappointment if they say boy.
Welcome Tynille- hoping your next scan goes well and all good news.
Kelbear- so happy baby is doing good. Sorry you are feeling bad, hopefully it stops within the coming weeks.
Mummy- glad baby is doing well!
Rainbow- so excited you will be finding out soon. Sending you lots of pink dust.
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Hi ladies - I was in the old thread and just wanted to say that I swayed boy . We did the sneak peek blood test and it came back girl . :( but if it's right I've come to terms with it . I thought my sway was great but I guess I'm the 1 out of 4 that may have had a failed sway . But I've heard bad things about the test I took so please don't mark me as girl just yet . I'm going to wait a few more weeks until my scan to confirm :) I will have nt scan next week and will post nub pics :)
Has anyone here taken the sneak peek test before ?
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Hi Cnburke- I have never heard of sneak peek before so I just read up on it. It is interesting they can do the test with such little blood. They took two vials of blood for my gender test. But the company does give a refund if their test gives the wrong gender so that sounds like they are pretty confident that it works. How far along were you when you did it?
I was 10w1d I believe . The test requires you to be 9 weeks .Quote:
Originally Posted by GirlieCat
However , I read on another forum (BabyCenter) that they had more like a 50/50 result rate and they were a pain in the butt to get a refund from :/ so idk . The thread was over 600 pages and was actually brought up in a lawsuit against the company . Then you have companies like Amazon that sell it that have nothing but positive reviews and it makes me wonder if they are fake reviews . I guess I'll find out in a couple of weeks! Lol
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I am crashing this thread to tell Cnburke that there are many reports on other sites likewhat to expect and baby center that this test was wrong for them. So you never know until your scan. FX for you!
Thank you ! I'm hoping it was wrong but I guess time will tell in just a few short weeks ! If not looks like we have baby girl #3 on the way and strangely I have gotten used to the idea of it a lot easier than I did with my second lol .Quote:
Originally Posted by Shannshaff
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It's very quiet in here lately, how is every one doing?
How far along are we all now and who's left to find out gender if you're not keeping it a surprise?
Hope you are doing well Rainbow. I had my 12 week scan this week, relieved to see bub is growing well. Not going to find out gender but did take a glimpse at scan results - one pic looks slightly boy the other slightly girl so I will take that as a sign just to wait til the birth to find out. Really struggling with terrible all day sickness this pregnancy, hoping it improves in the next few weeks.Quote:
Originally Posted by Rainbow16
Hoping everyone else doing well and enjoying their pregnancies.
We are a pretty quiet group compared to the other DD threads. My pregnancy is going good. Second trimester is kinda boring, but a nice break after all the sickness in first trimester. No major symptoms except a little bit of heartburn starting and skin break outs continue.
I am struggling with one thing- telling others. I am 21w2d and still haven't announced our pregnancy. Haven't told parents, most family or even work. I am still small so I don't think my bump is that obvious, but definitely getting bigger so I know I need to tell soon. I just don't want to.
I have zero excitement about telling which makes me feel bad. Now I am just going to tell out of obligation or necessity and not desire. We might tell my mom this weekend and I am dreading it. I am also struggling with the order in which certain people get told. My mom will not tell others if I tell her not to, but DH mom can't keep anything to herself so we can't tell her till right before we tell social media and the bulk of his side of family, which also means I have to tell my boss before MIL since I have work friends on FB. I am making it complicated but probably because I just don't want to tell.
I also have a fear that once I tell, something will go wrong and we will lose baby.
I am sure I will feel relieved once it is done but I know then the annoying comments will start to bug me. I just don't want to be treated different or have everything revolve around pregnancy or baby. If I am tired, hungry, want a certain food, say something smells funny or am grumpy- doesn't have to be because I am pregnant...I got tired, hungry, liked certain foods, had sensitive smell and grumpy days when I wasn't pregnant too...bugs me when people make everything about pregnancy. Or the dreaded..."just wait..." comments about how they think life will be once I have a baby.
We will see if I chicken out or actual tell my mom this weekend and then my boss next week.
Sorry you feel this way :( I know the feeling tbh..
You can tell your boss in confidence they can't tell people if you ask them not to but depending on your line of work they really do need to know for health and safety reasons..
Just make it clear that you're aware it's not an illness or a 'condition' and that you want to be treated as normal.. because unless there are complications there's no need to treat you any different really! I've never 'craved' anything just more of a fancy which I get when I'm not pregnant anyway and tbh everyone fancies certain foods don't they!
Do you think they won't be happy for you? My family haven't been happy about any of my pregnancies apart from this one, so I've never enjoyed telling them. I'm on number 5 and I get 'no more after this one surely?' Or 'gonna regret this' etc which is horrible but you just have to develop a thick skin and ignore all the negativity! You're past half way, you'll miss being pregnant when baby is here so just try and enjoy it for yourself and no one else!
They may feel upset you've not told them for so long and your gestation is gonna be a shock for them! But that's your opportunity to be honest and explain why you didn't want to tell them. Maybe they'll rethink any comments they've got lined up!? If not then simply.. fuck them.. it's nothing to do with anyone else and they should be supportive no matter what.
The longer you leave it the harder it is I know that feeling! Just rip the plaster off and get it over with and you can start to relax and enjoy your pregnancy :)
We are happy to give you reveal ideas if you want to make it special? I wanted to tell our family together as we had the issue of who knew first etc so we got everyone together for our daughters 2nd birthday and she wore a 'keep calm I'm going to be a big sister' top and I wore a 'keep calm dunn in the oven' (dunn is our last name) top.. it was lovely and I didn't actually have to say the words 'I'm pregnant' which is what I always struggle with due to the responses I've had in the past! My mum even offered me money to get rid of my first child when I told her :(
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ok I had my scan and all looks good - was a huge relief and lovely to see bubs... can't believe in 6 months I'll be :3kids:
@Girlie cat - there is no right or wrong way to feel about pregnancy - people embrace it in different ways and you should roll with it and do it your way! I'm on my third pregnancy and if it helps I don't feel like I was treated that different... I think it depends how you act...people will react to that. Good luck telling your Mom if you go ahead with it! xxx
Hi Girlie
Completely with you.
I'm 22 weeks tomorrow, and still have not told anyone else.
Hubbie had to tell his work, because he's having to take so many days off with various appointments and baby related groups.
My Mum & sister know (and are being really mean about it all, my Mum keeps pushing me to announce it.), and I have a friend who knows.
Tbh, I told my friend because she has a 1 year old, and I wanted to be able to turn to her for support as she only lives half an hour away.
It hasn't quite worked out that way, all I am hearing is "Homebirth ? My baby had her cord wrapped around her neck....you need all the drugs....just wait!".
I was there all the way through her pregnancy, arranged hospital tours, baby showers, and supported whatever decisions she wanted.
Thought perhaps it would be reciprocated - So I misjudged that one!
Then again people act and behave, based on their own experiences.
I can completely understand the fear factor of thinking something bad will happen - but honestly at this stage I would say it's not that likely.
Don't fret though, I think most people do tell at 12 weeks or before, but that doesn't mean wanting to keep the pregnancy a precious secret to yourself is bad.
Especially if you have no real bump yet :) Who's to know ;)
Girliecat, your MIL may surprise you and be able to keep it a secret. Mine isn't so good with secrets at times but she was able to keep ours to herself for a few weeks and also my BIL and SILs pregnancy too.
I know what you mean about annoying comments once you are pregnant. Like at work I had a frozen coke so it is assumed I'm craving them of course! You have to just learn to deal with dumb comments too... I have heard so many. Also everyone suddenly is asking you how you are feeling all the time, even people who hardly spoke to you before. Oh and then there are all the comments on how the bump is progressing! I'm probably not helping make you want to tell anyone but there are good bits because it is nice having other people get excited for you when sometimes you aren't feeling that excited about it as you are dealing with all the crappy parts of pregnancy.
I'm sure it will all go well when you tell people :)
MrsSparkles, are you considering a homebirth? My 2nd was born at home with the cord around his neck too. It was no big deal, the midwife just unwrapped him and placed him in my arms.
Looking forward to birthing at home again in a few weeks!!
Sorry your friends and family aren't giving you the support you deserve, Mrs Sparkles :( You're so lucky you can get away with not telling people at 22 weeks..I'm nearly 23 weeks and look like a whale haha! And my mum keeps reminding me of it too :mad: A friend of ours who likes to think of herself as my mum (even trying to get my kids to call her Nanna which pisses us off!) is getting really pushy and intrusive. Even insisting that she needs to be there as soon as baby is born...umm no!! This is a special bonding time for me, hubby and baby. I don't want visitors immediately after delivery when I'll be suffering nasty afterpains and most likely heavy bleeding and trying to establish breastfeeding. I know I'm going to end up fighting with her coz she won't like being told no...
Hey everyone! I haven't been so active on the site in a while so thought I would update that we won't be finding out the gender of our baby. I did a post about the nub on my scan but it's a tricky one although I have had all pink leans (keeping my fingers crossed)! I hope everyones pregnancies are going well! I had some bleeding at 9 weeks so im eargerly awaiting my 20 week scan so I can finally relax. Saw baby at 12+5 but I have zero symptoms so my anxiety is sky high!
Purple - I'm sorry people are giving you the annoying comments, but glad to see you are handling it so gracefully
Fab about your home birth, and yes I am hoping to have one :)
Mummyof4boys - That lady sounds like a nightmare, can see why you're angry.
We had some friends who had their first baby, they put out a post on Facebook saying "Don't call us we'll call you" or words to those effects.
Their plan was no visitors in the first few weeks, but actually they ended up inviting us all early.
The new Mama felt so good, and couldn't wait to show off her little boy.
We don't plan on having any visitors, but that's because we have a big family wedding 10 days after my due date....hopefully baby will be here by then !
I don't fancy a 6 hour car drive with a massive bump, and I want to show him off at the wedding ;)
Thank you ladies for the replies to my post. The support I get here is so amazing, probably why I don't need to tell people, I have all you to share my pregnancy with. [emoji2]
Joanne- it is not that my family won't be happy or supportive- actually the opposite. I think they will be too happy. I am almost 36 and DH 38, been married nearly 10 years so we have been getting pressure for years and years. I am sure we will get the comment "it's about time" or "finally" a lot. My heart broke when you said your mom has never been happy for you and even wanted you to get rid of baby #1. I am so sorry.
Sparkles- I have only told 1 friend too because she struggled with infertility so I confided in her when we were TTC and needed meds. She has tried to seem supported but has said some very hurtful things- like basically telling me I am a bad mom because I want a very short maternity leave from work.
Purple- thank you your comments. MIL definitely can't be trusted or at least I can't take the risk. This is granddaughter #1 for her after 7 grandsons so I am sure she will want to tell, which is fine, I just need to tell her when we are ready for anyone else to know.
Thanks!!
GirlieCat - So sorry that your friend has said hurtful things.
It's hard to put yourself in someone else's shoes, but sometimes people say things, because of their own experiences or even preconceived ideas.
Hopefully she'll start being a bit more supportive and get over herself.
There are plenty of Mums that are back to work quickly, it's 2017 !!!!
Thanks Sparkles. Sorry your friend is saying similar things. I will say, it is a great learning process so that hopefully I can be more aware of my words to others in the future. I am sure we are all guilty of saying things that might upset someone else without realizing what we are doing. Or maybe they do realize and are intentionally trying to hurt you...humm (my oldest sister is the queen of pretending not to be mean when really she is doing it on purpose).
Feeling bit down today. Had another look at 12 week scan, nearly 100% sure it's a boy. Won't find out for sure but feeling so disappointed that I don't think I will ever get my little girl. Can 100% see stacking and beginning of boy bits. As we are only having two children just feel so sad. Wished I hadn't looked now. Tried so hard with my sway for 6 months, feel like a failure. Both my parents and MIL want a girl and think it is a girl as my morning sickness is worse. They are just going to make the disappointment even harder. I am grateful if we have a healthy baby and I know my DS will love having a brother but a piece of me feels like it will always be missing now.
Kelbear.
I'm so sorry you're feeling down.
I would say that '12week scans aren't accurate' , but I do think sometimes we just know.
It won't mean much to you right now, but my gender disappointed was awful.
Now I couldn't be happier I'm having a boy, we have the most wonderful opportunity to gift the world with good men (lord knows there's a shortage at the moment).
Get the gender confirmed, and if it is a boy then start the healing process. We will all be here for you.
There's a wonderfully supportive group of ladies in the Gender Dissapointment section.
Lots of ladies who are going, or have gone through the same as you
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Originally Posted by GirlieCat
You know you're so right.
I said something bad to another pregnant Mama...I remarked on how big her beautiful bump was getting.
Afterwards I realised that just because I am desperate for a bump, it doesn't mean she feels the same.
It is all a learning process.
Can't agree with people like your sister who do it on purpose, especially when they style it out like "I didn't mean anything by it" grrrrrrr
Again, it's a lesson in patience and tolerance...which I have a feeling we will need a lot of in the next few years #ToddlerTantrums lol
Kelbear I'm in the same boat as you. I wrote a huge post in the Gender Dissapoibtment forum and it temporarily lifted my spirits to hear feedback. I had a feeling at 10 weeks it was not #3 and then at the 12 week scan it was obvious. They often mistake girls that turn out to be boys but rarely the other way. It's been a month since the scan and I cry most days. I have no doubt I'll love him when he's here, but I'm extremely depressed which is ridiculous since I have by all appearances a healthy baby. No matter what people say (and yes my two boys love playing with and just generally love each other. It's awesome and the coolest thing to each), it doesn't help the pain of knowing you'll never have a daughter. I wish I could tell you something that will lift your spirits but I've found nothing so far despite how well meaning people are. Hang in there and if necessary vent to me. I feel very isolated and alone with these feelings.
Hang in there Babs and Kelbear. Know you can always share your thoughts here with us, free of judgement. Don't bottle in your feelings and know you are not alone. While you know you will love the baby you are carrying and will bond with him once he's here, it's the death of a dream that takes time to deal with. My heart goes out to you both. You will find your way in time. I'm not sure that it's something you ever get over- it's something you just learn to accept with time. My grandma (Dads mom) wanted a girl badly and had 3 sons. To this day she says she wishes she could have tried one more time. My grandma (mom's mom) always wanted a boy but had 3 girls. She had the biggest GD with her second daughter. She said that she simply couldn't handle having 4 children and spoiled her nephews instead.
(((Huge hugs)))
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Hi Bre- been a while since we heard from you. Any update on the test results? Hope all is well.Quote:
Originally Posted by bre_cooper11
I just wish I hadn't looked at the 12 week scans. I didn't think I would be able to see anything clearly so just looked out of curiosity as we were not going to get gender confirmed as I was worried I would feel like this. I didn't realise it would be so clear on the scan at 12 weeks 3 days. Cried on and off yesterday arvo and again today and barely slept last night. Just so crushed that my dream of a daughter will never come true and disappointed for my hubby as he dearly wants a girl this time. We won't have another baby after this so just seems so final. I don't know if I would have felt this bad if I hadn't swayed, just really thought I had a good chance at getting my DD this time. I know brothers are great and I am sure they will be best mates but I can't shake this sadness. I am so thankful that the baby looks to be healthy so far and I also feel guilty because I am so disappointed when I should be grateful.
Thank you all so much for your support
Kelbear obviously I can relate. I didn't sleep the first two nights. Over the past month it has gotten better but the pain is still with me daily. I'm sure by the time he's here I'll be somewhat normal. I personally feel that swaying got my hopes up. It made me feel like I had control over what is essentially an uncontrollable situation. So many people have success or it seems that way because you hone in on that, but the reality is swaying is only lightly tipping the odds. And really especially in the stats folder, I'm sure a lot of people that swayed don't even end up relaying their results if it's not what they swayed for. So it makes it all look more successful than it may be. I believe the science behind swaying but unfortunately I don't know that it makes that "much" of a difference. Mentally I didn't even think about that. So the disappointment is so much greater because I thought of course if I swayed hard enough it would work. And that's false. And the finality is the worst part. I battle daily with if I could manage to do one more and keep thinking maybe. But reality is not likely. I don't know where we'd find the space or the money. So then I get upset all over again. And unless you've experienced this feeling, you can't possibly say you understand or can relate...because it's a very unique feeling. My friends with Pigeon pairs or even just girls tell me they can relate. But they truly can't.