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Cassidy - I'm a 4.5 weeks and emotional (but that's not really pregnancy specific LOL), my nipples hurt, hungry, and I'm a little more tired and bloated than normal. But I don't "feel" pregnant and have not had any nausea yet - which stresses me out as well because I feel like I have to be sick to know things are going ok! :) As far as the wondfos, mine definitely take longer to darken than the FRERs do. I can't remember - did you end up testing with FRERs?

Pbn - Yea it's awful the constant worrying and not feeling reassured. I think we (DH and I) both just feel really on edge this time after the last pregnancy/m/c. With that one, after I had those two betas done and my progesterone was good and HCG doubled, DH really thought things were OK. I did somewhat as well although the lack of symptoms leading up to my 7 week scan I think really gave me that gut instinct that something wasn't right. I doubt even if next week's scan goes well (and the one after that, since it's probably too early next week for a HB) that I will feel all that reassured. And DH is so traumatized from those two ultrasounds we had last time that he's really on edge about even going (and he's the always level-headed, calm, optimistic one!).

And yea I kinda regret doing the betas this time too - they are so stressful!! Although I don't think I really had the choice as the RE insisted before I got pregnant that she wanted to do them as soon as I got a positive test. I'm almost feeling like I don't want to get Monday's done at all!

ABC, you don't have to do a third!! You can always decline it -- be your own advocate!

PBN, this is making me feel like maybe I should push for the test again (and is it bad that your beta and scan with DD makes me go, "This mist be a girl!" then lol). I am nervous how wishy washy our midwives office is about it even though I'm coming in with all these losses. A 5,000 bill on top of all the medical bills we're still paying would probably give me a stroke lol.

I also was just reading that prednisone can affect fetal growth in early pregnancy, which I'm on, so I wonder if that's doing the slight delay? I'm still so stressed about the prednisone because I'm not sure if it did anything or not since I technically never had any diagnosed reasons for our losses.

ABC I'm sorry your second beta wasn't completely reassuring for you. I'm sure everything is fine though! Like you already said, a doubling time of 72 hours is still concidered normal and yours is way above that. A doubling time of 48 hours would have given you a beta of 2700 yesterday and there's always a small error bar on numbers from a lab so 2500something basically IS the same as 2700. And maybe your blood wasn't taken each day at exactly the same time and a difference of an hour would have made your beta rise to above 2700 or so on the day of your second beta. Will you be 5 weeks exactly on Monday? Maybe they can make a scan directly instead of a third beta? I think around 5 weeks the hcg doesn't double as quickly anymore so I would be afraid that a third beta would leave you even more afraid...

I'm slowly starting to feel better, thanks for asking! I had horrible sickness and vomitting although I am on quite strong medication against it. I'm 12 weeks now and will have a big scan on monday at 13 weeks exactly at a prenatal specialist. Getting nervous already.




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Thanks TP and Verena... I'll probably just go ahead with the 3rd. Hopefully the number wont worry me - I guess I could always just not answer when they call that day and not listen to the voicemail if I decide I don't want to know!! But everything I read last night said that after HCG reaches 1,200 the doubling time slows down. So hopefully that's just what happened. I also read this on Huggies website: "What’s interesting about hCG is that if the measurements start off high they don’t continue to expand at the same rate. In around 85% of normal pregnancies, a woman’s hCG level doubles every 48-72 hours. For women whose level of hCG is a little slower to get going, their increase can be much quicker than others." Which would make sense given that my HCG was almost 1000 at 4 weeks!

Glad you are feeling better Verena!! I didn't realize you had been so sick this time - I'm sure that's been tough!! YAY for your scan!! I'm sure it will go great and that it will be fun to see the little bean again!!!

TP has your midwife told you to stay on the Prednisone, or will you stop it at some point?

Oh man I've missed so much, and I'll probably go dark again due to our move.

But ABC I had a horrible beta experience with my first, who is happy and healthy obviously. Those numbers can be a mindgame- everything you read is right, doubling slows at higher numbers. I'm sorry it's just adding to your stress. I think the scan will be good for you. FX FX FX.

Cassidy I'm the same as ABC about 4.5 weeks and I don't feel pregnant. More tired, boobs aching a bit more, lots of bloating at times, but otherwise nothing and it's disconcerting to say the least. I'm trying not to go buy more FRER for peace of mind. But I'm also not telling anyone, it just doesn't seem real? I think I usually start feeling it around 6 weeks, so we will see.

ABC & TP, I am completely with you on the normal “I don’t think I’ll really believe this until scan after scan proves it to be” It’s just SO hard after multiple losses. My husband and I were talking about how naive we were with our firstborn. We expected perfection at every turn, never worried and just assumed that all was well. Boy, what a difference 8 years and 5 losses can do! I declined the 3rd draw, ABC. I just said that I’d rather wait u til that 6w scan. But with both come worries and anxiety, I think.
We had sex last night and I woke up to a bit of spotting so I carefully checked my cervix and found a bit of blood near the entrance. It’s still tight and closed so I’m praying it was just from irritation. Haven’t had anymore today, no cramping, still feeling nausea and exhaustion. So I’m just not going to worry about it. Hah! So much easier said than done, right?
TP, thank you for the prednisone tip. I’m going to look into this. With my first scan coming up, I don’t want to freak out when they change my date by a week. Which they did last time and I was on Prometrium suppositories.
ABC, I was told 72 hours in the beginning. In fact, my nurse begged me to wait 72 hours rather than 48 hours just to have a better feel for increase. So I would consider a nearly double at 48 hours a complete success!



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Hannah - hope the spotting was nothing!! Given that you saw it after sex it probably was just from your cervix being irritated.

Kiku - Yea these betas are terrible right? I never had them with my boys, so my only experiences having them done were with my 3 m/c's and now this pregnancy. I'm really thinking I may just tell them on Monday that I don't want them to tell me the number and that I just want to wait to see what the scan shows on Friday. And I agree with you it doesn't seem real yet for me either!! I hate this stage - would much rather be a few more weeks along and be puking!!! :)

Ladies, talk to me about spotting in early pregnancy? Feeling nausea today, upset stomach but have a little spotting. I’m exhausted and had an all-day wedding yesterday. Could over-doing it cause a little spotting? Last night I got home and could not settle my stomach. So I’m hopeful but also worried about spotting. Still have symptoms of first trimester but dang that spotting. It’s playing with my mind and I’m not one but happy about it.


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I had spotting right around 5.5 weeks from an orgasm -- not even sex, just an orgasm!! So a lot of things can cause it early on, and I think overdoing it could just because there could be old blood that it's pushing out.

And ABC, my midwives have no clue on prednisone lol. Our RE had to stay on until 10 weeks (which would be this week!), but I'm as anxious to stay on it as I am to wean. I'm thinking about pushing for a scan this week just because that growth change has me really, really anxious.

Hannah I agree with TP lots of things can cause spotting but if it continues can you move your scan up to early this week? I had off and on spotting with DS1 between weeks 5-8 and the first time it happened I called and they got me in for a scan, which showed things were fine and that really helped me at that point.

TP - if you can get in for another scan this week I'd say do it. Hopefully last week's measurement was just a bit off and it will be perfect again on the next scan.

I've felt completely distraught all day today after seeing Mamabird's post. I'm so heartbroken for her and can't stop thinking about it.

Also I dreamed last night that I miscarried. And my lack of symptoms the past few days (other than sore nipples and feeling bloated and hungry) are really freaking me out again. Last pregnancy I just kept waiting for the nausea to start and it never did and now I just feel like the same thing is happening.

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Hannah I agree with TP lots of things can cause spotting but if it continues can you move your scan up to early this week? I had off and on spotting with DS1 between weeks 5-8 and the first time it happened I called and they got me in for a scan, which showed things were fine and that really helped me at that point.

TP - if you can get in for another scan this week I'd say do it. Hopefully last week's measurement was just a bit off and it will be perfect again on the next scan.

I've felt completely distraught all day today after seeing Mamabird's post. I'm so heartbroken for her and can't stop thinking about it.

Also I dreamed last night that I miscarried. And my lack of symptoms the past few days (other than sore nipples and feeling bloated and hungry) are really freaking me out again. Last pregnancy I just kept waiting for the nausea to start and it never did and now I just feel like the same thing is happening.

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On the October due date board. Her water might have broken - they aren't for sure yet what's going on but it's a really scary situation right now. Praying it turns out OK.

Abc I'm with you. I cant stop thinking about Robin and could just cry that's she's having to go through this. I keep checking in for an update. They need to find out what's going on so she's not in this god awful limbo. I don't know if I'm angrier than sad or sadder than angry.

I know it's not going to be of any help but I kept insisting with myself that I would lose my last pregnancy too due to a severe lack of symptoms. Had only mild nausea sometimes in the evening, very hit and miss and even my bbs stopped being sore and sensitive. Your dating scan will hopefully prove some comfort, although mine didn't as previously mentioned to TP. Try andnbe prepared to know it may not be until after 12w that you start feeling slighlty safe. It's so hard [emoji17] I used to wish I could go to sleep and wake up in the 2nd trimester...

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Abc I'm with you. I cant stop thinking about Robin and could just cry that's she's having to go through this. I keep checking in for an update. They need to find out what's going on so she's not in this god awful limbo. I don't know if I'm angrier than sad or sadder than angry.

I know it's not going to be of any help but I kept insisting with myself that I would lose my last pregnancy too due to a severe lack of symptoms. Had only mild nausea sometimes in the evening, very hit and miss and even my bbs stopped being sore and sensitive. Your dating scan will hopefully prove some comfort, although mine didn't as previously mentioned to TP. Try andnbe prepared to know it may not be until after 12w that you start feeling slighlty safe. It's so hard [emoji17] I used to wish I could go to sleep and wake up in the 2nd trimester...

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Yea it's so upsetting what she's having to go through :( And I know all of us on here who "know" her feel so helpless and it's not like we can just go give her a big hug!!!

Thanks. I really just want Friday to get here. But of course I'm worried the scan wont go well. And that stupid beta tomorrow is stressing me out! I'm trying to keep my expectations low about it.

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Cassidy - I'm a 4.5 weeks and emotional (but that's not really pregnancy specific LOL), my nipples hurt, hungry, and I'm a little more tired and bloated than normal. But I don't "feel" pregnant and have not had any nausea yet - which stresses me out as well because I feel like I have to be sick to know things are going ok! :) As far as the wondfos, mine definitely take longer to darken than the FRERs do. I can't remember - did you end up testing with

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I never did test with a FRER, my SO forgot to pick them up. I did get a dark positive this morning though on the Wondfro so I feel a bit better now :) this weekend I started feeling a bit more nauseous too, as well as heightened sense of smell.

Yay for symptoms Cassidy!

Girls I need some help...
The initial excitement of my bfp is wearing off and though I'm trying to stay positive the gender anxiety I s creeping in day by day! I know so many of you are feeling the same way so I'm hoping we can comfort each other.
I just can't get it out of my head that my timing was perfect for a boy- we dtd just hours before o after a 4 day abstinance- this is textbook shettles I know and he's debunked but I just can't stop panicking that I should have just done a cut off! This is my last chance and I was so blasé about it!
Please please give me some hope that my beautiful daughter can still happen even with bd on o day!

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Yea it's so upsetting what she's having to go through :( And I know all of us on here who "know" her feel so helpless and it's not like we can just go give her a big hug!!!

Thanks. I really just want Friday to get here. But of course I'm worried the scan wont go well. And that stupid beta tomorrow is stressing me out! I'm trying to keep my expectations low about it.

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Thinking of you ABC I just really feel this little one is healthy and meant for your family xx

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Abc I'm with you. I cant stop thinking about Robin and could just cry that's she's having to go through this. I keep checking in for an update. They need to find out what's going on so she's not in this god awful limbo. I don't know if I'm angrier than sad or sadder than angry.

I know it's not going to be of any help but I kept insisting with myself that I would lose my last pregnancy too due to a severe lack of symptoms. Had only mild nausea sometimes in the evening, very hit and miss and even my bbs stopped being sore and sensitive. Your dating scan will hopefully prove some comfort, although mine didn't as previously mentioned to TP. Try andnbe prepared to know it may not be until after 12w that you start feeling slighlty safe. It's so hard [emoji17] I used to wish I could go to sleep and wake up in the 2nd trimester...

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Can't believe this is happening to her- it just is unbelievable what she has been through I can't even imagine!
I would love to wake up to the second trimester tomorrow and know the baby is healthy and know the gender so I can be at peace xx

HCG update.... went from 2,532 on Friday to 7,837 today!! 44 hour doubling time according to those online calculators. So relieved - I had a terrible feeling all day today that it was going to be a bad number.

But... my progesterone keeps dropping. 36 last Tuesday, 26.6 on Friday, 23.3 today. Ugh. I asked the nurse about it and she said it fluctuates and they don't get concerned unless it drops below 15 and that my HCG is rising appropriately. I ate more before the Friday test and today's test than I did before Tuesday's so I'm wondering if that has to do with it (apparently after you eat progesterone levels drop). I'm wondering if I should use the progesterone suppositories that I have (was prescribed them by OBGYN with previous m/cs) - thoughts?? I just don't like that it's going down! TP - are you doing progesterone? I feel like you've mentioned it before.

So I'm still stressed, but, happy about my HCG! :)

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Girls I need some help...
The initial excitement of my bfp is wearing off and though I'm trying to stay positive the gender anxiety I s creeping in day by day! I know so many of you are feeling the same way so I'm hoping we can comfort each other.
I just can't get it out of my head that my timing was perfect for a boy- we dtd just hours before o after a 4 day abstinance- this is textbook shettles I know and he's debunked but I just can't stop panicking that I should have just done a cut off! This is my last chance and I was so blasé about it!
Please please give me some hope that my beautiful daughter can still happen even with bd on o day!

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I've seen atomic say many times that studies show that it's roughly 50% boys/ 50% girls conceived on every day of the fertile cycle and at least one study showed *slightly* more girls on O day - so I don't think you have messed anything up at all!! I also saw her say recently that when you conceive on O day there are going to be less sperm ready at the egg b/c it takes time for the sperm to capacitate. You ABSOLUTELY have a chance! Especially with Clomid, diet, exercise, 1 attempt, etc!

BUT - I know how you feel & I totally get it. Since getting my BFP I've picked at myself over and over about my diet.... that it wasn't good enough, that I wasn't on it long enough after my last miscarriage, etc. I think that's the nature of GD... we're also going to find things that we're convinced ruined the sway!

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No she said they test it three times and if all three numbers are above 15, that's that. I don't know. I think on Friday when I do the ultrasound I will see the RE (I hope so at least) so I'm going to press her about it again. But I really wonder if it's the eating thing... Like last Tuesday I ate a very small breakfast at least 2 hours before the test and today I was eating a bunch as I was running out the door an hour before the test. Wouldn't have done that if I had known they were going to test progesterone again.

Do you think I should call my OBGYN and get his thoughts though and see if he thinks I should use the suppositories? I would think if it was dropping b/c the pregnancy was not going well my HCG wouldn't have increased so much, yea?

Kittendreams it's scientifically proven that xx and xy sperm swim the same speed. Just remember that shettles was looking at uncapacitated sperm as xy sperm and capacitated as xx. Based on that alone shows he simply did not have the technology to understand what he was seeing. The amount of shettles opposites would be close, equal or more than the amount of hoped for gender as his theory really amounts to nothing more than pot luck. The reason its so hard to dismiss is because its was the only gender sway technique around for such a long time and therefore everyone had heard of it...

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HCG update.... went from 2,532 on 7,837 today!! 44 hour doubling time according to those online calculators. So relieved - I had a terrible feeling all day today that it was going to be a bad number.

But... my progesterone keeps dropping. 36 last Tuesday, 26.6 on Friday, 23.3 today. Ugh. I asked the nurse about it and she said it fluctuates and they don't get concerned unless it drops below 15 and that my HCG is rising appropriately. I ate more before the Friday test and today's test than I did before Tuesday's so I'm wondering if that has to do with it (apparently after you eat progesterone levels drop). I'm wondering if I should use the progesterone suppositories that I have (was prescribed them by OBGYN with previous m/cs) - thoughts?? I just don't like that it's going down! TP - are you doing progesterone? I feel like you've mentioned it before.

So I'm still stressed, but, happy about my HCG! :)

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Wonderful news abc!! I don't know anything about progesterone levels but I do know stress won't help so just stay positive this is your healthy baby xxx

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I've seen atomic say many times that studies show that it's roughly 50% boys/ 50% girls conceived on every day of the fertile cycle and at least one study showed *slightly* more girls on O day - so I don't think you have messed anything up at all!! I also saw her say recently that when you conceive on O day there are going to be less sperm ready at the egg b/c it takes time for the sperm to capacitate. You ABSOLUTELY have a chance! Especially with Clomid, diet, exercise, 1 attempt, etc!

BUT - I know how you feel & I totally get it. Since getting my BFP I've picked at myself over and over about my diet.... that it wasn't good enough, that I wasn't on it long enough after my last miscarriage, etc. I think that's the nature of GD... we're also going to find things that we're convinced ruined the sway!

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Thank you so much for taking the time to calm me down abc especially when you have far more things to worry about xxx you are so kind xx

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Kittendreams it's scientifically proven that xx and xy sperm swim the same speed. Just remember that shettles was looking at uncapacitated sperm as xy sperm and capacitated as xx. Based on that alone shows he simply did not have the technology to understand what he was seeing. The amount of shettles opposites would be close, equal or more than the amount of hoped for gender as his theory really amounts to nothing more than pot luck. The reason its so hard to dismiss is because its was the only gender sway technique around for such a long time and therefore everyone had heard of it...

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Thank you as always Pbn
I have so much pressure from my mum to use shettles as she got three girls with it I'm just too scared to even tell her I'm pregnant because she will ask about the timing and tell me it's another boy. I feel sick that I'm so obsessed with this when a healthy baby is all I should be worried about. I hate that I am so ungrateful for my boys. I just hope when the time comes I'm at peace either way.

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Thank you so much for taking the time to calm me down abc especially when you have far more things to worry about xxx you are so kind xx

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No problem! :) Apparently the theme of this due date board so far is all about taking turns calming each other down with all of our various freak outs :) :) :) So you're in the perfect place!

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Thank you as always Pbn
I have so much pressure from my mum to use shettles as she got three girls with it I'm just too scared to even tell her I'm pregnant because she will ask about the timing and tell me it's another boy. I feel sick that I'm so obsessed with this when a healthy baby is all I should be worried about. I hate that I am so ungrateful for my boys. I just hope when the time comes I'm at peace either way.

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Gosh that bugs me when people think they have the answers... I wouldn't tell her until you know gender. Also you are not ungrateful for your boys!! That sounds like what people say to try and guilt you into feeling you should be thankful for what you have. Well of course you are thankful!!!!! Doesn't mean you're not allowed to dream and hope for more!! "At least you have your boys, think of the people that cant have kids" was said to me by my mum after my losses which pissed me off no end at the time. I know she meant well and was not sure what to say but people need to understand that sometimes when you don't know what to say it probably means you should say nothing at all lol. So hope away kittendreams! We know you love and are grateful for what you have and completely understand your hopes and dreams of adding some pink to your cherished family [emoji173]

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That's great Cassidy!!! Sounds like things are going well so far!!

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Gosh that bugs me when people think they have the answers... I wouldn't tell her until you know gender. Also you are not ungrateful for your boys!! That sounds like what people say to try and guilt you into feeling you should be thankful for what you have. Well of course you are thankful!!!!! Doesn't mean you're not allowed to dream and hope for more!! "At least you have your boys, think of the people that cant have kids" was said to me by my mum after my losses which pissed me off no end at the time. I know she meant well and was not sure what to say but people need to understand that sometimes when you don't know what to say it probably means you should say nothing at all lol. So hope away kittendreams! We know you love and are grateful for what you have and completely understand your hopes and dreams of adding some pink to your cherished family [emoji173]

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That's why we are not telling anyone I'm pregnant until we know the gender- I'm not strong enough to bear the judgement this time.

Thank you again Pbn you are such a gem xxx

I am so anxious guys. I can't keep obsessing over that 2 day delay in growth, and also that I'm supposed to wean off prednisone at 10 weeks (which would be this Thursday). I did research and found way too many women for my comfort level that lost babies after weaning :(
And it's frustrating, because I don't HAVE anything diagnosed for the pred. It was just a "kitchen sink" approach. And I'm on a low enough dose that supposedly I'm not even getting the benefits!! So I feel trapped if I do, trapped if I don't!

DH wasn't helpful when I expressed my anxiety and just snapped at me for "worrying about nothing and everything is fine, you heard the midwife." Worrying about nothing?? From the guy who was telling me not to get attached to most of the last 8 pregnancies!
I think I'm also just anxious because he's about to be out of town for almost 2 weeks, which he does often -- but hasn't during this pregnancy. And he just told me apparently a bunch of his family are coming home during the summer, so my plans of just avoiding people and not mentioning the pregnancy until we're way passed viability seem to be disappearing... but part of me is also so frustrated and sad that I can't just have a happy announcement when they're all here. I feel like just thinking about it is jinxing it!

I'm sorry TP as I have no ideas on how to deal with the stress and uncertainty other than take it day by day (which is so unhelpful I know [emoji17]) We never told anyone until after my 12w scan & nipt results (which I cant believe costs so much where you are [emoji50][emoji50][emoji50], I thought $500'ish I paid was expensive!) except for my mum who guessed. I asked her not to talk about it as I measured behind on my dating scan and in my mind the heart rate was too low and I was pretty sure it wouldn't end well. She respected my wishes thankfully. I just wish you could all be in the 2nd trimester already with your 12w scans behind you showing bub is thriving!!!! I know that is still not 100% but it is better than the 50% or less you're all feeling now....

TP I really don't know how to deal either, but I'll tell you what my DH keeps telling me (because obviously I'm very anxious as well!): It's natural to be stressed with everything you've gone through, but the level of fear and stress you have is also not good for you or the baby. Maybe try to shift your some of your focus from being stressed about if things are OK to trying to be more relaxed because being relaxed will be GOOD for baby - it's what the baby needs right now. De-stressing, taking care of yourself, distraction, etc. will probably do as much or more good for you and the baby as the Prednisone! Please don't take this as me lecturing you (which I would have NO right to do b/c I feel like a complete nut right now and need calming down all the time!). Mentally, I'm telling myself all these same things but I understand it's easier to talk to yourself and tell yourself what you SHOULD be doing than to actually do it! :)

I was worried about my blood test all day today but I went out and spent time with my kids at the museum and it really helped get my mind off things (at least until I got home and started obsessing about the nurse's phone call LOL!). But it was actually quite nice to have several hours of really not even thinking much about the pregnancy or the betas or anything - so I guess that'll be one of my strategies moving forward: DISTRACT DISTRACT DISTRACT! :) :)

I think if you feel like you should get a repeat scan to check growth you should try to do it. But I really really don't think 2 days is at all worrisome at this point - it's such a small difference and baby's heartbeat is SO good! AND... probably the best thing you have going for you right now is that you're getting so much closer to the end of the first trimester and your risk of miscarriage with a strong heartbeat at this point has already plummeted so low!! Man I would love to be at 9 weeks with a strong heartbeat right now! :) :)

As far as the Prednisone... Is there a specialist you can talk to about it? A high risk OB, an RE, etc? Maybe you need to get more advice on whether/how you should wean off.

So sorry TP you have been through so much I just want you to have peace and have your beautiful healthy baby here to hold at last! I have no advice about the medication I am so not experienced with medical practices but as for anxiety around telling family I think you should only have to tell them when you are ready to. Can you hide it until the 2nd trimester? I am planning to do that although I have no idea how I am going to do it!

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TP I really don't know how to deal either, but I'll tell you what my DH keeps telling me (because obviously I'm very anxious as well!): It's natural to be stressed with everything you've gone through, but the level of fear and stress you have is also not good for you or the baby. Maybe try to shift your some of your focus from being stressed about if things are OK to trying to be more relaxed because being relaxed will be GOOD for baby - it's what the baby needs right now. De-stressing, taking care of yourself, distraction, etc. will probably do as much or more good for you and the baby as the Prednisone! Please don't take this as me lecturing you (which I would have NO right to do b/c I feel like a complete nut right now and need calming down all the time!). Mentally, I'm telling myself all these same things but I understand it's easier to talk to yourself and tell yourself what you SHOULD be doing than to actually do it! :)

I was worried about my blood test all day today but I went out and spent time with my kids at the museum and it really helped get my mind off things (at least until I got home and started obsessing about the nurse's phone call LOL!). But it was actually quite nice to have several hours of really not even thinking much about the pregnancy or the betas or anything - so I guess that'll be one of my strategies moving forward: DISTRACT DISTRACT DISTRACT! :) :)

I think if you feel like you should get a repeat scan to check growth you should try to do it. But I really really don't think 2 days is at all worrisome at this point - it's such a small difference and baby's heartbeat is SO good! AND... probably the best thing you have going for you right now is that you're getting so much closer to the end of the first trimester and your risk of miscarriage with a strong heartbeat at this point has already plummeted so low!! Man I would love to be at 9 weeks with a strong heartbeat right now! :) :)

As far as the Prednisone... Is there a specialist you can talk to about it? A high risk OB, an RE, etc? Maybe you need to get more advice on whether/how you should wean off.

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Great advice abc that is my only coping mechanism- distraction and keeping busy with the boys. I find seeing joy on their faces makes everything bad fade away xx

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Originally Posted by Pbn3

I'm sorry TP as I have no ideas on how to deal with the stress and uncertainty other than take it day by day (which is so unhelpful I know [emoji17]) We never told anyone until after my 12w scan & nipt results (which I cant believe costs so much where you are [emoji50][emoji50][emoji50], I thought $500'ish I paid was expensive!) except for my mum who guessed. I asked her not to talk about it as I measured behind on my dating scan and in my mind the heart rate was too low and I was pretty sure it wouldn't end well. She respected my wishes thankfully. I just wish you could all be in the 2nd trimester already with your 12w scans behind you showing bub is thriving!!!! I know that is still not 100% but it is better than the 50% or less you're all feeling now....

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Is the generation test a good one Pbn? It is $395 here in Qld so a bit more affordable than the $500 the nipt was going to cost with ds2.

Kittendreams I'm in Qld and went with generation and it cost more than that as I opted for the extended testing (to include rarer disorders but risk increases with age). Plus the price had just gone up to [emoji30] $395 is what I remembered for the base testing and *think* I paid another $150 on top for extra...

Holy crap kittendreams!! I just checked and the testing I had done is now $695 [emoji50][emoji50] That has increased heaps!! I'm sure we didn't pay that much! Will have to check with hubby [emoji848]