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My DH is 37 now and he's still at it...Probably no hope for your DH, lol.Quote:
Originally Posted by Jamie86
I'm wondering if I can flash my boobs and DH to get him in bed while we're TTC...??? I may have to try it as long as the kids aren't in the room (although DS2 sees my boobs about 8x a day anyway...).
I've tried the boobs thing trying to show him how silly he looked doing that randomly but he thought it was great and decided it was "nap time" for the kids so I definitely think it's a good plan when TTC.Quote:
Originally Posted by Out of the Blue
Yes that'll do it! We think it's silly when our DH's do it but they think it's a come on when treated to the same thing!!
Why do men think they can turn us on by flashing us? Honestly, there's nothing uglier than a man's penis - remember that Seinfeld episode about 'good naked' and 'bad naked'? :rofl:
:rofl: Bwaaaaah, haaaaa, haaaa!!! On a sidenote, I really miss Seinfeld...:(Quote:
Originally Posted by Mochagirl
Me too - it was one of the best shows ever.Quote:
Originally Posted by Out of the Blue
Haha DH and I talk about that episode a lot sometimes in the middle of doing something (usually that would obviously look terrible if naked) we will say "do you think this would be good naked or bad naked?"Quote:
Originally Posted by Mochagirl
Haha yeah ladies!!
Very funny Mocha!
I feel so happy that I'm not the only wife whose gotten blinded by flash of a penis at a random time! Esp. a not hard penis...sorry for TMI!! hahah
And Zan, my first son loves to randomly flash his wanker at us, then giggle about it...my husband gets gruffy and says "put that thing away" makes my son laugh harder. Can't wait for second son to start doing it /sarcasm
....and back to our reguarly scheduled programming.....
Ladybug, welcome to the 2WW!
:luck: Good Luck :luck:
Zan-Congrats on your baby girl-you must be through the moon!!
So I'm not sure if this is a good place to put this but I really need a place to have a little vent. I normally don't vent about my DH because he is a wonderful husband and father but I'm feeling a little annoyed and want to know if I'm being ridiculous (and don't worry you can be honest). My husband plays golf every saturday and usually once during the week because he works 6am-230pm and there is still a pretty good amount of time to play. This last week because it has been raining and he is working outside he didn't have to work monday (my in laws watched the kids and went Christmas shopping) and then every other day he got off early. Yesterday he asked if I minded if he went and played golf (he loves golf and will play in the rain) and gold a haircut and I said no problem. Well the golf course decided to close due to the rain so instead he went to a golf store and hit balls in the simulator and then got his hair cut and got home 1.5-2 hours before the kids went to bed. I'm basically saying all this to say it's not like he has had very little free time recently other wise I might not be upset.
Well late last night I found out I passed my final section of the CPA exam YAY! I feel like he just doesn't understand how big of an accomplishment this is and doesn't' even try to. Today he texted me at 10am saying he was thinking of playing golf after work but would see how things were when he got off. He came home for a few and made it very clear that he was just going to be in one of those pouty moods (he wasn't angry just pouty) if he didn't get to go. I said he could do what he wanted and I know I should communicate with him why it bothered me and he's going to say I should have just told him but am I wrong for being upset that it didn't even occur to him 1st of all that I had been home with the kids all day yesterday without him while he went out and 2nd that today was kind of a "special" day and it would be nice to get some acknowledgement.
Again I'm sorry if you girls don't want me to put this type of stuff in here I'll be more than happy to take it off but I just wanted to get it out and maybe get some opinions.
I'm with you on all of that Jamie - it's good to have an outside interest but there has to be a balance with family time. My DH is rarely home until just before or after the children have gone to bed but that's because he's working. I would be so cross if it was because he was doing something for pleasure!!
Yeah DH has been blessed with wonderful work hours that allow for him to help a lot with the kids and he is usually really good about it. And he is a very good golfer who has a dream of playing in bigger tournaments than the ones he currently competes in. I guess that is one of the main reason I am so upset, I am very supportive of his dream that many would not be supportive of but he doesn't acknowledge my accomplishments and my dream beyond a "good job babe."Quote:
Originally Posted by zanacal
But also hats off to you as well as so many other ladies because I think I might go crazy if DH was working that long each day.
Oh I'm definitely crazy!! I too forgot to say a big congratulations on passing your exams! What is the subject?
In the summer I sometimes feel like a single parent because my dh works all day then plays in two different baseball leagues that amount to about 3-5 evening games (often over supper/bedtime) a week. I definitely get annoyed!
It was my last section of the CPA exam, there are 4 sections and I have previously (in the last few months) passed the other 3 and I just passed the audit section. So now after gaining enough working hours I will be a certified public accountant.Quote:
Originally Posted by zanacal
I understand that last spring dh decided to play in a softball league as well as 2 gold leagues and had a class he was taking for work one night a week until 9pm. I thought I was going to go nuts!Quote:
Originally Posted by Mochagirl
Jamie~ First, I think this is a great place to "vent" and I think I can speak for everyone and say that no one would want you to tale it down! 2nd- HUGE CONGRATS..thats quite an exam what a great accomplishment. You should be very proud. I think we all have different tolerance levels and it seems that often DH's need more relaxation and can tolerate more if they get it. That being said I think your needs of wanting celebration, recognition, and consideration are just as important. We are more likely to get our needs met when we meet others needs. But you need to let others know what your needs are!! If that makes sense!
I didn't know what CPA was because I'm in the UK! I'm an Accountant too and I did my studying and exams whilst working full time - I have no idea how I'd ever do it with young children! That's a great achievement and definitely worth celebrating :D
I always forget to look where others live when I'm on message boards. Yes I knew it would be incredibly difficult to do it with the children and while working so I decided to do it in this time in my life before I started working full time. I actually worked last tax season part time and will be starting a paid internship in January. I guess I'm a little frustrated because no one in my life seems to understand how difficult it was and I'm being a little childish and just wanting some recognition.Quote:
Originally Posted by zanacal
That does make sense and I definitely know I should have told him. I'm just having now of those moments where I wish he showed me he was proud of me without me having to tell him to. A couple weeks ago he tied for 1st place in a golf tournament and gave all his winnings to the charity that sponsored the event and I told everyone who would listen and I was just kind of hoping for a little of the same (although I know it's a little silly).Quote:
Originally Posted by HopeandDreamG
HUGE CONGRATS ON YOUR BABY GIRL ZANACAL.......:)
you must be so thrilled......!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am dannikins, thank you!
Congrats Jamie that is a huge accomplishment !And i think you have to tell him how u feel and spell it out what and how you want him to react because men need you to do that he probably doesnt even know you are bothered,i think most men like to be told ?IMO but thats just me i always say i am upset if i am ,,probably should keep more in:)Quote:
Originally Posted by Jamie86
Congratulations Jamie - I hope you go out and celebrate properly!
Zana - eee!! you lucky thing, does it feel real yet?? :)
AFM - guess I'll be a regular back in here again.... restarting the diet today ready to TTC in Jan, although there are a lot of new babies around lately so I'm feeling broody and we might crumble and have an attempt in a few weeks should I OV around Christmas ;) would only have been on the diet around 3 weeks, but I just have a good feeling.
congrats, Jamie!! Wooohooooo! Way to go!!
At what point can you consider spotting af? I'm getting such mixed signals right now and I don't know whether yesterday was CD1 or whether I'm still in the 2WW. As you all know, I've had spotting pretty much through my whole LP - the spotting's always been brown, appears in the morning, and is gone by afternoon. Yesterday I had my normal brown spotting in the morning, then it stopped to be replaced by bright red spotting in the afternoon. There was even a small gush that soaked my liner. It continued red into the evening, then tapered back to brown, and only when I wiped. My cramps were TERRIBLE all day. This morning I woke up to nothing on my pad but very scant brown spotting when I checked my cervix. Then, about an hour later another small gush of bright red - it feels like enough that I need to wear a normal pad. I'm on CD26, which is on the early side for af for me, though not unprecedented.
Here's the weird part - I was hoping my temp would go down today to signal that af had started, but it went UP. Now, it was a strange night where I woke up to pee at 5 thinking it was something more like 2 (otherwise I would have taken my temp then) and ended up waking for the day 45 minutes later and took my temp. Do you think that quick jaunt to the bathroom 45 minutes was enough to raise my temp?
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If this is af, would I consider yesterday or today CD1? As I said, the red blood yesterday tapered off and turned brown before becoming red again this morning.
Jamie, vent away! That’s what this thread is for…basically everything! Personally, I’d be ticked too, even if I hadn’t just passed my CPA exam! That’s quite an accomplishment on your part! When you’re feeling like you can have a good conversation w/DH, let him know how you feel. I hope he’ll understand. :HH: Sometimes guys can be kind of, ummm, let’s just say “thick”. They can’t pick up on the nonverbal (and sometimes verbal) signs we’re giving. My DH leaves at 06:30 and is gone until 7 or later most days. It’s tough and some days, I am just ready to either explode or fall asleep on the couch b/c my days are so exhausting. His days are beyond exhausting too, though. Neither of us get much alone time.
sweetsister, I'm loving that ticker...:cheer: Are you actually going to wait 5 more days to test???
Mocha - for "normal" cycles you need to ask yourself: do you need to use a towel or liner? If you don't, it's just spotting... BUT saying that, if you had retained tissue it might not be AF either, it could be the retained tissue breaking down or coming out. When my AF returned it was definitely heavier and redder than the spotting had been, but was still quite light flow compared to my normal AFs.
you're right that your temp being higher indicates it's not AF, but it is possible to get AF whilst temps are still high above coverline
unfortunately with this being your first cycle it might be nothing like any of your other cycles ever have been and the next few might be very different too.
Yes...do join us here, even if you're not ready to TTC. We seem to have a lot of fun on this thread!Quote:
Originally Posted by rainbowflower
I'm exciting for you to TTC and I say do what feels right at the time...if it seems right, go for it! A sway is a sway...even Atomic says that you don't necessarily have to be on the diet 6 wks before it sways! :)
thank you :) I'm actually only 3lbs heavier than I was at my lowest (6 weeks ago) and don't have much to lose anyway so perhaps the 6 weeks on the diet before TTC would be too long anyway. Talking myself into this aren't I? ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by Out of the Blue
Mocha, ditto on everything rainbow said...it's just so hard to tell w/this cycle for you. FWIW, I've done temping tests a few times b/c I was curious; I would wake up, take my temp, go pee, jump back in bed for an hr(ish), take my temp again and it would be either the exact same temp or something very close. Read into that what you will. Also, as you know, I'm still hopeful for you...:HH:
That's GREAT! If it were me, I would go for it, especially if you feel good about it!Quote:
Originally Posted by rainbowflower
Rainbow, it would be awesome of you to join us!!
Mocha, your body is giving you confusing signs! The bleeding but then the temp being up....confusing, imo! Hang in there, sweetie!
Jamie, I would be pissed too! My husband likes to play his stupid xbox game "modern warfare 3" and sometimes he carries on his headset and laughs like he's a 20 yer old with nothing better to do. I'm like really? you're a grown 33 year old man with two kids! /hugs, vent away, that's what we're here for! to support and love each other!
rainbowflower: I agree with Jen - if you feel good about having an attempt after only 3 weeks on the diet, go for it! It's nice to have you back as a swaying companion :HH:
My flow is definitely enough for at least a liner - I actually have a proper pad on right now because yesterday I soaked a liner when I had that gush. If it weren't for all this m/c business and the resulting questioning of every sign my body's giving me, I would have put a tampon in yesterday when I had that gush of blood and considered it a light flow and CD1. It's only because I've been spotting contantly and have no idea what's going on that I'm questioning it. I'm also a tampon girl, so I have no idea what a 'light' flow looks like on a pad (sorry if that sounds gross). The pad I've been wearing (a 'regular' thin maxi) has been on for maybe an hour and has definite red blood on it - not drops but a thick red line (soooo sorry for the TMI visual)
My doctor called today to check in on me and wondered why I hadn't booked that follow-up u/s he gave me the requisition for. I explained that I find it emotionally draining to go there and be surrounded by happy pregnant women, so he said he'd look into trying to book me somewhere that doesn't specialize in pregnancies. He also said he could order another blood test for me. I was really hoping to not have another u/s (barring any complications) until I'm pregnant again. Do you think I should follow through and have these tests? Will they be able to tell me anything I don't know already? I'm really sick of being poked and prodded....
Oh, and Jen - I love the idea of temp experiments! I've always wondered myself if getting up in the night changes your temp - like any mom of multiple young children, I'm ALWAYS up several times in the night.
I think if my temp is up again tomorrow I'll use a FRER. I'll be 9dpo, so a BFP wouldn't be unheard of, especially if the spotting that started on 5dpo was IB. I've been scouring charts on FF and also reading symptoms on twoweekwait.com (check out all the BFPs who had lots of spotting/bleeding BFP with Spotting | www.twoweekwait.com) and I'm seeing that it's POSSIBLE, though quite rare to get a BFP with this much blood. I'd be more hopeful if it weren't for the bright red blood. I'm also super cranky today, and just generally feel like I normally do when I have my period. I realised that I'm CD26 today, which is completely within my 'normal' range to get af.
WARNING…THIS POST MAY BE TMI!!!
OMG…Last night during our attempt, DS1 (3.5 yrs) burst in as DH was just starting to come. AHHHHHHHH!!!!!! We have one of those kid-proof door handles but DH apparently hadn’t latched the door. DS must have heard us (insert noises here, lol), saw the door ajar and then BOOM!!! Poor DH…he couldn’t stop as he was just starting but far enough along he couldn’t do anything about it. DS couldn’t stop looking and started climbing on the bed. AHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!! I know this has happened to most of you out there but we never thought it would happen to us last night, especially like that (as DH was just starting to make his deposit). AHHHHHHHHHH!!!!! DH tried to finish up as best as he could and then went into the bathroom. DS kept saying, “Mama, what are you doing?...What was Dada doing?” He knew he’d seen something forbidden and had this big smirk on his face. I think it opened up a whole new world in his head and he was just fixated on all this new stuff he’d seen and wanted to see more of what Mama and Dada did alone in the bedroom, lol.
After DH put him back to bed again, he kept knocking on the door (which was now closed and very much kid-proof) wanting to talk about what happened and asking us to explain it to his turtle puppet. AHHHHHH!!!!!! WTH???? AHHHHHHH!!!!! Finally, he went to bed! Then this morning when I was dropping him off at school, he brought me up to his teacher and started to say, “Last night, Mama…bla, bla, bla…” I couldn’t quite make it out and started to panic. It turns out he was just telling her that last night, I couldn’t find his monkey scarf to wear in the morning. AHHHHHHHHHH!!!!! I really hope he forgets about this otherwise when he’s older, he’ll be saying “I saw Mama and Dada making my sister”, lol. Please tell me he’ll forget about this…!!!
you ladies are so nice :)
I've done that too - often I'd get up, BF my DS, and get back in bed and my temp wouldn't have changed. Also it doesn't seem to vary much even if I'm in a light sleep and rolling around. Thirdly it also doesn't seem to change much even if I go downstairs and back up again!
Mocha - how much are private early pregnancy scans where you are? Perhaps you should have this ultrasound now to know what is happening to your retained tissue, to measure your lining thickness (and perhaps to look at your ovaries)
and then book a self-funded early scan when you do get your BFP anyway?