DUE OCT /NOV /December 2019

Oh Bobster, I feel you! If someone told me now based on a scan that I was expecting a girl I'd probably go back for another good look every week or so! :) However, I'm absolutely convinced you are indeed pregnant with a girl and I hope you're able to trust this info soon!

@MrsSparkles - Well, yes, being suspended IS hard, but this breach of privacy was pretty nasty too! Has the meeting happened yet? I think the tech will get a written warning or something that goes into her file and then she'll probably be allowed to return to work. Don't worry too much now. I'm still sorry you didn't get the amazing, very happy news that you're expecting your girl in a nicer fashion.

I'm somewhat troubled at the moment. Being team green and bonding with this baby as a boy - because SO MANY THINGS SWAYED BLUE FOR ME THE MONTH I CONCEIVED and this HAS to be another boy - has helped tremendously and I'm actually looking forward to giving my son a little brother. Well, I was. Until recently when two women on 2 different occasions predicted I was carrying a girl. Both (they don't know each other) claimed they were really good at that and basically always right. The first one I suspected of simply sensing my gender desire (although I always put serious effort into NOT conveying it!), but the second one told my sister without even seeing me in person!! (She knows me from previous occasions.) The thing is, she correctly predicted my sister's baby was a boy - when nobody, not even my sister herself knew yet. I don't know about her other predictions / successes, but of course that got me thinking. The thing is, I didn't ask any of them for their guesses or opinions and I was perfectly happy with my team green suspected baby boy!!! And now, all of a sudden, although I worked so hard to not let this happen, I feel this might actually be a girl after all and my old gender desire has come back full force, and I don't think being team green is a good idea anymore - because I have my hopes up sky high and if it is a boy, I'll be terribly, terribly sad and disappointed at birth!! So... should I find out the gender? I have another ultrasound next week. Oh man, this is an ugly situation. :(

@WelcomeBaby I just wanted to pop on and let you know that you're not alone! I'm team green as well but it's so hard if you've invested time in swaying. I'm so looking forward to the surprise at birth. But along the way, the random predictions and scans make me kinda crazy! I swayed blue and this is my first baby, I didn't realize how many people offer their unsolicited opinions and guesses. I know they mean well and I know it's a 50/50 chance, but with ever prediction it always makes me wonder "what does that person know that I don't?". Lol. I think it's gonna get harder to stay team green as this little baby starts to grow and move and become "real" to me... but I've told too many people that we're not finding out so it's now become a goal that I have to achieve. I don't have any real "intuition" so far on gender, and I think my sway was pretty good but some things make me think it could go pink. Good luck w whatever you decide, can't go wrong at all... finding out gender is always a surprise, whether from an ultrasound tech or at birth, right?

Thank you for sharing you experience, bluegrey! Yes, isn't it CRAZY how all of a sudden everybody has an opinion or prediction (!!) for you! And also, as I've come to discover, sadly, a preference... as if it were THEIR baby! *rolleyes
I know the blue sways statistics on here are usually pretty good and if you feel good about your sway, I think you have every reason to be optimistic :) Congrats on your pregnancy! I'm keeping everything crossed for you that this is your boy! When are you due?

Well, you're right, finding out gender is always a surprise, and there are very good reasons for both, finding out at the u/s or waiting until birth. To my indescribable frustration, I think I have already found out :(:mad: Here's what happened: At my 20 weeks scan yesterday, I told the - very experienced - tech I didn't want to know gender and also that I would see a specialist doctor in 3 weeks' time for another very thorough u/s to detect possible birth defects (covered by health insurance because I've already given birth to an affected child). She said fine, she'll just do a 2min scan to measure head and abdominal circumference.
She did and was done in 2min like she said. Spent no time checking gender because I had told her not to bother. I never looked at the screen.
After the scan she commented on how rare being team green had become and that SHE now knew exactly what I was having (broad smile). Then she said that unfortunately she couldn't give me the 3 u/s pics (health insurance covers up to 3 printouts) because the sex was clearly visible in all of them.
I was SO CLOSE to saying "damn it, you just confirmed it's a boy, hand me the goddamn pictures" but I was too shocked and just left.
So... if you ask me, she DID confirm it's a boy. Even at 20 weeks, only boy parts are so undoubtedly clear and visible within less than 2 mins. I've never heard of a tech or even doctor, no matter how experienced, who predicted a girl after a 2min scan without even checking for gender. So I consider myself not to be team green anymore :(:sigh:

Welcome that is soooo frustrating! I can see exactly why you think that because I probably would too however I think it really depends on what angle baby is lying in when they put the probe on. If it’s any reassurance my gender scan took all of about 30 seconds if that before she said it was a girl. It was so quick. I think the baby was just at the right angle straight away.

I really can’t advise you about waiting or finding out as I don’t know what is best for you. For me personally I’ve done it both ways and I was really hoping for a girl for my first and I felt it spoilt my immediate bonding although the pregnancy was lovely and so full of excitement. The second time I was also desperate for a girl, I found out after a clear nub nub and I hated the rest of the pregnancy. Felt depressed in fact and scared I wouldn’t love him, however I bonded instantly and fell madly in love (with hugeeee relief). I think whichever way you do it it’s going to be hard in one way or another if it’s an opposite. This time the gender scan was so special as hubby really knew what it meant to me and I cried, he cried, we went shopping straight after so it was amazingly special even though we didn’t have that suspended surprise at birth and I’m so glad I’ve not spent the whole pregnancy worrying/wondering/obsessing. If it had gone the other way though I know i would have felt depressed again so it’s really hard to know what is the best way to do it. Personally I hate the torture of waiting to know and obsessional wondering.

welcome - thank you. we're due 12/6. it's gonna be a long 19+ weeks. we are getting lots of pink guesses
i think that's pretty unprofessional of the tech... to flaunt that she KNEW what you were having when you said you were team green?! i don't know anything about ultrasounds but it sounds like you do, i guess logically it sounds like boy parts would be easier to "spot" than girl parts so if it was super quick. that's a bummer but i will still hope for pink for you. our tech also grabbed our ultrasound pics back before she handed them over just to do a quick scan of the photos to double check that nothing was visible at our 19 week level 2 his res ultrasound.

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Originally Posted by WelcomeBaby

Thank you for sharing you experience, bluegrey! Yes, isn't it CRAZY how all of a sudden everybody has an opinion or prediction (!!) for you! And also, as I've come to discover, sadly, a preference... as if it were THEIR baby! *rolleyes
I know the blue sways statistics on here are usually pretty good and if you feel good about your sway, I think you have every reason to be optimistic :) Congrats on your pregnancy! I'm keeping everything crossed for you that this is your boy! When are you due?

Well, you're right, finding out gender is always a surprise, and there are very good reasons for both, finding out at the u/s or waiting until birth. To my indescribable frustration, I think I have already found out :(:mad: Here's what happened: At my 20 weeks scan yesterday, I told the - very experienced - tech I didn't want to know gender and also that I would see a specialist doctor in 3 weeks' time for another very thorough u/s to detect possible birth defects (covered by health insurance because I've already given birth to an affected child). She said fine, she'll just do a 2min scan to measure head and abdominal circumference.
She did and was done in 2min like she said. Spent no time checking gender because I had told her not to bother. I never looked at the screen.
After the scan she commented on how rare being team green had become and that SHE now knew exactly what I was having (broad smile). Then she said that unfortunately she couldn't give me the 3 u/s pics (health insurance covers up to 3 printouts) because the sex was clearly visible in all of them.
I was SO CLOSE to saying "damn it, you just confirmed it's a boy, hand me the goddamn pictures" but I was too shocked and just left.
So... if you ask me, she DID confirm it's a boy. Even at 20 weeks, only boy parts are so undoubtedly clear and visible within less than 2 mins. I've never heard of a tech or even doctor, no matter how experienced, who predicted a girl after a 2min scan without even checking for gender. So I consider myself not to be team green anymore :(:sigh:

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I am an ultrasound tech and actually when you are experienced scanning it is easy to see the gender almost immediately after starting the exam when the baby is in the right position regardless of if baby is a boy or a girl, it is a big misconception that boys are more "obvious" because to a trained tech both boy and girl parts are easy to distinguish.
I'm sorry your feeling so upset about it though, maybe it would make you feel better just to find out the gender for sure at your next ultrasound and see the image for yourself?

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Originally Posted by Bobster

Welcome that is soooo frustrating! I can see exactly why you think that because I probably would too however I think it really depends on what angle baby is lying in when they put the probe on. If it’s any reassurance my gender scan took all of about 30 seconds if that before she said it was a girl. It was so quick. I think the baby was just at the right angle straight away.

I really can’t advise you about waiting or finding out as I don’t know what is best for you. For me personally I’ve done it both ways and I was really hoping for a girl for my first and I felt it spoilt my immediate bonding although the pregnancy was lovely and so full of excitement. The second time I was also desperate for a girl, I found out after a clear nub nub and I hated the rest of the pregnancy. Felt depressed in fact and scared I wouldn’t love him, however I bonded instantly and fell madly in love (with hugeeee relief). I think whichever way you do it it’s going to be hard in one way or another if it’s an opposite. This time the gender scan was so special as hubby really knew what it meant to me and I cried, he cried, we went shopping straight after so it was amazingly special even though we didn’t have that suspended surprise at birth and I’m so glad I’ve not spent the whole pregnancy worrying/wondering/obsessing. If it had gone the other way though I know i would have felt depressed again so it’s really hard to know what is the best way to do it. Personally I hate the torture of waiting to know and obsessional wondering.

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Wow, Bobster, thank you for sharing your story. This is beautiful, I'm very moved and very happy that you did fall in love with your second son and that you're getting your girl now. I'm sure that very soon you'll look back and think that you ended up with exactly the family that's perfect for you, even though you suffered bad GD for a while (and didn't know back then you'd be having a daughter next). All the best for the remainder of your pregnancy! :heart:

Yes, it will probably feel like a super long time, but I found that not knowing gender did help me bond with the baby a lot. I hope it's the same for you! And DO NOT trust any guesses from anybody. I've consulted 2 "psychic" websites and they both told me girl! Haha!
Good to know that your tech double checked your pics too. Seems like the responsible thing to do because they can't know how proficient you may be at interpreting the tiniest clues. Thank you for holding out hope for me! I'm due in Dec too, but I realized I've gone back to obsessing too much (I mean... "psychic" websites!!?? what possessed me??) and will find out at the next scan, just to protect my sanity. I will definitely be back for an update!

OMG SummerHope, thank you so much for your opinion and experience as a tech yourself. The baby was moving around a lot so there's every chance it was in the right position several times. And yes, you're right, I'm too upset over this and will find out gender at the next u/s. I feel at this point it would be much healthier to be told boy but be able to move forward emotionally than to allow my obsession and GD to ruin my pregnancy.
Your signature looks like you swayed pink too and haven't found out gender yet - I'll be thinking of you in December and I hope you're having a girl!! :)

Glad you’ve come to a decision welcome. When will your next scan be?

Summer did you have another scan yet? I didn’t know you were a tech. I’m freaking out that my gender scan was wrong from 16 weeks. Do you know what the chance is of a wrong result at that stage? They said girl at 20 weeks too but she only looked for about 10 seconds and said to keep receipts and tags on things just in case which made me doubt her...