Aww lucky you! It's still -5 all weekend here and Monday will be 12 degrees but raining! I can't wait for nice weather
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Aww lucky you! It's still -5 all weekend here and Monday will be 12 degrees but raining! I can't wait for nice weather
I just want a little advice... My little cousin is 16 and just found out she is pregnant about 12 weeks they think... Now I did the whole 16 and pregnant thing myself and I survived iPod I have been very supportive I told her she will do great and congratulated her.. (something that I never got with my first preg) anyways my aunt got preg when she was 16 and it ended being a tubal and she was never able to have kids they tried ivf several times so they adopted my two cousins... Now my preg cousin has struggled With the fact that she was given away and she hates her birth mother for doing it so she is dead against adoption and she has told me this and I don't know if she has told her mom... But my mom just called saying that she is going to try and pressure her into it... What should I do!? My mom never once brought up adoption when I was 16 thank god! Should I talk to my cousin so she expects what's coming? I don't want to over step tho and my aunt to be mad at me but this is serious right? I don't like that she is going to be pressured to do this and I don't want to know that's what is going to happen and not let her know
Oh man that's a rough one!! I'm sorry! I would talk to your cousin about your experience and to be supportive. The thing that is MOST important is what will be best for the baby! I am supportive of adoption if that is what is best! I strongly believe however that the baby should stay with his/her birth mom IF there is a stable nurturing environment. The best you do is support her and relate to her through your own experiences but ultimately it's her decision on what she wants to do! You are a good aunt!
Can you take her out for something to eat - I know it's hard with the kids - and just gently say that you'll support her no matter what she decides? That all of her options are hard and that it's important she give herself time to work through them and that you're there to listen to her while she's deciding.Quote:
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Good luck Thorz!
I've been out of town for the last week.. Trying to catch up on everyone. So excited for the upcoming scans. Good luck Thorz & WAG!!!
Am I the only one that has no clue when I will be finding out the gender?? (Besides those who are team green) I have an appointment next week, but they didn't mention anything about having an ultrasound. Tbh, I'm ok with waiting because I'm terrified to find out. I hate that feeling! I try to think about the baby as a boy and I feel like I would be ok... but who knows how I will really react.
You can have our nice weather - its 35 degrees C here but its well into Autum!! Im sooooo over this loooooooong HOT summer we've had now for 6 months, I get so hot and bothered in pregnancy and just wish for slightly cooler weather so Im not sweltering everytime I go out with the kids... I become rather grumpy! hahaQuote:
Originally Posted by Wanting-a-girl
I think I would talk to her and let her know that you are there for her and that you will support her in whatever decision she makes. I don't think that anyone should be pressuring her into a decision. She needs to make the best educated decision for her and the baby. She is the one that is going to have to live with the decision long term. If she regrets a decision that anyone pressures her into she is likely to resent the person/people who pressured her into it. Just let her know that you have been in her shoes and that if she has questions or needs advice you are there for her to listen and talk to.Quote:
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Thorz can't wait for your update tomorrow!!
I feel like I'm falling so behind with this thread. It's been a busy week with all the kids home for Spring Break but I love the fun and craziness. I'm going to miss my older guys when they go back to school next week.
Diva- I'm so glad your little man is healthy and there was no sign of the valve issue. He's already a cutie!
Thorz- Sorry to hear about your poor little DS3, glad he's feeling better now! Now all of our little guys need to behave and stop getting sick! Can't wait for your scan tomorrow, it's nice to have someone in my same time zone for easier stalking lol.
WAG- I agree it would be nice for you to share your own experience so that she can see all sides of the situiation before making any decisions. That's such a tough spot.
Salsa- You have quite the willpower, I'm impressed! I had considered staying team green but I knew with ll the dozens of scans I would be having that I'd never make it until birth without peeking.
Okay ladies I could really use your opinions, experience, advice, thoughts, etc. DH and I really got into it tonight over when his Mom is going to come out to see the baby. I am scheduled for a C-section on a Friday so he wants his Mom to fly out and stay with us the Wednesday before the baby is born until ??? Probably at least two weeks after the baby is born. I really like his Mom however, my Mom is in town and I would prefer my Mom being with me (if I need someone) after the baby is born to help out with the kids while I recover from my C-section. I tried to explain to DH that I would be most comfortable with my own Mom being the one that is around while I am post C-section, in my pajamas, waiting for my milk to come in, hoping my incision doesn't get infected, boobs hanging out, bleeding like a stuck pig, hormonal crying, hair in knots, sleep deprived hot mess!! I like his Mom a lot however, I don't want to have to worry about her comfort, I want to worry about mine and the baby. DH is making me feel like a selfish bi*ch for wanting her to come out two weeks after the baby is born. He even went as far as saying "well then I will tell her not to come out at all then".
WTF?? Am I missing something?? It it normal for the MIL to come and stay with you before until after the baby is born?? Please give me some insight on this... I don't understand why it is a big deal that she waits and comes out two weeks after the baby is born and I am feeling a little more human. I know for a fact it is NOT her that is pushing to come out before the baby is born. I know that she even knew that we were fighting about this that she would completely understand about this and would gladly come out two weeks after the baby was born. She is always more than accommodating and understanding (sometimes too accommodating and understanding). This is 100% coming from my DH. Has anyone else had this experience? What would you tell DH if he was insisting his Mom come for when the baby is born until after the baby is born?
Had my 20 week scan today and the baby is measuring completely normal and is still a girl:) I feel like I can breath a little easier and relax until the baby is born!
I'd say no. DH's mother and grandmother came out for three weeks immediately after DD3 was born and although they were helpful and lovely it was just too much for me. I'd had my first section and they were practically very helpful but the extra strain of guests was just too much. I'd have rather had beans on toast for tea and piles of washing than the extra effort of guests at a time when I'm most vulnerable (tired/hormonal).Quote:
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All going well I should have a normal delivery this time but even if I don't I'm insisting on at least two weeks of no guests (this actually includes my mum as well) so we can regroup as a family.
WantingPink is your DH going to take time off after the delivery? The first moments with a new baby are precious and you dont want other people to interfere. Can your DH look after you for a while and have guests to help out when he is back to work?
I am pro two weeks of no staying guests idea as Mum to 3 girls suggested and also from my own experience. That could be a compromise for both sides of the family.
Good luck Thorz today! How many hours now?
Was Elements having her anatomy scan this week?
WantingPink - I can completely understand, its my mum that pushed to be there when DS1 was born and as he was 8 days late it was very hard work! This time they'll book flights for about a month after. My MIL only lives 3 miles away but doesn't interfere unless asked. I would be saying no to MIL and perhaps a just have mum there for 7-10 days after if you need her help.
Why not compromise and say your mum one week after birth, then MIL one week after that?
On a different note, I'm off for 9 days now. Going to hopefully be relaxing in some sunshine and good homely Spanish food (not where I grew up but my country!). I'll probably post occasionally, and definitely want to put a bump photo on with me in my maxi dress as I look huge!!
Good luck with all the scans everyone!!!
Enjoy the time off Northern!!
Good morning ladies, just over 7 hours now!! How scary!
Good luck thorz! Thinking of u! Very excited!Quote:
Originally Posted by Thorz300
Thanks for the advice ladies! I know she wants t keep the baby and totally opposed t giving it up.... I don't think it's fair for her mom to pressure her to give a baby she wants up!
About people over after a baby... NO lol I lived with my mom for my first two and now after having ds3 I see all the special moments I missed! I want to basically be alone with my babies lol even right after I had ds3 DH took him and walked into a corner that I couldnt see him lol, I was so mad!
Yay can't wait thorz please don't leave us hanging all night :)
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Good luck Thorz!! I'm just off to bed so will be looking forward to your update when I wake up tomorrow!! xx
Good Luck Thorz :)
47 1/2 hours till my u/s! I am nervous, excited, anxious! I don't care what the baby is I just can't wait to know! I was having a hard time boning with it the whole pregnancy until it started kicking and I fell in love and lost my gender desire
Thanks everyone... DH still isn't speaking to me and it is making me feel awful. DH is going to be taking at least two weeks off of work when the baby is born (maybe even more) so there shouldn't be any reason for either of our parents to be here a whole lot. That is what is making this even more frustrating. Not sure why he is so insistent on his Mom being here before until after the baby is born. I completely agree with you Mum to three girls... I don't want the added stress of the house guests. I don't want to have to go upstairs to get some privacy when feeding the baby, I don't want to have to worry about what she wants to eat and if she is comfortable in the bed and if her room is too hot or if the house is too messy. The thing that bothers me the most about all of this is that it isn't her that wants to be here, it is DH. He isn't even that close with her?? They talk maybe twice a month and it is usually something about the kids when they do talk. I think I am just really pissed at him right now for putting this added stress on me... just when I was breathing easy about having a healthy baby!! I feel like he isn't putting my needs first. Sorry to vent so much... I just don't want to talk about this to anyone IRL.
Thorz can't wait for an update!! Wanting a girl I can't wait for your update to!! I love hearing the results of all the gender scans!! So excited for the both of you!!
Ooooooo wanting pink I would be pissed too! Thats not fair what he's doing to you! I remember with ds3 my parents just coming over for an hour and I'm a pretty private person with my parent I dont share much with them cause we didn't have close relationships ever and so uncomfortable tryig to breast feed! I had a hard time breast feeding cause of my breast reduction so the added stress is not needed! I say put your foot down and make him know that its not happening... You will be caring for a baby and you don't need to worry about someone else's comforts!
Here and stalking Thorz! Good luck, hun! :)
Her scan is in 10 minutes! I wonder how long she will keep us waiting!
Stalking!!!!!
Hopefully not too much longer :-D
Anticipation is killer!
I have to go out for a little bit I'm going to miss it :(
Not necessarily. She might keep us waiting until tonight, haha. I do hope though that it's a girl, and if it's another boy, I hope she's okay... :(Quote:
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I'm back and......
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I'm still processing!!!! :(
Awe, so cute! Sorry you didn't hear girl but congratulations on a healthy little boy. Boys are awesome, so much fun!!
Thorz congrats on a healthy baby, do you have any pictures?
I'm sorry you didn't hear girl but congrats on another gorgeous boy. I do think you're very clever for making boys so easily!
Sorry you didn't hear girl Thorz but congratulations on a healthy son.
Give yourself time x