TTC Blue Crew Grads

I totally get the "how come everyone i Know has 2 kids 1 boy and 1 girl" This is me. All my friends have at least one of each and never did anything special to get it. It is so annoying to me.

DO you think there is something to "stress" and conceiving girls. I can honestly say I was SOOOO stressed when we made Ava Jean. But with this one I feel like I was way more calm, I mean who knows....If i look at my friends lives and their genders...its could make sense? Or maybe I am just making it make sense!

If you believe IG, stress sways boy because it raises testosterone. I too try to rationalize it and still believe it's all about the diet, for some I think subtle changes can make the difference for others it takes oh so much more.

I will say I don't have a ton of close friends that have a PP, when I think about my "group" I'd say half have PP and half have BB or GG. I have a group of 8 friends I'm very close to, and in that group of 8 I will be the only one with 3 kids, the rest are all 2 kid families ... but a couple do plan to add one more though; 3 is really common here. Within that group, 4 have PP. The rest either have GG or BB. So I guess half do have PP which is maybe what you'd expect in a normal population?

When I think about their diets, lifestyles, etc. I don't really see a distinct G or B vein, KWIM? The friend I spend the most time with has BB, and she is actually a very textbook girl diet .. no breakfast, diet drinks all day long, very little meat, lots of refined processed foods. But 2 boys! My 4 friends with PP the interesting thing is that all of them had a much harder time getting pregnant. Myself, 2 other GG moms, and one BB mom are all OHW! So at least in our group, lower fertility favors the PP.

OH and one other thing I've noticed among families IRL. BBG seems MUCH more common than GGB. It seems to me the 2 girl thing is harder to "beat" than the 2 boy. I know lots of GGG, extremely few GGB, but equal numbers of BBG and BBB.

Stress. I've heard both on that Tink... some say sways boy, some say sways girl. I was quite stressed when we got pg with DD1. Working a lot, traveling all week, we just bought our 1st house and were doing some construction on it. DD2 not stressed at all, and this one ... moderate. I had been worrying about something the month prior to our getting pg but in the 3-4 weeks prior to conception was super relaxed :) We had been on a great vacay to Portland, just me and DH, and I got to eat a TON and I remember thinking surely that had to be good for the sway! Anyhow, I wonder if stress in some sways blue and in others sways pink? I wonder too if depend on your reaction to stress? Like I would think someone who feels stress but a sense of control over the situation would be high T, whereas someone who feels stressed but hopeless would be more of a girl-sway-stress.

Who knows?!? It's fun to try to figure out though, isn't it? I wish I knew what to try differently if there's a next time for us, but honestly I'd probably toss it up to chance, or fate ... I can see for us at least the next one being a spontaneous what the heck let's just do it kinda thing :)

So Tink, if y'all get your son do you think you'd sway again with #3 and if so B or G?!? Love Ava Jean by the way :) Do you call her by her full name? Jean is so fresh with a 50's kinda flair to me, I dig it and you don't hear it much anymore. At least not where I live. I totally love baby naming. I guess that's one bonus to us having another girl. Boy name we had figured out, girl name I get to play with for several more months!

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Originally Posted by 3Pink1Blue

If you believe IG, stress sways boy because it raises testosterone. I too try to rationalize it and still believe it's all about the diet, for some I think subtle changes can make the difference for others it takes oh so much more.

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I agree .... I think that is what I was thinking when I mentioned in the above post about GGG being much more common than BBB, at least in our community. I can think of many more BBG families than I can GGB. Lots and lots of GGG though. Seems like it is easier for those boy makers to make a girl than us girl makers to make a boy!

B- love your thoughts on stress and being how you react. I think a lot of swaying is about changing your body which is not always an exact formula. I definitely do think it's easier for some then others.

I posted a thread in the research section but thought I'd post a link here since we were talking about stress and what it sways ... according to this study (and doesn't it seem there's always a study supporting either side?!?) it sways girl:
http://www.independent.ie/lifestyle/...s-2907895.html

Interesting views Begonia. About my Ava Jean, Her name was specifially chosen becasue Ava mean small delicate bird. In my family humingobirds are very close and dear to our hearts as my grandma loved them. So when I first got pregnant with Ava we had some complications, we lost her twin and I almost thought we were going to lose her. When I got back from my Doctors app the day they wanted to schedule a DNC, I sat in my back yard and a hummingbird flew basically right in my face. I felt it was my grandma telling me she was in there. So i didn't book the DNC, I asked them to wait a few more weeks to see a sac. They gave me an app for 2 weeks after that and sure enough there was my baby girl. I knew in that moment she would be Ava. And the Jean is a family tradition the first and or only daughter is always jean. I'm Cathy Jean, my mom is Holly Jean and so on, on and soooo on! It goes back years. I love it, and I am honored to have kept the tradition going. If we have a boy this time, I will try and sway for another boy. I have always imagined I was have 2 boys 1 girl. In that order...but I'll take 1 girl and 2 boys. If i get all girls that is gods plan and wow they will be well dressed! I have ABSOLUTELY no girl names in mine and I think we have agreed if its a boy he will be Zaine Thomas. I need to think if girl names........any ideas!

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Originally Posted by begonia

Baby, what you said about living without a son and there's nothing you can do about it so why stress ... that's a pretty great, logical attitude. I mean, you're totally right, it's not like all the wishing in the world can change it at this point so what's the point in obsessing. In general I'm not really sad about it anymore, but also I don't really see anything great about having a third girl.... I am excited to have a third child, though. So it'll all work out in time. Part of me still just can't believe this is for real! All the months of prep and hope and now it's over, and it's a girl.

With Ramzi it isn't where the baby is, it's where the placenta is developing ... they can be the same place but often aren't. Your placenta is typically the brightest white part wrapping around the uterus in the image. In mine my baby was tucked right smack in the bottom center but my placenta was on my right (left in screen/pic) and my doc confirmed that ... so for me, definitely not correct. And I *think* 3P1B said hers was on her left, which should have been girl, but obviously she's got pictures to prove it's a boy :) So I don't believe in Ramzi at all!

How're the rest of our blue crew? ELP finds out for sure on the 25th I think. Foxy when do you find out? I have my anatomy scan on the 24th, we'll see if the baby grew a penis in the last 5 weeks :rofl: We aren't finding out though; I don't want to have to tell people it's another girl without a precious baby in my arms. My good friends will be awesome about it but there are plenty of acquaintances who will say things that are unintentionally hurtful, I'm sure. I feel like an all boy family is much more socially acceptable than all girls :(

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Hun i hear about being thrilled to have a another baby but not excited about a third girl!! I tell you what, i honestly felt so much better once i told people i was having another girl. I waited for the rude comments & did get a few that upset me but it all went away soon enough so i think once you've had baby you'll feel so much better within yourself. Also DH keeps me balanced when i go off on why me talk so i think that has helped put things into perspective & i think if your DH knew he too would be doing the same. I'm glad you starting to feel better about it, i know it still doesnt change our need for a son though

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Originally Posted by Tink18

Hey Girls, I just read back and wanted to jump in. So I am the youngest of 3 older brothers. SO naturally I thought i would have boys for sure. When we found out we had DD on the way we were both so excited. We want 3 kids so we will got for another after this even its a boy. My mom knows about the swaying and I asked her if she remembered how she ate and lived when she got pregnant with all 3 of my brothers. She had some interesting things to say. She was married to my biological father who I almost never speak of and no one in my life knows about him, anyway, she said she cooked all the time and he was a meat and potatoes type of asshole. She said they ate constantly. Lots of salty foods and lots fresh juice. That is the only way he would drink his juice. Anyway fast froward to her getting pregnant with me. She had found out SP (sperm donor is what we call him) or FF for F&$K face, so she found out he was having an affair. She left him when she was pregnant with my youngest brother. He is a very powerful important man so when she left his status was questionable. He begged for her back and said he would end the affair, he never did and is currently married to that homewrecking whore. My mom went back to him and birthed my brother. He got very abusive physically worse then in the previous years. She told me he even hit her while she was pregnant, makes me sick. Good god I despise this man. Anyway, so my brother is a baby and FF is increasingly abusive, my mom says she barely eats at this point. She weighed less then she did after birthing all 3 of my brothers. Her diet became lots of protein, quick healthy foods, not hearty anymore. She was so stressed. Again she leaves him as the abuse gets so unreal and she takes off to california where all her family is. HE is in town and he asks her to go to an event with him. She agrees and says she isn't taking him back. They have this ONE night together and I was made!! I found this to be so wild in terms of gender swaying because in a way my mom had a perfect sway. To this day I will never understand why she went back to him because she is one of the strongest women I know. She tells me "back then" its just what you did. Women didnt take a stand as they do now. But I am oddly thankful because neither me or my brother Matt would be here. And he is my best friend. I am really close with all 3 of my brothers. They are my world. We are all 2 1/2 years to 3 years apart. I couldn't imagine my life without them. I even own a business with the younger 2. My oldest lives out of state which sucks. But he has a successful business there. SO with that my point is not to talk about my moms shit life with this a hole...but I just thought it was cool how she ate the boy diet and girl diet without even knowing. I mean for my diet I did do some things that i shouldnt like I ate some chocolate a week before the attempt. I Couldnt help myself. LOL I dont think i will be so upset if this one is a girl, but maybe more in baby #3. but who knows. I can understand how some of you are upset with wanting something so bad and it not turning out to be what you wanted. I think it's perfectly natural. I am use to getting what I want being the only baby girl. SO this will be interesting if I have all girls. I think I will be happy though because I have a very blessed life. Again I dont know. IM trying to stay positive. Im trying not to get to wrapped up and expect much. Does this make sense?

Anyway. I am feeling like crap. And I am only 5 weeks along. I am stunned, with DD i didnt even know I was pregnant yet and I remember feeling fine.

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Forgot to congratulate & welcome you! Hope you get your boy too

Baby I'm so glad you haven't had to deal with many rude comments! I keep reminding myself people aren't meaning to be insensitive; they don't know how badly I wanted a son. And my close friends will be awesome about it but strangers are the ones who will probably say stuff that makes me want to either hit them or cry :) Will deal with it as it comes I suppose. I'm so glad your DH is such a good support. I have a friend who had her 3rd girl and her DH was literally crushed. It's one thing to deal with our own disappointment but if I had to deal with his too it'd be horrible. I'm so glad it's just me!

My 2 DD's have been getting along so well lately that I keep thinking another girl is probably the best thing for our family. After all this person isn't coming here just for me :)

Tink what a sweet story about Ava! Hopefully you won't have to pick another girl name! Initially in this pregnancy when DH would ask me about girl names I wouldn't even talk about them. I reeeeeally though it was a boy so I'm super glad I know, because girls names take me awhile! There are lots of fun baby naming blogs but my fave is youcantcallitit. We have a female family women's middle name too, Delia, it goes back 4 generations. My mom and I were not talking when I had DD1 so I didn't use it, and with DD2 it didn't work well with her 1st name, but we might use it as the middle on DD3.