Due Sept/Oct/Nov 2017 (3)

Facebook is the devil for GD. Saw THREE baby girl announcements tonight, among other GD triggers.

Why do I even have it?! It's so true what I've read about studies saying you're overall happiness generally decreases moments after logging onto FB. I thought I was immune but I guess not. Sigh. Just a vent.
I think I'm just really apprehensive about my scan this week. I feel like I'm about to enter the GD vortex and won't be able to emerge out of that funk for months/years like last time.

Thanks for listening guys...

And Tara, I hope things are looking up and you're not feeling hopeless and alone. Reach out when you need us, please. [emoji170]


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I feel like my worst trigger is hanging out with my friends. :( The people I hang out with all have girls, and all but one has a girl younger than my DS2. I love them and adore their kids, but every playdate or birthday party feels like a sea of adorable dresses, tiny ballet flats, and matching hair bows.

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I feel like my worst trigger is hanging out with my friends. :( The people I hang out with all have girls, and all but one has a girl younger than my DS2. I love them and adore their kids, but every playdate or birthday party feels like a sea of adorable dresses, tiny ballet flats, and matching hair bows.

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Oh lord, I don't know how you can bear that. Luckily most of my friends have mainly boys as well as my sisters. My SIL has girl's and it actually effects our relationship. (Well, it was not strong before we ever had kids really)

But my closest friend has only one daughter and I constantly struggle with her "I love being a girl mom only" attitude. She knows nothing of my GD and sometimes it's really hard.
GD is so draining at times, especially when parenting in and of itself is.


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Yes, LadyTara, check in with us. :hug2:

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I'm here just not talkative. Gd is bad. So bad m so stressed and hurt that I've started having cramps 🤥 obviously will keep an eye on it
I haven't told anyone I'm pregnant still. It's not that I'm really looking forward to it. I'm going to sound such a bit**h now but I'm even scared to log on and see the rest of our dd get their gd that is so horrible when we are all here for each other. I'm staring at mums pushing their baby girls wondering what their diet was like, do they look like a girl mum. My username is my nickname cos although I love pink and glitter I'm more down to earth get stuck in kind of girl. Maybe I'm to tom boy to have a girl. Anyway I'm am here just quiet. The tears have dried up, it was worse Friday when I found out. Especially as hubby had gone for the weekend night fishing already. And I was with my mum who doesn't know I'm pregnant. So was horrible.


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I had my bloods taken today so hopefully FX I get the results in 2 a bit weeks. Its going to be a long wait!

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I'm here just not talkative. Gd is bad. So bad m so stressed and hurt that I've started having cramps �� obviously will keep an eye on it
I haven't told anyone I'm pregnant still. It's not that I'm really looking forward to it. I'm going to sound such a bit**h now but I'm even scared to log on and see the rest of our dd get their gd that is so horrible when we are all here for each other. I'm staring at mums pushing their baby girls wondering what their diet was like, do they look like a girl mum. My username is my nickname cos although I love pink and glitter I'm more down to earth get stuck in kind of girl. Maybe I'm to tom boy to have a girl. Anyway I'm am here just quiet. The tears have dried up, it was worse Friday when I found out. Especially as hubby had gone for the weekend night fishing already. And I was with my mum who doesn't know I'm pregnant. So was horrible.


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It is normal to feel this way, even the not wanting to log onto this group. I understand completely. I know it is too early for this, but I want you to start thinking about embracing and acceptance of what is. You have time to come to a place of empowerment, so make this your goal. If we focus on what we don't want and what we don't have, we will forever feel deprived.

Acceptance doesn't mean you negate your emotions or guilt yourself because of what you feel. I say, give yourself time to feel what you need to feel, but make it productive. Write about it on paper and then burn it up and let it go when you are ready.

Take this from a person who has faced many hardships from a young age. I may not be experiencing what you are right now, but I've been in similar shoes. There WILL be better days if you allow for them to come to you.

I hope this is helpful some how hun. :hug2:

Ladytara, I'm so sorry you're having a hard time. I really wish everyone could get their DG every time. My heart is breaking for you.

I'm worried that I'm letting myself get my hopes up. I'm trying so hard to focus on how I'll cope with all boys, but I'm finding myself picturing the baby as a girl. It doesn't help that we have a girl's name picked out that we love but no boy's name yet.

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Oh lord, I don't know how you can bear that. Luckily most of my friends have mainly boys as well as my sisters. My SIL has girl's and it actually effects our relationship. (Well, it was not strong before we ever had kids really)

But my closest friend has only one daughter and I constantly struggle with her "I love being a girl mom only" attitude. She knows nothing of my GD and sometimes it's really hard.
GD is so draining at times, especially when parenting in and of itself is.


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I think it helps that I really do adore my friends, but it bothers me more than I like to admit. It feels like a cruel game of chance. A few of us have been hanging out since our 2.5-3 year old's were babies, and they're an even split. But everyone who has been added in since then has happened to have a girl, and the babies born since then have all been girls. All of my nearby family has girls, PPs, or split families. I have a few acquaintances with two boys, but I don't know anyone IRL (other than in laws) with three or more and only boys.

Okay, whine time over. How is everyone feeling? I woke up with more morning sickness than I've felt in weeks at 11w+3d. I feel like I've been pregnant forever and I'm not even through with the first trimester.

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Does anyone else feel a little bummed when people think you are having the opposite of your DG?! I'm trying not to let it get to me and just trust God. He knows exactly who this person is while no one else does. It's definitely challenging me though for sure.

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Does anyone else feel a little bummed when people think you are having the opposite of your DG?! I'm trying not to let it get to me and just trust God. He knows exactly who this person is while no one else does. It's definitely challenging me though for sure.

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I'm the opposite. Everyone thinks I'm having a girl, even DH (but I think people are just saying that because I already have 2 boys) but I feel that is probably a boy but to be honest I just want a healthy baby. DH and I carry the sickle cell trait and DS1 has sickle cell disease but DS2 doesn't (he doesn't even have the trait so that's a blessing) so I'm just praying for a healthy baby that doesn't have sickle cell or the trait.

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Does anyone else feel a little bummed when people think you are having the opposite of your DG?! I'm trying not to let it get to me and just trust God. He knows exactly who this person is while no one else does. It's definitely challenging me though for sure.

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Yes it does make me bummed even thought their guess is as good as mine haha.

Most have felt boy for me in their gut which is good to know and hear.. but every now and again people are like "just cuz u have not symptoms doesn't mean it's boy!! I thought my girl was a boy and she's def a she!"

I'm like thank you so much for instilling hope.. I'm well aware it could still be a girl lol.. thanks for nothing. Not that they're wrong.. but cmon.. must you really burst my bubble? Lol


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