Oh Tiff sorry you didn't get your girl, go treat yourself to something nice that will make you feel better. I'm sure this little guy is going to be incredible, just like his mom xxx
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Oh Tiff sorry you didn't get your girl, go treat yourself to something nice that will make you feel better. I'm sure this little guy is going to be incredible, just like his mom xxx
Sometimes this swaying, I think, can almost make things feel worse then if we didn't know such a 'possibility' existed. TTC ended up taking up my whole year with screwed up cycles and missed ovulations due to them being so delayed and me giving up, and the diet! In the end I just went back to my vegetarian diet and did minimal stuff I didn't do with my son, and who knows. If I hadn't read about swaying, we would have possibly been heavily pregnant and/or have a baby by now! But it is and was a hard thing to shake out of my head now.
My grandmother had 4 girls. That created a dynamic force of women (my mother and aunts). Your 4 boys will be a dynamic force of exceptional men one day! Congratulations - truly, a little baby is always the sweetest thing, regardless of its gender--take the time you need to feel better... but he will be such a wonderful little boy. <3
Sorry Tiff, I may just find the same news on Friday! It's not fair, you should have got one outta four!! I was trying to think of nice things that would make it better if it is in fact a boy. I was thinking how when they're a few months old breast feeding and they look up at you and smile... I'm going to go there every time I feel the gd... Somehow that is helping me, cause no matter what you'll have a sweet baby:)
Thank you girl you all truly touch my heart. Dh is totally broken too he really thought this was his little girl :(
I feel like I've been punched in the heart.
But here is my little teddy Attachment 5453Attachment 5454
And his goods Attachment 5455Attachment 5456
Are you naming him teddy? Theodore...
Coocoo - you decided to find out after all? I bet you are so nervous! Only a few more days away!Quote:
Originally Posted by coocoobananas
Not sure I really like theo but dh like ted or teddy xxQuote:
Originally Posted by Rosie85
If I have another ds we are likely naming him Theodore. I love love love theo and teddy for the shortened versions! My grandpas name is Theodore, he goes by Ted though.
Tiffani3, I'm so sorry you didn't hear girl! It sure does feel like someone punched you in the heart at first :( FWIW he looks adorable!
Tiff congrats on a healthy baby,sorry you did not hear girl,and I love the name teddy,so cute xQuote:
Originally Posted by Tiffani3
3 men,baby looks lovely,glad all went well x
Thank you so much.
Tiff, i'm so sorry you didn't hear the word you so wanted to hear. That little boy clearly wanted you as his mummy xx
Tiff, I'm sorry you did not hear girl. I too have 3 boys and am fully expecting to hear boy with this one as well. Go pull out those newborn boy clothes to look at, regardless of the color, the small sweetness of a newborn sleeper will melt any heart. And hey, no one will tell if.w e plop a bow on their little head, just for a second, just to see! Thinking of you sweetie
Oh, Tiffani, I'm so sorry you didn't hear girl. It IS like getting the air knocked out of you. HUGS.
He's gorgeous, though! Congratulations, sweetie.
I agree with this. I found one of my 2yos newborn sleepers yesterday and it made me cry. So sweet and tiny, and it still smells just slightly of baby. It melted my heart.Quote:
Originally Posted by Winngrin
Thank you girls
i feel completely numb. I can't believe it I'm shocked but not shocked if that makes sense. Also still searching for a little hope that its wrong! So stupid I know especially looking at those pics :(
It's not stupid. I think we all go through this when we hear the baby isn't the girl or boy we were hoping for. With my last DS I know it took me a few weeks to believe he was a boy, wondering if maybe there was a mistake, and then feeling guilty for wishing it WAS a tech error. :( Hang in there sweetie.Quote:
Originally Posted by Tiffani3
tiff, big, big hugs hun
on the bright side, I do think theo or teddy is absoultely adorable for a name....my nephew is named theodore and they call him teddy and he is so cute and cuddly...definitely great name for him!
Still not totally sure but hubby will be finding out. Only problem with that is I am pretty sure he'll keep it a secret if it's a boy and blurt if it's a girl... So probably should just look myself lol!!
Sending you a big hug Tiff, sorry it isn't your dd but huge congratulations on your gorgeous little man.
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Thank you for all your support.
Hopefully I'll get used to the idea of a 4th boy and never ever having a dd.
just feel like something inside me has died and I'm grieving for a baby I never had or will have.
I'm so disappointed in myself and every time I look at dh I cry as I CAN'T give him that little girl that we both desperately want. I'm feeling so heartbroken right now :(
Sorry
Great pics 3m & Tiff :)
Ladies, I'm still feeling so sick!!! This isn't going to end until I push him or her out!!! Pregnancy and I don't mix.
I have CONSTANT mega indigestion which ends up making me feel sick... I was never like this with my son. So weird how different pregnancies can be. Bleeeeeerrrrrrrghhhhhh.
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Originally Posted by Tiffani3
Awww it is okay to feel this way. I know if I get told boy I will be feeling the same. I want a girl so bad I would give a limb. Dh tells me all the time how badly he wants one too and I feel pressured to give him that. Not providing will feel like failing. The other ladies are right though, those little boys just really want us as their mommies. Give it time, all wounds heal to some degree. The bright side is out of 4 boys one is bound to get married and give you a daughter in law and one is bound to have a baby and give you a grand daughter. Not the same I know but it will have to do....just imagine to what degree you will spoil her!
It seems so unfair you couldn't have just one little girl out of all those tries, life can seem cruel. We just always need to try and find the bright side of it all.
I'm so sorry Tiff :( GD is awful. He is an adorable boy though, I am sure he will melt your heart when he is born.
But the GD is there and it sucks. Hugs to you.
It's hard when DH is upset too. I told mine I'm convinced its a boy and he started freaking out about having 3 boys. I was at my brothers house yesterday and he has 2 boys and a girl and i did point out to him that out of all our kids combined that girl is the craziest one there. So no guarantees that it will be more chilled out bc its a girl lol.
omg. i just saw my ticker...222 more days of sickness!!! ahhhh
I have 194 spinning. I'm good at holding hair while your head is in the toilet. If you need my services, let me know. lolQuote:
Originally Posted by spinningmadly
Lol thanks! Too bad your not closer! The worst is when I pee my pants because I'm puking so much lol
Oh, Lord, please don't let it last that long. I'm holding on to the hope that it will be over in just a few weeks.
I have my "meet with the OB nurse" appointment in the morning, and dh got called back to work (after being home for all of 4 hours). So, I have to take the kids with me. Lol. I have already told them to pick out two chapter books each, just in case, because they will be sitting in the waiting room. The 2yo will have to go in with me and the iPad. ;)
I hate this appt because its not "real." It's going through a checklist and getting a bag of prenatal samples. I'm really hoping that they will let me go ahead and schedule my nt scan so maybe dh can go. He's upset that he has not been able to see the baby yet.
Shell- do you have to go? Lol unless they were checking the baby I'd skip it
Unfortunately, yes. I have to see her before getting anything else scheduled. On the plus side, I like her, and my history is already in my file, so hopefully it will be a short visit.Quote:
Originally Posted by spinningmadly
Normally this would be the first u/s, too. But since we saw the hb at 5w5d, they see no need to do another until the nt scan.
oh hun :( you totally made me well up!!! I just wish I could click my fingers and make everyone get there desired gender!! How are you feeling today? You need to take time to grieve for your 'dd' don't feel ashamed by it I'm glad your dh wanted a girl just as much because at least you can get through this together, it would be a lot harder if he didn't understand!! I know it doesn't help but this little man clearly could see what a fantastic mummy you are to the boys and choose you to be his too, he will be so loved by u and every1!! When your feeling up to it you should pop to next to buy him some cute onesies they have some super gorgeous boys clothes right now!Quote:
Originally Posted by Tiffani3
Please remember we are all here for you so if u need to cry scream and rant come do it to us!
Huge hugs my love xxx
:hugs: tiff . Im so sorry you are hurting, wish i had the words to make it right, I am sure he will be a very special little boy.
Im sure it will all fade away once you hold him in your arms, thats what all the other mumma's seem to say so surely they must be right.
Treat yourself to some special 'you' time, a massage, or a manicure, or buy yourself something special - or go and by something cute and blue...maybe looking at newborn pics of your boys might help..
Hope you start feeling better soon, sending you lots of hugs
Thank you hun. I didn't sleep all night. Also have got up this morning absolutely sobbing. I really thought I would be stronger than this. I don't want to even get out of bed I feel physically ill :(
The thoughts I've been having are so horrible like I really wish I wasn't pg. how selfish and disgusting is that!!!!!
The tech at the place was so cruel too he started scanning me and said 'ooo lovely nothing between the legs!!!'
Dh replied 'you'd better be sure before you tell her that!'
Which he replied 'oh no wait sorry it's a boy look'
I can't get it out of my head! xx
He should have never opened his mouth until he was certain - that is very unprofessional!
you are NOT selfish, and you are certainly NOT disgusting. You are a human, with feelings, desires, emotions - all of which are perfectly normal, and on top of that, the courage to open up about how you feel...and here you have a bunch of women who understand, and will 'hold your hand' through this.Quote:
Originally Posted by Tiffani3
Your feelings are normal, please dont burden yourself with guilt, let yourself grieve, let it all out and then by the time the little man is due, it should be easier.
And yes, the tech's a moron, shouldn't have made comments before looking and being certain himself.
Take care xo