Roll-call!! Due June/July/August 2013

I could use some advice.... We broke the news to our families last night, which I have been dreading because they haven't always been the most supportive and this is what happened. I know part of this is my fault because of the way I did it but if I had to tall them face to face it was never going to happen. What I did was take a picture of my boys' swim trunks hanging on the clothesline and added a diaper after the third pair. I posted the picture with the caption "our summer plans" I then sent a text to my mom, sisters and dad (because they all have smart phons and continuous access to their Facebook) a text right before I posted the picture that they needed to check out my Facebook page (which I have never done so I knew it would get their attention). My mom called within a minute so I know they got the texts and my timing was good. I talked to her for about15 minutes she was fine. I told her how far along I was and that I have known since october. My dad tried to trick me and say he doesn't have a fb but I know my stepmom does and then he said she wasn't home, but then she called me and said my dad was just joking and was trying to get me to tell him myself but they were just playing around, no hurt feelings. My sister on the other hand posted a comment about how heartbroken she was and hurt that I didn't tell her in person and that this was a reality check for her to find out after so many other ppl especially since I had known since October, blah, blah, blah..... I responded that I was sorry that I hurt her fee linings and that I had set the text beforehand so my immediate family would be the first to know. And the deleted both comments (hers and mine) about 30 minutes later after she had the chance to see it but so that everyone else wouldn't think I was a loser. I know she found out quickly because she had time to talk to my mom to find out that I found out in October before she posted anything and she only posted about 25 minutes after I did and I have never told her before I told my mom and dad we have always tried to tell everyone at the same time so they can't be jealous that someone else found out first.

I'm not sure how to handle this, right now I am just waiting it out because she tends to freak out and blow everything out of proportion, but I'm not sure what my best response should be and this only confirms my feelings that I should have just waited longer so I didn't have to deal with this right now.

Mommyof3boys - Me personally - Id ignore her - Its your happy news, your pregnancy, your life and your right to share the new however you choose - I know its not nice but if she cant just be pleased for you id be keeping my distance and ignoring any comments as you really dont need the stress right now. Sorry if it sounds unsympathetic but i have no time for people trying to msake things special to me all about them.

Mum23boys-that's my plan so far but unfortunately she is one of those people that think that she has to complain to everyone around her and make peoplel choose "sides". She already sent me a message that I don't need to pick up her son after school today which aggravates me because she is making him skip an after school activity to punish me???

On the flip side though her nastiness made it not bother me when my brother in law commented that it will probably just be another boy. He is young and I'm sure he doesn't realize how hurtful those comments can be but at this point I am really just trying to prepare myself for a boy anyway so that I'm not so crushed if I don't get a girl.

mommyof3boys....really disappointing when a close family member responds like that. I am sure she will come round soon and be happy for you. it can be difficult with family. my parents in law were totally shocked and think it's very soon for a third child. Probably pitying my poor husband who will be dealing with 3 kids under 5 yrs old, when in fact it is me that does most of the child minding around here.

Bama- really sorry you didn't get your boy...i would gladly spend you on all my boy dust....i seem to have an over abundance of it.

LO123, Jennaesue and Emmy Roo- hear you on the obsessing and GD! I probably think about it a million times a day. When I wake to go to the loo at night I think about it and it's certainly always the last thought that preoccupies my mind before I fall asleep. I am so sick of obsessing over different pregnancy symptoms and every other tiny possible sign this could be a girl. It has definitely been a more difficult pregnancy than the other two, but as we hear over and over again it has nothing to do with gender. The nausea has pretty much abated and now I am contending with heartburn after most meals...the spider veins on my right leg have totally gone out of control and the support tights are a nightmare to wear...am already dreading summer and then I keep thinking all this suffering and it will most likely just be another boy. Terrible I know, especially after all the women that have had losses here, but true. I am actually considering therapy, if it is another boy....just don't want to end up a bitter old woman who spends the rest of her life looking on jealously at other women and their daughters.

I'm sorry that your dealing with all this, Mommyof3boys. It's upsetting that your big, happy, news has had a damper thrown over it :( I feel I've got to play devils advocate here, though. I've been in your sisters position before and I was hurt to find out such news over facebook. There are some things that I think are so special, like your pregnancy, that family should be told face to face or with a phone call. I think facebook is becoming so much a part of our lives that lines can get blurred but I know my mom and best girlfriend would've been hurt and angry if they found out that I was expecting through a facebook photo, only minutes before my facebook "friends" saw the same news. There's something exciting and flattering for your family to be in on the secret a few weeks before you make it official on facebook. It's nice to feel that you've been trusted with the inside scoop, and maybe your sister feels that you don't trust her. I'm not saying that you're in the wrong here, I'm just saying that I can appreciate where ALL of you are coming from and I hope you can work it out with your sister soon. I don't think that ignoring her is the way to go here, afterall, she's your sister and I'd have given my left boob for a sister. LOL. She's only hurt because she loves you and wanted to share in your news earlier. Just my 2 cents, hope I haven't made things worse for ya. :)

I can relate to what Jadis said. I was little hurt when a good friend announced her third pregnancy on facebook and didn't at least send an email to her close friends first. Yes, it is your baby and your right to announce however you choose, but I can understand why your sister would be hurt. At first when I was reading your post, I was thinking you must live far away and not be very close to your sister, but then I got to the part about you picking up her son from school, so that must not be the case. I can understand your not wanting to face your family when you know their reaction may not be positive, but I can definitely understand why her feelings would be hurt. Sorry.

I haven't announced my pregnancy on Facebook yet, but I have told my good friends and most of my family. I am waiting until we know the gender and then I plan to email my father-in-law first (even though he is a deadbeat who hasn't gotten in touch with us since LAST Christmas) because I do feel he deserves to know before my general FB announcement, because he is the grandfather, even if he is a crappy one. I don't want to announce until after I know gender because I am trying to avoid those "it'll just be another boy" comments like you got.

I think if I were you, I would explain your motivation to your sister, that you were worried about how your family was going to take the news, so you didn't want to do it face-to-face, and that you sent the text so that she and your parents would see it first. And then maybe try to do some things to include her in your pregnancy, like invite her along to a doctor's appointment to hear the heartbeat or something like that.

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LO123, Jennaesue and Emmy Roo- hear you on the obsessing and GD! I probably think about it a million times a day. When I wake to go to the loo at night I think about it and it's certainly always the last thought that preoccupies my mind before I fall asleep. I am so sick of obsessing over different pregnancy symptoms and every other tiny possible sign this could be a girl. It has definitely been a more difficult pregnancy than the other two, but as we hear over and over again it has nothing to do with gender. The nausea has pretty much abated and now I am contending with heartburn after most meals...the spider veins on my right leg have totally gone out of control and the support tights are a nightmare to wear...am already dreading summer and then I keep thinking all this suffering and it will most likely just be another boy. Terrible I know, especially after all the women that have had losses here, but true. I am actually considering therapy, if it is another boy....just don't want to end up a bitter old woman who spends the rest of her life looking on jealously at other women and their daughters.

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It's funny how we pick things apart, isn't it? I tell myself that having different symptoms doesn't matter, and yet, I was hoping I would have different symptoms this time! My first two pregnancies were very similar (a little nausea early on, enough that I threw up a few times but nothing too bad), and this pregnancy is almost identical to my third - almost no nausea or queasiness. I know it sounds ridiculous, but I was almost hoping to have morning sickness this time because I wanted SOMETHING to be different, lol!

Mommyof3boys - I can totally see where everyone is coming from too. I can see how she could be upset but also at the same time, it's your pregnancy and you can announce it however you want. You weren't intentionally out to hurt anyone of course, I think just give her time to cool down, she'll realize that. And then she will be able to enjoy the excitement with you! I know it's hard but try not to let it bring you down if you can!!! Hope this all resolves quickly for you!

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Just home from my midwives, they've moved my due date up! Now, instead of June 25th, it's June 19th (my birthday!). Wouldn't a girl make a lovely birthday gift for me? Gah! I'm crossing my fingers and toes until our ultrasound in exactly 14 days...the countdown in painful. Today, my babe's heartrate was 150...is that on the high side?

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Glad to hear all went well Jadis!!! What a perfect birthday gift hehe! I'm not sure about the heartbeat, I don't think it matters much! 13 days as of today! Woo hoo!

Today I had my hospital 20 week ultrasound. Yep he's still a baby boy lol! But most importantly, he has all his limbs and all his organs are in the right places and functioning perfectly! I was actually a little nervous for this scan, a girl DH went to school with recently had her baby and the intestines and stomach were on the outside, when you hear stories like that it's so scary and upsetting! A bit more scary when you know them too, so I was glad to hear everything looks perfect. Baby was also measuring a whole week ahead!!! But they didn't change my due date!
We had our maternity photos last night, I will post a couple when I get them back :)

Mommyof3boys - I am sorry that your sister is causing drama and stress.

Have any of you ladies considered PGD to get your desired gender?

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Mommyof3boys - I am sorry that your sister is causing drama and stress.

Have any of you ladies considered PGD to get your desired gender?

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I brought it up to DH. He really really REALLY wants 3 kids, and I only wanted 1. After some convincing we finally agreed on 2 lol. I told him the ONLY way I would go for his third is using high tech to get a girl. He didn't seem into it. It's a lot of money for us. I'm a SAHM and he's just a labourer/farmer. We don't make much, we have savings but it's to buy a farm of our own. I know you can't put a price on family of course but I just don't think we could afford it :(
Are you thinking about it?? Have you brought it up at all to your DH?

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Well, I don't really have an option for a scan before my 20 week ultrasound. Unless I call up and demand one or pretend I am having some sort of problem. And that is just not like me. My next regular appointment is on February 1, and I'll be 17 weeks, 4 days. I was considering calling them to see if they would do the scan then, but I doubt they would do it that far before 20 weeks. I imagine I'll just schedule my scan for 2 or 3 weeks from then.

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Yes I imagine you are right dear. I went in and my doctor said anytime after this week which is week 17 but the scheduler just did it for 3 weeks so I will be 19 + 5. So like you said they will probably just schedule it for 3 weeks after your regular appointment. Well you can gender dream and obsess until then with me sweetie. I will be happy to keep you company!

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I'm sorry that your dealing with all this, Mommyof3boys. It's upsetting that your big, happy, news has had a damper thrown over it :( I feel I've got to play devils advocate here, though. I've been in your sisters position before and I was hurt to find out such news over facebook. There are some things that I think are so special, like your pregnancy, that family should be told face to face or with a phone call. I think facebook is becoming so much a part of our lives that lines can get blurred but I know my mom and best girlfriend would've been hurt and angry if they found out that I was expecting through a facebook photo, only minutes before my facebook "friends" saw the same news. There's something exciting and flattering for your family to be in on the secret a few weeks before you make it official on facebook. It's nice to feel that you've been trusted with the inside scoop, and maybe your sister feels that you don't trust her. I'm not saying that you're in the wrong here, I'm just saying that I can appreciate where ALL of you are coming from and I hope you can work it out with your sister soon. I don't think that ignoring her is the way to go here, afterall, she's your sister and I'd have given my left boob for a sister. LOL. She's only hurt because she loves you and wanted to share in your news earlier. Just my 2 cents, hope I haven't made things worse for ya. :)

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I completely understand this and I knew I would be in a little hot water because of the way we announced it. There are several reasons why we did it this way but mainly it was to avoid all of the negative and hurtful remarks that we got in person with the last 2 pregnancies and the constant "how could this have happened" etc. I guess I just didn't expect her to post her negative comments there which is a lot of the reason why we did it that way.

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I brought it up to DH. He really really REALLY wants 3 kids, and I only wanted 1. After some convincing we finally agreed on 2 lol. I told him the ONLY way I would go for his third is using high tech to get a girl. He didn't seem into it. It's a lot of money for us. I'm a SAHM and he's just a labourer/farmer. We don't make much, we have savings but it's to buy a farm of our own. I know you can't put a price on family of course but I just don't think we could afford it :(
Are you thinking about it?? Have you brought it up at all to your DH?

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Well, I am 37 and my RE said that he suspects DOR. So we are considering freezing embryos and having a FET when we are ready. I don't think PGD would be that much more expensive. I'm just not sure how to find a doctor that will do PGD for "family balancing".

Jadis - That would be a lovely birthday present. My due date is June 20th :happy: And nope...hr doesn't mean a hill of beans.

cvd - So happy that your little boy is happy and healthy in there, especially after all the recent heartbreak around here. I have heard of those poor babies who are born with their tummys on the outside. Fortunately, they typically have a pretty good prognosis. I have seen it on a babystory I think or another labor and delivery show...can't remember but I saw how they fix it. Still..so sad. Can't wait to see some pictures!

Bama - We are pretty religious so I don't think PGD would go over very well with our families. DH probably wouldn't agree to it either because he is perfectly happy with boys.

Mommyof3 - So sorry that your announcement didn't go as smoothly as you had hoped. It sucks when family reacts negatively towards you during such a happy time. I can't honestly say that I understand what you are going through but personally I think you have the right to announce anyway you choose and if your background shows a lack of support from your family about pregnancy then you had your own reasons for doing what you did. I don't think you intentionally tried to hurt anyone's feelings...just tried to protect your own.

heidih - How many boys do you have? Yes I too am obsessing like crazy! I keep thinking it has got to be a girl. I really hope this obsessing ends for us both really soon.

On the note of obsessing: It doesn't make it any better that I didn't get one boy guess at all on my nub shot although I know they are just guesses. I thought to myself...ok if I get 75% girl and 25% boy or 50% girl and 50% boy then I am ok with hearing that it is a boy. But to have 100% girl guesses is driving me bonkers. I don't know how I will react and that is the depressing part. I don't want to feel like a bad person for experiencing sadness if I do hear boy. AND I keep thinking I will experience a loss which adds to my anxiety. I actually woke up in a panic this morning. I can't explain it. It was almost like I felt my stomach and I was half awake and it felt super flat. So I shot straight up in the bed and felt again....and it was still there, lol. I don't know what is going on with me these days. I guess I just want to feel the baby moving already and it is still so sporadic.

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Jadis - That would be a lovely birthday present. My due date is June 20th :happy: And nope...hr doesn't mean a hill of beans.

cvd - So happy that your little boy is happy and healthy in there, especially after all the recent heartbreak around here. I have heard of those poor babies who are born with their tummys on the outside. Fortunately, they typically have a pretty good prognosis. I have seen it on a babystory I think or another labor and delivery show...can't remember but I saw how they fix it. Still..so sad. Can't wait to see some pictures!

Bama - We are pretty religious so I don't think PGD would go over very well with our families. DH probably wouldn't agree to it either because he is perfectly happy with boys.

Mommyof3 - So sorry that your announcement didn't go as smoothly as you had hoped. It sucks when family reacts negatively towards you during such a happy time. I can't honestly say that I understand what you are going through but personally I think you have the right to announce anyway you choose and if your background shows a lack of support from your family about pregnancy then you had your own reasons for doing what you did. I don't think you intentionally tried to hurt anyone's feelings...just tried to protect your own.

heidih - How many boys do you have? Yes I too am obsessing like crazy! I keep thinking it has got to be a girl. I really hope this obsessing ends for us both really soon.

On the note of obsessing: It doesn't make it any better that I didn't get one boy guess at all on my nub shot although I know they are just guesses. I thought to myself...ok if I get 75% girl and 25% boy or 50% girl and 50% boy then I am ok with hearing that it is a boy. But to have 100% girl guesses is driving me bonkers. I don't know how I will react and that is the depressing part. I don't want to feel like a bad person for experiencing sadness if I do hear boy. AND I keep thinking I will experience a loss which adds to my anxiety. I actually woke up in a panic this morning. I can't explain it. It was almost like I felt my stomach and I was half awake and it felt super flat. So I shot straight up in the bed and felt again....and it was still there, lol. I don't know what is going on with me these days. I guess I just want to feel the baby moving already and it is still so sporadic.

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Me to i'm still so worried about this baby, a day before my midwife appointment i had some pink discharge (obviously a tiny bit of blood in there somewhere) scared the life out of me and i've been getting so really strange pains (not like contractions but stopped me sleeping the other night), am so scared i am going to miscarry. On the positive side though the heartbeat was good and regular. Although i did wake up the morning after and bump had deflated - its come back now but that scared the life out of me to. I think its all the sad stories makes me feel like i am just waiting for it to happen.

Not sure i put too much stock in heart rate, my midwife told me last time based on heart rate that she thought it was girl (his was 16something), babes heart rate the other day was 154 but it sounded different to the way the boys did

mommyof3 sorry your family wasn't more supportive, i can understand your sister feeling miffed a little but then she probably would have said something however you'd told her, at least that way you got to avoid all the nasty gender comments. I still haven't really told anyone about our baby yet (just keep covering up my bump) so your a braver woman than i am. She will come round x

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Me to i'm still so worried about this baby, a day before my midwife appointment i had some pink discharge (obviously a tiny bit of blood in there somewhere) scared the life out of me and i've been getting so really strange pains (not like contractions but stopped me sleeping the other night), am so scared i am going to miscarry. On the positive side though the heartbeat was good and regular. Although i did wake up the morning after and bump had deflated - its come back now but that scared the life out of me to. I think its all the sad stories makes me feel like i am just waiting for it to happen.

Not sure i put too much stock in heart rate, my midwife told me last time based on heart rate that she thought it was girl (his was 16something), babes heart rate the other day was 154 but it sounded different to the way the boys did

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Well I had lots of spotting at the first and I was super nervous about that. Thankfully I didn't have any more but yes I get how scary it is especially this far along. The first time they used the doppler on me the doctor said it may be a girl but the hr wasn't that high...156 I think. My son's was the same. On Monday the hr was pretty low...135. So now I am freaking out about that, lol. I am a whack job! I honestly don't think hr has anything to do with gender either because I know women who have had girls whose hr was low in the 130's and 140's so...

Just when I thought the worst of it was over and I just had to wait out my sister my mom started in. She didn't say anything about the way we announced it and she acted excited about it last night but in hindsight I think that was just because my grandparents live with her and she wouldnt say anything in front of them because my grandpa would stop her. Today she started texting me all kinds of questions about my birth control and saying "weren't you on the Mirena" and asking about my periods and how could this have happened, blah, blah, blah. I seriously feel like a teenager living at home telling my parents I got pregnant by a stranger not a married adult that has never asked her for help with anything.

So sorry mommyof3boys. Sometimes family is not the best support system but at least you have us. :happy:

OK, while I understand your sister's position, your mom's is totally hurtful. If I were in your shoes I'd have to say "Listen, we're thrilled about this baby. We're adults and are entitled to add to our family if we choose, in fact, we are the only people qualified to make decisions about our family. I hope you can be happy for us and share in our excitement. If not, no worries but please keep your judgmental questions and comments to yourself because they're hurtful." Good luck, sounds like you've got some family drama on your hands at the min.

hi ladies! Just thought i would pop in for a quick update
Firstly congrats to all your growing babies and to the ladies that got thier prefered gender!!!
And sorry to the ones who didnt!
So i camped for the week i bled for 5 days but not bad cramping ect stopped bleeding a few days before we came home still got to enjoy a little bit of our time away!
went to doctors when we got back he was happy with what i told him so no need for dnc or U/s he said unless i start bleeding again or have lots ofdischarge
ALSO was thinking about what someone said about lots of miscarriages i think its just the case that noone tells you if they have an early m/c but on here we do....as at the school or even with friends they dont tell u till the 12 weeks
ANYWAY i was VERY unsure about going again and as u can see from my past m/c s i have waited inbetween
so this time we have decided to start trying asap and like my previous 6 pregnancies i hope it only takes 1-2 cycles as if it takes longer we may have to put on hold as we have an over seas holiday next year to scatter my husbands fathers ashes,,,,anyway have prob had the worse 2 months of my life my fil dying and the m/c so bring on lots of positive happy vibes~~~

sorry was so long :)

Fingers crossed for you hunny I really hope your time comes soon. xxxx

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Just when I thought the worst of it was over and I just had to wait out my sister my mom started in. She didn't say anything about the way we announced it and she acted excited about it last night but in hindsight I think that was just because my grandparents live with her and she wouldnt say anything in front of them because my grandpa would stop her. Today she started texting me all kinds of questions about my birth control and saying "weren't you on the Mirena" and asking about my periods and how could this have happened, blah, blah, blah. I seriously feel like a teenager living at home telling my parents I got pregnant by a stranger not a married adult that has never asked her for help with anything.

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Mommyof3 is there a reason why your family is against you having a certain amount of kids? I mean I guess I could see if you were "Duggering it out" but I think 4 is a phenomenal amount of kids if that's what your choosing is. Again, so sorry you aren't getting the support you deserve from your family. I do hope things get better for you and that your family is happy for you. ((Big Hugs))

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hi ladies! Just thought i would pop in for a quick update
Firstly congrats to all your growing babies and to the ladies that got thier prefered gender!!!
And sorry to the ones who didnt!
So i camped for the week i bled for 5 days but not bad cramping ect stopped bleeding a few days before we came home still got to enjoy a little bit of our time away!
went to doctors when we got back he was happy with what i told him so no need for dnc or U/s he said unless i start bleeding again or have lots ofdischarge
ALSO was thinking about what someone said about lots of miscarriages i think its just the case that noone tells you if they have an early m/c but on here we do....as at the school or even with friends they dont tell u till the 12 weeks
ANYWAY i was VERY unsure about going again and as u can see from my past m/c s i have waited inbetween
so this time we have decided to start trying asap and like my previous 6 pregnancies i hope it only takes 1-2 cycles as if it takes longer we may have to put on hold as we have an over seas holiday next year to scatter my husbands fathers ashes,,,,anyway have prob had the worse 2 months of my life my fil dying and the m/c so bring on lots of positive happy vibes~~~

sorry was so long :)

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Mummyof3 - I'm glad you stopped in and updated us! Again I am so terribly sorry about all that has happened over these past months but I am happy that you have made a decision to continue on and try again. I can't imagine how hard it must be to have a loss and then get pregnant and having that fear. You are so strong and brave and I admire you so much for that. GL honey and let us know how everything goes.

All I am going to say for today is...

Pinterest + Pink baby shower ideas = OBSESSING GONE WRONG! :rofl: Someone please put me out of my misery.

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Just when I thought the worst of it was over and I just had to wait out my sister my mom started in. She didn't say anything about the way we announced it and she acted excited about it last night but in hindsight I think that was just because my grandparents live with her and she wouldnt say anything in front of them because my grandpa would stop her. Today she started texting me all kinds of questions about my birth control and saying "weren't you on the Mirena" and asking about my periods and how could this have happened, blah, blah, blah. I seriously feel like a teenager living at home telling my parents I got pregnant by a stranger not a married adult that has never asked her for help with anything.

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I'm so sorry she is giving you a hard time. I really like what Jadis said. There is no reason to be mean, but be firm that this is your decision to make, not her's, and it's not like you can do anything about it now, anyway!

My MIL gave us a hard time about our last two pregnancies. #3 was a BCP accident, so it was a surprise to us, also, but her negative remarks definitely did not help anything. #4 was planned, but she apparently didn't have any idea were were trying (even though I dropped several hints - she's kind of in her own little world.) She was shocked when we told her and the first thing she said was "Are you crazy?" and then "Was this planned?" Even though that was none of her business, we told her yes, it was, and we have been planning it for a year, and we are very happy. She has been better about this one, although she has made a few comments alluding to the fact that she thinks are eldest is going to be neglected when we have a new baby, which is ridiculous!

Anyway, sorry for that huge tangent. I hope your family shapes up and starts supporting you soon!

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All I am going to say for today is...

Pinterest + Pink baby shower ideas = OBSESSING GONE WRONG! :rofl: Someone please put me out of my misery.

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Step away from the computer!!!

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hi ladies! Just thought i would pop in for a quick update
Firstly congrats to all your growing babies and to the ladies that got thier prefered gender!!!
And sorry to the ones who didnt!
So i camped for the week i bled for 5 days but not bad cramping ect stopped bleeding a few days before we came home still got to enjoy a little bit of our time away!
went to doctors when we got back he was happy with what i told him so no need for dnc or U/s he said unless i start bleeding again or have lots ofdischarge
ALSO was thinking about what someone said about lots of miscarriages i think its just the case that noone tells you if they have an early m/c but on here we do....as at the school or even with friends they dont tell u till the 12 weeks
ANYWAY i was VERY unsure about going again and as u can see from my past m/c s i have waited inbetween
so this time we have decided to start trying asap and like my previous 6 pregnancies i hope it only takes 1-2 cycles as if it takes longer we may have to put on hold as we have an over seas holiday next year to scatter my husbands fathers ashes,,,,anyway have prob had the worse 2 months of my life my fil dying and the m/c so bring on lots of positive happy vibes~~~

sorry was so long :)

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I am glad you are doing okay, and I wish you the best of luck with ttc!! May the next one be sticky.

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hi ladies! Just thought i would pop in for a quick update
Firstly congrats to all your growing babies and to the ladies that got thier prefered gender!!!
And sorry to the ones who didnt!
So i camped for the week i bled for 5 days but not bad cramping ect stopped bleeding a few days before we came home still got to enjoy a little bit of our time away!
went to doctors when we got back he was happy with what i told him so no need for dnc or U/s he said unless i start bleeding again or have lots ofdischarge
ALSO was thinking about what someone said about lots of miscarriages i think its just the case that noone tells you if they have an early m/c but on here we do....as at the school or even with friends they dont tell u till the 12 weeks
ANYWAY i was VERY unsure about going again and as u can see from my past m/c s i have waited inbetween
so this time we have decided to start trying asap and like my previous 6 pregnancies i hope it only takes 1-2 cycles as if it takes longer we may have to put on hold as we have an over seas holiday next year to scatter my husbands fathers ashes,,,,anyway have prob had the worse 2 months of my life my fil dying and the m/c so bring on lots of positive happy vibes~~~

sorry was so long :)

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Goodluck!!! I hope you get a sticky bean :)

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Originally Posted by Praying4Pink

Mommyof3 is there a reason why your family is against you having a certain amount of kids? I mean I guess I could see if you were "Duggering it out" but I think 4 is a phenomenal amount of kids if that's what your choosing is. Again, so sorry you aren't getting the support you deserve from your family. I do hope things get better for you and that your family is happy for you. ((Big Hugs))

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There aren't any reasons that I could think of that would make anyone against it. My DH and I have been married for 12 1/2 years, we both graduated college and have had steady good jobs our entire marriage. Financially we are better off now then we ever were before and are in a position where I can stay home with this baby while I finish my last year of my second college degree. We have never asked anyone for financial help and have owned our own home for the last 11 years. Two of our boys will have to share a bedroom now because we only have 4 but my sister and I always shared a bedroom so I can't see her caring about that. To be honest my mom has only kept my kids overnight maybe 4 or 5 times since the youngest was born almost 6 years ago and has only watched them for a few hours maybe 10-15 times since he was born so it really shouldn't make any difference to her. I am the only person in my family to have 3 kids so I guess having a fourth would seem like a lot to her.

And the worst keeps on getting worse.....

After my mom texted me all day yesterday she called me in the evening too. I guess she just needed to verify my answers in person. Then she had the nerve to say...."you should tell your doctor thanks for the baby since he's the one that took out your Mirena."

Seriously, who says these things to another person especially their own daughter.

Mommyof3boys, the sooner you tell your mum that your baby was planned, wanted, not an accident and ultimately your and your husband's choice the better. Have you been straight with her? Perhaps she really feels the conception was an accident? Sounds like it. Tell her your feelings and that the topic is no longer open for discussion.

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Originally Posted by jennaesue

Step away from the computer!!!

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Ok ok...I have diverted my attention to finding maternity photo shoot ideas. I am in the process of booking my session so at least that will occupy me until the 29th.

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Originally Posted by Praying4Pink

Ok ok...I have diverted my attention to finding maternity photo shoot ideas. I am in the process of booking my session so at least that will occupy me until the 29th.

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We just had ours on Wednesday evening! I am waiting for my photos back but my photographer did some really cool stuff with us she seen on Pinterest! I will post a few when I get them back :)

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Originally Posted by Mommyof3boys

And the worst keeps on getting worse.....

After my mom texted me all day yesterday she called me in the evening too. I guess she just needed to verify my answers in person. Then she had the nerve to say...."you should tell your doctor thanks for the baby since he's the one that took out your Mirena."

Seriously, who says these things to another person especially their own daughter.

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Ouch, that is rough... Sorry to hear this negativity. Not easy esp with what you are going through.

Best of luck for the time ahead, it's exciting! I hope it happens quickly and I hope it's super sticky. XX

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Originally Posted by Praying4Pink

Ok ok...I have diverted my attention to finding maternity photo shoot ideas. I am in the process of booking my session so at least that will occupy me until the 29th.

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Lol, much healthier! I might look into that also! X

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Originally Posted by cvd

We just had ours on Wednesday evening! I am waiting for my photos back but my photographer did some really cool stuff with us she seen on Pinterest! I will post a few when I get them back :)

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Cvd I pulled a bunch of stuff from Pinterest. They have some great ideas that I really want to use! I can't wait to see your pics cvd!

Maple - Wow! Identical twins. What type are they?