Due Sept/Oct/Nov 2016

I've had two home births now after my first was a hospital intervention filled eventual c/s that I consented to because I couldn't keep fighting them off. I knew I wasn't goi to suddenly not be compliant in labour so I wanted to get different care in labour and birth. As the private hospitals locally can't guarantee the dr you pick won't be away or off call and you get a complete stranger with you and since you never know who the midwife would be I chose homebirth so that I could pick who would care for me. I have never been homebirth at all costs and if my midwife had advised me to go to hospital I wouldn't have wasted time arguing because the trust was there and I was comfortable that we were on the same page. They have been beautiful births that left me well physically as well as emotionally and mentally, something my first birth didn't provide. You have to birth where you feel safe tho and that's why homebirth isn't for everyone.


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Originally Posted by Kmomofthree

Aw Bunnygirl your poor babe! And that is why I hesitate. I know those situations aren't real likely but you just don't know. As irritating as hospitals can be when trying to birth naturally I almost think at home I'd be worried which isn't really productive when you're supposed to be relaxed. Hm... I guess I have a while to think about it. :-)

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Do you have a hospital near you that works with midwives or promotes natural birthing? I went to a hospital but used a midwife who helped me be as natural as possible. She was phenomenal and told the nurses what they should do. It was such a better birthing experience than my first when I had to lay in the bed so I didn't make a mess for the nurses. My last pregnancy was high risk because of an umbilical chord issue so I was thankful for the hospital.

The constant disruptions are really annoying though.


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I feel like I'm having a boy but I know intuition is out the window when you have a preference. I had a feeling my first was a girl but wanted a boy for dh. I was sure dd2 was a boy but after coming back to this site I realized how much I had slipped back to my LE ways. This time around I've been on HE diet for the most part since July. I fell off a bit around Christmas because of the holidays and I was briefly pregnant. I know the diet, weights, and supplements aren't the magic answer but I feel like I did my best. Unfortunately , I gained 13 pounds even though I did my best to eat as clean as possible. Thankfully I'm still in the healthy range of weight but I'll be moving into maternity clothes pretty fast I'm sure!


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Do you have a hospital near you that works with midwives or promotes natural birthing? I went to a hospital but used a midwife who helped me be as natural as possible. She was phenomenal and told the nurses what they should do. It was such a better birthing experience than my first when I had to lay in the bed so I didn't make a mess for the nurses. My last pregnancy was high risk because of an umbilical chord issue so I was thankful for the hospital.

The constant disruptions are really annoying though.


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It is about 40 minutes away..... I birthed there with the midwives for my last 2 births and it was amazing. But this time I think they no longer take my health insurance and I'm also worried about the drive as my last labor was so quick. Also now that we have 3 children to leave in some one else's care I feel like it'd be easier to be right in town so my dh can run home and back to the hospital.

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Do you have a hospital near you that works with midwives or promotes natural birthing? I went to a hospital but used a midwife who helped me be as natural as possible. She was phenomenal and told the nurses what they should do. It was such a better birthing experience than my first when I had to lay in the bed so I didn't make a mess for the nurses. My last pregnancy was high risk because of an umbilical chord issue so I was thankful for the hospital.

The constant disruptions are really annoying though.


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The hospital I use is great about not pushing interventions and is certified baby friendly. Regardless, I don't qualify for unmonitored or intermittently monitored labor. Because of my clotting disorder there is a much higher risk of abruption or cord rupture in labor so monitors are kept on all the time. They do have wireless monitors though, so I can get up and walk and also waterproof ones so I can sit in the tub (allowed until 8 cm and no birthing in it). I am hooked up on IV fluids and insulin/glucose drip machine for my gestational diabetes as well. I've had good experiences overall with my births. I think a big part of it is that I'm not rigid about how I expect it to go and what I want done throughout labor. Things change and I go with the flow. I actually do not even make a birth plan because I think it sets you up for disappointment if something needs to change along the way.

I like the idea of birth centers, attached to the hospital, because you get the best of both worlds. You are able to get immediate intervention if something goes wrong, but it's less "medical" overall. No midwife would ever agree to treat me with my clotting disorder though. As it is, I'm considered too complicated for a regular OB as well. I automatically start with and continue with perinatology. He's never been the one to deliver my babies due to the hospital using rotations of doctors, but maybe this time he will since the perinatology clinic got moved to the hospital attached to L&D and the NICU. There is also a decent chance of needing a c-section with the twins. It's not common for both babies to end up in the correct position. If it's safe I'd like my twins to be my second VBAC, but that will be determined much closer to delivery or during labor.

Hi girls, I've been following this thread for a while. I've been nervous to post as I told a friend about this site and (regrettably) told her my username. I've been worried she'd find out my big news before family.

Anyway, I'd love to join this group with an EDD of the 19th September!

I have 3 beautiful and spirited sons already and results from my Harmony Test came back yesterday, and after having to ask the Dr "...and the gender", he said "oh... Um...female".

*squeal*

I was shaking all day yesterday, absolutely in shock. I will post my sway when I have some time to sit at the pc, as I only seem to hop on this forum on my phone, in bed.

A girl! I can't believe my body is growing a GIRL! [emoji177][emoji175][emoji177][emoji175][emoji177][emoji175][emoji177][emoji175][emoji177][emoji175]

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Hi girls, I've been following this thread for a while. I've been nervous to post as I told a friend about this site and (regrettably) told her my username. I've been worried she'd find out my big news before family.

Anyway, I'd love to join this group with an EDD of the 19th September!

I have 3 beautiful and spirited sons already and results from my Harmony Test came back yesterday, and after having to ask the Dr "...and the gender", he said "oh... Um...female".

*squeal*

I was shaking all day yesterday, absolutely in shock. I will post my sway when I have some time to sit at the pc, as I only seem to hop on this forum on my phone, in bed.

A girl! I can't believe my body is growing a GIRL! [emoji177][emoji175][emoji177][emoji175][emoji177][emoji175][emoji177][emoji175][emoji177][emoji175]

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Congratulations Am3a! How exciting!!

I asked to join your group, I'm Catherine Dougherty on FB. ;)

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Quinn thats interesting that they suspect twins but only saw one. What made the dr say twins? How exciting, my dh would die!

2xblue I'd feel the same way. I'm hoping to have it written down and find out privately but right now dh is being a little insensitive about it.... he doesn't see what the big deal is which is annoying. I cried in the ultrasound when we found out ds3 was a boy. It was embarrassing but I couldn't help it. Another boy will be deeply loved but I'd like to process it alone.

Lauren I agree I never understood the 2 week thing but hey if it makes me sound closer to my due date I'll take it!

So I am in a Facebook group for women ttc and swaying and we are starting to get BFP's so I created a spin off group for women who swayed and are due in the fall. It is brand new so only a hand full of members so far but if you're on fb I'd be happy for anyone to join !
https://www.facebook.com/groups/1534.../?notif_t=like

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Ahhhhhh, so exciting Am3a!!! Do you feel any different this time around? I have two boys and am hoping for a girl this time around but will be over the moon for the new baby, regardless! :happy: So glad you are joining our group!!

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Originally Posted by Am3a

Hi girls, I've been following this thread for a while. I've been nervous to post as I told a friend about this site and (regrettably) told her my username. I've been worried she'd find out my big news before family.

Anyway, I'd love to join this group with an EDD of the 19th September!

I have 3 beautiful and spirited sons already and results from my Harmony Test came back yesterday, and after having to ask the Dr "...and the gender", he said "oh... Um...female".

*squeal*

I was shaking all day yesterday, absolutely in shock. I will post my sway when I have some time to sit at the pc, as I only seem to hop on this forum on my phone, in bed.

A girl! I can't believe my body is growing a GIRL! [emoji177][emoji175][emoji177][emoji175][emoji177][emoji175][emoji177][emoji175][emoji177][emoji175]

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Originally Posted by 2xblue

DH doesn't really have a preference. He's happy with either one. Though he hopes for a girl for my sake. He's concerned how I will react if it's a boy. I was really nauseous this time but also was nauseous in my other pregnancies aswell. DH says I've been more sick this time but I'm not sure. Have been having less breakouts this time. But nothing significantly different.

I can understand how nervous you are because you swayed for your DH. It makes the whole swaying thing different when you are doing it for someone else. You would be happy with either one? Really hoping it's a boy for your DH.

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We share a lot in common 2xblue!! So, I am really trying to work through this gender knowledge. I can't decide if I should know or not know. I can have my Harmony test in 1.5 weeks. I can find out the gender then but DH would like to wait until the birth. He has wanted to with each baby but I always outweighed him and needed to know. I cried on our way home when I found out Baby #2 was a boy. :sad: I swore we would do HT for our #3 to ensure it was a girl but the cost was too much for me to feel like we really should. I desperately want a girl and so does DH and the rest of our immediate and extended family. I honestly feel like I will let everyone down if it's not a girl. :sad: I know that sounds silly but its how I feel especially since my in-laws are not at all happy about us having 3 kids, they think anyone with more than 2 are crazy.:sigh:

A part of me thinks I should wait until the birth because how could I possibly be sad with a new little baby in my arms?? I know I wouldn't be. I try to picture myself finding out early especially if it's a boy and I worry that I will spend the rest of my pregnancy a little too sad and disappointed. I worry about how I'll react and process things if it's another boy, which I'm so embarrassed to admit. A friend of mine had her baby yesterday (she didn't know what she was having) and its a girl. My heart actually sank a little when I found out because I want it so bad but it truly may not be in the cards for me which is so hard to accept. I'm so frustrated at myself for not just being happy for her! Anyway, thanks for "listening". I feel like this is the only place I can truly say how I feel about it without sounding ungrateful. :worry: