Wow what stupid things to say. I'm sorry. Want me to come smack them?
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Wow what stupid things to say. I'm sorry. Want me to come smack them?
Hi Jark, I know I don't belong on this thread but I wanted to pop over to answer your question, hope thats ok? I'm so sorry you didn't hear girl and I honestly know how you are feeling. When I found out DS3 was a boy I was devastated and spent such a long time crying. The whole pregnancy felt hopeless and a complete waste of time. I had swayed so hard for a girl and I was angry and wanted to start the pregnancy all over again.Quote:
Originally Posted by jark22
DS3 is the light of my life. I can't even describe to you how much I love having him. He is the Biggest mummys boy ever and he is so sweet.
Having three boys is not awful and it has some wonderful moments. When they are all sitting on the sofa together or playing with each other I feel so proud to have three boys and very special to be an all boy mum. People do comment but I take it as a compliment because I am special enough to have all one sex that they need to comment. If I had a mixed family people wouldn't give me the time of day lol. I think about when they are older and how they will all go 'out on the town' together and look out for one another.
Give yourself time to grieve but try to look on the positives, go out and by some new clothes for him. Start thinking about names and book a 4D scan. All these help.
I know how you feel and no doubt when I hear I am having boy number four I will be right back with you. BUT THREE BOYS IS SPECIAL and if that rude woman doesn't think so then that's her loss. Lots of hugs xxxxxxx
Oh sweetie 3 boys are great honestly they are. My boys are helpful and considerate and very caring, they play together and if one doesn't want to play then there's always another one who wants to. Ds3 does get left out a little because he's so much younger than the other two, which I think has made him grow up very quickly and he is quite pushy but ds1&2 love it. I often find them in a big bundle giggling away. boys are so so so amazing!
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Jark, I agree with everything 3boys said in her post. I absolutely adore my 3 boys. I think I've mentioned this several times, but when I heard ds3 was a boy I was a mess... In the ultrasound room and at home for days. But like 3boys said, my ds3 is also the light of my life. He has brought so much happiness into our lives and to see him interact with his two older brothers is priceless. I love being able I say things like "my boys", etc. I learned to build thick skin in regards to the negative comments because believe it or not, I still get sympathy comments..... I've learned to laugh and say I wouldn't change it for the world. Sometimes I feel like slapping them, because they say it in front of my older boys and I don't ever want them to feel like I wished they were a girl, kwim? I know you will be in love with this new baby boy and it will take some time to go through the grieving process. You're a special mom to have 3 boys and will truly be blessed someday. Hugs to you sweetie.
(Sorry if I rambled a bit)
I'm afraid of #3 getting left out.... My boys will be 4 and almost 6 when he's born. If it was a girl I wouldn't be worried because of the gender difference. Oh well- it is what it is I guess.Quote:
Originally Posted by Tiffani3
It's really strange but I am loving the comments from people at the moment I find my self jumping into there horrible words and reassuring my self that 4 boys will be wonderful. Putting that oh bet your hoping it was a girl to NO is a little boy and I'm so over the moon you wouldn't believe.
I have realised that I let those people judge and comment on my life my family when the have no right to, and because I was sad and upset I let them. You will find your strength and love for your little man and you will fight to protect him no matter what just give yourself time. xx
Jark, my 1st ds is 7, my 2nd is 5 at the end of this month, and my 3rd ds is 16 months. They LOVE him to pieces. I wouldn't worry about that at all. Your little guy will find his way right into his brothers hearts. And my dd is 3, and my oldest doesn't treat her as nicely as he treats our 3rd ds.
They will be fine hun. They will adore him totally. I find I play with ds3 a lot more than I did with my older too (as they had each other) which is wonderful as we have such a wonderful bond together he is such a special sweet little boy. Plus you'll have two little helpers when he's born and time alone with him when your two older ones are at school it will be lovely just you wait and see xxQuote:
Originally Posted by jark22
I have mentioned before on other posts if people have the time and energy to say rude negative comments about other peoples family make up they must be lacking something very important in their own life to turn them into horrible people who feed off upsetting people. I don't envy them one bit and you usually find deep down they envy us.
They could have a million girls and I wouldn't swap life's.
I agree 3boys. Young families need support, not criticism.