I've told someone before not to make gender comments in front of my boys bc my older one listens and I wouldn't trade him for a girl. Needless to say they felt like an ass after that
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I've told someone before not to make gender comments in front of my boys bc my older one listens and I wouldn't trade him for a girl. Needless to say they felt like an ass after that
Spinning, I swear you and I are one in the same.
Wow, I can't keep up with you ladies. But I read though the threads this time.
I am so sorry to those struggling with hearing opposites. Our group certainly seems to be teeming with the support we all need. I feel lucky to have found this room, I know I will be okay because when I hear boy, everyone here will be so lovely, I won't feel as alone. I hope the ladies who are coping with intense GD right now are getting feeling that support and it eases them in even the tiniest way. I really do feel for you.
As for people saying stupid things, you ladies are brilliant. I am dealing with the first bits, since I am only showing a little bit (only in certain clothes) and have gotten some stupid ones already. And I never want my boys to feel less desired. I am learning to grow thicker skin, even if it means I am lying through my teeth. I told my MIL this week (we are at her house, blah!) that I wanted another boy because I think three boys is so special and that they certainly draw the eye more than two boys and a girl. Naturally, I wanted to hit her in the gut. Lol. She is so obsessed with a granddaughter (as if I would seriously let her dote on her...since she ignores the boys), I wanted to make it perfectly clear we love boys! Naturally, I was lying...I want a daughter probably more than I even admit. But I think I'll get used to hearing stupid comments and will continue to feel lucky as all sin to have my two boys and the darling growing in my belly. Possibly more so because I will be this baby's biggest advocate if he is a boy...since everyone will assume I will be disappointed and act like I lost my best friend. I refuse to let them bring me down. I am sad we have to come up with snarky comments. But people won't cease being stupid any time soon! Lol.
Oh, I am loving hearing how many third boys get along good with their brothers. My two fight like mad. Knock-down, drag-out (at 3 and 14 months!)...I am so hoping adding a third will add new dynamics. My brothers adore each other...they work togehter, share cars, double date, have the same friends, and truly are best friends. I was a little deluded heading into having brothers, thinking mine would be loving and close. But I hope it comes with time. I'll be sad if my boys don't like each other or fight horribly even as adults. Maybe a third boy would make them get along a little better. They will all be less than 3 years apart (my oldest will be 3.5 when the youngest is born), so I hope it will take some of the pressure off my two to be "best buddies." although I don't know if the same would happen if this one is a girl. So many things to think about! Lol.
I am trying to ignore the fact that my scan is on Friday. I am having second thoughts about wanting to know. Lol. I have the opposite if what most folks on here seemed to have had going on. My gut really, really says this baby is a boy. My head says girl (various symptoms that might mean nothing, nub shots, baby placement, etc adding up to "doesn't all that point to girl" in my head). It is terrifying me that I am mentally thinking girl and I keep trying to combat it by saying "of course it's a boy." and want to hear the stupidest thing ever...I STILL can't let go of that Gosh-darn Chinese gender chart! Besides my gut, that is the only thing that makes me sure it is a boy. It was right for both of my other boys...and that makes me think it must be right again. It seems it is either "completely wrong" or "completely right." I am sure it is not the case. It prolly is just a 50-50 thing and it happened to fall on boy and be right twice, clearly have gone off the deep end. But I guess if it holds my hopes in check, it isn't a bad thing.
Sorry I am not around much. I just have been traveling a lot and keeping up with the boys on a trip is tough. My youngest still doesn't sleep well, so it makes trips even harder. I will try to be around more often when we get home. But I am grateful to have this room of ladies.
My son wanted a girl for ds3 but they are really close. In reality my three boys fight less now there are 3 of them. When there was two if one was in a bad mood and one was bored or lonely they'd just irritate each other, now there is 3, the one in the mood gets their space whilst the other two play together, then once the one is over his sulk they join in. Now there is a choice they rub along together really well and get on both as a few sets of twos and as a complete threesome.Quote:
Originally Posted by spinningmadly
Hopefully you will get your little girl, but if not 3 boys are great x
Oh ignore them, she was probably having a bad day, bad days are horrible and really get me down but then they are for us few and far between and i had them with two boys just the same. Three boys are really special, you will never be short of someone to love you or kisses, you are treated like a princess and told regularly how great you are and they will have such lovely brotherly bonding moments that will melt your heart and easily make you forget the bad days xQuote:
Originally Posted by jark22
One more note whilst i'm sticking my nose in your thread........as to the age gap thing my eldest (nearly 8) and my youngest (2) have the strongest bond and they never ever fight - ds3 idiolises ds1 and ds1 lets him get away with anything
That's the same as mine mrs p but my ds1 is 10 and ds3 is 2 and they get on so so well, ds1 will do anything and every thing for him! He gets him out of bed every morning and they have breakfast together it's so sweet. I hope this little one has a special bond with ds2 xxQuote:
Originally Posted by Mrs_P
Wow, a lot of us had GD with our 3rd DSs
The truth is in my signature, my older two boys still fight like they always have but the hilarious part is, DS3 jumps in with a pillow every time. Next thing you know everyone is in a fit of laughter. :P For us, DS3 is our peacemaker, they all have their moments of course but for the most part, 3 boys are awesome! To the "you'll find out" lady, Jark don't pay her any mind, I have to agree there must be something seriously lacking in her life. That doesn't mean that's going to be you. Your sweet baby boy will be such an amazing addition to your family. :HH:
Jark I'm sorry it's still hurting :( and sorry you've had to deal with those stupid stupid comments. Trust me I know what that like, the best way is to just stick it back at the ferociously.
Surgena, the skull theory is total bollcks. The skull doesn't form into the gender related shapes until puberty, so the theory is not even worth the paper it's written on.
Fx you have your girl (I really think you do) not long now till you find out
So sorry about your granny shell :( sending you lots of love and hugs
Update on me, I'm doing ok. On a scale of 1 to 10 (10 being the best) I'm probably a 7.
My heart still drops every time I see a girl. And I've been doing some online shopping and my i feel this slight pang of pain when I see cute pink things. But I'm really hoping, and really trying so hard to work towards making that stop. I feel so guilty for feeling those moments of sadness, I know that everything I feel goes directly into the baby, and I feel like I owe it to him to be 100% happy, he has done nothing wrong, it's not his fault he has a penis, he is just growing away nicely, and all he wants is to be loved, as pure and simple as that. He doesn't deserve for me to feel any disappointment in him.....which is where my minutes of guilt come from.
I've been analysing my sway, and really I should have fully expected a fail, all I had was dietamd vegetarianism, nothing else. And I was taking soy as well!
In hindsight I now know that the reason I didn't fall pregnant is because of my tilted uterus NOT because of all the swaying stuff. So if we go back for 3 I'm confidant I can have a strong sway and still fall pregnant. But then I see all the strong failed sways and think, maybe I just don't bother. Maybe we just DTD and cross our fingers for all that is worth. Anyways that's a long way off yet, we'd want at least a 3 year gap. Heck, maybe by then there will be some scientific advance!
I bit the bullet and decided to tell my co workers. I was tossing up wether I would, but I decided to do it. I figured why should I hide his gender like some shameful secret just because they are ignorant and hurtful. He is my son. I love him. And I'm ferociously protective of him already. So I told them all its a boy, and then the "oh dears" and "I'm sorry's" started rolling in. So I just told them I was actually overjoyed, that there was nothing to be sorry for because I am so proud of the fact that I have another son growing inside me, I have a happy, healthy baby growing inside of me, and anyone who can't see the joy in that needs to be sorry for themselves, not for me.
I really don't know where that came from, because I am the quiet submissive type, but not only did they believe it, but it put an end to all their commentary. One of them even apologised!
So my advice to anyone having trouble with comments is to stick it to them firmly, let them see that you are proud and in love (fake it till you make it if you have to) and it shuts them up.
So all in all I think I am doing ok. I am truly head over heels in love, he is mine, a creation that me and the man that I love made together, I wouldn't swap him, even though he is still in utero, I wouldn't swap him. This little soul chose us, and I'm embracing the miracle of life. I can't change that he has a penis, the only thing I can change is how I react to it. It's entirely my choice wether I choose to be sad and disappointed, or wether I choose to accept it and love him for who he is, my son. I keep playing that in my head, and it honestly makes it so much easier to smile, and so much easier to push to the back of my mind the desire for pink. All this little man wants is to be loved, just love, and I can give him that, I might not be able to give him the best toys, the best books, the best gadgets, but I can give him the best of my love, and I will do exactly that.
Thanks for letting me rant girls. It's such a relief to be able to get everything out of my head!
I'm glad you're doing okay... keep trying to look forward to this new little being coming into your life... <3 He'll be beautiful and you'll fall in love with him!Quote:
Originally Posted by Lassie1982
I knew it! No wonder the skull theory just doesn't make any sense to me! 9 days until gender scan.