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Beadin I would get the results if it was me. It's going to be far more accurate than a nub and you can still confirm at 20 week ultrasound. In fact I think you know even the 20 week scan isn't perfect so the more chances to confirm the better!Quote:
Originally Posted by BeadinMom
5.30 here so that is 11.30 am your time. I really hope they don't cancel it as the receptionist wouldn't give me one at 21 weeks so i rang back till i spoke to her colleague and just asked for a scan that week! DEvious huh?Quote:
Originally Posted by Huds
Soar if it is a girl I will shout it from the rooftops but if it is a boy I will wait till I am ready to tell people - i might be so excited after seeing him on the scan that i am ready to tell people straight away but I wont be telling anyone about the scan just in case I need time to process.
Beadin-I think it is a great test to go by. I think mrsP also did that test and it said girl and she just had her! I think like Meeks said its great to have and then the 20 weeks scan can also back it up as well!
Finding out gender is always nerve racking for sure! My gender scan is in 11 days!!! Yikes!
Soar - I would find out gender ASAP if it was me! I am too impatient!
Emily - So exciting!!! Looking forward to hearing!
BeadinMom - Again, I would find out gender, too! I highly doubt you would hear the wrong results...very, very unlikely!!
AFM - Speaking of MaterniT21, I got my results. It's a boy. The good news is, his chromosomes are healthy, so obviously, I am happy about that. Not that I was shocked to hear boy, I wasn't. I am still devastated, though. I really, truly believed that God had promised me a daughter. Those of you who believe, may understand...those of you who don't, well, I completely understand you thinking, "Why in the world would you think something so crazy??" Because it does seem crazy. Especially now. But, there is some history there in what I believe was God's promise to me...started before I got pg with DS3. I had a miscarriage after 8 months of trying...shortly after, I saw a very vivid rainbow. Immediately felt in my heart that God was communicating with me that I wasn't going to have another miscarriage. I can't explain it...I just knew. Saw another very vivid rainbow a few days later. Again, immediately felt that God was saying I was going to get pg very soon. Saw another one a few days after that...felt that God was saying I would have a girl. The first two came true...got pg the next cycle, didn't have a miscarriage. The third one, obviously did not. Fast forward to when we started considering TTC#4. Started seeing lots of rainbows. Began to think...ok, I think maybe now we're going to have a daughter. If you've read my sway, you'll see all the other rainbow connections (saw one on conception day!), including the name we had picked for a girl...it seemed to really be God speaking to me. So, truth be told, I didn't even consider the fact that we could have another boy, until AFTER we were pg! I even bought nice pink girly bedding before I knew we were pg. So, yeah, that's why I'm devastated. I just don't understand how I could have made all that up in my head.
I had told DH about all the rainbow stuff from the very beginning, so he was well aware of it. Prayed with me that this would be a girl, etc., etc. We had a good, long talk tonight about it all. He, amazingly, fully believes that I am not crazy. That we will have a daughter. Said he doesn't know how it will happen or when, but that it will happen. He basically said money is no object, because who is he to stand in the way of God fulfilling His promise to me? OMG, I just cannot believe that he is so open and willing. I had mentioned to him before that I would not do this without a guarantee...and I won't. Too much heartache. So that leaves either adoption or HT. I am open to both. Of course, as I mentioned before, I don't know how in the world I'm going to handle 4 boys, so having a 5th child is beyond my realm of comprehension! But anyway, I married an amazing man, is all I can say. He even said that he thinks we should keep the pink bedding! I am trying to wrap my head around it all.
Ok. Enough talking about myself. At least now I know. And I am so happy that he's healthy. I am crossing my fingers for all of you who don't know yet that you are blessed with your beautiful little girls (or boys if that's what you want). Can't wait to hear all the upcoming news!
Rainbow...
I believe...<3
Thank you so much...trying not to cry now. Thanks for your support! I really, really hope you get your DD!Quote:
Originally Posted by BeadinMom
Rainbow, I'm so sorry you didn't get the girl of your dreams, that's not fair. I'm glad at least you could find out early with the materni21 test so by the time you get to the 20w scan you can simply enjoy seeing baby rather than be hunting for gender clues and walking out elated or devastated. I really wish you got your girl but have no doubt this boy is going to be very special and you won't be able to imagine life without him soon. Xxx hugs
Rainbow, I'm so sorry for the heartache you feel now. But am happy you have such a wonderful and supportive husband! Perhaps this is all just part of the bigger picture. Yes 5 children sounds like a lot but I can only imagine that should you have a 5th you'll be forever grateful that you got your 'extra' boy!! None of this is particularly helpful right now I'm sure, and I really am sorry for the loss you currently feel. But I don't think your journey is over.... Enjoy your perfect healthy little boy, and let him fill your heart with the happiness it needs right now!
Congratulations on a healthy baby boy. I know you must be feeling sad right now but it sounds like you know how lucky you are. DH sounds amazing and the other are right you will adore your little man.
Have you seen the opposites thread? The ladies over there have found that it halps them to chat, get excited about shopping etc but please stay on her too xx
Eek can't wait!!!!! Will be thinkin of u on Monday :-)Quote:
Originally Posted by Emily
Rainbow-I totally believe! God has a plan and your daughter will come to you no doubt! God also gave you an amazing DH! You found out so quickly with your results! I didn't realize you would know so quickly! Congratulations on a precious little boy!!!!! So glad you know he is healthy!
Soar - Yeah, I didn't know I would find out this week, either. I had been told 10-14 days, so I was thinking absolute earliest on Monday...crazy knowing this soon!
Thank you to all you wonderful ladies for your encouragement and kind words. I am still somewhat sad today, but feeling much better. I know in time it will improve. And yes, DH is amazing! I still am not sure that I want DD so bad to have #5, but knowing it is an option is such a comfort. I just need to wait and see how 4 goes, I guess! But then again, who am I to stand in the way of God's promise to me, ya know?? It all remains to be seen!
Looking forward to hearing all the results from upcoming scans...so many in the next couple of weeks. Yay!!
Today has been totally rubbish, stressful without achieving very much and I am completely knackered. I find pregnancy utterly exhausting!
I was however cheered up when I got home and discovered the few things I ordered the other day had arrived... So I made some outfits. DH was laughing at me, I'm such a loser!
Anyway here are the pics...
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They didn't photograph that well but if you zoom in you can see some of the detail.
Rainbow I'm glad you're feeling better today, of course it will take a little while to adjust to the new dream.
Girls with scans approaching Good Luck! What order and when are they...!?
Rainbow, you are amazing. I think you and your DH are amazing, and I too believe that you will have your girl. Congratulations to you on a healthy baby boy, you are blessed. And I too, believe :) Thinking of you!
Good luck to all of you with scans so quickly approaching! HOW EXCITING! Cannot wait to hear everyone's news.
We have our NT scan on Tuesday and to be honest I feel like I will get the tech that doesn't even want to take a guess, but to be even more honest, I just want to hear great things at our NT scan. I am still so terrified after our MMC (does this ever end for those that have had MC's before???), I just want to see and hear that everything is just fine with baby(although I am still anxious to know the news)...
Tree, SO ADORABLE all of the little outfits! I love that you are having so much fun with this :)
Tree if it was me I would have done the same. My dh is familiar with my strange organisational quirks and often shakes his head!
My scan is Tuesday week (27th) and I'll be 15 weeks. It's just a scan at my ob so if he's out delivering a baby I'm not sure the midwife will hazard a guess, but I will ask for a side profile shot and a potty shot anyway.
Tree-baby clothes are crying out to be organised! So cute.
My scan is on monday afternoon so late morning uk time. If they let me have it as the doc prefers 22 weeks.
On the pond good luck with your scan. So lovely to finally see your baby.
Tree - So adorable! Enjoy all your shopping!
Meeks - Only 10 days! I hope you get a peek! My first 2 DS's were obviously boys at 16 weeks, so I would think at 15, you'd get a good idea. My brother & sis-in-law found out my niece was a girl at 15 weeks!
Onthpond - Thank you so much for your encouragement! I am kind of wowed by DH, too. Wasn't expecting him to say that! I'm definitely a blessed woman. :)
Yep, at 16 weeks mine were all obvious!!
Rainbow-been thinking about you today!
Emily-Monday is only in 2 sleeps! You are so close!
AFM-today was a day! Went wedding clothes shopping with DH for the wedding in NY. I think I tried on 30 dresses. Nothing felt pretty but I settled for a black form fitting dress with a black satin ribbon below the bust. It was $100 way more than I wanted to spend but all the other dresses where even more $$$ and soooo ugly! I bought it at a boutique called Pickles and Ice Cream. Ugh I think I will start a maternity line of clothes and make dresses that still make you feel like a woman as opposed to a child or a large blob of blah! Who's with me? I think we should call it "NO large blob of blah allowed maternity boutique". Bahahahah! But seriously!
I will shop at your store! I have been feeling so unflattered by most of my clothes....there is a pair of mat jeans that I feel hot in coupled with a very nice Thyme mat. black shirt. Otherwise, I have too bulky of shirts, to snug of ones and boobs that are trying to jump out of everything!! All I ask for is a few lovely apple green shirts that are like that black one...that would be great!!Quote:
Originally Posted by Soar
Glad to hear that you found something to wear Soar!! You will look so pretty!
I have a few things from my trip for my little girl, kept it to a dull roar :) Let me know if you do or don't want to see the items. It was therapy in a time and space when all my head was thinking about was the 3% vs 97%. That being said...I still am having a hard time wrapping myself around all the terms of what could be in 16 or so weeks in terms of health.
Ladybugs-yes it's show and tell Time! Lets see what you purchased! I will work on the apple green tops in my first line! :-)
Attachment 13192Attachment 13193 Unlike Tree, I have not organized anything...I had been getting all my boy gear together for the last 4 weeks. My plan of the week is to sort through what I need to get on sale and what could wait.
Ladybugs-awwww so sweet! Love the ladybug outfit!!!! You have great taste!
Have you tried isabella Oliver dresses on line? her wrap dresses are pricey but gorgeous. They have 70% off in america now too. Isabellaoliver.com or co.uk for ladies in England.Quote:
Originally Posted by Soar
My scan has been confirmed for Monday so either way i will be doing some shopping on Tuesday!
Ladybugs your outfits are sooo cute!! By the way in so not organised. Apart from those few outfits. This pregnancy is just whizzing by. Will prob use the boys stuff for when she is really little as its neutral. Perhaps I'll get a few more bits to make them girlie. All the boys little clothes are packed away in boxes, so goodness knows when we will get to them!
Very exciting for the upcoming scans! How are you all feeling about it? I got so nervous as the scan date approached.
I agree about Maternity clothes, for the most part it's so frumpy! And the nice stuff is crazy expensive. In the UK (not sure about other countries) we have ASOS which is good and reasonably priced. Then Topshop which has the odd nice thing. H&M are quite good for trousers I think.
I always hope to look nice and glamorous in pregnancy, then end up in my husbands clothes. :-)
Girls who have three kids, what's was the transition like between 2 and 3? I'm nervous! When I think about things like getting them all in the car.... How!?
Agree on the maternity clothes, there are plenty of nice ones but they are all so expensive.
I have brought from ASOS before and liked it though, cheap and flattering. They ship free worldwide (I think, it's free to Oz anyway).
Love h&m but we don't have it here and it doesn't seem to ship internationally! Grrr
Ps I am loving everyone's clothes. I haven't brought anything yet. Feel a bit strange about that. I just don't want to buy anything unless I have an idea of gender. I spent two pregnancies trying to buy neutral so I could reuse things, but this being my last, I just want to buy a colour!!!
Been away feeling unwell and sorry for myself, and it is lovely to be reading so many beautiful updates.
I will try doing better when this second trimester healthy glow kicks in.
But thought I'd just say hi anyway!
I'd love to know as well about the transition from 2-3. Most people i've spoken to make it seem like not really a big deal - the baby just falls into the schedule that you already have going. I'm hoping it's that simple for us!
From 2 to 3 was nothing...honestly. I hope from 3 to 4 is just as easy!! :)
Lolly, congrats on the sweet baby girl!!
Good to know adding #3 doesn't change to much! I like that! My concern is also about getting in the car with everyone safe while running errands. I can't remember who voiced that concern but I'm with you on that worry! Any moms of 3 or more wanna give their how to's on that one?
How is everyone feeling m/s wise? I'm still getting sick. Woke up at 5:45am and ran to the bathroom! Anyone else in this same boat still? Ugh it's really starting to bring Me down! I want to feel good! I'm still eating two eggs for breakfast. And at night I drink a glass of orange juice but nothing seems to help the super early morning sickness! What if I am the lady who is sick the entire pregnancy? I will be 19 weeks Tuesday.
Soar sound positive for a girl, my ms dragged on way longer than with the boys and even now (22 weeks) I still get waves.
It was me who asked about getting 3 kids in the car, and yes I agree the more info about logistics with three would be awesome!!
I also wonder how DS1 will react to another sibling, we were so lucky with how amazingly he has embraced DS2. I think DS2 will still be young enough to not be effected.
Soar I'm not as far along as you (14 weeks) and still sick. Was horrible today and yesterday. I never really had any sickness in my other pregnancies but this time it has been relentless and the worst bit is I retch and retch but usually only bring up some bile as my stomach is empty. Hoping it eases off for us soon :-)
Tree I usually walk with my three boys. I have two in the nipper 360 which is amazing double buggy and my eldest who is 6 walks alongside us. When my baby was littler (less than 1 and a half), I carried him in the ergo and just pushed a single buggy. When we use the car, we have three car seats in the back and it's actually not too hard logistically to get them all in now they are a wee bit older. My two older boys climb in themselves.
Initially being honest I found going 2 to 3 quote challenging because my children were all four and under, now we are in a routine it is nice. I work full time but still feel I get lots of time with them. My baby didn't get in a routine until he was a year as he was nursing all the time until then. I loved the ergo because I could nurse in it and I also wore him all the time round the house as he was a grumpy wee thing who liked constant contact.
Adjusting from 2-3 was pretty easy for me. 1-2 was much harder! My oldest was old enough to strap himself into his carseat by the time DS3 came along, so I really only had to worry about the baby and DS2...that was super helpful! (DS1 was 4, almost 5 when DS3 was born.) I am hoping DS2 (who just turned 4) will be able to do his own carseat when DS4 gets here...I'll still only have to worry about the two littlest! But I fully intend to avoid running errands with all of them. It'll just have to wait till they're in school or on weekends when DH is home!
Soar - I'm still sick. I've been on morning sickness medication since 5 weeks and I've tried to go off in the last couple week and every time I try I start to feel like i'm coming down with the flu and get really nauseous. I've had it bad with all 3 of my pregnancies but DS2 was way worse than DS1 and this one seems to be very similar to DS2 but it started a lot earlier. I'm almost 24 weeks
And even with only 2 right now I rarely run errands with them together. I usually go on days when DS1 is in preschool for the morning or do it in the evenings once they are in bed. I like grocery shopping in peace so I'm happy to just avoid it at all costs with the kids. DS1 will be in school when #3 comes so that will help! My babies are all late year babies (Oct & Dec.. this one Dec. also) so they start school early.. which actually is quite nice when it comes to new additions arriving!
Thanks to the women who have 3 or more and the tips, I love these!
I found going from 1 to 2 was challenging, but not as bad as I imagined (I have a great/ridiculous imagination, lol). But I had a double pram and they were only 2 years and 3 weeks apart so ds1 was still in the pram for another 5-6 months when I had ds2. Not all the time, but when it was important he would go in there. That helped immensely when we went out.
This time the gap will be longer, and ds2 isnt using the pram almost ever... yet also isnt safe to hold my hand and walk without slipping out and running away. Hoping like mad this changes by February 4th! I dont know how to walk a 2 and 4 year old around plus a pram, but like the others said, I plan to rarely need to attempt it, without either dh around or ds1 at kinder. Thankfully ds1 starts 3 x 5hr days at kinder in January so I should have enough days where its just ds2 and baby to wrangle. Getting them in the car no longer scares me, we have been babysitting a friend's toddler so I worked out the seating configuration and brought a seatbelt extender for the middle seat due to the tight squeeze, this helps me not have to reach between the seats and fiddle too much to click them in. I think ds1 will be able to click himself in most times, as he has started to do that now. Only thing I worry about is him poking baby (ds1 is our difficult one). I am worried about feeds, since I struggled with breastfeeding both times and am really keen to try it again regardless of those experiences, but it takes SO long to do each feed for me, and i'm wondering how I will entertain the boys while I feed so many times a day. I mean with ds1 I used things like tv time, activities or snack time to feed ds2 but there was only one of him. This time ds1 and ds2 fight a lot and I am constantly having to tell ds1 to stop being naughty, no idea how that will go.
Did I tell you I have a date for the birth?? Feb 4th!!! It is so seriously weird knowing when, but there has to be some perk to caesarians because everything else is CRAP. Wish I could safely choose to naturally birth but my doctors keep reminding me its impossible for me. Sigh.
So anyway i'm trying to get excited about the one perk, knowing the date! Of course I didnt get to CHOOSE the date, contrary to popular belief, they just choose a date for you and you have no say. Although I was happy my ob asked if there was any date in that week that I would definitely not want to give birth, which was nice, I didnt mind but if I had a relative die or a negative association with a date, I imagine that would be a comfort.
How strange Meeks, I feel like my range for giving birth is about a month! Both boys were very overdue but I hear things can be different with opposite sex. I do however still expect to go over.
Girls thanks for the tips and comfort. Ds3 will still be so young when this baby arrives and that had concerned me before, but actually now, realising that means I can have them both in a double buggy I feel quite comforted. And I guess shopping the can both then go in the trolly and DS1 can walk.
So I'm wide awake, despite being so very tired!! I've got terrible acid reflux! I had it with DS2 and it was horrible, somehow thought I was going to get away with it this time. I've taken two tums and they just haven't worked. I now can't take anymore and am having to sit up right. As if the constant wake ups to wee weren't enough... I would love to be asleep right now! :-( Pregnancy sure does present a few challenges huh!