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Awwww!!! Tooo cute!! <3Quote:
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Oh my god Bunny- how adorable! Nice photos two- she is pretty dang adorable even via ultrasound. So crazy to me that we basically have Bunny sized babies in there now. Lol. Like real babies without tails! Time is FLYING.
Girlie, you are a trooper- I would have DONE DONE too. I am all about me time so I know the right thing is to be done...I'll probably mourn it for a couple years but I think I'll move on nicely once I start having fun with all older kids and getting more freedom again.
Both twins, but especially Ophelia, are super alert and inquisitive when awake. Always looking around wide eyed at everything.
I'm mourning the thought of being done. I want another chance at a term pregnancy. I thought I could get to 34 or more with the twins, but then something must have been going wrong. I went in after not feeling movements out of Ophelia all day and feeling off somehow, only to find I was having some contractions and their heart rates were about 20 points lower than normal. I got the magnesium drip and first steroid shot, which changed my contractions to being more spaced out, but they never stopped. The twins' heart rates dropped even more to 100-110 range and I ended up on oxygen without it helping. They backed off the magnesium to try to increase their heart rates and it didn't work, but then I started dilating quickly and they recommended a c-section because they didn't think Ophelia would tolerate laboring, delivering Dalton, and then repeating the process with her. Then they didn't tolerate anesthesia at all and were born in rough shape. I feel cheated. DH says 6 kids is enough and in theory that sounds likely, but on the other hand, I don't feel ready to be done yet and doing something permanent to remove the possibility. I may change my mind and want to be done after the twins are home and I settle into a routine. I just don't know. I have managed to convince DH to hold off calling to get on the wait list for a vasectomy for now at least, although people keep pushing him to and insisting it needs to be done. One or the other of his parents keeps calling and asking about it, which I feel is completely out of line and none of their business.
Mamas I need advice! My 18 month old started showing signs he was ready to go down to 1 nap awhile ago..I finally bit the bullet about 4 days ago. Simultaneously he's been moodier...due to 18 month old tantrums starting or sleep regression I'm not sure but he's definitely a bit off. He's also really mamafied and clingy. Anyway, first day of transitioning went terribly because I made him stay up too late instead of gradually doing it. So I got smart and started with 11 am and we'v worked our way up to 11:30 but he's only sleeping ONE hour. With two naps we were sleeping 1 to 2 hours PER nap. So now he's so exhausted I have to put him to bed at 6 and we're still short about an hour of sleep every day. He's a pretty happy kid but I can tell he's tired- he's throwing way more tantrums. Part of me so badly wants to give up and just deal with struggling with 2 naps but part of me thinks I'm this far in, I should stick to it and fingers crossed his schedule works itself out BEFORE our move in 2 weeks when he'll be going through a whole new transition. Thoughts? What worked for you going from 2 naps to 1? How long did it take?
Lala. How long do you wait before you get him out of bed?
I have this babymonitor with build in music.
If she wakes up to soon i put the music on right away. And most of the time she sleeps right back in. If i do get her out of bed she's quite moody.
She various with sleeps though. Sometimes two short sleeps.
But mostly one sleep and it can be 1-3 hours. (Sometimes even more)
But if she doesn't end up in her own bed she sleeps less
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It sounds like you are having a hard time processing the trauma of their birth which is totally understandable as it would have been nothing like you pictured. Also it would be a stressful time being separated most of the day from your babies. Do you have much support? I imagine having another baby with a normal pregnancy and birth would be healing but it is still very early. You need to let your body recover from the pregnancy and birth and also give yourself more time to process it all in your head. Do you have anyone you trust that you could talk to as just getting it out can help?Quote:
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If you are not ready for permeant contraception then don't do it yet, just do use temporary methods you feel comfortable with. My friend has 6 kids too and was always being pressured into birth control, health practitioners seem to think you don't know what you are doing or something because they think no one wants that many kids! She didn't feel done after her 6th either but I think they decided it was enough and they haven't had anymore. I'm not saying that is the choice you should make, mearly just saying that sometimes you might never feel done. Anyway, you have plenty of time to decide, for now concentrate on those little ones getting stronger and being able to come home!
Well today I gave him 45 minutes and he just cries and cries. I have a white noise machine on the whole time he's sleeping otherwise he wouldn't ever sleep at all. Lol.Quote:
Originally Posted by sweetdream
45 min is a long time! He doesn't go back to sleep then no.
What you also can try. Is upp the food and drink intake before you lay him down.
Maybe its a grow spurth! And he's a bit hungry.
Or just An emotional spurth. It will pass either way.
But guess parenting is just go with Your gut! No magic bullets.
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Oh so cute!! I'm jealous you got such a good look at her. :) We may be due the say day... I'm officially due on Oct 1st, but you know how babies are. Barring any complications, we'll be playing the waiting game with this one.Quote:
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Adorable outfits, Bunny!! I wish I could sew. I bought a sewing machine last year... still in the box. lol! Maybe someday I'll have time to learn.
Sorry you're dealing with that, lala! I wish I had advice, but by 18 months all of my kids had given up naps completely. :/ I have horrible sleepers. I do know that with my youngest, he was a grump for a week or two when he gave his up, but it evened out. Sleep transitions are always hard for him. He's a wreck for at least a week after daylight savings time switches twice a year. Hoping it's a quick phase for you, and he gets used to it!
OMG girlie at 18 months they weren't napping at all?! Well I have zero room to complain. I've always been so jealous of the people who have babies sleeping through the night by 2 or 3 months just on their own accord but I know I could have it worse. He did end up sleeping for 2 hours today and was SO much happier and had a normal bedtime of 7 so fingers crossed he keeps it up tomorrow. I can get a lot more done in 2 hours than 1. Lol
How's everyone feeling? I hate to complain but I'm just so uncomfortable already and with how much weight I'm gaining and how quickly, it's hard to believe I have 12 more weeks. I'm huffing and puffing everywhere, have terrible pelvic pain and when I roll out of bed every night to pee my whole body aches!
Thx :) As usual the tech had to work for it because she was squirming so much lol. I am due Oct 9, but since I am having a cesarean they take her a week early and since my mom's b-day was sept 30 (the friday b4 the Monday they would have done it) I asked if we could do it that day and he said yes :) I'll be 38w 5d that day.Quote:
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Issues here to. Issues breathing, sleeping... just functioning in general. Everything is so much harder now and it feels like she is almost always way up in my rib cage. 10w & 2 days left for me... not sure how I am gonna make it. I have already hit the point where you think you could not possibly handle getting any bigger. .. but I know I will lol.Quote:
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Two I feel you...lucky you she comes early (not lucky on the csection part though)- remind me again why you have to do a c-section? I am just really, really hoping I'm not late again. I don't know if I could bare it. Lol. Though it does wonders for my determination to labor and get through the pain.
I have already had 2 cesareans. My OB said he would not have a problem with me trying to vbac BUT the hospital flat out refuses to allow a trial of labor in someone who has had two cesareans. A cesarean isn't so bad. A little harder to recover from (based solely on my one and only labor that was kinda a cake walk...) but it has it's perks. I get to lay their and let the doc do the work, lol, never go past my EDD, can schedule the birth to make sure DH is there, no running frantically to the hospital wondering if this is "it"... or at least not as much since baby is taken a bit early. He will already be in their so I can get the tubal right away... So on and so forth. I also get her out asap so I can feel safe with her in my arms asap (pregnancy does not feel safe to me). So... I am truly ok with a cesarean :)Quote:
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For a laugh- This little girl just about scared me to death last night. From a dead sleep I was jolted awake by an odd jerky... almost seizure-like movement every few seconds way down low in my groin. I was scared to death and wide awake for an hour before I realized she had the hiccups. Doh! [emoji5]
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Well that's good two- as long as you're happy. Funny, we're scared of what we aren't used to because c-sections and epidurals scare the crap out of me but I've also never experienced them. I'm all about letting babies cook as long as they need and inductions are scare me but I think I may lose my mind if I go past my edd this time... I was SO uncomfortable last time and given how I feel 12 weeks out, I'm nervous to say the least.
I hate c-sections because mine have all been bad experiences. Maybe if they'd been planned or not a frantic emergency or due to other complications that turned into emergencies I'd feel better about them. I'm fine with inductions and epidurals because I've had no issues with them. I'm hoping if we have another to make it to my induction day and to have a nice vaginal birth with or without epidural depending on how I feel. I'm not entirely certain of the hospital's policy on VBA2C, but my situation is a bit different in that I had a VBAC in between. My first was an emergency and my second was due to twins who went into distress while trying to stop labor. My doctor is fine with attempting it so long as there are no other concerns or complications. For the most part, my doctor and the hospital have the view that vaginal is the best option in most cases.
I had a vbac in between my first 2 (first loss) which is y my doc said he would be happy to let me try but the hospital is not quite so interested in it. It's not even an option. My cesareans were all planned though so, as u said, that likely makes a difference. My first was traumatic but not because of the surgery, because I lost my ability to trust docs for a long time. My first OB lied to me, threatened me.... or rather my child, etc. So all thr trauma originated directly from him. Even if it had to do with the surgery everything traced back to him. So not really the same kind of trauma u went through.Quote:
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Two- your OB lied and threatened you? What the hell?
Basically I was told that my body was incapable of delivering naturally and that even attempting would kill my baby. He "diagnosed" me with cephalopelvic disproportion, an incomponent cervix (supposedly mine would not be capable of opening), and a hand full of other things without any medical proof, made me feel like some abusive parent for even considering a natural birth, etc. Then @ the cesarean it was "impossible" to get the needle in my spine so I had to be put to sleep, then they kept me so heavily drugged that my son was a day old before I ever saw him.... after the fact I was talking to another patient who said he had tried to do the same to her but she switched OBs which got me into wanting answers, requesting records, researching etc. That's how I learned it was all just a web of lies. But before I could do that I started running a high fever. He refused to accept that there was an infection present but I demanded antibiotics so he finally wrote me a script. Later, when we started TTC again I was on the hunt for a midwife to do a homebirth (illegal where I lived so I had to go "underground" to find one). In the meantime our mechanics daughter had him as an OB and he messed her up so bad she was left incapable of having more kids due to things being left inside her causing a massive infection. Then, I finally found a midwife and she was familiar with the OB who did it all and she shared horror stories of him breaking babies' necks during delivery, more stories of moms left infertile due to his care and a bunch more. So, as aweful as it was, things could have been soooooo much worse so I count my blessings on that much. My baby got here healthy and he didn't get the opportunity to leave me with a massive infection claiming my ability to have more thanks to me finally growing a pair big enough to question what he said and demanding the antibiotics. All things considered I guess I got the best outcome possible with him.... better would have been to switch docs altogether but as they say "hindsight is 20/20".Quote:
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Wow..I cannot believe people like him exist! And in the profession of bringing life into the world. It's supposed to be so beautiful and peaceful..that's heart breaking. Please tell me he was stripped of his ability to practice?
According to this ( Dr Hart - malpractice??? » Topix ) he was still practicing as of last year but don't know about now. Kentucky is retarded (not a word I use lightly) when it comes to medical law and protects the physician first and foremost. No matter how many times he gets sewed for malpractice he will not be forced to quit or lose his license because of it :(Quote:
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What is wrong with them?! I do hope he is seeing less patients these days. Two, are you still in Kentucky? What's the weather out there like right now?
Nope, moved to Indiana several years back. Where I am it's mostly hot & humid with spells of rain here and there. Lucky me, I have a summer cold which makes the heat that much more "fun" to deal with.Quote:
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I had similar but not as bad two. I got told I had mec in my waters and that was why I needed my labour augmented. My husband and Mw told me afterwards that it was a lie and in my notes the midwives documented clear liquor for my entire labour. After the drugs went up for the augmentation the pain went up, I ended up with an epi I didn't want and I didn't dilate fast enough and was exhausted from fighting for a natural birth and ended up with a c/s. I have had two beautiful hbacs since then.
And I'm not anti dr. I'm married to one. I just don't think Dr's believe in natural birth. They all see the worst of the worst and often interfere when they should leave well enough alone and only help when someone or their baby is sick. They have no patience for Mother Nature and interfere to try to hurry thins along and that in itself often causes a lot of complications that women are often then told that they are lucky their Dr's were there to fix, when they wouldn't have happened in the first place if they haven't interfered.
I hope you have a beautiful c/s two. Will you ask for family centers or maternal assisted or anything like that?
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Not sure what u are asking in that last paragraph. I agree completely with the first one though. I learned a lot after my first birth and feel the same way. I can also see that at times intervention is warranted but as moms, not docs, its hard to know which camp u fit in. So, we trust our docs and believe they will do right by us but sometimes that isn't the case either due to physician inexperience, impatience, greed, etc.Quote:
Originally Posted by Bella29
My last section wasn't bad. I reacted negatively to the spinal so I dry heaved non-stop for several mins and passed out at one point for a few secs but was alert and back to normal by the time they pulled him out. They lowered the curtain so I could see him being born which is a memory I will always get to cherish and hoping they will do the same this time. The pain was much more manageable last time than the first time too which meant I could enjoy him more instead of being in constant pain and extremely weak like I was after my first (I lost a lot of blood during first birth. I looked like a ghost for like a month.) So, I am expecting this one to be similar, just a bit longer since I am getting the tubal ligation after.
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Sorry two, auto correct mucked with my words. So family centred c/s means having things done like the drapes dropped so you can see your baby, you have already had that. It can also mean playing music of the mums choice when bubs is born and also putting things like the ecg dots on the mums back so that when the baby if given to her, she doesn't have wires everywhere. It can also mean that the dr gives the baby to the Mw, who just quickly checks by looking in a matter of seconds at the baby to see if it is breathing etc, and if it is, it is placed all wet on mums chest like a vaginal birth baby would be, for the mum to be the one to first touch and speak to. A friend of mine had a lotus c/s last year. So they kept the cord attached to the placenta and delivered them both together, so that the dad could cut the cord like in a vaginal birth and also so the baby gets delayed cord clamping, which is pretty cool :).
Maternal assisted c/s is where they glove up the mum, into sterile gloves and then when the dr had the babies head out of the mums body the mum is guided to reach down and lift out the baby and she then pulls it up onto her chest. I'm not sure how common that is where you are. Over here it is still something that women have to actively want and request and collaborate with the OB and hospital to get. It can sometimes be quite difficult to get, but it is becoming more popular as women request to be more involved in the c/s birth of their baby.
All of those things are options with different OB's where I live but still have to be negotiated. And they aren't for everyone. Some women I know couldn't imagine anything worse than someone handing them a wet slippery newborn who is covered in blood and mucous. Others wouldn't have it any other way. I think that as long as women know they have choices, then it doesn't matter what they choose as long as they get the choice.
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Ah I see. The lowed curtain, be alert for the birth and DH being there pretty much satisfy me :) After everything a healthy, safe delivery is all I am worried about. The rest is just bonus. :DQuote:
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The heat, the heat... will it ever end?! SO not loving California in the summer right now. Blah.
On the upside... got Little Princess's crib set up! Squee! I think it just needs a few more ruffles. ;) Unfortunately we ran out of rooms in the house, so she's bunking in a corner of my bedroom. But that's okay. We'll prolly both get more sleep that way anyway. I told dh though, 2 years is my limit... then we need to either move or add on!
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Cute! Where are you again girlie? I'm in Sac and this week of nothing but 100's is really getting to me. I can't take the kids anywhere and we're packing and doing projects for our move and the heat is making it miserable.
Cute! Yes... the heat is aweful :(Quote:
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We have a spare room but she will still be bunking in our room for awhile. I have never felt safe with baby being in a different room.
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Me either two. I'll have a nursery for her but she'll be sleeping with me and/or in a co-sleeper until we're both ready for the move.
The twins will be in our room for at least 6 months. I've always kept the kids in my room the first 6 months, but when we moved into our house DH set up the Pack n Play in our room for DD instead of her own room and she ended up in there for 15-ish months until DS3 came home from the hospital. He then ended up in there until he was 14 months old, moving out when DD got her big girl furniture and he could have the crib.
I always keep mine with me too. We cosleep until one of us isn't happy and then they move into the kids room.
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Same Bella..my first slept with me until 9 or 10 months. My second though, could NOT handle sleeping with me and was way to big for the bassinet so he transitioned way earlier than I would have liked at 4 months- I was a nervous wreck but since he was still waking up 3 times per night I saw plenty of him and it all worked out but still..I'm hoping this one will be more like 6 months.
I am hoping to NOT have to cosleep with this one! I had to with my youngest or I would never have gotten ANY sleep BUT I don't rest well when baby is in bed with me. I mean I am ok if baby is sleeping in/on a boppy with their feet towards me but that's different. I am a heavy sleeper and I roll and flip a lot so I am always scared I will hurt the baby so I stay in this constant state of awareness so while I may be getting a bit of sleep I end up getting next to no actual rest. A cradle next to the bed, in the crib or alone with baby in a BIG/adult bedd with boppy (no room for a 3rd person) I am ok but outside of that I am too worried/paranoid to relax.
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Two I co-slept the last two times but very unsuccessfully like I said with the little guy. My plan this time is to have a co-sleeper so it's still really easy on me but almost like she's sleeping in her own area. I'm hoping to have the best of both worlds..we'll see. Lol
Bed sharing is not for me. I like my own adult space and hate if one of the kids gets up early and crawls in our bed. I usually kick them out back to their own beds. We have a super squishy TempurPedic Cloud Luxe mattress also, so it would not be safe at all. Then there is DH who rolls and sprawls all over the place. We'd have a squished and suffocated baby in no time!
Lol Bunny- that would be terrible! My husband is all about the cuddles..me on the other hand..I sleep terribly when they're in bed with me so I hear you.