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oh cinss! i didnt know that about size. that makes sense.
the last time I remember looking at someones pic that was as far along as me and I was thinking I looked way to small (I think that was my first sign something was wrong) I am way bigger this time and measuring on track. Hope thats a good sign!
Congratulations on your baby boy Shell, hope you're doing ok hon. He sounds like a sweetie already.
Jark I totally understand you wanting to stay away for a while, you have been through so much losing your mum, I can only imagine how hard that is on you. I do hope we get to hear from you again as you get closer to your due date but understand if it hurts too much, big hugs to you x
So am I right in saying Surgena is next?? SO how long exactly do I have to wait for this exciting news :) I get so confused with the time differences.
Only 3 weeks 3 days left before my scan!! It doesnt sound that long now.. Im sure I'll manage to hold out :)
I think it goes something like thisQuote:
Originally Posted by Bimby
starbabyx4 - 11th December
Suregena - 12th December
Bluechance - 14th December
Turning the page - 15th December
Correct me if im wrong anyone, and if i missed anyone?
So nervous. Wednesday is coming around fast! Scan is at 7.45pm UK time and I have to go to one of the nearby cities for it but I'll have my phone and hopefully will still have battery life left in it by that time so I don't leave you all hanging too long! Getting so nervous! It's a a double whammy of nerves... for the scan on Wednesday and my transatlantic flight Thursday! Eeeek!
That makes sense then. The cramping seems to mostly faded tonight but my whole right side is still sooo sore from falling on the ice... especially half of my butt! Haha!Quote:
Originally Posted by Cinss
Shell I'm so sorry you didn't hear girl :(
I know it's a shock, as much as I prepared myself to hear boy, it was still a shock.
I hope it passes for you quickly, take the time to spoil yourself, do whatever you need to make yourself smile.
I've been googling info on 'girls mistaken for boys' and found tons of reading. (I don't know why, I mean never has a clearer scrotum been seen then the one on my potty shot)
Sadly, most of these errors are from 3+ years ago, ultrasound technology has come a long way since then, also found a thread on baby centre where there were photos of boy ultrasounds, which ended up being girls at birth or at scan that are at 20+ weeks, and all the pics are fairly blurry, and are ambiguous looking.
So my tiny glimmer of hope was short lived :(
Of course, every baby I see at the shops is a girl, every family I see is a pigeon pair - I know it's just my subconscious noticing that, but it still gives me some :( moments
Am excited to meet this little fella though and finally have a little baby again :)
DH is still open to a third, which is positive, but I'm going to have to think long and hard about it, I think I've been fairly lucky in that I've not been a victim of severe Gd this time round, but I don't know that next time round I can face it with as much optimism and positivity if I have boy number 3, 3 is without a doubt dh's limit, so if number 3 were a boy it would definitely be the end of a dream.
Ahh well, that's at least 2 years away, who know, maybe atomic and NBP will have come across the magic potion by then!
Jark, I'm so sorry you are still hurting :( I wish I had the words to help, but I know that only time can heal those pains for you.
One thing I do know is that every single person on here that has had an opposite says that the moment the baby is born, it disappears. Allow yourself to grieve for now, and try and find comfort in the fact that this will pass. No matter how dark the dawn, the sun will always rise...
I can understanding your yearning for a mother daughter relationship, I too am extremely close to my mum and that's the reason I want a daughter so much, so that I too can have the relationship, so that part I do understand. I know I haven't lived through your pain of losing a mother, and of a third gd, but I can imagine how it must be eating you up inside :(
Maybe it might help to speak to your dr, or a counsellor, they might offer some other options? Maybe book a 3d bonding scan, I've heard that helps some?
Your certainly not alone, and as taboo as gd is, it certainly is very much existent, goodness, in some countries they terminate or adopt out based on gender alone, so the extreme disappointment and hurt you feel is not uncommon, or unusual, so don't feel bad.
I really hope you feel better soon, and feel free to vent here anytime you want, no one here will ever judge anything you say or feel.
Congratulations on your little boy Shelle, i'm sorry you didn't hear girl x
I love that quote Lassie "No matter how dark the dawn, the sun will always rise" so true! The one I usually live by is "This too shall pass" no matter how tough things get we always get through it.
You're right about the scans unlikely to be wrong, mine looks super clear on the scan I just wish I had a proper potty shot as I don't think I would have doubted it half as much if I had. The tech seemed experienced and said she couldn't say 100% but here were the scrotum and here was the willy so if it turned out to be a girl she would be totally shocked lol! The hospital I have had scans at have been known to get it wrong and everyone keeps telling me that, but I heard that when I had the scans for my first two boys as well and of course they were right for that!
I don't think a tiny glimmer of hope hurts though at this stage if it helps us through, as you say we know when we are holding are newborns we will fall instantly in love with them and gender really won't be an issue. I'm starting to get really excited about him arriving now, I think my gender desire had actually got in the way of me thinking about all the lovely stuff of having a new baby.
I need to get a new travel system which I'm hoping to do in January or February, and I need to sort through all the boys old clothes. I've bought a hanging wicker crib from a friend which I am mega excited about as it means the baby will be kept well away from our dog, and it is a good size so will last much longer than the moses basket I had with the boys.
I know what you mean about seeing mixed familys everywhere, the girls always look super cute too! I did see a family with three little boys the other day though and they looked so sweet which gave me a big smile on my face.
My two boys are awesome and such good friends, they were playing happily together for an hour this morning in their bedroom while hubby and I had a bit of a lie in! So I promise you Lassie that you will love having your new little man around, and the fact that number three is an option is a big bonus. The way I look at it is ok my sway didn't work this time, and maybe 3 is enough for me to handle but if we do decide to go on to have a 4th there will be more swaying info out there, more case studies etc to hopefully help me have a strong sway.
A friend of mine swears by some cough medicine to sway for a girl, she took it when ttc her 4th and had a girl and I was going to take it this time but I googled it and was put off by some of the warnings when related to the harm it could do to a baby. I'm kicking myself now as obviously the idea is you take it up to ovulation and then stop as soon as you get a strong line on an opk so there shouldn't have been any problem. I also wish I hadn't used sylk as I think that may have killed my sway. At least these are all things I can think about if we do try again.
Cramps wise Suregena I had them really bad around that time too, I would go and get a scan though if you're worried after your fall. My cramps have eased off now but I get really achy down below and my lady bits just feel like I have been kicked in them by the end of the day. Pregnancy is such fun lol! ;)
Im not trying to get anyones hopes up by telling this but seeing as it has come up again there was a lady on FB 2 days ago who left a comment on a mutual friends status that she was told the wrong sex at her 12 and 18 week ultrasounds. I commented back to her to find out a bit more info because she said it was at Paradise ultrasound which was where i had mine done too. Well it turns out that she was told girl both times by the same tech who did mine and my SILs, and she has a pretty much 100% right reputation for early guessing, all of the girls on the Gold Coast know who she is and and everyone tries to get in with her. If you saw my 12 week pics they are super clear and the equipment they use there is very advanced and high tech. Anyway this lady did a reveal at her wedding by putting pink inside the wedding cake and of course it was a girl she really wanted because she had 1 son already. She then went to the same ultrasound school as i did as a voulenteer and the tech there told her that the baby is in fact a boy. She was saying how she felt like a "tool" after the reveal and everything and now has to return everything she bought because it is all pink. She ended up going back to paradise ultrasound to have the gender confirmed and paid $170 for it and yes all of a sudden it turned into a boy!