Ladies due in Sept/Oct/Nov 2012, gather here!

Hi! Just checking in to say we found out we are having a healthy boy number 3. I was obviously disappointed however this little man was meant to be so will love him just as much. My sway was nowhere Perfect but maybe if it was it still would have been a boy. I'm not going to dwell on that though and although sad ill never have a girl I'll embrace having three boys and I'm not going to keep having babies to get a girl. So good to know what he is now as was certain he was s boy after twelve week scan! I think this is a fantastic forum though for people who are trying to swing the odds. Good luck to everyone and I know we will all accept what is meant for us x

Sallygal congrats on a healthy boy! And yes you are right , these babies are meant to be, whichever gender they are!

Just had to add my belief on dreams since you are all talking about them on this thread.
I agree with some dreams, that they are messages.

My husband had a dream about 3-6 years before he met me. (can't remember the exact yr) He was under his mom's carport working on his car and there were all these "rare spiders" scattering about and it was raining. Then he spotted a baby girl in a carseat and he asked her where her mother was, and she said "10 years (something that is proof she was referring to me)" and he said "what!?" and asked again and she kept saying it over and over. It gives me chills to type it because I FEEL it's true as what that baby said is something that without a doubt meant I was her mom. And it is just over 10 years..now since that event that little girl mentioned. Meaning.. this event began years before his dream but the time passed to just make it just over 10 yrs this yr. Crazy huh? :)

When we conceived DS#1 we thought it was a girl.. same with DS#2.. now we're at our last child, I REALLY think it's Her. When I got my BFP I had a strong feeling it was a girl, so I guess we'll see!

Also my mother-in-law has dreamed about every wife in my husband's family, when they get pregnant or just before they get pregnant and she is told the gender and hasn't been wrong once yet..She said about a month ago, I know you guys will have your girl I don't know when.. but I had a dream in 2010 that she was talking on the phone and had beautiful long blonde hair)

In October right before Halloween my mom-in-law and sis-in-law had the EXACT same dream the same EXACT night that my hubby and I would be pregnant soon with baby #3. And my other sis-in-law whom I was close to, disclosed to me that she dreamed that same night too, pretty much right before they told her about their dreams. None of them were shown the gender though.

His family members also have premonitional dreams regulary.. My mom-in-law's sister saw a home robbery in the family before it happened and exactly how it would take place.. and it ended up happening. -Luckily they were not home!

Ooooo Chills!

Congrats on a healthy baby, pinkin. I looked at your pics but i'm so bad at this I don't trust myself to guess.

Sallygal - congrats on a healthy baby boy. I swayed with my ds3 and had a rough time for a few days after I found out he was a boy. After I named him and started buying things for him I got excited to meet him. Now, of course, I couldn't live without him. He looks like me and has become my little buddy. I just know your little guy is going to be a wonderful addition to your family :HH:.

Sallygal, thanks for letting us know about your baby boy, and congratulations! Like you, this will be my last baby so I too plan to enjoy them and remind myself they were meant to be.

Flava –
Trust DD3… she is more in touch with your soul then you may think. If she says you are having a boy then it is because she knows! My DS1 had a dream about us having a baby when I was only about 7wks along. We had to tell the family because he kept telling everyone that we were having a baby girl. I cried a lot at first but now I just hope he is right because he says “he wants a sister so he make her a doll at school”. His friends that go to school make little cloth dolls in 1st grade, when the baby would be about 1yo.

Mocha –
I hate comments like that but you should also consider maybe that the lady felt horrible about a 4th boy. Maybe she was jealous, maybe she went home and cried all night, or maybe she wanted to break your heart so she would feel better. Some of my friends know about my swaying but they are always nice about it. 1 finds out in 2 days what she is having and another will be trying in a few years. It’s so hard wanting a gender and not getting it but then you have to hear or see friends who got what they wanted is harder!
… And I love the clothing. The bright colors would tell the world it’s a girl. I have one just like the blue w/flowers in a size 9mths. I love jumpers they are so sweet and cute.

Auroara – I have a very boyish carseat to, green with blue. But I bought a pattern to make a new cover for it, but I think I may just cover some of the trim with girly colors. I have some fabric that would be nice for adding trim, ruffles, and belt covers. My carseat is good for another year so I have to do something with it.

Wow time has gone by fast, I am 15wks. Going crazy waiting for the gender scan. I keep thinking that I don't want to know but then a minute later I am dying to know.

I aint got much hope anymore. All old wives tales said this baby was a boy now im really thinking my angel baby was the boy its been saying im having because i went twice for an early gender scan they first time she thought she saw a penis but then said i might be wrong i now think i see 3 lines that was one scan then 3 days later another tech saw me to tell us the gender and she keep saying its a girl 3 lines mean girl parts and stuff like that. I go at 0645 for my 19 week BIG ultrasound as my hospital calls it i would love for rgew tech before to be wrong but im really doubting it now. My hubby says he is fine with it but i feel like such a failure and like it was my fault for loosing the baby a month before this one plus his family and mine aren't gonna make this easy. My mom hates the name we picked she says it dont go together. If its a girl for sure her name is Alexandera Josephine after both of our grandfathers if its a boy we picked Alexavier Joseph. His brother is gonna make fun of us and i will be the one who has to hear it since my hubby will be on the west coast and im moving back home for a little while not only that my whole family says we need to stop having kids and i will never get another boy and my son will be gay since he has so many sisters and just rude things like that and my mom really hurt me besides the name thing she said my sister will be blessed with all the boys she already has a daughter and blames her on me since she was 15 when she got preg and i has complications with my 2nd pregnancy so my mom came to see our preemie in the hospital. I really dont wanna go back and deal with the drama but i will need some help.

PP, that's how I was!! Your scan is in 2 weeks, right?

Butterfly spirit, wow what a crazy premotion! I have had some before too! FX this is your little girl coming! Congrats the BFP...I somhow missed the GREAT NEWS!

Pinkin, I haven't looked at your pics yet, but I will and will give you my honest opinion, thou I'm not that great at nubs yet. I will do my best!

Mocha, I am telling ppl at work the baby is a girl today and one of my coworkers (well-meaning) said that one of her sons was "april" until she was 8 months pregannt...because she had told girl and had a boy....I know this stories aren't meant to scare us, but they do scare me! Her son is 15 years old, so that was old U/S equipment, but it's driving me nuts because I was only 18w+5d, not even 20 weeks yet....I keep pulling out the U/S pics and double checking those potty shots I got. I'm prob going to upload them today to get confirmation for the lovely ladies here...because I hate that ppl keep putting doubt in my mind...it's just terrible, isn't it?

Yep 2wk from today!

pp - wow - 15 weeks already!!

Yeah, I figured my friend was just feeling sensitive because of her situation. I know what that's like, having gone through GD before, and I recognise the signs. She's a little overly defensive over the fact that she's having a boy, saying things like 'it's easier this way - I don't have to buy any new things!'. I can't tell you how many times I said that to people ;). I wasn't at all upset with her for saying what she did - it was just confirming a fear I already had! I will continue to be very cautious around her because I really don't want to hurt her more if she's already hurting!

auroara - from everything I've heard from other ladies who had a girl after 2 or more boys, we won't fully believe it until we're holding that baby in our arms! I wish I at least had a potty shot to look at, though. Oh well, only 9 days until my 20 week scan...

Naveywifey - sorry you're having a rough time :hugs:

PP20 - know how you feel, I keep thinking "maybe ignorance is bliss for now..." but then in the next thought I want to buy baby clothes! My scan is in less than a week now. eek! I keep thinking of what the sonographer said at my scan a few weeks ago "well, there's something between the legs... "

Mocha - :( ignore her if you can

Navy - someone I know here was told girl at 13 week scan because they saw 3 lines... she had her gender scan at the weekend and it's confirmed to be a boy!

I finally got around to posting 3 U/S pics if you wanna see them they are in 'confirmed girl shots' though I'd like if you guys coudl double check that the potty shot is def. 150% all girl :bigsmile:

Auroara Your pics are all girls!! No worries there!
I had no sleep last night been suffering from bad headaches and bad blood noses. I had 3 yesterday I think the stress was getting to me a bit, I am feeling quite sick today too like i could throw up ( not ms) I feel real anxious like I just cant relax..Not nice at all. I hope everyone else is feeling good!!

So getting off the subject of my scan for a bit..... I saw my new ob yesterday and she is AWESOME! I am so happy with her one of the nicest drs I have ever met actually! Has anyone else been told they need a flu shot while preg??

I chose not to get the flu shot in any of my other pregnancies - I've always been a little nervous to get the shot in my first trimester (though they say it's perfectly safe), and since all my babies up until now were born in May/June I was always in my first trimester during the Fall when flu shots were being given. After my m/c in November, though, I decided to get the flu shot. I wasn't pregnant anymore but knew I would be soon, and apparently there are studies that suggest the baby can benefit from the immunity well into the next flu season. Since this babe will be born right before flu season next year and will be unable to get a flu shot for 6 months, I thought it would be good to give her an extra boost of immunity if I could. It's a very personal choice, though - lots of people don't believe in the flu shot at all.

I had the flu shot last pregnancy and will accept it this time if offered again.

I had flu at around 11 weeks in my first pregnancy and was SO ill it was unreal. Far worse than normal colds in pregnancy and those are bad enough. It happens that my baby died around the same time (without me knowing or I'd have been able to take medicine instead of struggling without). I do wonder if there was a link to my loss and flu can cause MC.

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rainbow - I had the same experience. I caught the flu a few weeks before my m/c last November. I was sick for weeks, I had a very high fever, and will always wonder if that could have had anything to do with losing my baby. That was the main reason I got the flu shot this time around.

The dr gave me the shot yesterday, It is actually just coming into winter so I am glad I had it

So much to catch up on! sorry, I only have time to read the last few things.

I had the flu shot during 2 pregnancies. I get the shot every year, but it only happened to be when I was pregnant a couple times. This time, I got the shot in Oct. and got pregnant in January. I had the swine flu when I was pregnant with DD2 and it was AWFUL. I felt like I had been run over by a truck. Seriously. They gave me tamiflu, which helped a lot!

This will sound bad but I am already thinking about wanting to try again for another baby... I mean I want this baby dont get me wrong but I feel its a boy and I am already thinking of trying again.. I dont know what i would of done different. I am a mess today! I just feel like I will never get a girl .. I am having a boy now why would I get a girl next time? I am even looking at woman down the street today that have daughters and think gee how did they concieve them.. Whats it even like to have a girl inside of your tummy.. It will never happen for me. I am sorry to be a downer but I am really just so upset right now.

Don't be sorry pinkin, most of us have all been in this situation before too big hugs xxx

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This will sound bad but I am already thinking about wanting to try again for another baby... I mean I want this baby dont get me wrong but I feel its a boy and I am already thinking of trying again.. I dont know what i would of done different. I am a mess today! I just feel like I will never get a girl .. I am having a boy now why would I get a girl next time? I am even looking at woman down the street today that have daughters and think gee how did they concieve them.. Whats it even like to have a girl inside of your tummy.. It will never happen for me. I am sorry to be a downer but I am really just so upset right now.

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I can't imagine ever being pregnant with a girl either :(

TBH if this one is a boy for me I'll be most upset about having to sway again... and worried that I'll "waste" this one's first few months/end of pregnancy thinking about swaying again/planning for the next and with more uncertainty about if I'll ever get a girl

its a horrible feeling isnt it? I have no hope left after my scan yesterday.. I wish I didnt even get the scan. Its done its another boy but I would of been better not knowing anything until birth because TBH I had a gut feeling it was a girl.. I am crushed

You just may well have a little girl in there yet Pinkin. It is not a done deal as far as knowing what they are. However, I too look at women with girls and wonder why they had girls. They look very normal to me! One of my SIL has 3 of them. She is a bit weird though-lol.
I know it won't feel like much consolation when you are feeling down, but at least you and DH think you could have a third if or when the time comes. This is my last baby so I am determined to enjoy (almost) every minute!

I just don't think I could be so lucky to finally get what I want..

Peony, Its so nice not knowing as in before your 12 week scan! I wish I could go back to before yesterday I didnt know any different.
TTC5 I understand what you mean that is how I feel .. But to make you feel better I really think your having a boy and I am not just saying that !!
A 3rd was not my plan I am struggling a bit with depression atm due to my family ( my mother) and to have this baby was hard for me but knowing this is most prob a boy I am confused

Peony I really dont think I have hope now for it being a girl, I have had ALOT of blue votes..

Pinkin, i know its hard and i will prob be the same in a week, but you may very well have a girl in there. I have seen people with boy guesses, go onto have a girl and vice versa.

When i found out DS3 was a boy i was upset but it gets easier. I couldnt imagine life without him, he is my cheeky lil monkey!

I could never imagine how it feels to be carrying a baby girl, it must be an amazing feeling to be carrying your daughter. This will be our last baby and i hope to enjoy every single minute of it. 6 days to my 12 week scan....eeek!!!

Hi happylea, I guess its just that I had my scan I have had boy votes , I think boy from my pics to tho I have no idea why and i just think of course its a boy , why wouldnt it be! I just felt like I had hope before my scan.. I feel i have none left now, I guess I will feel better about it in time.
Good luck with your scan I hope you feel a whole lot better with it then what i do! Cant wait to see your pics!

Pinkin I had an old schoolfriend on facebook a while ago who was pregnant and posted her scan pic - it was a VERY clear boy nub no doubt about it... but then she announced she was having a girl! I deleted her right away, but the point is that even obvious boy nubs are not without hope.

I too had this recently with in old friend on facebook but was the opposite way, the 12+ week scan was a very girly nub and she just announce she is having a boy.

Pinkin i dont think yours is obviously a boy either so it still maybe your girl. When is your next scan?

I am having a scan at 20 weeks... But not sure if I should waste my money on an earlier one when its a boy anyway I know that doesnt sound nice I dont mean it to sound like that but Id rather not waste my money .. I think I will just wait it out until 20 weeks I already have it in my head its a boy now..
what are you girls doing? having early gender scans or waiting until 20 weeks?

I decided before the dating scan that if I thought it could be a girl at the dating scan I'd pay for an early gender scan... and TBH I came away from the dating scan still uncertain so have booked a gender scan

however, even that is taking forever to come and the days seem to be getting longer as I count them down! still not sure if it was a good decision or not as no doubt it'll be a boy too

we've named him already,though, and I think that makes it being a boy less of a shock (if it is) when we do find out

my 20 week scan isn't until 28th so over a whole month away and not sure I can wait that long!

Fair enough! and you are so close to 16 weeks you could really find out anytime you like now! I think naming the baby is a good idea I might try that actually!

yes I do think naming him has made him more real but still scared I'll feel deflated if it turns out it's really him, then will come all of the guilt.. *sigh*

my gender scan is coming up, actually! although I'm refusing to let myself visualise hearing girl at the scan at the moment

and also trying to focus on how lucky I am to be pregnant at all as someone else I know was due on the same day but had a MMC found at her dating scan

I have decided that if i get a good nub shot or not i will book a gender scan, just so we know for certain and get used to it, if it is a boy.

After found out DS3 was a boy once i started to buy clothes for him and stuff and we picked a name it was much easier.

I have been thinking of boys names already but wont think of a girls name, i cant let myself do it. Struggling to pick a boys name to go with our other son's DH is so picky when it comes to names. He is a police officer and if he knows a criminal with the name then we cant have it. Its so hard to choose a boys name.

Ladies - I'm so sorry you're feeling down. I've been there. GD is horrible. I definitely found that naming ds3 helped, and also buying some cute boy things for him.

But for all of you bummed after your 12 week scan - there really is still hope. Nub guessing depends so much on the angle and quality if your shot. The same baby can look like a boy or girl in different shots taken on the same day.