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Auroara, give your DH time. Once Lillian smiles at him for the first time, he will be ready to think about another. :) The newborn phase is so hard and not very rewarding at first, especially for DHs. I bet yours will come around.Quote:
Originally Posted by auroara78
It is hard to enjoy being pregnant at this stage, because I am SO UNCOMFORTABLE! My crotch hurts, my belly is so low it is HANGING, and I can barely walk. I am hobbling and waddling all over the place.
Mocha, I know how you feel. I actually really don't enjoy pregnancy at all, but I guess because I know this is my last, I am feeling nostalgic and actually not hating it as much. This morning I was laying in bed feeling the baby move, and I got kind of sad at the thought of not having that feeling for much longer. I also think I am enjoying being pregnant more because I am worried about the moment of birth when I find out gender. I have been trying to bond with the baby as much as I can. I kind of wish it didn't have to have a gender, if that makes sense?
yeah hobbers I know...I thought I'd feel so overjoyed and overwhelmed with complete and utter happiness once I held Lillian for the first time, but I just saw her as a baby--not as a daughter. Sure, she's dressed in pink a lot, but my brain still process her as a newborn that needs a lot of love and attention, and it really stunned me at first, but then I felt relief that if this baby had been a boy, I would have seem him as the same thing--newborns to me are almost gender-less, but I didn't figure that out until I had an opposite gender!
I know it seems so stupid to get hung up on the 4th child thing considering Lillian isn't 4 weeks until Monday, but yeah, it kind of bothered me that his attitude changed. He helps out with her, but sighs when he does, honestly, I think his gender disappointment with having a girl is making him reluctant. Though he wasn't crazy about newborn stage with the boys either, and I do remember him saying with DS2 (who was the hardest and still is!) that he didn't think he could do it again and obviously we've had Lillian. I feel like I"m being smart though, but not challenging what he says, I just change the topic, because this is a very, very premature thing to be discussing anyways. I definitely am 100% on waiting a few years anyway--I'm still sore almost 4 weeks out from my incision, which was longer than the other 2, and plus I want DS2 to be in preschool (he's 17 mos now and the free federal preschool that DS1 goes to starts at 4), so I think it'd be great: DS1 will be 7, DS2 will be 4, and DD will be 2-3 IF we try again. But, I am doing my BEST to enjoy Lillian right now.
Enjoy the weekend and I am still hoping you'll get the best surprise soon :)
Mocha...that is what kind of worries me, that I'm afraid I could be addicted to pregnancy, lol.
I was so miserable the last few weeks with my hip pain and not walking very well, but there is something so wholly magical about feeling life move inside your belly, and all the sweet anticipaction of wondering who the little person is, what they'll be like...I think I like the whole fantasy of the unknown while pregnant.
I suppose I'll eventually start to miss the baby bump, too... but I was seriously wanting my body back by 7 months along. I really loved being preggie, but I just couldn't handle it with another kiddo around. Plus, I really sort of miss being able to take my ADHD medication and have a functioning brain.
I remember after my first pregnancy, I would drive by the clinic I went to for my OB appointments and just get SO SAD that it was all done.
Maybe right now I'm still just in shock that my baby is already out!! I feel I haven't had much time to think about anything with the sudden labor, NICU stay, and now busting my butt (boobs, haha) getting my milk supply going well.
LOL I love that response and it's giving me Deja vu with TTC5 he he he she said those exact words "I'll be in such shock they'll have to revive me!".. and we were right with her weren't we ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by Hobbermittens
and I just want you to remember that POP said you are having a girl and you know who she's been right on with!! ;)
Dloudi is one of the ladies! :)
But we are all SO excited for you! Please update us asap from your phone! Tmw is my Sunday, but it's your Monday.. that's so crazy! haha
I know how you feel Mocha. This is my last baby.. the IUD is going in immediately afterwards! But since I've had such a scary experience it's like.. I just want to speed it up so I can have her..AND at the same time myself is saying "Enjoy it...especially the movement, because you won't ever feel it again" I cannot have more than 3 kids... just CANNOT! lolQuote:
Originally Posted by Mochagirl
Did she say girl or boy? I really don't remember, but if she said girl and she's always right, I'm screwed! :(Quote:
Originally Posted by Butterfly Spirit
Oh, and I am in the U.S.A. so tomorrow is Sunday for me too. About 48 hrs until induction....
pop said boy!
yes she said boy!! and she was right for me so she will be right for you too HobberQuote:
Originally Posted by auroara78