how to increase odds of conception ttc girl

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Originally Posted by deaks66

I disagree though I understand I am in the minority! My ov stops and starts and I can't be sure of anything except I know when it's over. If I try to have one attempt I will get it totally wrong and end up attempting again. If I wait for o+12 (which I can finally pinpoint) I won't mess up by having to have more attempts.

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Whether you think you know or you don't, studies have shown definitively that no one can pinpoint ovulation any better than 30% of the time (which is basically random chance). I know you have more experience than the average person because you did high tech rounds but age and swaying change things.

WHY do you have to have more attempts? It's a decision you make - it's easy if you really don't want to get pregnant, you just say, ok I am having one attempt and that's that. At the least do it when you have a snowball's chance in heck of getting pregnant (no matter how distant)

Think of it this way - if you mess up O+12, you end up DTD right on ovulation, which is exactly what you DIDN'T want to do, KWIM???

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Originally Posted by deaks66

I do honestly get what you are saying but... I guess I have a mental block and after what I've been through I just can't get past it. You know what perhaps I need to hang up my baby days altogether.

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If it's important to you, you need to do what you need to do and if that is O+20, then O+20 you should do. It doesn't matter what I think, it is YOUR sway. I am just trying to make sure you understand my reasoning and hear the other side of the story. :)

Atomic- I am absorbing everything I promise and trying my hardest to change my way of thinking. Can I ask, regardless of when we make our 1 attempt I am thinking of making the every 4 day a release pattern instead of a bd pattern. Is this ok? Plus if I want to alter the Pattern nearer attempt time to suit when I ideally want to dtd will it matter if the number of days inbetween changes? The reason I ask is that abstaining and FR are an issue for dh so althougb every 4 days sounds ideal, I just don't want to have to be committed to that if we want to have our 1 attempt on a specific date that I can't pinpoint in advance? Hope that makes sense?

Just to add.. Perhaps adding in an extra release a few hrs before attempt would compensate for the boy friendly release pattern prior?

It's ok, I see you answered my question perfectly on the other thread. Thanks so much x

We did a release the night before our +opk attempt, as o happened a few days earlier than we thought, this was after an abstain of either 6 or longer days due to af and dh's shift work xx


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Originally Posted by deaks66

Atomic- I am absorbing everything I promise and trying my hardest to change my way of thinking. Can I ask, regardless of when we make our 1 attempt I am thinking of making the every 4 day a release pattern instead of a bd pattern. Is this ok? Plus if I want to alter the Pattern nearer attempt time to suit when I ideally want to dtd will it matter if the number of days inbetween changes? The reason I ask is that abstaining and FR are an issue for dh so althougb every 4 days sounds ideal, I just don't want to have to be committed to that if we want to have our 1 attempt on a specific date that I can't pinpoint in advance? Hope that makes sense?

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Sorry I have been searching for this post everywhere! I saw it come through and then could not find it again.

Yes it is fine to release every 4 days and then have one attempt. It's ok to stay flexible on that too - so if it's been 3 days and you're ready to attempt that is fine, if it's been 1 day and it's time to attempt, also fine. What you're trying to do is just avoid super long abstains and super long periods of daily release. This gets you in with nice sperm quality and a decent count and that in turn enables you to get pg with the one attempt.

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Originally Posted by deaks66

Just to add.. Perhaps adding in an extra release a few hrs before attempt would compensate for the boy friendly release pattern prior?

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This can be done and should sway pink, however it may cut odds of conception to do so.