Nub theory results have me in tears
I felt the exact same way with DS2. There is nothing I can say to prepare you for the comments you will hear! I told most people I wanted another boy, it's the only way I could deflect (most of) the negativity and cope. You don't have to be open and honest about this with everybody. Anyway, it helped me a lot.
And my DS2 is truly the greatest gift I have ever gotten. You will get that once you meet yours and bond with him. Big hugs to you...I get exactly how you are feeling. It's tough.