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Babymad - so so happy you got your homebirth sounds fantastic x love the fact all your boys were there - planning on shipping ds2 and 3 to my mums but ds1 wants to be here. I am so pleased you finally got your homebirth :D enjoy him gorgeous little man x x
As for your post about your family being complete and moving on - that is where I want to be too x I will never get over not having a girl but I want to move on and be selfish sometimes and do things for me.....at least swimming will be easy for us daddy will have to be incharge of everyone once they get that bit older HAHA
Babymad ~ your birth experience sounds amazing!! :) so happy to hear you are enjoying your new little man :)
Has Pinga had her baby yet? has anyone got her on fb??
With DS1 and DS2 I didn't really put any extra weight on but I piled it on with DS3 and was mortified! I enrolled on Lighterlife to shift the weight as I'm not a patient person and need results quickly! I did have to what until DS3 was 3 months old though to start the diet which felt like an eternity but I did WW for a few weeks in the interim.Quote:
Originally Posted by Inglewood
All together I lost 4 stone and got back to my pre-kids weight - I was soooo pleased and felt better about myself than I had for years.
But I have eaten what I liked in this pg so once again I have piled the weight on!! I haven't weighed myself yet but I'm sure I will be looking at least 2 stone! I am waiting for my milk to dry up and then I will weigh myself.
There is a website called Avidlite and they sell loads of weight loss products and the good thing is you don't have to commit to a programme (you do with Lighterlife). So i have chosen the milkshakes and bars as meal replacements which is what i did with Lighterlife - basically its a very low cal diet and your body goes into Ketosis after about a week and then you burn fat very quickly. it took me approx 14 weeks to lose over 3 stone on Lighterlife so hoping i will be back to my normal weight quite quickly. I will eat a small meal in the evening - protein based so eggs for me but i can only use natural products, so an omelette with two eggs is normally what I go for with spinach and peppers.
I am very miserable and grumpy when I am over weight so i need quick results again - i really do need to be 'me' again asap - emotionally and physically - does that make sense?!? I know it will help me with my GD.
BUT saying that I am eating well at the mo, and will make the most of it this week-end - I ate all the boys celebrations last night!!! :)
i can send you the link if you are interested, just let me know.
How are the girls today? xx
I am so relieved i feel ok about 'him' - I was very scared right up until he literally arrived on how I would feel about him - and I have never been like that before so it really scared me :(Quote:
Originally Posted by deaks66
I feel we are bonding well and I'm trying to enjoy these precious newborn moments as they are defo my last!
Have you got a bump yet???
I suppose because I know 1000% that we will not be having any more children the reality of never having a daughter is slowly (very slowly) hitting home. I want to be happy and content and I know some days I will be and I know some days I won't be and I will feel like my world has ended some days but I am determined to make the most of the good days and enjoy my boys and try my hardest to be strong through the bad days......Quote:
Originally Posted by charlieispy
I said to my DH that I have to find something in life for me now.....he has a lifetime of 4 boys and boy stuff and I need to find something that makes me happy - not that my boys don't make me happy but you know what I mean! I will be 40 when DS4 starts school so I can't be wasting my life thinking about what if as I don't have the time to do that!!
I hope we find some kind of peace in the future......xxx
Babymad, i bet you are so relieved to be bonding so well.... happy days. I have heard quite a few ladies say that once their children are over the 'little' stage, that gd bothers them so much less anyway and that they don't really think about it. I think there is so much pressure on us while we are in the fertile stages of our life to produce one of each, that once we are done baby making, the pressure goes away and that really helps the gd to ease off. Sounds like you have a great frame of mind.
Oh and yes i have a very small bump. I never get large during pregnancy which i am lucky with i guess. i will try and take a picture of my non existent bumpage soon!
Dying to see a pic of pingas baby. is it only on fb? CONGRATS PINGA!!!!!
Babymad lighter life is hard core! I respect anyone that can do that diet! My dad and sister both did it a few years back, dad lost 10stone on it. It's a tough old diet! I hated the ketosis makes some people's breath really stink lmao!
So glad to hear you are bonding well with your little man :) and what a lovely birth you had!
Oh has Pinga had baby?? Congratulations if you have :) xx
Hi, yeah Babymad please do send the link. Is it expensive? I barely eat a proper meal these days unless Dh is cooking. I cook for everyone else and by the time they have all eaten the girls are due fed, so I've lived on fruit and fibre, crisps and biscuits for wks. With the twins I only gained 20lbs, not bad for me, usually at least 30lbs with the boys. Think it was because they took alot from me to thrive. But since they have been born, my mum comes every other day with a wee cake or biscuit for a cuppa, all the visitors brought cakes, me choc's etc... and I've gained another 10lbs, through that and eating like I'm still pg with twins! so disgusted with myself and feel awful :( Have a wedding reception beg sept, hope to be more myself by then. I lost almost 2 and a half stone march-aug last yr on WW then the girl diet and felt good. I'm crap to start with on diets till the discipline kicks in. x
Many congrats Pinga, hope you are both doing well xx
I have PM'd you the links Inglewood - let me know how you get on. I have a wedding in 6 weeks so got to get sorted for then, can't go as a biffa and have everyone staring!! Try and prepare yourself some healthy snacks, I cut melon and strawberries up and have them in the fridge so i can snack on them when I feel I need sugar! I have eaten loads this week- end and the thought of starting my diet tomorrow mortifies me but its got to be done!
Hope everyone has had a good week-end. Cant believe my little man is a week old already! xx
Babymad fab birth story really pleased for you that you got your home birth xx
Babymad- I loved your birth story, so so glad for you that you are bonding well and beginning to be able to move on and be content with your (perfect) family. I'm so happy you are enjoying him right from the beginning, it is such a special time. I loved reading your post and it is amazing how we do cope and can come to terms with things (thank goodness). You sound so at peace and grounded, I'm just so happy for you! :HH:
Pinga- huge congrats to you! wonderful news, can't wait to see the pics! Hope you are enjoying your new little man to the full!
I had that scare too about fb and our group not being private but I'm pretty sure it is, phew! Thanks for setting it up maybebaby, it's fun to have all the faces to names.
Finally went car shopping today for a bigger car that will take all the boys. So time consuming and a bit boring, I don't really care! I am quite keen on the sliding door ones though, has anyone got one of those and is it any good?
TLM- you are welcome whenever you have time and when you are away for a bit, you certainly aren't forgotten. As Maybe said, you are one of the founding members! :HH:
Goodnight and love to you all xxxx
Pinga - hows you? How was the birth?? We need details! (I'm sure your hands are full ATM)
Babymad I will mentally start diet with you tomorrow. I weigh far too much. I crave sugar all the time and I think
Im going to get diabetes if I carry on. Plus my bp needs to come down :-( I have the same John Lewis star blanket as your lo. Good taste! I love their baby things. Love their designer baby clothes too (buy not the prices!) x
indigo - highly recommend sliding doors for the fact it is so much easier when in tight car parks! No worries the boys will slam the door into the next car. Our car is huge so takes up most of the space so slide doors are needed!!
Beck has the star blanket from johnlewis its gorgeous and so soft!!
Diet didn't go well today. Met my sister for the day and went to harvester. She had halomi and I had spit roast with jacket butter and sour cream. I have no will power :-(
My period isn't due (I'm bf feeding but it returned in may - boo!) but I am getting terrible cramps. Has anyone else had this so long after giving birth?
I got some bandana bibs today from buba bids. 11 for £19.95 they are lovely. If anyone with baby boys wants something funky I think they are great
Babymad, aww your homebirth sounded amazing!! i would love a hb but i just cant do pain, im terrible lol. Im soo glad you and your adorable little boy have bonded soo well, you sound really happy and you truly have a beatiful family :-))
Ive started weight watchers, lost 12 pounds so far, i cant believe im actually doing it as my will power is crap lol.
Im really looking forward to our meet up, not long now!! its funny how we have never met but i just feel such a bond with you all, cant wait :-) x
Hello!!! Finally back online after having my little man!!! As I mentioned before DS1 and DS2 have been very sick so I went to stay with their great-grandmother for a couple of nights after my 2 nights at hospital (no internet). DH has been watching the boys. Not been ideal but I actually really enjoyed the 1-on-1 time with bubba.
What a crazy birth. I still can't believe he is here.
Duke Arthur was born on Friday 15th at 3.39pm :)
DH had taken the day off work as DS1 had croup the night before and woke up in a massive panic as he couldn't breathe so he'd been to the Childrens Hospital for some steriods that night.
On Friday DHs sister came over to watch the boys for an hour while DH took me to my OB appointment at 12. my BP was up so was sent to fetal monitoring. After a while they put me on the monitors. DH went back home (fetal monitoring is 4 hour appt). While lying there I felt 2 massive kicks down there... which was weird. about 10 mins later when I stood up I said 'uh-oh' as a trickle ran down my leg. Guess the kicks were my waters breaking. They gave me a pad... which lasted about 10 seconds when my waters were gushing down... my shoes were wet etc.
Rang DH - he'd just got home - and told him to come back. The doc then said I would be sent home and booked in for an induction if nothing happened by the next morning. I thought hmmm - I could be wrong but I think its coming today and soon. Just after 3pm DH got back. The doc came back in and told me to come back at 6.30am. Then I got the first tightening that had a tiny bit of uncomfortableness to it. I told the doc. I was told to hang around for a bit and walk around the floor and see if it got things going. I took about 10 steps out the room and got the first ouchy one... then another. Then another and then I said I need to be in a room - I feel pressure.
They grabbed a wheelchair and I was rushed to the lifts and the birthing suite (an exciting wheelchair dash). Had a couple of contractions on the way. Got to the room threw myself on the floor by the bed and did my first push... trousers still on :D DH got me undressed while pushing... Baby got distressed so had to get on the bed. It was go go go.
You know how midwives like to say encouraging things... well at one point one said - 'your baby's head is out' and I said (a little sarcastically) 'yes I can TELL'! Honestly they shouldn't talk to me!
I'd say I had 6 contractions before starting to push. He came out in 30 mins (20mins after getting into the birth suite). Duke was a bit stunned and took a while to start responding - they had a paed there... but all good!
It took a while to absorb what happened - It was so quick I don't think I felt very in control. DH was AMAZING - he was really involved in this birth which was nice. I really needed him there. Duke is a gorgeous little man. He is feeding well but every 2 hours at the mo. He looks so like DS2 at the mo. Can't believe how lucky I was to be at the hospital when it all happened. We were lucky DHs sister was there to watch the boys... and lucky DH wasn't at work.
Anyway - that was my strange little birth story! :D Am very much in love with him. Am not thinking ahead to the future... am just soaking up the newborn bit.
Babymad - congratulations - what a fab birth you had!!!!
Pinga, massive congratulations! What an amazing story and what I wouldn't give to only have 6 contractions before pushing!! So glad dh was there and you were in hospital as it could have been scary otherwise. I'd love to see a pic! Sooooo happy you are in love with your little man....I WANT mINE NOW!!!!!
Hi everyone else! X
Pinga- so happy for you, big congrats. So glad you are enjoying your new little man :HH: I'd love a birth like that! I'm glad it all worked out with the kids being looked after and already being at the hosp. Well done!!
Wow Pinga that's how to do labour! Lol
Huge congratulations on Dukes arrival :) so glad you are all ok and that dh was lucky enought to make it back in time!!
Pinga what an amazing birth!! congratulations on your little man!! :) I love his name! I will have to add you on fb, i'll give you a pm!
Babymad ~ I love your pics! your little boy really is so so cute!
i love our group on fb, makes it so much easier to keep up! :)
Oh no I'm not gonna loose u all to fb am I?
It's happened to me before lol
kell, i'll always be here!
I'm sticking around too! Told a fellow mum of three at the school gates dh hadn't heard about his snip yet and she told me not to remind him as then I can even my numbers up! Tempting yet terrifying at the same time!
Got ds2 school uniform today - he's growing up! Thank goodness I have my lovely baby x
id love it if we were HT cycle buddies maybe, could you be persuaded?!
Pinga what a great birth story ! Congratulations on your little man xx
Deaks - I would love too but at 38 not sure it would work for me. Dh has said he is up for it! I did think about getting my pre testing done to see how it looked. My fsh was high at 12 before I have save. If my folical reserve was also low then it's a no go for me. I wish I was younger!
Could you post on HT as see if others of around the same age have been successful? I know loads of people who have had kids around 40 though i know you struggled to ttc last time, but was that mainly due to swaying? I definitely think you should get pretesting done.... we could do it together :)Quote:
Originally Posted by maybebabythree
Congratulations Pinga! I can't believe how quickly baby Duke arrived, it must have been quite a shock!
Hi, I'm not sure if I'm in the right place, so please direct me elsewhere if I'm not! I'm new to this forum, am having a hard time getting over my desire for a girl, but am unsure if I want to chance having a third child after having bad GD with ds2. Do you ladies have any tips for how to go ahead and make the decision? I'm thinking if we do go ahead, we will start trying after Christmas this year.
I'll always be here too, I owe ALOT to this site and our original PL gang! x
Girls weighed yest- DD1 9lbs 14oz and DD2 10lbs 7oz at 11wks. Saw the gp who was a bit hopeless, he tole me they had relux and I was to try SMA staydown before drug intervention. So called my HV who came out yest. She said to try it and meantime she would speak to gp and if by end wk no changes to call and he would give me a script for gaviscon to take with reg aptamil. To be honest I won't be trying the normal aptamil again, FX the SMA works, which you add the powder to chilled water then heat it slightly. The milk then thickens in the tummy and shouldn't come up as much. So far they haven't vomited half as much, but are still unsettled (glad HV saw them like that yest). Not very hopeful, but will give it a chance, bonus is u have to prepare water in bottles in advance to add powder to chilled water. So time saving when screaming for a feed :) Have heard from 3 mums that Hipp organic is a good one for babies with immature tummies that can't take aptamil, or babies coming off BF. Nightmare! boys were so easy, even ds2 with his shocking reflux never cried with it!
Inglewood - I used to frequent Babywhisperer.com - Index a lot and some of the ladies there have loads of reflux advice and experience. There is a separate board dedicated to it but I think you need to sign up to see it.
Does anybody want a 2.5 year old from 3pm to 4pm every weekday?! Oh my God, the school run has become one long, noisy, embarrassing tantrum! There goes the woman with more children than she can handle!!
I'll always be here, too much of a habit for me to give up now!
Welcome Serendipity! Yeah sounds like this is a good place for you to start! We are a group of mainly uk mums (and a few other nationalities too!) who have all been through/going through swaying. Some have been successful and some not but you will get great advice on here. You can also post in the ttc girl forum for lots of advice too but the uk mums usually hang out here.Quote:
Originally Posted by Serendipity
oh and serendipity, in answer to your question, i guess you have to ask yourself would you be ok with another boy? For me i just needed to felt like i had at least tried swaying as i hadn't heard of it before i conceived ds2.
Hi Girls....
pinga ~ Great birth story so happy you and your little man are doing well :)
Hi everyone else....really tired today and need sleep! Managed to mow the lawn and do the gardening today as the weather was so nice but shattered now!
Inglewood ~ Fingers crossed it works!! Love the pics on FB :)
DS4 doing well, he doesn't wind well so still taking me an hour or longer on each feed but overall he's doing well :) he's really changed already...he's 10 days old today, I'm already stressed thats it going too quickly!!
Off for a hot bath...started diet today and I'm starving!! so I need distracting. Hoping to get into bed and read for bait...can you believe how many people are reading 50 shades....!!!
I can't believe you're gardening and mowing the lawn Babymad! I'm so crap, I'm doing the bare minimum (poor DH has just got home from work and been sent straight out to Asda!!) and I'm still knackered!! Time is going so quicly isn't it? I can't believe Eliza is going to be 3 weeks old on Sunday. I had a happy thought this afternoon though - only a few weeks until the summer holidays and no school runs for 6 whole weeks .... and we can all have lie ins (hahaha!!) and stay in our PJs until lunchtime :D
Lol Zanacal...I cant wait for PJ days :) Not sure how I'll be with 4 kids for 6 wks though ;)
How are finding it with DD after 3 boys? Must be wonderful to pick girly outfits and buy different things? Is it still sureal that you have a DD?
There is exactly a week between them as DS4 will be 2 weeks on sunday which will really stress me out...I absolutely love the newborn bit and feel very sad its my last time....Dont think I will ever be ok with never being able to have newborn cuddles again...it is the most magical thing in the world!
Thanks for your reply deaks, might come back later in the year if we do decide to go ahead x
Hi serendpity . I think that you really have to be ok with the possibility if another boy. The more effort you put into swaying the more convinced you are that it's going to work and the worse the gd when it doesn't. Lucky for me I gave up on swaying as I couldn't get pg and just wanted a third.
Deaks I might do the pre testing as it's only a few hundred and then I tried (a bit lol!)
Babymad I feel exactly the same. Knowing it your lastnewborn is heartbreaking. I'm terminally broody!
Inglewood poor girls ds1 was like that too