Kelissi- hang in there sweetie. Things will get better. We have to have the low points to be able to really enjoy the highs. Hugs :)
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Kelissi- hang in there sweetie. Things will get better. We have to have the low points to be able to really enjoy the highs. Hugs :)
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Hi missxo143! Welcome to the group .
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Hi Junie,
Thanks for the welcome: )
Thanks Junie. I'm just feeling low and hopeless and exhausted and that doesn't exactly make me want to jump up and go for a run. Siiiiiiiiiigh. I hope hope hope hope that this will get worked out - thanks so much for putting up with my crazy ramblings!
Ah, men! Haha
My husband is so noncommittal about having a child of our own. He loves our foster son so much he says that life is perfect the way he is and he wouldn't want to risk messing it up! Kind of cute really that he loves Kaden so much he doesn't think he could share his time, especially since he is isn't biologically his kid!
He's agreed to have a baby because of how upset I was when miscarried our oops pregnancy this year, and I absolutely know he'll be just as devoted of a Dad when a baby arrives, but it's slightly annoying being the only one actively wanting and preparing for conceiving another child. I think he's still adjusting to the role of being a father, when we met I told him I never wanted kids and he was fine with that, then hormones kicked in! Haha!
Please forgive me for being so blunt (it's kind of a personality trait of mine). But why would you WANT to have another child with such an individual? I know I don't know the backstory and maybe there is a big aspect I am missing or not seeing. But given your description of him above, I can't see why you would want to stick around. I'm not a huge advocate for divorce, not without counseling and attempts at rectifying what might be changed. But if he is a selfish, unpleasant person to be around and be married to, I certainly wouldn't be settling into a life of that for myself and my children. I don't really think its fair to bring another child into an unstable union. Not fair for anyone involved, but the kids will be the ones to ultimately suffer, since kids are much more intuative than we tend to give them credit for (and know that something is not kosher with Mom and Dad). I'm not saying its not something you might be able to work through. However, now does not seem like the time to make purposeful attempts at another child, when he can't even discuss getting pregnant and makes you want to forgo fun activities to remove yourself from him. I don't mean any of that rude or snarky or anything, I have no judgements on you or your choices. I just know that generally speaking its not a good idea to rush into something like this on a rocky marriage. Babies, despite their wonderful charms, tend to make rocky marriages even rockier, despite many believing otherwise. I really am sorry you are dealing with this though. My very good friend is in a similar relationship and its so hard to see her suffer and not be able to make her happy. You deserve a lot better, this I know. No one should have to settle for someone who doesn't consider the feelings of others.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kelissi
As for me: negative test today, but not really sure how many DPO I am. Best guess says its too early to test. I dunno what ill do if its negative. I have totally gone from eating somewhat LE and being more girly in lifestyle to being major HE for a week now. I dunno what my issue is! So if we do get a negative (no big deal, this was somewhat an oops), I might push off swaying another month into August to have more time on LE and take off more weight (I've gained a couple pounds...yikes!). So, not sure. I have no pregnancy symptoms. But I don't know if i will this early. I don't remember with my others when things started.
I've never had a positive before 10 DPO, maybe it is still too early hotdogz...
Have any of you had the Mirena IUD and if so how long did you have it and how long did it take yout body to adjust back to normal?
Hi girls. I'm planning my sway in August. As a matter of fact! I'm pretty lucky as if my calendar calculates correctly my lenght cycle I'll have first day in 19 July which makes my O day around 1-2 August and another 1st day on 15 July(around), which makes my possible O day on 29-30 August? These after calculating my last lenght cycles and O day...
I'm waiting for my personalised plan so I can start whatever Atomic decides is best for me. I'll put all the effort and watch every detail with attention.
Hope I can join due date clucb of a pink baby soon.
Anybody is starting the plan next weeks?
Hi Ladies! I hope you don't mind me jumping in on your thread!:) my husband and I will be TTC pink in June:) So Excited! Just curious because I am unclear...Do we make our attempt the day of a +OPK, or right before? I have been charting my cycles for 3 months now, so I think I can pinpoint when I ovulate. Also, are any of you gals taking cranberry supplements?
missxo143, I had my Mirena removed January 21st this year. If you click my ticker at the bottom of my signature you can see my Fertility Friend charts. Go down to January 25th. It is named 1st Full cycle off Mirena. I did have a long first cycle but, the first bleeding I had may have been break through, it's hard to know though. I have had two Mirena's. My first one was placed 14th of February 2012. The Mirena was discovered missing and later found (not even in my uterus). I required surgery to remove it (laproscopy and D&C). I had another put in it's place. I'm not sure if this helps you.
Hi ladies. I thought I might introduce myself since I have posted in here a couple of times over the past few days. I will also need to be joining this group.
I am Mum to four girls including my SIDS angel watching over us. Miss 13, Miss almost 9 and Miss 4. Desperately hoping for a blue bundle as this will be our last bub.
Mirena was removed 21st of January and our 1st attempt was April, without success.This cycle I didn't get a +OPK til CD 21 so ovulation was likely 1st of June (yesterday for me).
Due to circumstances out of my control we weren't able to attempt this month. So, ovulation won't happen again till early July. I have meds ordered to hopefully help. By they time they arrive and hopefully kick in, we will have missed July's ovulation. I have left a message for atomic. It's likely I will sit out July's attempt and attempt in August.
So, once again hello. If you were able to get through that post, thank you, lol.
Trust me, wondering why I would *want* to have another child with him is a big, big, BIG part of my brain and life right now.Quote:
Originally Posted by hotdogz&boyz
I'm sure a lot of it is that I got very severe pre-e with my first child, but not with my second, so if we did split and I had another baby with a different father, chances are really really good that I'd get pre-e again. I actually almost died (BP 210/190, two week stay in the ICU for me, DS born at 2 pounds and 67 day NICU stay). So, obviously, I wouldn't want to have another child with someone else, because I'm not about to risk that again - I'm not exaggerating when I say that I very nearly died. And, to give the Reader's Digest version of my consultation with my maternal-fetal medicine specialist, since my second pregnancy was uncomplicated, it's unlikely that I would develop pre-e again in a future pregnancy with my husband, but extremely likely that I would develop it if I had a baby with someone else.
I'm an only child and I've always wanted my children to have siblings. In addition, I've always wanted a daughter, or, well, I wouldn't be here.
I'm hoping counseling will help and that we'll get through this. Most of me is feeling more like I want out of this relationship than wanting another child. There's no way that I'd bring a child into a position where s/he'd be resented. This also isn't rushing in - it's been a toxic issue for a long while that he's chosen not to deal with. Believe me, it's not a, "Oh, my marriage is rocky, aren't babies cute? Let's have a baby and then we won't have issues anymore!"
In addition, he turned 49 a couple of days ago. I'm 27, so I have plenty of time, but the clock's really ticking for him. We chose to have kids quickly (when I was 21!) because he was so much older than me and wanted a family - now he's jumping ship. In addition, I thought I was marrying someone a lot more giving. But - anyway - we're in counseling.
Some days are just harder than others to be optimistic that this is going to work out, and the day I wrote this was definitely one of those. I'm sorry if it was posted in the wrong forum - and I am trying really, really, really hard to not take offense, because it's so easy to misinterpret someone's words on the Internet - but I am already so completely down and a lot of your response was, honestly, pretty hard to read, in a way that hurt more than felt helpful, especially the part about how it would be unfair to my future child to bring them into my family. I'm not trying to cause drama or be all knicker-twisty about it, because I'm sure it was well meant and you were trying to help, but I'm in a complicated situation, and now I feel pretty uncomfortable posting about it here, which is hard, because I feel uncomfortable talking about it in most other situations, too.
I think day of +OPK - that you should try within 8 hours. I might be wrong, but I'm pretty sure!Quote:
Originally Posted by Charli33
I do apologize for my response hurting you and making you feel uncomfortable. Perhaps you and I are in different places in life and it was not appropriate of me to assume you could handle my degree of pointedness on the issue. I'm sure you have a wonderful counselor who can help you through some of the rocky terrain that comes with marriage problems. There is a reason I'm not a marriage counselor and work with a different population, so I probably should have kept my mouth shut. I wish you the best and genuinely hope you can find peace with whatever decisions you are faced with.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kelissi
Hi and Welcome MyByC :) I'm planning on TTC in July although it might end up being August depending on DH. I've already started doing the diet and exercise but I tend to be pretty relaxed about it on the weekends. My mom is also coming to visit and I won't worry as much about it while she is here since I only get to see her a few times a year and I want to just enjoy her visit.
Charli33 - Hi and Welcome!!! But just so you know there is also a TTC thread for June.
http://genderdreaming.com/forum/tryi...-ttc-june.html
Which might be a bit more fun for you as I think many of us -but not all- won't actually be TTC this month :)
OH, thats great.
I'm still waiting for my personalised plan from atomic.
When you started your sway?
And what have you choosed exactlly?
I still need to read so many posts and opinions in here.
Hi Boysway!! What a bummer about having to miss this month. Before I had my first son I had really long cycles (I ovulated the month I got my BFP on CD38 or something crazy like that). Long cycles can be really frustrating but we are happy to have you waiting here with us :)
I got a super, super faint positive this morning. A serious squinter. By my guess, I'm 10DPO. I've gotten positives with other pregnancies at 9-11DPO, so I guess it's just fine being faint at this point. I'm not jumping for joy or getting too excited yet. Ill see how things progress. But it does look like we conceived. Sadly, I am also losing a very close friend this week to a devastating disease, so I'm not in a good place emotionally. But, on a positive note, if this baby does end up being a boy, we are planning to name the baby after this man, who is like family to us. So, in lots of ways, ill be very happy if we have a boy. Funny how life gives you little "gifts" in negative experiences. I told him when I visited him last night and I think it meant a lot to him. So, ill stalk around, but will probably be off to a DDC soon. Good luck to all the ladies in here. I hope you get your hearts wish!
Geez hotdogz! Congrats! Did you have an oops?? So sorry to hear about your dear friend. My thoughts are with you during this difficult time.
hotdogz, Sending you love and strength. What a tough thing to be going through. Oooo, so it sounds like congrats are in order :)
Rosie: Yes, we had an oops. Lol. I randomly ovulated a few days early and it just so happened that we pretty much nailed a 2-day-cut off. Alls well that ends well. I am good with it.
Thanks for the thoughts ladies. It's a hard week. It's tough to even be excited, but I figure it will come after I grieve my friend.
My lines are darker tonight, so I'm off to a DDC. Good luck ladies!
Congrats hotdogz!!! What wonderful news to come in such a difficult time. I wish you all the best :)
Everyone is sick here. Both boys got a stomach bug on what was for us a long holiday weekend. Older son was throwing up Sat night every hour and since he has only thrown up about twice in his life he never knew when it was coming and always just threw up all over himself. Thankfully he seems to be fine now but younger son threw up on Sunday and now has terrible diarrhea. He is so sensitive when it comes to this stuff that I am sure he will have diarrhea for weeks which is really frustrating. He is in a super great mood, feels fine, but has awful diarrhea and it makes it hard to know when it is OK to send him to daycare or do activities with other kids which he loves. Plus we leave for holidays on Mon so it would be very nice if it would be gone by then (are you listening universe? :) ) And now on Mon DH has been throwing up,etc. So I'm exhausted and with my mom flying in tomorrow it has been terrible timing. I've not exercised since Friday but just haven't had the energy, I've also not been great with the diet. But I always knew I would have to relax on the rules for the time my mom is visiting.
How is everyone else doing?
I had my first acupuncture appointment today. The needles weren't anything like I thought. It was pretty good. I will go back in two weeks :)
Oh no Junie :( Nothing worse then a family full of sickness. I hope everyone gets better soon.
I'm glad you liked the acupuncture. My mom did it for years after a car accident and felt like it really helped.
It's official, we're now all sick! Except older son who is now over it. Of course since hubby is also sick I get to suck it up and take care of everything. I hope we all feel good soon!
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Junie, Oh no :( Let's hope it finishes with every one and buggers off! It's hard when you have to look after everything else but do your best to rest and keep up the fluids.
I kind of expected the acupuncture to hurt a little. I only had one needle feel like I was being pinched, that's it!
I also had to take Miss 4 with me. Thankfully she was fantastic the whole time. She quite happily had some food and coloured in.
Thank you boysway, i will look at it after my son goes to school :)
hotdogz&boyz- Sending you lots of strength & hugs. You must be having so many conflicting thoughts/feelings right now. Feel free to come to us for support. I don't know if this helps at all, but. I'm native American and we believe that when someone passes before the birth of a baby, the baby aquires the soul of the person who passed. My great great grandmother passed very close to my birth, and my family has always told me that she and I are one in the same, everything from the way we wear our hair to the things we like to do to the way we talk to people. I know many have found comfort in her passing through my birth, and maybe you can look at your little bundle the same way. Even if you don't believe the same thing spiritually, you can always pass on little stories of this man you love so dearly, so that in one way or another your child grows up knowing them too. Again, sending lots of love and thoughts your way <3
I really love that idea jsophia :)
Both congrats and condolences hotdogz, seems the story of life these days, but I suppose hard times are best tempered with good news. :) Sorry I'm slow, we've been out on a camping trip for the last 5 days, beautiful, but cooooold, though I still got a temp shift. Yay! for ovulating only 2 days late after a miscarriage.
So ladies any fun plans for the weekend?
We're supposed to have great weather so we'll be going out tonight, grilling tomorrow with friends, and going to a fun place with the kids on Sunday. Then we leave for a week of holidays. So I won't be doing the diet much I guess. Maybe exercise and maybe skipping breakfast/snacks but I want to just enjoy my mom's visit and not be thinking about LE the whole time. I think I will still be getting 4 good weeks in before TTC- if DH gets on board on time LOL :)
We have a long weekend here. I have work tomorrow night and Sunday night. We also have my Mum and Dad and brother coming for a roast dinner Sunday night. Not sure what we're doing in between my working and sleeping, lol. Your weekend sounds nice :D
Hi all I am new here first month TTC and am looking for a bit of advice please. I use clearblue opk kit which has had a flashy smiley face for the last 7 days (it needs to be a static face for the LH surge) but tonight when I finished work I felt like I might be ovulating so I used a cheapy stick to test thinking it would be neg but it looks very positive to me. The two lines are identical in colour I wanted to upload a pic but it's not working! �� so my question is do I do my one attempt tonight at pos opk or do I wait for the clearblue tomorrow am as it requires first morning urine to test. Sorry for the long post! Thanks ladies I totally love this site! X
Managed to upload pic!
Girl dreaming - it looks positive, I would attempt tonight!
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I call that positive, I'd go for it. :)
My hubby is out of town up north near Nome on work, so I have an uneventful weekend of cleaning scheduled lol Beautiful weather up here right now though.
So exciting that some of us are trying now! I think we should stick together on this thread even when we aren't WTT anymore :p
I had a crazy busy weekend: lots of running around. My next 5 weekends are crazy too. Oh well- hopefully it'll make the time pass faster!