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Thank you babs, you have described exactly how I feel. I think my expectations were falsely high due to my sway and I had such high hopes for a girl. It just seems so final for me too as we are definitely not having any more children after this Bub and I just need to grieve a little. I already love this Bub very much and I know I will love him so much when I finally get to hold him. I am not sad I am having another boy, but instead sad that I will never have my little girl.
I know its so difficult to do, but can you think of it in terms of positive that you did sway so hard ?Quote:
Originally Posted by Kelbear
What I mean is, if you hadn't and had gotten pregnant you might always wonder "What if I had swayed".
Many will disagree with me, but I honestly do think some of us can do all the swaying in the world and still have opposites.
It is a grieving process for sure, and we will all be here to support you without judgement.
I couldn't agree with you more on this! I have been on here for a few years now, and I've seen people have FANTASTIC sways with not being control freakish have opposites, while others basically do only like 2-3 things (not really swaying at all) get their desired gender. Swaying can give you a false sense of hope- that's how I felt when I heard boy the last time I swayed. I didn't have any gender preference, but when I heard boy from my MaterniT21 results I felt the wind taken out of me. I felt like I lost something.Quote:
Originally Posted by MrsSparkles
Now, my second sway, I'm totally preparing for our fourth boy! While I feel like I had a much better sway and had a chance to do things differently, I know realistically we may be "set" for boys.
(((Huge Hugs)))
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Perhaps that is the charm ?Quote:
Originally Posted by XXforhubby
Letting go of the expectation of a girl ?
Who knows!
It's such a complex thing, and is being studied more and more.
I read this study about men with more brothers having boys, and that plays right in our family...husband is from all brothers, bro in law has all brother...who in turn have all sons.
The study is here
But then there are people on these boards for whom that doesn't hold true at all !
That's a really fascinating study. My husband is an only child so hard for me to look into his family tree (he doesn't even know his father). However his father was one of two boys so maybe it holds true.
Letting go of the expectation of a girl though...easier said than done. It's been 4 years since my oldest son was born and the entire time I've still believed I would at one point have a daughter. And each time I was told I would not, it has crushed me. I wish I was being overdramatic but literally it has felt like that.
A lovely mum at our school who has 4 girls, 3 of which are in their 20s now, told me the other day that her eldest daughter, is expecting a baby boy! This will be the first boy born into the family for several generations, as she had all sisters herself, had all granddaughters, and all nieces! She's ecstatic about finally having a grandson, as she longed so much for a little boy of her own. So very excited for her!!
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Originally Posted by Mummyof4boys
That's fanatstic !
Wonder if the baby daddy has lots of brothers or sister, would be interesting to see if the Newcastle study holds any water with them.
Mummy- that is a great story. How exciting for their family.
Well I did it, 22 weeks now and I finally told my mom on Sunday and my boss yesterday. My mom's birthday was this weekend so we bought her a cake, I put candles on, lite them and as we started to sing to her then I actually brought the cake and put it in front of her and it said "Happy Birthday It's a GIRL June 2017" She immediately saw the it's a girl part and freaked out. We didn't get to finish signing because she jumped out of her chair and hugged me and freaked out. Then she started to cry. I think she had all but given up that I would ever have kids since I am 35 and have been married for 10 years and there was a time when we said we might not have kids. I never once told her or any family that we for sure wanted kids someday. Needless to say, she is very very excited.
Talk with my boss went well too but got me pretty stressed out about maternity leave and being away from work. I know I will get judged for this so I don't want to go into too much detail, but I have no intentions of being away from work long or even at all (work from home) but I still have to figure out the details.
Now we have to tell the in laws before we can announce to the rest of the family and friends. I don't want to, but I have to because the bump won't hide much longer. I am actually sad that I even had to tell boss and mom. It was fun having a secret.
What a super special way to tell your Mum !
Congratulations :)
Don't worry about getting judged about the maternity leave !
"Those that matter don't mind, and those that mind don't matter!" -one of my fave quotes when people are being douchey ;)
GirlieCat. Must be so nice to get the news out. What a nice way you told your mother. I think it is impressing how long to manage to keep it a secret. How are you going to tell your in laws?
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24 weeks today! Feels like the pregnancy is finally starting to speed up lol. Bring on June :D Currently experiencing baby hiccups...never gets old haha.
How is everyone else going?
I need everyone's help...I am having severe cramping/sharp pain in lower right hand abdomen (and lower right back). It has been almost non stop for 7 hours...no relief at all. Hard to walk, breath and talk. If I still had one, I would say it is similar to appendix pain, but I had mine out 16 years ago. I will call doc in the morning if it still persists but wanted to see if anyone else knows what it might be? Thanks.
Crashing for Girlie - it could be a Kidney Stone. Very common in pregnancy. I was told to get flank pain (as you are describing) checked out right away if I ever got it. I get kidney stones with all my pregnancies and no other time. If it gets worse, head to the ER.
I am not sure what I could be, however kidney stones could be a possible cause as shannshaff said. I would go to ER and get it checked out just for your own peace of mind if it does stop soon. Hoping you feel better soon and the cramping stops.
Go to Emergency! Better to be safe than sorry ! Xx
How are you girlie ????
I'm sorry I don't have any idea what it could be, but the kidney stones sounds really plausible.
Please update us as soon as you can, sending you lots of love
Oh no Girlie. I hope your pain goes away soon. I have no idea what it can be. Seek doctor so you can get peace in mind.
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23 weeks today. Feeling weel but think times goes slow. Feel baby kicking everyday now. This is a really nice feeling. I developed a bad habit with eating cakes everyday. I am so hungry and my cravings after pastry, cake and chocolate sets in after lunch. I try to control myself but some days I just have to give in.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mummyof4boys
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Girlie thinking of you. Hope everything is ok.
Keep checking to see update on you GirlieCat.
Hoping you and baby are ok xx
hope everything is ok GirlieCat x
I sure hope and pray all is well with you and your sweet baby. I'm sending lots of positive thoughts your way [emoji1317]!
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Thinking of you GirlieC. Please update us that you are ok.
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Girlie hope u get well soon...💐💐
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Hope you are ok girliecat, thinking of you and hope to hear soon that you and bub are doing ok
Thank you all for the well wishes. Baby appears fine. Heart beat is normal. Pain was/is most likely kidney infection, but doc said he can't totally rule out possibility of a kidney stone too. Constant sharp pain is gone, just occasional cramp here and there now. Wait and see then go back in a few days. Drinking lots of water.
So glad to hear you and bub are ok. Hopefully the cramps disappear completely for you.Quote:
Originally Posted by GirlieCat
Thank God GirlieC that baby is weel and you are getting better.
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I'm so glad that you and baby are ok, Girliecat! I hope that you get some relief soon!
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Has anyone here had pubic bone symphisis problems? This 3rd pregnancy is kicking my butt. I am now 18 weeks and already limping and waddling in pains I'm also getting almost constant migraines and cramping. But the limping is the worst. I'm almost unable to pick up my 20 month old. I had it with the pee opus two pregnancies but much further down the road. Like 30 weeks. I go to the chiro but it's just temporary relief. Any tricks/tips you ladies have?
So pleased that you and little princess are okay !Quote:
Originally Posted by GirlieCat
Sorry I can't helps Babs.Quote:
Originally Posted by BabsNMK
Have only had 'stiff hips' on waking, or getting up which I am assuming is not the same as yours.
Sounds horrible :(
Are there any excursuses advocated by SpinningBabies.com ? I know they are about turning the baby in the right position, but perhaps they have advice about other pregnancy related issues
I've looked up exercises online and doing them now but so far not helping. It's pretty painful. Whenever part of me thinks maybe we could have a 4th child, I have to remember that my body hates being pregnant.
Crashing... babs I have it too. Doctor recommended a maternity support band... it works like a charm!!
Maternity Support Belt | Motherhood Maternity
Ahh yes Burakoam. I have it in storage and never needed it this early before. I guess it's time to break it out.
Anyone else get a nasty after taste when eating? Never had it with previous 4 pregnancies..it went away for a few weeks and now it's back :( don't know how to get rid of it!
I get this too. I find brushing my teeth or sucking on fruit flavored candy helps. If I don't get the taste out of my mouth, I feel it makes my morning sickness worse.
FX you get some relief soon!
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Brushing my teeth/tongue doesn't help. I just end up with a rotten toothpaste taste in my mouth afterwards, same with the lollies :( Makes me feel nauseousQuote:
Originally Posted by XXforhubby
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Originally Posted by Mummyof4boys
Iam the same nothing much helps . I sometime use mouthwash listerine and some really strong mints but it doesnt completely go away ..
It drives me crazy . Apparently well so ive read its got to do with the PH in ur mouth
It's awful isn't it?! Makes me feel sick. Never had this with the last 4.Quote:
Originally Posted by Faithinpink