Isn’t that like scientifically proven that husbands gain weight in pregnancy too?? I feel like I read that somewhere!!!! [emoji38]Quote:
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Isn’t that like scientifically proven that husbands gain weight in pregnancy too?? I feel like I read that somewhere!!!! [emoji38]Quote:
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I did the same thing with DS2. I went shopping for a little brother outfit and really struggled because the little brother stuff was right next to the little sister stuff.Quote:
Originally Posted by SurroundedByBoys
So I understand the poor shopping experience, been there.
Surrounded I'm sorry the shopping didn't lift your spirits but glad that you don't feel completely devastated. Definitely go online! Alliexpress is also great. Tons of cute stuff on there. I have always liked dressing up my boys as little old men. Think bowties, suspenders, golf hats. That cuteness kept my yearning for girl clothes at bay with ds2.
Also find looking at pinterest at brother photoshoots is also nice. I did that before I found out the gender this time to try psych myself up for a boy.
And finding a name you love. I loved DS2 name. We didn't know the gender but towards the end I thought of the name as an option for a boy and I actually got a bit excited at the prospect of another boy if he could have that name. He's going to perfect x
ABC your bump is looking so cute! I'm not sure if I have a proper bump yet. Looking like a food baby at this point. At night after I've eaten it gets pretty big! Maybe tomorrow I'll take a morning vs evening for you guys.
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Abc I was about the same size as you at 16 weeks :) I actually think where I started off my lowest ever adult weight this time my bump was more noticeable if that makes sense?!
You look great!!
Very cute baby mumma:HH:
Surrounded congrats to baby boy, i know u wanted to hear girl but im sure he will very special and important part of your family:hugs:
Abc very nice bump:flowerz:
Abc you have a seriously gorgeous bump going on there [emoji7]
Tp I hope you're ok, please pm if you're more comfortable doing that [emoji173]
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I know, I was a little upset when I found out it’s anterior. My 4th pregnancy I had an anterior placenta and felt him around 17 weeks. Hopefully it’s the same this time but I’m 20lbs heavier so I think it will be harder to feel. Do you think weight makes a difference?Quote:
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Not sure. I was at a heavier weight with DS2 so maybe that has an effect. I guess we’ll see! Hopefully it’s not too long for both of us!Quote:
Originally Posted by Cassidy4
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Baby bump!!! [emoji7][emoji7] gorgeous!
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Im plus sized and not showing anything I can tell, except my pants are a tad snug in the waist. I also havent gained any weight with this one. I didnt really show with DS1 until around 20 weeks. Meanwhile DS2 my bump was massive by 14 weeks. I was around the same weight for all 3 to start with.
Announced my pregnancy officially today. Posted these pictures to do it. Facebook official :giggle:
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Surrounded that’s adorable!! You make beautiful boys :)
Love your announcement! Are your boys excited for their baby brother? They sure are cute! You should name Oops something like cOOPer, that has Oops in it lol! I love his nickname lol ��
Love your announcement surrounded! So cute! Your boys are gorgeous!
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Surrounded I love your sense of humor! Your announcement is great!
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Thank you all!
Jacob (DS1) was hoping for a sister, but is excited for a brother as well. Logan (DS2) is on the severe end of the autism spectrum so hes not totally aware of whats going on, but he loves babies so when I bring DS3 home he will be mighty pleased!
I love the name Cooper. Unfortunately my last name is Zeller (feel free to FB stalk haha I welcome friends) and names that end in 'er' sound a bit off. Its a hard last name! I think the names that have been thrown around most are Travis, Trevor (but the or sound sigh), Brendan/Brandon, and Devin.
Adorable announcement!!
Adorable boys! I hope your GD fades quickly and that your baby is healthy. He will be perfect.Quote:
Originally Posted by SurroundedByBoys
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I just reached 7 weeks. I've been feeling well for the most part. I'm still holding my breath to see if this little one keeps growing. My first appointment is at 9w1d so if I hear a heartbeat then I think I will really believe this is happening!
Cassidy I hope you feel well soon.
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Surrounded such a cute announcement!!! And those little pjs - isn’t it crazy remembering how little they start out? :)
Gafan hoping the next couple of weeks go by fast for you! Waiting for that first scan is torture!!!
TP did you have your scan yet??
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I have a Logan too! [emoji4] my boys are Logan, Kolton, and Braxton!
I love Love your announcement!!
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Oh Gafan, I remember those days vividly still. I still think “oh, if I only get to **milestone** I’ll breath a bit easier. Hoping for an uneventful 2 weeks for you!Quote:
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Awe, I think it still sounds good Surrounded lol! But I understand what you mean!
Thank you Gafan! That’s good you’ve been feeling well. I hope the next few weeks go quick so you can hear the heartbeat!
I have a midwife appointment next Tuesday and my early gender scan on Wednesday. Time is going soooo slow
So not doing great. Things are very not great with DH and I'm exhausted by his passive aggression and his resistance to therapy or any change. He was extremely emotionally abusive this week (I was just in the way of his stress, it didn't even have to do with me but he took it all out on me...)
But I had scan today...
They couldn't tell gender!!!! Tech literally said she has to write "unknown" even for the records. Baby was so stubborn we have to go back in 2 weeks to try and get the needed images on scan! Couldn't even get full cord shot, face, etc.!
I thought I saw vagina at one point but I guess that really shows how much we think we know and are wrong, since tech said she couldn't get gender shot at all? Skull looked smooth and girly to me though and I feel like surely a penis should be seen somehow?! Anyone have boys who hid the goods?
At least my decision on finding out gender or not was made for me!
Now to tackle the DH stuff... :/
TP, my DS3 was really good at hiding his stuff at my anatomy scan. Nearly the entire time he had his legs tightly crossed to the point I thought surely it's a girl because what boy would be comfy squishing his bits like that! It wasn't until the very end after jostling him a bunch that he spread eagle for the tech to see. So I wouldn't worry about what parts you saw (or lack thereof) since babies can definitely hide what they want to.
Tp sorry you are not doing great:( i hope it will be better soon with Dh:hugs::heart:
TP at my 20 week scan with DS3 the tech looked for gender and said "99% sure its a girl" then later into the scan she was like "wait..its a boy" so yeah boys can certainly hide it if they arent in an ideal position!! and if she couldnt even get the shots to check that area for the medical notes then it very much is still 50/50 for this baby.
i hope things get better between you and dh soon :heart: do you think you will find out at your next scan if they can get the gender shots or are you set on being team green after baby wouldnt show yesterday?
I really don't things will get better with him. This is all such longstanding issues, and I was just so focused on getting my son -- now I have no means to go it alone after blowing all my savings on IVF, and don't feel it's even worth staying with him at times, especially when it's looking like he is the biggest obstacle towards me getting my son.
I did a TON of Googling and saw most people who couldn't tell gender at anatomy scan ended up having girls :( In our case, it's not the cord was blocking, it's that baby was literally crouched with feet up and in a position where tech couldn't even get shot of base of spine or cord, let alone anywhere near genitals... but still, I am feeling so hopeless between DH's continued assholery and now this. All of this just to get another girl. There have been so many moments where I've thought I should have just found out sex with NIPT and terminated if girl like I always planned. But no, I was "doing this for DD" and "DH would never forgive me if I terminated."
Now I'm here contemplating being alone, truly, and wondering how I'll weather an unwanted pregnancy and labor and then 2 kids by myself, with my dream of a boy being dashed even further by being single.
I just thought life was finally getting easier. Now I'm feeling like a fool.
I was also so relieved and felt so much better that the baby wouldn't show gender even to the techs! I kept thinking, "THANK YOU!" Now I'm realizing this probably pretty much confirmed it's a girl :(
TP, I am so sorry you are going through this. Have you considered marriage counseling, if that is an option, or something you're comfortable with.
I just hate that you are going through this all simultaneously and just words from a stranger on the internet is all I can give. You will be in my thoughts and prayers and I'm hoping you and your husband find a resolution that is healthy and good for everyone involved.
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We've seen two different marriage counselors over the years, and he's seen two different individualized therapists as well. He always stops going once they say things he doesn't like. No red flags there! :sigh:Quote:
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And thank you for your words, because having you all here DOES help me. I luckily have very supportive understanding friends who have been very vocal about how surprised they are I AM still with DH after he treated me during all the losses (especially after we found out he lied about his own urology issue...). But the only place I can go to about my gender concerns is here :/
And yeah... all simultaneously is why I think I suddenly went from stable, peaceful, "At least DD will get a sibling no matter what" to "WHAT THE HELL AM I DOING? HAVING ANOTHER GIRL? WITH A MAN WHO TREATS ME LIKE SHIT?" And we don't even have a confirmation of gender! (Though I was already down the rabbit hole of depression even with DD's nub shot).
Maybe I just have antepartum depression every time :/ Yet another factor in, "Why am I making myself push through unwanted babies..." and yet another issue DH is incapable of supporting. Afterall, I was told to "fake smile" around him during all my losses because I was ~such a drag~ :rolleyes:
Tp my second boy hid his at 16 weeks and we had to go back at 17 weeks to confirm. He would not uncross his legs at all.
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Tp I’m so sorry he had the nerve to treat you like that. How cruel of him during your losses too. So many hugs to you. If he’s abusive then being with him isn’t healthy for you and certainly not for your two babies.
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So I had my scan and now I’m kind of worried. The machine in office was kind of old so she could not get a very clear up close shot. Each time she measured it was 5 days behind what I should be. Should be 7w5d, measured 7. Heart rate looked good she said but didn’t give me a number. She didn’t seem all too concerned with the measurements but since I know the day we conceived, I am. It’s impossible I’m only 7 weeks. I also go an early BFP at 10dpo.. Plus the internet is filled with horror stories and bad outcomes involving measuring behind. So instead of happy I’m confused and worried. I’ll go back in 2 weeks for repeat scan.
TP, MEEEEEEE! DS hid his goods for multiple scans! I had so much pink stuff to return it was horrible! Of course, after numerous shopping sprees it couldn’t have been more obvious when he did decide to show (which was well into the twenty-some-odd weeks). I’m so sorry for what you’re going through, having previously been in an extremely abusive relationship, I know how hard it can be.... to stay, leave, being scared, unhappy. The unknown is so scary, but so is the prospect of a lifetime of unhappiness. Life is so short, I hope you find happiness, wherever it may lie and however it may come about. Hugs!
Raining, this one had a date that bounced around too (despite the fact I know the date as well). At that gestation, they are so small and doctors and techs measure so quickly it’s bound to be off. Just a few pixels on a screen can make a huge difference in measurements. A good heartbeat is great news!! FWIW, mine is a girl! Fx!!!!
Funny thing is, my doctor knows my.... “personality” that he corrected the computers EDD and put in my own LOL he said he trusted my notes far more than the machine.
TP, I'm sorry to hear you are going through all this. it is too early to know for sure that this isnt a boy, but I know GD can be intense and it is hard to hope ssometimes. Are you getting support for possible antepartum depression? Sounds like your husband is incredibly difficult to deal with and you deserve as much support as possible.Quote:
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TP it is just horrible that you are going through all this. Pregnancy and being a parent is hard enough when you have a supportive partner let alone feeling like you are doing it all by yourself. I just hope things can improve for you even if they don't get better with your DH. I will keep hoping you get your DS as this sounds like the one thing that might help give you the strength and desire to keep going.Quote:
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I understand the feeling of being alone and how scary the prospect of being a single parent is as DH and I are in a similar place right now. DH still doesn't want this baby and has refused to go to any of my scans and still refers to this as my baby or 'you have a baby on the way' not our baby at all. He is emotionally abusive or distant (both seem as bad sometimes). He refuses to go to counselling and I don't know how we will make it through this as a couple. I am terrified at the prospect of being a single parent of 3 under 4 once Bub is born. I know if this baby is another boy he won't cope (not that he is already but if it's a girl he might come around eventually). I am so scared to find out the sex of this baby but know it is probably better to find out now and make some hard decisions rather than face him leaving as soon as the baby is born. I have barely slept in 4 days as I am so anxious about my anatomy scan which is in 5 hours now. I just know it will be another boy and I really don't know how I am going to cope with hearing that.
Surrounded I hope you are doing ok, I know you were hoping to hear pink. Your announcement is just so cute. I hope you can find joy in your new little man and in your eldest son's excitement towards this baby.
I hope everyone else is doing ok and good luck to those with upcoming scans or blood results.