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Good morning :) or afternoon lol.
I got a break from the fatigue today and I'm SO GLAD. I feel alot more alert today :) So alert that I posted my sway before I don't feel like it! haha.
Here it is: http://genderdreaming.com/forum/add-...tml#post890573
Hi all...glad to hear some of you are feeling better, and to those that aren't...feel better soon!
Hi everyone,
I've been away for a while because I just didn't want to be focusing too much on the pregnancy and the baby's gender, which is difficult around here.
But yesterday we found out the results of the blood test and it turns out we'll be having a boy. I was trembling because I didn't want to believe it. I'm really disappointed because I think I had a really good sway and we conceived a girl last year without swaying (I even did lots of things that can be seen as a boy sway). For me it's also hard because it feels a girl isn't in the cards for us anymore and we had only one chance last year.
I feel like we had to face the unimaginable last year and therefore believe we 'deserve' to have a little luck now, but of course life doesn't work that way. It's just really hard...I always imagined myself having 2 girls, and at least one. But now I only have 1 chance left and looking at the fact that swaying doesn't do anything for me, I don't know what to do anymore. I feel bad that I think like this about this little being that grows inside of me, because he deserves as much love as if it was a girl. I hope that when I'll feel him, it will get better...
I hope this little boy will be amazing, sweet and kind because I think I'll need it. So please, if you have a son and have great stories about having a son, please shoot. I really need it!
Hi Sigrid, I'm new here so I'm not entirely sure of your situation and if you have any children yet or not. However, I have 2 beautiful, sweet, hilarious, smart little boys who absolutely adore their momma. My oldest is almost 6 and my youngest is almost 3. The first one was not entirely planned but the second I tried the old "timing" sway without really even having a clue when I ovulated and it failed (clearly). At my 20 week anatomy scan when the tech told me it was a boy, it took everything in me not to burst into tears. I was able to hold it together until we got home and then I laid on my DH and had a really good cry. Part of me wished he was a girl for my entire pregnancy. I really think the thing that got me excited about another boy was that I had a name that I really loved for him. Anyway, when he was born and I saw his sweet little face and got to hold him, I never looked back. I had this beautiful, healthy piece of me and my DH and he was meant to be a part of our family. Both of our boys bring so much joy to our lives every single day and I wouldn't trade either of them for a little girl. There is something to be said about the love a little boy has for his momma. It's special and a true honor.
I'm currently 6 weeks pregnant with our 3rd and final little bean. I didn't really sway as I found this site 5 days before my attempt. What will be will be. But I can honestly say, I would love a little girl but would be proud to be a "boy mom!" Little boys are awesome!
I hope this helps you a little. I'm happy to have you join our little group!
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Hi Roedinga, my situation in short is as follows: I got pregnant last year in December of a girl. I was over the moon because I always had a small preference for a girl; I also see myself more as a girl mom...Everything was good, the NIPT test was fine at 12w and I was feeling great. Until they found some abnormalities on the 24w US. It felt like the world stood still. We did an amnio afterwards which was also good. So eventually, I went to the best specialists of the country every week since that 24w US, but no one knew what it was but it wasn't good. The uncertainty made us crazy. Eventually our sweet little girl Liv died in my womb at 30w pregnancy and I had to give labor to a dead child (which is really traumatic).
So maybe you understand a bit better? I always had a small preference but if it would have been a boy last year, I maybe would have liked a boy right now. The GD is sooo much more present now. And it hurts that life disappoints me again.
Thank you for sharing your great experience with your sons. It really makes me feel so good to hear these stories, I really need it. And I really wish that I'll feel this overwhelming love as soon as he's born.
I hear a lot of stories now from boy moms who are over the moon with their boys and saying me that they have a special bond with their mom. I really hope so :)
Again, thank you so much for making me feel a bit better :kiss:
Oh Sigrid, I cannot imagine going through what you have! My heart just breaks for you [emoji174]!
I swayed for a girl back in 2014 for my DH. It took us 9 cycles and 8 month to conceive him. I too had an NIPT done. TBH, I didn't have a gender preference but swaying back then gave me a sense of confidence. When I heard boy, I was crushed for a bit so I can only imagine how those that have a strong gender preference would feel.
Fast forward to now: he is 15mo and it would be an understatement to say that he is the light of all of our lives [emoji4]! I love all of my boys, but my DS3 is so special! He is so curious about how things work and is SUPER snuggly with me! He is MY baby through and through- we are best buds! I know he is little still, but he loves doing everything with me no matter what it is. It's like he just wants to be with me [emoji4]. I didn't have that with my other boys, although we too are very close. I hope and pray as you continue your relationship with your DS, your bond will grow into something so special that you cannot ever imagine it any differently!
(((Huge Hugs)))
[emoji170][emoji1379]DS1, [emoji577]DS2, & [emoji602]DS3[emoji170]
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Sigrid I just wanted to crash to tell you a little about my boys. I am definitely NOT a boy mom. I hate cars, trucks, spaceships...pretty much everything that is stereotypically boy. I have really severe GD after finding out I'm having boy #3. All that being said, I wouldn't trade my boys for any girl. My 4yr old is sweet, super smart, inquisitive, and in general a very easy child. He loves nothing more than to cuddle up in bed and talk about the planets of our solar system or explain to me why he wants to travel to which country.
My 20 month old is super silly, loves to dance to literally music only he hears. He does stuff to make himself laugh...and he does laugh all the time. He hated cuddling as a baby but now he always is hugging and kissing. He flirts with everyone he meets always waving bye-bye and blowing kisses.
The reason I relay these stories is that sure they are not what I envisioned for my children initially. I always pictured myself raising little girls, and I truly don't like doing the boy things, but it doesn't matter to me their gender because of how amazing they are as individuals. The pain of knowing I'll never have a little girl is pretty immense (although there's a possibility for you) but I'm so glad I have these two boys to show me how awesome little boys can be. They are not (at this age) super hyper or rowdy or dirty, but they are sweet and loving and more than I could've hoped for. We just don't like to play with the same things :)
ETA-and if you truly are set for #2 and still want a girl, you can always go HT if you believe in that. I have a failed sway too and wouldn't risk swaying again.
Dear Sigrid. Just want to pop by and say I am sorry your sway did not work. I hope you will feel better soon and come to acceptance. I am the proud mother of 3 sons. All 3 are lovely, caring and very different in personalities. I have a very strong and special bond with all of them, specially my youngest. I feel so gratefull to have these 3 children in my life. I am sure you will fall in love with your son as soon as he is born. Try to think of him as a unique human being/child and not only as a he. Of course gender matters, but the most important about the child is it's personality. A girl is no garantee of a stronger bond betweeen mother and child. That being said I also completely understand your desire of a girl. But Hey maybe you will get her one day. Is PGD and option for you in the future?
Mother to 3 boys ❤️ and pregnant with a baby girl due in June 2017 [emoji120]. DW (41) [emoji1326] DH (38) [emoji144]
Thanks a lot XX!
I can relate with your sway in 2014 then. 8 months is a long time! Do you have a feeling of what it could be now or totally not? When will you know??
It's really comforting to hear stories like yours with DS3. It's like this baby was really meant to be and is showing it even more :) I hope this baby boy will be just like yours!
It's just strange for me because I even can't imagine the bond between a mom and child since I don't have any living children yet. I just hope it'll be as strong as I hear from most people.
Is this baby your last btw?
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Hi BabsNMK,Quote:
Originally Posted by BabsNMK
I'm really sorry that you didn't get your girl either. I can imagine the pain is pretty immense! Are you all the time feeling jealous of girl moms? I just hate that I'm so jealous of girl moms and that this may never go away...
I also hate the boy toys, just like you! I have 2 little nephews who I adore (and they adore me), but I really don't like the cars, the trucks, etc. I would just love to have a little girl to watch Frozen with.
It's really great hearing how amazing your sons are. Just like the other stories, it's so nice to hear! And maybe we're just making the idea of having a girl so much better than it is, don't you think?
Since when do you know you'll be having another boy? And how do you cope with that? Does your DH understands your feelings or not?
I was indeed thinking of maybe going HT, but I live in Europe and hear that the US is really more expensive (and it's already a LOT of money) and I hear that centers in Europe are not doing it anymore because it's illegal :s
Thanks a lot for the comforting words! I'm wishing you all the best in your pregnancy and hope you'll get another amazing son X